He wants to be a bodybuilder. He wants massive muscles. His alarm clock goes off at 4am. He shuffles into the kitchen and eats a cold piece of cooked chicken breast. His body did not send a signal that it was hungry, but he ignored that. Soon he will have his muscles, and the act of eating will be disliked.
I’m not horny. My penis does not crave sex. Should I approach women? I have money in the bank. I need no more money. Should I do additional work? To execute a behavior without the accompanying need or desire is creating an alternate persona within you who lives separate to the body, oblivious to its biology.
It’s an amazing thing to watch women eat only when they’re hungry, to refuse food because their stomach is not asking for food. In America, we have a culture of eating and consuming when there is no underlying need. Confusion takes hold and creates a perverse new need, one for anti-depressant drugs.
I eat more food when I go to the gym because I’m hungrier, but I eat no more than that. I approach a girl because I’m honry, and only then. If I’m not horny, I do something else. I write when I want to share an idea or story. If my mind is empty, if I have nothing to share, I will not write. Action without desire brings no joy, no contentment, and no value, because you’re ignoring your individual nature and what it demands. It’s a way of living that is impossible to sustain.
Don’t let someone else convince you that you’re hungry when you are not. It’s very possible that you are sated right now, lacking in hunger. This was the case for me. I tried to eat without hunger, but it didn’t bring me satisfaction. I learned not to become concerned with eating, but to stoke the fire of hunger instead. When there is hunger, food is easy to get; it comes to you like a magnet. It’s not a question of forcing yourself to do, but one of creating enough hunger where your body helps you do.
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