An endless refrain I hear from men is that there are no good women. The assumption is that these men are themselves “good,” but a quick look at their anemic faith and unbridled passions shows that they are far from it.

What can we assume about a woman who cries out that there are no good men? She’s older, probably in her 30s. She’s certainly not a virgin, and probably has racked up numerous sexual partners from at least a decade of dating. She’s entitled, thinking she deserves happiness or success. We also know she has placed many worldly objects above God, and thinks a good man should be given to her because of her intelligence, beauty, career, or tattoos.

A man who cries out for a good woman is often not that much different. Just like her, he’s older, probably in his 30s, with many women notched on his belt. He’s cynical from having his heart abused so many times, and is less capable of love than a younger man with less experience. He’s entitled, thinking that because he has some money in his bank account and can hold a job, he is deserving of a good woman, and like his analog, he has put faith in the world before God.

If I had a daughter of marriageable age, and she was strong in the faith, the only man suitable for her would be a man whose faith is stronger than hers, not a man who thinks he can seamlessly transition from a life of partying, fornication, and secularism to one of family without repenting of his sins and accepting Jesus Christ as his King. I wouldn’t care about his experience, worldly wisdom, or money. I wouldn’t care about how many countries he has been to or how many languages he speaks, and I certainly wouldn’t care about the power or fame he has in this world. I would only care about how close he is to God, because when it comes to my daughter, her salvation is my top priority, and I would forbid her to marry a man who could risk it.

Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. —Matthew 6:31-34

I don’t encounter many who have noticed the word “first” from the above. To them, God is for later, after intensely pursuing all manner of worldly gain, and even family for the sake of creating a family, when disconnected from God, is a worldly pursuit. Attaining a wife and children, in most people’s minds, is no different than attaining a job, just another checkmark in the bucket list of life. Game, confidence, and effort are used in this attainment, but it would be unlikely for it to lead to good unless ordained by God. Your own efforts will yield a woman who is as worldly as you, who whines about the state of affairs of gender relationships like you, who is scared of dying alone like you, and who wants to put a few checkmarks on her bucket list just like you.

I have no will but God’s will. I aim to serve God fully and completely, and through this faith, if He suits it, I will meet a wife, not through secular effort or confidence. In the process of honoring God, whether in my church, participating in fellowship with other Christians, or serving my neighbor will a God-sent woman appear, as if out of thin air. Women of this country don’t have to change themselves to please me or be more attractive to me. They only need to serve God, and if He sends me a match, we will serve Him together in the little church of our home.

Truth is most men don’t deserve a good woman. Their faith is weak. They don’t have a consistent prayer rule. They come up with the flimsiest of excuses not to attend church. They watch porn and masturbate. They ache to fornicate and see a woman’s body as a source of pleasure and amusement. They can’t control their passions, and allow pride to seduce them into all manner of harmful behaviors. God keeps his good women away from men like them, just like how He kept them away from me. You can travel to the ends of the earth to meet your “good” wife, interact with thousands of the most exotic women, but in the end you’ll merely find one who is as worldly as you.

When your faith becomes so strong that you are serving God out of love instead of for material rewards, your entitlement will fade. Your distress about finding a woman will cease, because you will come to the understanding that “His will be done” means His will be done, not your will be done. You will serve God in whatever state he wants you to be in, whether single or married, and not murmur against Him. I don’t worry about finding a woman or any other worldly desire—I worry only about loving the One God.

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  1. Wong Ching September 28, 2020 at 10:14 am

    Right on.

  2. Red-Curious September 28, 2020 at 10:56 am

    I enjoyed this read, brother. The truth is that men shouldn’t strive to be deserving of a good woman, nor should women strive to be deserving of a good man. 1 Cor. 7 says that focus on intergender sexual relationships is a distraction. In this, I like your hook-switch, titling the article on “deserving” before delivering the punchline that we really ought to focus on “seek first His Kingdom.” And the irony, as you allude to, is that this missional-orientation is what makes a man attractive to the highest quality women – the kind of man a godly father would want his daughter to marry. Keep up the good work.

  3. Sarah September 28, 2020 at 1:20 pm

    This is great, Roosh. There are good, godly women out there but they are not living life by the same set of rules as men who operate with game. They’re not even living in the same realm of existence. Good women will instinctively run the other way from these types of men who they have nothing in common with. And a fear of being alone or aging can’t be used to manipulate them if Christ is their source and they’re not fearful to wait for the right one or be celibate for life. If a man wants a good woman, he needs to level up to being a truly good man that would actually attract what he seeks.

    I also love though what you said about seeking family being a worldly endeavor if it’s not submitted to God’s will. Such a great point and it’s not said enough. Attempting to become better simply for worldly gain isn’t enough. Good women know this type of shallow change will not last. He will always default back to old behavior when he doesn’t get what he wants or will when he does get what he wants and becomes lazy. It must flow from an authentic relationship with Christ, without agenda. Women who walk with God are sensitive to the difference.

    I know we women have lots of room to grow as a gender, but I really appreciated this article. Thank you for expressing something that is not addressed nearly enough.

    1. Sarah September 28, 2020 at 3:47 pm

      One thing I want to add to my previous comment…I also suspect that men deep into game and the hookup culture also subconsciously run away from the very “good women” they claim don’t exist and to women who mirror their own worldly values. These guys want easy sex and then get angry when the women who give them easy sex drop them to give the next guy easy sex. Well, yeah, I don’t know what else would be expected. A good woman with Christian values is not actually attractive to him (even if he’s attracted to her physically) because their values and what’s most important to them are not aligned. He would ridicule her values and hold her in contempt if he actually managed to get close enough to her, before destroying the relationship. The insta girls and bar hoppers will always be more attractive, even if they’re ultimately disappointing in the end and lead to this erroneous idea that no good women exist. Men actually do the same thing that they accuse women of doing…chasing “Chads” and then resenting men. What would the female equivalent be? Chasing “Ambers?” Lol idk.

      1. Zeb Bartitsu September 28, 2020 at 7:19 pm

        A female Chad is referred to as a “Stacy,” (but Amber is good too.)

      2. Antonio Zoli September 29, 2020 at 11:06 am

        You’ve articulated some valid points in your post, ma’am.
        I remember occasionally reading the old ROK site.
        Young Red Pill and libertarian leaning writers would continually submit to the readers the need to find virginal traditional women to marry and procreate with. But in the same articles they’d call on the readers to fornicate with club girls, and state marriage was a bad “business deal” for men (not a sacrament). I once posted to one young writer why he wanted a Duggar girl to wife and procreate with, but wanted to fornicate with club girls in the same sentence of his article. Needless to say he, and the readers, had no logical reason for this dichotomy, only the usual insults and popping off mouths that was a hallmark of ROK.

      3. Sarah October 1, 2020 at 7:49 pm

        That’s an excellent point! Ladies most likely won’t turn a Chad into a doting husband and men most likely won’t turn a chick at the club into the loving mother of their kids. Those guys are delusional to think they can be immersed in that lifestyle and that a Duggar would actually want anything to do with them. Their father wouldn’t allow them to be within a mile of any of his daughters lol

      4. Brian October 30, 2020 at 1:41 am

        Disagree in part. There are attractive, good girls out there who scare men off. Even the best of men know they’re not worthy of a good woman. Throw in all the beauty, and they are downright terrified.

        Happened to me. It’s happening again.

    2. awesome14 October 5, 2020 at 9:55 pm

      It’s always amusing to hear those on the outside guessing at what it’s like on the inside. Once a woman releases her blood sacrifice of innocence, she belongs to the male who pierced her. Unless she remains ‘his’, she shall never again understand innocence.

      The woman was created ‘from’ the man, ‘for’ the man, to ‘please’ the man, ‘serve’ the man, to submit to the man’s yoke in cheerful obedience, and to bear and nurse the man’s offspring, pereferably man-child.

      God called Sarah beautiful, because she called her husband ‘master’. But, like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a fair woman with a rebellious disposition!

      The woman’s true beauty is her chastity, fertility and obedience. Therefore, though a woman becomes soiled, if she makes herself pleasing to God, she will feel truly beautiful!

      I recite a short prayer each day,

      “I implore the intercession of the eternal blessed virgin Mother–Mary Most Holy–on behalf of the chastity, fertility and obedience of all women, everywhere!”

      1. Sarah October 7, 2020 at 11:38 am

        I’m as big of a proponent of abstinence as anyone but what you’re describing is not the message of the gospel and is not how Jesus related to women or gave them worth.

      2. Brian October 30, 2020 at 1:46 am

        I would say that Christ hung with whores and prostitutes to protect them–especially their children. James 1:27

        How many times does the Bible refer to Christians as children of God?

  4. Brandon September 28, 2020 at 3:14 pm

    I really identified with this article. I’ve been really struggling with my relationship with God lately. Neglecting worship, Bible time, prayer. I’ve been trying to quit pornography and masturbation, just had a streak of 10 days free. The entire time I felt so exhausted and depressed. I’ve felt so alone. Like I have no one to talk to.

    I’ve also been so focused on material gain and worrying about my career and earning more money.

    I don’t know what to do. I feel lost. Part of me wants to embrace the Way, the Truth and the Life, and the other part won’t let go of my sin. I constantly find myself trying to poke holes in Christianity so I don’t have to be accountable to anything.

    I’ve been thinking about leaving everything behind and moving somewhere. Start fresh. But I know that I’d just be running away from my problems and they would follow me.

    I really appreciate your writing Roosh. You provide such an important perspective.

    1. Trevor September 28, 2020 at 9:14 pm

      Check out Trailblazers on Youtube. Very inspirational little sermons. Really hit home with me because a lot of the videos are about accepting being alone and solitude because sometimes God wants us to be alone to learn to lean on him and commune with Him. I went through a painful breakup a year ago and I’m finally starting to heal and I’m getting more alone time with God where I just turn off the TV and distractions and spend some time reading the Bible and talking to God in prayer. It isn’t so much about denying yourself porn, it’s about filling that emptiness with God, someone greater and better. I’ve had the same struggle for years. A Christian counselor once told me it’s about displacing destructive addictions with a greater affection. You won’t be able to break free cold Turkey without replacing the addiction with a connection to God.

      1. christopherjones September 28, 2020 at 10:28 pm

        Well-said. I am a recovering alcoholic, nearly three years sober, and I apply my abstinence from alcohol to other things, namely porn. I always try to keep in mind, focus on the solution, not the problem. Focus on the recovery, not the addiction. The Bible says do not commit drunkenness but be filled with the Holy Spirit. Thus what you said, it’s more about filling that emptiness than denying the drug/sin.

    2. Pregunta September 28, 2020 at 9:14 pm

      Roosh moved (again) to improve his wordly situation. You’re so brainwashed you think if you do the same you’re offending a deity.

    3. TexMexBBQ September 28, 2020 at 10:22 pm

      I feel your pain. On the one hand, all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God – that will never change until the day we die. Day after day – sinners…all of us. So you should stop beating yourself up. On the other hand, you want to improve — but want to experience God’s calling and service to God vs. the manipulations and ignorance of people from your social circles and the Church. I am probably a more genuine believer now than I ever have been after going to many funerals – but I am also really cynical and nasty when it comes to ignorance from Christians who haven’t been through a fraction of what I’ve experienced. So what is the answer for those of us who aren’t experiencing a clear calling of some kind? Maybe it’s to serve where you can, how you can….knowing your own limitations and the limitations of the church — if that means just tithing 10 percent and that’s it (not really having any social involvement in church)…so be it. Maybe living a quiet private dignified life (to the best of your ability) is the answer. Not everyone is cut out to be church leader material – most aren’t….I know for a fact I’m not — I’m quite jaded with all things religion now but I’m still a believer. But I also know that I have to take care of myself to survive and have to treat people with dignity if I want to keep my job and not be homeless. I also know there is no other direction but forward – getting older, and eventually dying ….ashes to ashes, dust to dust. My prayers are that I can serve God to the best of my ability every day… but if that service turns out to pretty minimal after it’s all said and done (compared to others), so be it — it will have been my best because I prayed for the ability to do my best and was led/given the ability to do what I could.

  5. randomserbian September 28, 2020 at 3:22 pm

    Roosh you probably won’t read my comment, but here goes. I found out about you after watching your Balkan Info interview that you did in Serbia. You have been a great inspiration, I would have never believed it that someone like you could change and give up on the (((PUA/red pill))); while I never went down the same path it was still a great motivational booster to keep working on improving myself and serving God even more, I watch all of your streams and I tried having some friends watch them too (to no avail sadly). Anyway great article as always, I hope you write a book about how you found God and that you stay on this path for the rest of your life, I pray that I to stay on a righteous path. Бог те благословије, брате у Христу!

    1. Grace September 28, 2020 at 11:41 pm

      Beautiful message! God Bless. I’m not trying to be rude here, just curious. I’ve met a lot of Serbians who seem really religious but tend to live sinful lives. They talk about sexual endeavours, drinking, etc. How is faith generally viewed in Serbia?

      1. randomserbian September 29, 2020 at 8:51 am

        @Grace, Serbia was way more religious before we were occupied by the (((communists))) they destroyed much of our faith and our way of life (also killing around 2 Million people, which is still not being taught in our school system) . Today we are becoming an immoral society, much like the Western nations. Our PM is a Lesbian, that looks more like a MtF than a real girl (she isn’t the PC type of lesbian, so it could be worse), anyway there are idiots who are proud when foreigners say that “Belgrade is the night life capital of Europe”, so it’s not a good situation. Also there is a lot of drunkards. Basically communism, destroyed the faith in people, the nuclear family and progressed feminism, we were among the first countries in the world that had female leaders. But there is a contra movement and things are slowly but surely going to improve, not that it will happen without conflict, but the same faith will befall the US. To sum it up, I think we are about to hit massive levels of degenracy just like the West, after which an uprising will happen and things will turn for the better.

      2. Grace September 29, 2020 at 9:54 am

        Ok, interesting! Had no idea about the PM either. Thanks for your insight.

      3. AnotherSerbian October 1, 2020 at 8:44 pm

        Помаже Бог браћо, another Serbian here. Randomserbian’s description is completely on point, I wouldn’t add anything myself but just want to confirm it’s really accurate.

  6. Fleischbaum September 28, 2020 at 3:49 pm

    Thank you brother Roosh! God bless you!

  7. Yavorsky September 28, 2020 at 7:07 pm

    I’m not convinced that God, once a man is ready (looks for Kingdom of God before anything else) will send “a good woman”. It is also possible that He can send a “row material” to work with. Let’s remember, Christanity in not about getting candies for good behavior it’s rather taking everything Gods puts on our way, including crosses.

  8. Abubu September 28, 2020 at 8:20 pm

    Have you found an Alabama belle Roosh?

  9. christopherjones September 28, 2020 at 9:35 pm

    Good article, Roosh. I am a big fan who has greatly admired your work for some time now and I am happy to say I am recently engaged to a good Christian woman. This after a long time of sleeping around. I ask myself still if I deserve my fiancee and I always find my answer in continuing to follow Jesus. A man that puts God first deserves ANY woman.
    I must say, though, I wonder why you still seem to be stuck on unbiblical work-based salvation? The good news is that Jesus did the work FOR US. It is like a courtroom where we are guilty of sin and deserve hell but Jesus paid our fine and delivered us. When we repent and believe, there is no more to do. If you are still thinking you may go to Hell, you may take it back to basics. All out of love, brother, keep up the good work and God bless!

    1. Grace September 28, 2020 at 11:51 pm

      Congratulations on your engagement. I do think you are misinterpreting this. I don’t think he is talking about work-based salvation. His views are Orthodox, whereby sudden declarations of faith and repentance aren’t enough. It is a long road of repentance, a life of devotion and living a holy life. Naturally, then, a holy life leads to salvation. Not just that Jesus did the work for us. That seems too comfortable. Too American in essence, which the Orthodox Faith is not.

      1. christopherjones September 29, 2020 at 12:00 am

        Regardless of what it “seems,” that is simply not Christianity. Jesus died for our sins. He is our ticket to salvation/Heaven. Not through any of of our endeavors do we save OURSELVES, it is what Jesus does FOR us. This is to BE saved. I’m sorry but this is a rather important topic to get wrong.

      2. Grace September 29, 2020 at 12:16 am

        I agree with that. Jesus is definitely the only way to our salvation. Not arguing that at all. However, the rhetoric that ‘its all ok’ and that we can live our lives as we wish as long as we repent and believe is not right either. I see many American Christians professing shallow declarations of faith and say as long as we repent and believe we are good to go. I think there needs to be genuine deep repentance and a genuine struggle to live right, not only relying on the comfort that Jesus died for our sins. We must work to better ourselves and carry our cross, then we will find grace and a real connection with God. Which is what I believe Roosh is doing, I don’t see ‘work-based salvation’ as you suggested.

      3. Grace September 29, 2020 at 2:15 am


      4. JackBlack23 September 29, 2020 at 11:31 am

        “a genuine struggle to live right”

        “work to better ourselves and carry our cross”

        Sounds like work to me!

      5. Antonio Zoli September 29, 2020 at 10:53 pm

        He’s spot on right. It’s not saying the sinner’s prayer, and now you have your fire insurance policy, and you’re good to go. Nor is the Bible that is quoted by some here some kind of “field manual”. Perhaps St Matthew’s gospel “if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” would shed some light on this for you.

      6. JackBlack23 September 30, 2020 at 8:37 am

        I don’t believe he is right but that wasn’t my point here. He is talking out of both sides of his mouth by saying both faith and actions are required for salvation but then denying that this is in any way “work-based”.

      7. JackBlack23 September 30, 2020 at 8:48 am

        “if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me”

        You are confusing sonship with discipleship, salvation with sanctification.

      8. Gabriela October 5, 2020 at 5:03 am

        1 Peter 1:16 for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.” We are called to become saints.

      9. JackBlack23 October 5, 2020 at 10:01 pm

        You make the same error as Antonio — confusing sonship with discipleship, salvation with sanctification.

      10. Orlando October 1, 2020 at 5:57 am

        “But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.”
        (James 2:18 NKJV)

      11. JackBlack23 October 5, 2020 at 2:43 pm

        You make the same error as Antonio — confusing sonship with discipleship, salvation with sanctification.

      12. Antonio Zoli September 29, 2020 at 10:30 pm

        Grace, If you look at the icon behind Roosh V in his podcasts, you’ll see the “Divine Ladder of Ascent” of the writings of a 6th century monk, St John Climacus, or St John of Sinai. What you’re articulating here is essentially Theosis. It goes beyond restoring people to their state before the fall of Adam and Eve. As Christ united both the divine and human natures in Jesus’ person (the incarnation), it then becomes possible for someone to experience closer fellowship with God, and that people can become more like God. The early church fathers clearly taught this. Unfortunately, church history, to most evangelicals, began in Germany in 1517, or during the revivalist movement in the 18th century, or when they accepted Jesus Christ as their personal lord and savior, or when Tim Keller told them when it started, or when they opened yet another mega church in a strip mall or abandoned foundry.
        One has free will to accept or reject God’s grace. But it’s not some heterodox saying the “sinner’s prayer”, or quoting scripture passages with a heterodox Sola Scriptura (as some evangelicals have posted on here to me. Bear in mind I spent the first 40 of my 62 years of life in evangelicalism, and it was an inch deep, and a mile wide for me).

      13. Grace September 30, 2020 at 10:29 pm

        I really love the “Divine Ladder of Ascent” I have this icon as a reminder of Theosis.

        Currently reading Step 2 – Detachment.

        ‘”If you truly love God and long to reach the kingdom that is to come, if you are truly pained by your failings and are mindful of punishment and of the eternal judgement, if you are truly afraid to die, then it will not be possible to have an attachment, or anxiety, or concern for money, for possessions, for family relationships, for worldly glory, for love and brotherhood, indeed for anything of the earth. All worry about one’s condition, even for one’s body, will be pushed aside as hateful. Stripped of all thought of these, caring nothing about them, one will turn freely to Christ”.

        Yes, this is what I was articulating. Thanks for the background information. I have experienced some of that which you talk about in terms of heterodox sayings. I’ve been an Orthodox Christian my whole life (I am 30), when I was seeking to be closer to God I had many Evangelists, Protestants etc tell me to declare Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour and I will be saved. I have never argued this, but the way in which it is professed seems cultish. It creeps me out. There is a disconnect in thinking, and very quick judgement that you are automatically a believer in ‘work based’ salvation and that you need to profess that your are saved by Christ. Sure, you can provide scripture, but my point was not either or. God is the only one that can save us, yes. By declaring we are saved is also a vow and a promise that we will renew ourselves. Yes, that takes ‘work’? It’s not necessarily ‘work-based salvation”. Geesh. How disappointing, and empty it would be to be as a Christian to keep professing God as your saviour, and then continually run away from your sin and not confront your wrongdoing and keep professing to be saved? I though you’d have to remember the sacrifice of Christ, feel pious and yes ‘work” to be better. The alternative is like running away from it all, forgetting God’s grace and sacrifice and saying “It’s ok everybody, I’m saved, Jesus died for me”. For what, so you can just profess it and continue in your worldly ways? It’s not a contract. I feel like the thinking behind Orthodoxy is truly spiritual and divine, anything else feels contractual and odd to me.

      14. Antonio Zoli October 1, 2020 at 3:15 pm

        You’re indeed so very blessed to have been raised in the ancient church.
        I was born into evangelicalism, and I liken it to being born into the mafia, into a dysfunctional family, or into a cult. The born again, ulterior motive proselytizing, notch count for souls, and the endless sermons on the Roman Catholics were all going to hell because they didn’t know Jesus was in itself mind numbing. Even some of their fellow evangelicals were just barely going to make it under the wire into the kingdom of heaven.
        I spent my first 40 of 62 years of life in churches ranging from the Independent Baptist (think Steven Anderson) churches, to the more ambivalent and loosely goosey Southern Baptist churches that often hid behind catchy hip names like “Living Water Church”, or “The Upper Room Church”.
        When I entered the Eastern church (Antiochian jurisdiction) the priest told me “this is your last stop on your journey”. Amen! I only regret not converting sooner in life.
        I recently read where yet another evangelical Protestant church is breaking off and starting a new denomination (that makes over 30,000+ now). The Presbyterian Church of America (PCA), already split from the progressive Presbyterian Church USA, is now splitting again over yet more encroachment of progressivism. The Southern Baptist’s are leaning towards yet another split over a drift to the left as well.
        Some evidently despondent seminarians at a local Southern Baptist seminary in my city have started a church that incorporates Liturgy (some borrowed from the Divine Liturgy of St John Chrysostom), the Nicene creed, and the singing of Psalters A cappella. I pray their journey will eventually lead them into the “ancient and unchanging faith” of the Eastern Church.

      15. Ryan Casperson December 13, 2020 at 4:08 am

        True faith is accepting all crosses in your life given to you by God. Life is a mere simulation in the flesh to build ones spirit. Being afraid is not believing that Christ sacrificed is life soley for one’s soul.

      16. Yasha September 29, 2020 at 12:01 pm

        Jesus forgives your past sins in a sense that he gives you another chance to do God’s will and earn your place in the Kingdom. If you have no works, your soul will not be able to bear the shame of your past transgressions, and you yourself will beg the Lord for a way to pay for the debts you have accumulated on earth. And in this way a sinful believer with no fruits will be sentenced to pay his debts to God in hell, until the Last Judgement or the determined sentence is over. That is God’s forgiveness, to give you a chance to lift the weight of sin on your soul and attain redemption.

      17. JackBlack23 September 29, 2020 at 11:27 am

        “It is a long road of repentance, a life of devotion and living a holy life.”

        This is work by any definition.

    2. Grace September 29, 2020 at 2:17 am

      A note for Romans 12:9 – 16.
      While a believer is justified by faith, this faith is intimately united to good works, which are genuine expressions of true faith. Faith and works cannot be separated.

      1. JackBlack23 September 29, 2020 at 4:33 pm

        Ah OK so you don’t believe in “works-based” salvation or “faith alone” salvation. Your answer is faith plus works.

        And if by grace, then is it no more of works: otherwise grace is no more grace. But if it be of works, then it is no more grace: otherwise work is no more work.

      2. simon long October 6, 2020 at 6:54 am

        If you believe then you’re stuck with JC’s sayings on helping people who are hungry, or ‘waylaid by thieves’
        ‘What must I do to inherit eternal life?’ If you believe JC’s answer, then you’d better do it.

    3. Antonio Zoli September 29, 2020 at 10:45 am

      You are speaking of Western Protestant penal substitutional atonement (example, the courtroom analogy). Roosh V is Eastern Orthodox, that is recapitulation substitutional atonement from the early church fathers (example, 2nd century St Irenaeus, 4th century St Athanasius of Alexandria).
      It’s not based on a false Western premise of “fire insurance” to save one’s soul (former evangelical Protestant here).
      “For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also”.
      James 2:26

      1. JackBlack23 September 29, 2020 at 11:45 am

        For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
        Not of works, lest any man should boast.

      2. christopherjones September 29, 2020 at 5:33 pm

        “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, for whosoever believeth in him – plus did lots of good works -, should not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16 Antonio Revision.

      3. Antonio Zoli September 30, 2020 at 9:08 pm

        Who’s blasphemous translation is that? Evangelicals! Always mis quoting scriptures to fit their agenda.

      4. simon long October 6, 2020 at 6:56 am

        If you believe, then you’re stuck with doing this;
        34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
        37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
        40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

      5. Orlando October 1, 2020 at 6:01 am

        “But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works.”
        (James 2:18 NKJV)

  10. TexMexBBQ September 28, 2020 at 9:55 pm

    Roosh – have you ever thought about being a medical chaplain? One of my older brothers had a younger life along your lines and after many years in school he eventually made it though seminary (Calvin Theological Seminary in Grand Rapids, Michigan) and all the additional training to be a medical chaplain. He works for the VA now (I believe he’s a GS-12 in the federal system), after a number of years working for various hospitals. This is a field where I think one comes face to face with one’s faith on a daily basis by being with people at the point of their passing and ministering to their family members. This job is not for the faint of heart — but I think the reward is how it keeps faith real and in-your-face. Yes it is clergy, but not dealing with petty day-to-day superficial issues that a typical church pastor has to deal with in leading a congregation. I come from a large family and have been to many funerals, including that of my own father, and have had my own health scares — it is amazing how transformative that has been on my own faith and I know the same goes for my brother. My brother spent a number of years managing a nightclub, then a number of years working on a metal stamping factory floor 3rd shift before going to seminary full time. He acquired a lot of knowledge of the stupidity of people and I’m sure he’s much more happy doing what he’s doing now.

    1. simon long October 6, 2020 at 6:58 am

      Chaplains have training. If you want the job, then you need to devote a few years to training.

  11. Flying Sky September 29, 2020 at 4:59 am

    I agree with a lot of what you have said on here and with faith in Chris Jesus. But I’m going to be that one anomly for you. Been abstinence my entired life. Got rid of the porn a long time ago. I found out I don’t need it in my life. It was something that I went towards because of stress. Working on improving myself, my career, my financial well-being, etc. And my faith in the lord has never been better.

    Personally, I don’t have any hatred towards women. More on the line of indifference. I have been hurt by them in the past. I read about PUA and the Red-Pilled life style and it’s probably something that doesn’t fit me. I felt like I was being fake and wasn’t myself.

    Through with walking with GOD more and more, I can fully see the whole landscape. All I have to do is close my eyes and see the systems. Just like the picture that you posted up on this article. No one deserve anything as the lord can give and the lord can take. But the statistics and the way society have been brainwashed into eternal conflicts between the genders is troubling.

    I’m a big stat kind of guy. I’m also trust the lord GOD even more now a day. Maybe, we are living in the end of days. The book of Revelation is a good precusor of the age that we are in. So for me, I’m focusing on GOD and let the chip fall where they are. But let’s not kid ourselves of the symbolism, the long breads, and many others games. They do say a picture is worth a thousand words.

    P.S. – I just read a couple of your previous articles: ”
    Tomi Lahren And The Tragedy Of Modern Dating and Roosh Hour #53 – Women Are Lost.” Then we come to your latest article “Do You Deserve A Good Woman?”
    You have just proven that the pool of good women are shrinking. There are still good women out there but the pool is drying up in the Western world like you’re articles have stated. Once, you can see, you will always see.

  12. kung flu September 29, 2020 at 2:29 pm

    Looking back I can see that there were many good women that I either turned down, or just looked straight through. Instead I opted for girls I thought were ‘hot’ or ‘exciting’. We all know where that leads, and it’s easy to see all women negatively afterwards. I think you attract the women you deserve.

  13. Kickbacks Profit September 29, 2020 at 6:15 pm

    A key that can open many locks is of good, but a lock that can be opened with many keys is no good.
    Men are also able to stand up, rise up and recover from the J-u-d-e, but once a woman is brainwashed by the J-e-w, she if forever gone to a point of no return.

    1. Grace September 29, 2020 at 8:39 pm

      What are some examples of J-e-w brainwashing?

      1. WhaleBloo September 30, 2020 at 1:50 am

        LGBTQ, atheism, porn, diversity is a strength, abortion, open borders etc.

      2. NoTe October 1, 2020 at 12:21 pm


      3. Turkish Delight October 2, 2020 at 4:16 am

        Americans and Europeans have done a lot to spread all of those things to other parts of the world, corrupting many traditional cultures. This brings shame upon Western people; I don’t want that. But instead you blame the Yehudim for your own culture’s problems and you wonder why I have so much utter disgust for all of you guys and your phony Christian faith? Let the people in Tel Aviv deal with the problems in Tel Aviv. I abhor you guys with just as much much contempt as SJW’s and ultra Feminists, especially when you don’t live up to your own standards. Look at Uganda this “third world sh*t hole, it puts all of us and our countries to shame:

      4. Hagio Sophia October 6, 2020 at 2:38 am

        They know I am right. My argument kicked the sh*t out of them.

      5. Turkish Delight October 2, 2020 at 4:25 am

        Atheism is spread by people like you; who don’t make me want to become a christian.

    2. Terry October 1, 2020 at 10:52 am

      A woman can’t be redeemed? That’s not what the Bible says!

  14. TexMexBBQ September 30, 2020 at 11:15 am

    Some of us who grew up in conservative churches in conservative towns in traditionally conservative families were indoctrinated with tradcon blue-pill simpery which is this: go through the right motions, say the right things around the right people, get the right degree from the right school, and get the right job that pays the right amount of money, and the good women will be there and virtually fall into your lap for you to get married, have children, and live happily ever after. You deserve a good woman because you did everything “right” and do everything “right” – and many people who made it to what they thought was the promised land (including women who fulfilled their feminine imperatives) took pleasure in shoving it in your face. However, this degenerating world from the late 90’s / early 2000’s forward has blown up that framework to a large extent. So much has been de-valued and de-incentivized in our degenerating world, and now there is almost an infinite supply of knowledge on YouTube and the internet. The old tradcon manipulations are working far less than they used to – less men are being duped into harmful marriages than the way they used to be, and women (and men) are more free to be independent than ever before. So do you deserve a good woman? Are you entitled to a good woman? Whatever you think you deserve or are entitled matters less now than ever before, and you must work harder than ever before for something that is becoming more de-valued than ever before. The tradcon utopian juice isn’t worth the squeeze — but the progressive sodom/gomorrah world we are becoming is an even worse alternative.

    1. AppleCider September 30, 2020 at 12:35 pm

      This guy has changed

      1. TexMexBBQ September 30, 2020 at 7:29 pm

        Who are you talking about?

    2. Antonio Zoli September 30, 2020 at 5:48 pm

      Does one deserve a good woman simply by being a pious Christian? I emphatically agree with you, NO! Look at the ancient Jesus Prayer, or the Lord’sPrayer in the gospels of St Matthew and St Luke.
      Back in my evangelical Protestant days, one prayed to God like a benevolent Santa Claus with a Christmas wish list that God would grant you whatever it was you desired, if you just asked and had faith. It was a “quid pro quo”, that is, I’ll cut a deal with the lord, if he in turn gives me some tchotchke (no, I’m not a Jew). The priest who later catechized me in the ancient church of Peter and Paul helped me to see the fallacy of this. I’ll concede you have some points well worth considering, but sounding a tad bit like the former ROK nihilistic red pill philosophy I see amongst young men on these sites (I’m 62, coming up on 63), while you appear to have a Judeo-Christian faith tradition from what I can deduct, I disagree on the “right job” statement. I see your analogy, but I personally grew up fathered by a Depression Era/WWII Era blue collar Journeyman Machinist father. Men in my family fought in WWII, served apprenticeships in honorable trades, worked for US Steel, 3M, Honeywell, and General Motors, and retired in their early-mid 60s with nice pensions. While this is a thing of the past, today in my day job (work a part-time side gig as well), I called on industrial accounts who pay competitive wages and benefits, but can’t find welders, machinists, millwrights, electricians, plumbers, truck drivers, and on and on, or people that even want to work in these jobs. My point is this, when young men take the nihilistic red pill “I’m not working on the plantation, all is lost, I’ll be a basement dweller in my single mother’s basement approach”, then the leftists and the feminists win. It feeds into their narrative.

      1. TexMexBBQ September 30, 2020 at 7:19 pm

        Nihilistic red pill = black pill

      2. Antonio Zoli September 30, 2020 at 9:09 pm

        = a life lived poorly.

      3. Antonio Zoli September 30, 2020 at 9:20 pm

        And strange that the red pill movement’s premise is a movie that was directed by two transsexuals, Lana and Lilly Wachowski.

    3. Sarah October 1, 2020 at 7:37 pm

      I really do feel your pain. Many women brought up in the church suffer the same disillusionment. I think it’s a faulty doctrine issue to blame. God never promises marriage in exchange for doing the “right” things. If anything, the Bible teaches we may suffer persecution for doing things God’s way. I wish that was taught more in church and that false promises wouldn’t be given in exchange for good behavior. As a woman, I can say I’ve missed out on many potential relationships/marriages because I wasn’t willing to compromise sexually. And yeah, some people who have made it to the “promised land” (sometimes by doing the things I chose not to do) sure do love to rub it in with how #blessed they are. But even the idea that marriage is the promised land is faulty. It’s okay to desire it, but the Bible never ever places married people above single people in value, maturity, or anything else. I could get angry and give up on abstinence because it hasn’t gotten me what I want yet, but then I wouldn’t have been doing it to live right before God. And trust me, I’ve been tempted. God has used that to show me my motives were not right. Same goes for men. Living a godly life makes you a follower of Christ, not a simp or whatever the heck that is lol

      1. Hammerheart October 6, 2020 at 2:47 am

        “the Bible never ever places married people above single people…” Uh, what?
        The entire Bible ie “Old Testament”, or Judaism, is based on heterosexual marriage of a male with a female of child -bearing age. Period. It is a fact, not an opinion. To be childless in Judaism is the greatest horror, & causes one to lose one’s portion in “the World to Come”. (To found a Jewish family with children, 1st mitzvot etc.)
        Jesus’ criticisms of the Jews of his time–ie plainly the wealth & power elite, not the poor & downtrodden ie the scum of the earth poor nobodies in the pov of said elites–were criticisms of Jewish particularism and by direct & immediate extension, the Jewish family & the Jewish extended kinship network (ie “race”). Within this matrix is where the celibacy (both Judaic & early Christian, eg Paul’s curious statements) “problem” comes from.
        The problem just morphs form into Christianity. But the absolute fanaticism of the Judaic family was there from the inception. Exactly where singles & celibates became either accepted or respected in early Christianity would be a richly rewarding if extraordinarily difficult study. (Hint: you have to study Qumran etc.)
        Modern white Euro-British-American issues have to with this group’s idolization of property & money, & imheritance laws etc. Why have more than 1 child when the eldest son is Winner takes all, practically nothing for everyone else?–a theme of many English (16-19th century) novels, plays etc. In this culture again, the childless were somewhat of a horror (til they adopted some of the many illegitimate babies available), the single/childless male was a “black sheep of the family”, & the single female was an “old maid” regarded normally as useless deadweight. The unmarried & childless in white European culture were a form of population control for “tiny, overcrowded little Europe”. Our toxic modern culture in fact has roots going back to the Middle Ages. To say Western Christianity (R Catholic, Protestant etc) was obsessed with sexual morality is “true, but not exhaustive”, until you understand the population control ideology it was organically part of.
        Being OK to be single etc is a purely modern white Western societies phenomena (now extended to Japan etc), & generated by the worst of reasons including, ultimately, that civilization perishing due to lack of demographic replenishment (ie from within itself). This is where capitalism of the “Property is more important than people” type gets us (to which Globalism etc is the solution which, by a staggering coincidence, benefits primarily the socioeconomic elites, NOT mainstream society, as is now very clear to all in the covid19 pandemic age).
        I am aware of but chose not to discuss, for sake of brevity, the Anglo-Saxon-American propensity to conflate my dictum, ie ‘People AS Property’. Again, plenty has been written on the subject; look it up.

      2. Sarah October 7, 2020 at 11:48 am

        I agree that singleness was shunned and seen as a curse in the Old Testament, but the Old Testament mindset is why they didn’t recognize their own Messiah and instead crucified Him. Jesus came and showed that they had many things very wrong, including the way they viewed women and marriage. If singleness was good enough for Jesus and Paul, it’s good enough for anyone else who can handle it. The New Testament gives fuller revelation that marriage is fine, but is not the be all end all of being a Christian. This is not the same thing as postponing marriage to sleep around and have sinful fun as many do in this modern era. That is obviously not supported biblically in any sense.

  15. choko October 1, 2020 at 1:39 am

    Roosh: your journey is incredibly valuable to many many men today of all ages. (im 59 years old)..your ability to observe/analyze and articulate is very powerful..(i know i am not alone in looking forward to your future posts. May God bless you Roosh each and every day.

    1. choko October 1, 2020 at 1:41 am

      ps as always your article contains much insight and wisdom to those who seek

  16. Bob jones October 1, 2020 at 10:35 pm

    I think you would be in Poland if it wasn’t for you having family to be around. All my family is dead. I’m moving to Poland

  17. Osman October 2, 2020 at 2:27 am

    That is a good observation. The word “first” is important. God knows person needs a job. God will provide.

  18. 0hhtec October 2, 2020 at 2:39 am

    Your previous article about women got me to stop having simp-y thoughts and allowed me to accept the idea of being single if it is the Lord’s will. Thank you Roosh. Glory be to Jesus Christ!

  19. Osman October 2, 2020 at 3:54 am

    Daily prayer, that is important. You don’t know what lies ahead. Pray that God will lead you away from temptation and deliver you from evil. Lord’s prayer Matt 6:9-15.

  20. Çatalhöyük October 2, 2020 at 4:57 am

    Your 3 recent posts are very good.

  21. MsNix October 3, 2020 at 6:55 am

    A very good book to read about the unchangeable truth about marriage and sexuality is written by Fr. Sebastian Walshe, O Praem. It highlights the beauty and reasons God created marriage and family and explains why the reproductive organs must be used for good and marriage must be life long for the children’s good. The book is titled “Understanding Marriage and Family”.

  22. Abubu October 3, 2020 at 6:48 pm

    Your political tweets suck Roosh.

    Who gives a damn anyway what a 41 year old failure of a man thinks?

    Whinging about living in a black neighborhood. If u didn’t act like such a “Muh dic” obsessed n egro you could have leveraged your writing career to be rich.

    1. Hagio Sophia October 6, 2020 at 2:18 am

      Yeah I know what your saying. He’s been going off like that on twitter for ages; I can’t stand the sh*t he says.
      I don’t want to freak you out, like this is a bit weird, but I am think it’s obvious who you are and I don’t have other way to contact you. But why did you stop writing for your blog? Like I still remember writting some of your ROK. You wrote a piece about why most men don’t deserve a marriageable woman long before anyone else did. But you were saying some good things on your blog. I think you should continue again. I could suggest topics, you do book reviews.

    2. Hagio Sophia October 6, 2020 at 2:22 am

      I recently discovered your “archives”

  23. bigjohn October 5, 2020 at 1:06 pm

    I think you are better off operating under the assumption that there are no good women. It is a useful heuristic to put men in the proper state of mind when dealing with the opposite sex regardless of your goals or worldview. God would probably tell you the same thing.

    Also, I think there is a balance with discovering God’s plan for your life and using His “will” as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility for your actions. If you fail at relationships, or business, or life generally its just a cope to rationalize it as “God’s will” that you failed. Basically the idea is that as long as you pray enough about it whatever the outcome that comes from it is fine. No it isn’t. You can be successful, or you can fail and that will be determined by the actions you take in life. And it matters too. “Worldly” things like having a family matter. If you fail at that it is insulting to God to use His will as an ad hoc justification for your failure. Especially when you start using it preemptively. Like it doesn’t matter if you fail to get a wife and family in the future, because that might be God’s will. So you don’t need to work on your Game now. All you need to do is be more Godly. No. Being more Godly is fine, but if you want a wife, you, personally have to go and get one. God isn’t going to do that for you. You have to go and get it yourself, then after the fact if you want to thank God and attribute your success to Him, fine. Just don’t do that shit when you’re a loser.

    1. Grace October 6, 2020 at 9:41 pm

      So God’s will doesn’t come into the picture at all?

  24. Jawbone Hill October 5, 2020 at 1:26 pm

    Thanks Roosh – judgment begins with the house of God, we need to get our souls right by repenting for our own weaknesses in gratifying the lust of the flesh and pride of life before we are prepared to receive any gifts from God beyond salvation.

  25. awesome14 October 5, 2020 at 9:26 pm

    Actually, no one thinks about how to make his/her life conducive to finding a good spouse. The basis for such a thing lies much deeper. It is beyond simple to find a wholesome, attractive, godly woman.

    But unless a man can see, he shall not find happiness. Adopting Christianity with a specific aim in mind will fail. It is not a rational process. Dating, courtship and marriage are wrappings over the drive reproduce. Physical attraction and love are essential to marriage.

    I don’t know exactly why, but the only places I am exposed to feminism are college campus, online and television programs. Otherwise I wouldn’t know it exists. Every girl I date wants the same thing: security and commitment!

    I don’t want to join intimately with a female who has any sexual experience! I certainly don’t want her to put her face where I urinate. A lot of men claim they have needs. If any man remains of a pure heart and mind, rejecting what prompts himself to commit sin in thought, word or deed, male ‘needs’ do not rear their ugly head.

    By placing the woman’s needs for security and commitment above his own base drive, elevating her person-hood above his passion, the man makes the woman his true equal, because he loves her more than he loves his own body!

    No, that is not in the Bible. But, not everything is ‘in’ the holy Bible.

  26. Redneck Ricardo October 5, 2020 at 11:54 pm

    I actually know of several decent, Christ-centred beautiful women who are single and 30-ish or more. Some of them are very beautiful. I’m married and 50 so they are out of bounds for me. The ‘men’ in the church don’t really seem to be interested in either acting mature or dating a spiritual woman. It’s just bizarre.

    1. GeorgeJman November 1, 2020 at 1:44 am

      It’s cuz those hoes rode the carousel for so long, duh!

  27. Hagia Sophia October 6, 2020 at 2:41 am

    The Master Race just so happens to be the race I was born in. It’s so good to be born as me and have all my handsome and beautiful appearance.

  28. simon long October 6, 2020 at 6:19 am

    Good and evil aren’t completely defined by your approach to sexuality. or lack thereof.

    Do you help people waylaid by thieves? Do you help the hungry, those without the basics for survival,
    Do you treat others as you would be treated?
    When I junky burnt my house and business around me in the middle of the night, I found out that most good churchies won’t lift a finger to help you.

  29. Igor October 6, 2020 at 2:42 pm

    What about atheists which lives under God commands without believing in them?

    1. Oleg October 8, 2020 at 10:41 am

      No atheist does that.

  30. JAY JAMES October 13, 2020 at 1:53 pm

    Brother-u have lost me. U are the most knowlegable man on the planet about women. and thru your new Godliness u now leave most men behind in their quest for a good woman. It just does not take GOD or conversion to GOD to find a good woman. it takes your unique knowledge of the female mind to help we males out there looking for the right woman. Dont deny men that are not up to u yet with GOD. Help them by continuing to reveal about all women and their mind set. Then those men might seek and find GOD like u have after they have found the right good woman. take care and share like before. jjames

  31. lizziedanlillah October 14, 2020 at 3:52 pm

    I was 29 when I got married, not a virgin. My husband was 32 and was. I told him he didn’t have to marry me because I was willing to seal the deal without a wedding ring but he insisted I make an honest woman of myself before I got my hands on his bod. We’re married 20 years now. He’s never even asked me how many lovers I had.

    1. lizziedanlillah October 14, 2020 at 3:58 pm

      We’re not a perfect match btw. He’s Muslim I’m RC now. Muslim men go to two extremes btw. Either total sleeze or total virgins. But he’s an assertive dude and very fair and put the work in to win our now happy life together. The best advice on marriage I ever got was ‘The first ten years are the hardest’ If you can stick it out for ten years you will be surprised at how much nicer the second decade is.

      1. Grace October 16, 2020 at 11:37 am

        Glad to know marriage gets better!

      2. Antonio Zoli October 20, 2020 at 4:12 pm

        Your story shoots holes in the red piller/black piller/mgtow narrative that still is somewhat pervasive on this site. Good to see some balanced women like you and Sarah out there.

  32. Kate Ye December 8, 2020 at 3:43 pm

    I live in Los Angeles, and yes Im the one with the tattoos and a little sense of entitlement with a whole list full of sins that could probably fill up a library. The issue here is I am not looking for a husband. I knew the system of marriage was a fail since the early 2010s. Im in my 30’s and I am fine with serving God alone for the rest of my life. Ive seen enough broken marriages (Christian and otherwise) to be smart enough to stay out of it. A little dating here and there is fine for companionship, but as for my location and the time (2020) where I am today, it is nearly impossible to find that Godly Christ fearing man. I would rather be alone than keeping my hopes up. I accept the facts, and thats how we dont get disappointed with what God does or does not have in store for a “future partner.” My partner is with Jesus Christ, and I am totally content with that.