Do Not Eat If You’re Not Hungry

He wants to be a bodybuilder. He wants massive muscles. His alarm clock goes off at 4am. He shuffles into the kitchen and eats a cold piece of cooked chicken breast. His body did not send a signal that it was hungry, but he ignored that. Soon he will have his muscles, and the act of eating will be disliked.

I’m not horny. My penis does not crave sex. Should I approach women? I have money in the bank. I need no more money. Should I do additional work? To execute a behavior without the accompanying need or desire is creating an alternate persona within you who lives separate to the body, oblivious to its biology.

It’s an amazing thing to watch women eat only when they’re hungry, to refuse food because their stomach is not asking for food. In America, we have a culture of eating and consuming when there is no underlying need. Confusion takes hold and creates a perverse new need, one for anti-depressant drugs.

I eat more food when I go to the gym because I’m hungrier, but I eat no more than that. I approach a girl because I’m honry, and only then. If I’m not horny, I do something else. I write when I want to share an idea or story. If my mind is empty, if I have nothing to share, I will not write. Action without desire brings no joy, no contentment, and no value, because you’re ignoring your individual nature and what it demands. It’s a way of living that is impossible to sustain.

Don’t let someone else convince you that you’re hungry when you are not. It’s very possible that you are sated right now, lacking in hunger. This was the case for me. I tried to eat without hunger, but it didn’t bring me satisfaction. I learned not to become concerned with eating, but to stoke the fire of hunger instead. When there is hunger, food is easy to get; it comes to you like a magnet. It’s not a question of forcing yourself to do, but one of creating enough hunger where your body helps you do.

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TRr
TRr
7 years ago

For anyone who is ultra skinny with a fast metabolism and trying to gain muscle this is terrible advice.

A skinny guy has a natural tendency to eat little. He must fight himself and force feed his weight up.

For the average guy trying just to maintain his weight this is good advice

Dirk Diggler
Dirk Diggler
4 years ago
Reply to  TRr

I have the opposite problem. Bulky and well muscled, but easily turns to flab if I’m not careful and disciplined.

bartman
bartman
7 years ago

nice post roosh. could you write once about how to get in the mood of approaching? even if you do not feel the desire because your brain is telling you to save your energy and protect your retarded ego. on the other hand time is running away…

Ray Peat
Ray Peat
7 years ago

Great article, Roosh. Ray Peat explored the similarites of hunger concerning eating and sex in the 70ies. He is as far away from pharma science as you are from feminist science. This is from “Mind and Tissue — Russian research perspectives on the human brain”.

“The eating or food reflex is mainly homeostatic,
though of course it has a growth component. The desire for
a specific kind of nutrient which results from a lack of it is especially interesting, and reveals something about the
nature of hunger in general. An image of the desired type of
food, or a preference for that kind over other kinds if
several are available (which requires an image too, though it
may be weaker than the image that directs an active search)
implies a discrepancy between the perceived present state of
self, and a mental image of the whole self. The whole self is
the one without the specific craving. This discrepancy is
like that experienced when a question is being asked: In the
mental world (the self, but with reference to external space,
rather than the body) something is perceived as incomplete,
and the question seeks completion.

[…]

The “sexual reflex” similarly can be either
conservative or developmental. […] This requires the perception of a discrepancy between the presently perceived body, and the known body (as it should be). The process of resolving the discrepancy between these images is generally similar to that in the orienting reflex, but the behavior is appropriately different. If it is the body and the experiential uniqueness of the particular sex partner that we desire, it is obviously desired because it isn’t possessed, and this implies a discrepancy betweenthe self-image of body-and-experience, and the image of the desired one.

[…]

In both the orienting reflex and the sexual reflex, a
discrepancy of images would lead to very intense arousal,
but while the orienting reflex quickly leads to learning (approximation of themental image to the novel object) and
to extinction, the body in the sexual response is
exaggerating itself, intensifying the image-discrepancy and
the excitement. We obviously don’t forget who we are just
because we are feeling what it islike to be the other person,
which is simply to say that we feel a tension between our
bodies, between novel and known.

When the body, with its conservative tendencies, is
involved, closeness of the relevant thing-threat, food, or
mate—makesthe need clearer.

[…]

The sudden interpretive “twists” that occur just
before and during orgasm illustratethe close involvement of
mental images with autonomic “image” and function. This
involvement existsin all behavior.

Vincent Vinturi
7 years ago

I don’t know, Roosh. Sometimes you need to think ahead.

Let’s say you aren’t feeling particularly horny. There’s no immediate need to go out and get new numbers.

But you force yourself to do it anyway because you know you’ll be horny 2 days later. And then you’ll be able to tap into this new pool of leads and maybe get your needs met with a sexy, new girl.

Or let’s say you aren’t feeling hungry at dinner because you’re eating a dozen eggs for breakfast every day to make the most of your intense lifting sessions.

You *could* say to hell with the eggs (or the dinner) and let homeostasis take over. But then your body won’t adapt to the increased food intake and you probably won’t gain much more lean muscle mass beyond what you have now (nor get the nice libido spike that comes with it).

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

i clearly remember you mentioning in your posts about you forcing yourself to approach girls even when you were not horny at all. im confused

Sharpie
7 years ago

This is why ppl who live in other regions who only consume 2 meals the most per day are healthier than Americans. Pigging out when there’s no reason is just crazy! I mean, if you’re gonna burn it oFf: cool! But more times than not, the average guy/gal doesn’t do shit afterwards but sleep or keyboard jockey.

x
x
7 years ago

roosh is getting old as well. there is simply not energy to always go for what you want and should. thats why people actually get into relationships and settle. the high times dont get more and more when you get older.

Quintus Curtius
7 years ago

Very wise.
Robotic or false cravings are signs of an unbalanced psyche.

Sam Diego
Sam Diego
7 years ago

Looks like Roosh is getting older, and is experiencing an early drop-off in testosterone… hence the lethargy and depressing blog posts.

Maybe some cunts working at the bar on his regular circuit know about his website and books and attitudes are dropping a birth control pill in his scotch? That’ll do it.

Sam Spade
Sam Spade
7 years ago

I am Lothar of the Hill People! Much have I have seen, and much have I done, for I am Lothar of the Hill People!

Poon Goon
Poon Goon
7 years ago

Where in Europe should I do a bang mission players???

My requirements-
White bitches
Big tits
Bars and clubs with no smoking (hate smelling that shit. If you gonna smoke smoke that endo not that wack ass white trash cigarettes).
Reasonable cost of living (would like to go hard for 2 months don’t want to spend over 3k/month between living and going out maybe $3500/month max)

soup
soup
7 years ago

There is a skill to game. If you don’t practice it, it will atrophy.

You might not be horny today, but one day, you will be. You are letting down your future self if you don’t keep your game up even when you aren’t that horny.

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

@ Roosh

I hear what you’re trying to say.

On the specific eating advice, though, your body’s hunger pattern is largely dictated by what you’ve done before.

So when you start off by only eating small or medium sized meals 2x or 3x a day, that’s what your body expects.

If you boost your food intake for a week, you’ll reset your body’s metabolism and hunger expectations. Then you *will* be hungry more often and for bigger meals.

At that point, your hunger and consumption will be natural “desire” to eat.

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

@11 Poon Goon

If you read Roosh’s books and RooshVForum postings, it seems like the countries for white girls with big tits and low cost of living include:

Poland
Bosnia, Croatia, Serbia
Romania

Can’t vouch for the non-smoking part… Not many forum postings discuss that.

prepman
prepman
7 years ago

Great point.

As approach the big 5-0, I’m less and less wanting to approach because, frankly, American girls don’t make me horny. I know them too well now having enough game to have an well above average notch count with all types and ages of women. In fact, despite being a 8, 9, or 10, I’m actually rather put off by most “beautiful” women here because I know the shit-world of problems and grief, not to mention massive disrespect, that comes from them. American women are the anti-boner in my book.

I suppose if I were into the trouble of banging 20-24 year old’s (it’s a hella lot of work for a guy my age), then I’d let my boner lead me to feast.

However, it’s definitely no boner at first site. It might be appreciation of raw cuteness, hotness, etc., but not bonerrific — at least not until there’s some kind of serious interaction and physical contact, (aka kino for ya PUA’s junkies).

When you’ve lived a lot of life and a lot of fun, you really do settle down. You’re not hungry for the things you used to be hungry for. It’s natural. It’s normal. It’s why mature men conquer the world. They become hungry for other things.

YouSoWould
7 years ago

9 Sam Diego
September 20th, 2013 @ 11:38 am
“Looks like Roosh is getting older, and is experiencing an early drop-off in testosterone… hence the lethargy and depressing blog posts.”

Or you’ve just done everything so many times, it has become less rewarding through repetition. Pleasure and satisfaction gains from anything in life are not linear over time, they always level off.

12 soup
September 20th, 2013 @ 2:37 pm
“There is a skill to game. If you don’t practice it, it will atrophy.”

Only if you seem to think “you” and “your game” are separate entities. For my game to atrophy, I would have to stop just being the person I have developed into. It is literally impossible. You need to stop viewing game as some sort external toolset separate to your core personality.

Tampa
Tampa
7 years ago

my best weight lost tip is to not drink any calories. Water, ice tea or diet soda. It really helps.

Carlos
Carlos
7 years ago

I get your point Roosh, but sometimes you got to do what you got to do to reach your goals, I love training, but sometimes I’m lazy, and I’m not in the mood of training, but if it was may initial plan to train I will train, sometimes I would feel great afterwards other times I would just do something and thats it. You have to create habits and follow them in order to get results. It doesn’t come easy for me because I’m not very disciplined because I was used to getting things without effort, but there is a time in live that in order to get to the next level you have to be disciplined.

Poon Goon
Poon Goon
7 years ago

Thanks for he reply.

I never thought about Serbia.

Also-

What’s a good city for day game in US or abroad??

I’m thinking NorCal.

I love nor cal girls not passive aggressive like the Seattle crowd.

G manifesto is a west coast player boss.

Do you honk NorCal chicks are pretty cool?

I am really considering Chico State. Some nice looking hitches hat are nice up that way. And I don’t care what anyone says LA is not that ass hole compared to a place like Miami FL. Miami is thug inc. oh can get smoked down in the swamp
For real. I’ve heard gun fire many nights up in that bitch.

I wish G manifesto would chime in on where to day game and where to find white irks with big tits that’s cheap.

My top bang recon spots now are-
Chico State
Poznan Poland
Oslo Norway

I just love big tit white girls.

JJ
JJ
7 years ago

One of then wisest posts I have seen from you for a while.

Eliezer Ben-Yehuda
Eliezer Ben-Yehuda
7 years ago

>>> For anyone who is ultra skinny with a fast metabolism and trying to gain muscle this is terrible advice.

ah yes…. the epidemic of ultra-skinny guys re-emerges in North America.

TRr: please pump some more money into the fat-acceptance industry. Whatever it takes to get guys motivated into escaping the black hole of ultra-skinniness!!

Kate
Kate
7 years ago

“You never know what is enough unless you know what is more than enough.”

William Blake

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

well Roosh isn’t exactly well muscled

Troy Nguyen
7 years ago

poon goon i’d go poznan from that list. oslo is freezing. also if you like white chicks with big tits X low cost of living you may consider southeast asia. yes, i’m serious. you’ll be staying in hostels/ hotels with lots of white scandies and europeans here and being white will give you some ‘insta-bonding’ in the hostile terrains.
ps are you african american

Troy Nguyen
7 years ago

thanks for the snack-size blog entry Roosh.
helps keep my pua-calorie intake down.