Don’t Be Spoiled

If you’re a man who has slept with a lot of women, it’s hard not to have those successes floating in the back of your mind when you’re looking for a new lay. You may feel that you’ve unlocked an upper level of pussy and shouldn’t have to redo lower levels that you labored on when you were younger. You wouldn’t even mind if new girls you meet had prior knowledge of all those beautiful girls you fucked, all to make the social proof obvious. You much rather leverage past bangs into current success instead of starting from scratch and grinding it out.

The beautiful Colombian girl you fucked a couple years ago? Doesn’t matter. The 18-year-old with a perfect body who you raw dogged? Big deal. The doctor’s wife you seduced that let you drive around in her husband’s expensive toys? No one gives a fuck. You’re only as good as your last bang. The past is not water that you can carry over to the present, just an abstraction that grows dim in your mind with time.

I rode a little high into Latvia after banging two new girls during my final weekend in Poland. I was ready to keep the momentum going and do even better in my new home in Riga. The universe had other plans for me.

I swung wildly but was unable to connect with the ball. My first week I went out on Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday, did countless approaches in almost ten different venues, both day and night, but had only two measly numbers to show for it. I was annoyed and angry because I thought I had passed the point of grinding it out, especially after coming from a country that was easy for me. The universe knew I was getting spoiled in Poland. It wanted me to be humbled again, to appreciate what I had. It began throwing curve balls to remind me of it really takes to succeed in the game.

I was beat by the time Saturday came around. I didn’t want to go out, and my thoughts constantly drifted back to Poland. I made myself snap out of it. Whatever made me successful there was not present in my new home, so I had to treat Poland as dead. I went to the coffee shop and wrote down a plan to get my Latvian flag from the things I had so far learned in my three days of experience. That night I walked out of the door with the plan in my pocket, telling myself that I couldn’t return home before 7am without exhausting all possibilities.

I got lucky on my third approach and returned home half past five with a Latvian girl. She had no idea that violating her pussy was the culmination of four grinding days where I questioned the decision to visit her city.

The universe doesn’t owe you anything. I don’t care what you’ve done in the past. I don’t care where you’ve been and who you’ve fucked, because there is nothing that says you are supposed to succeed today. No girl you talk to has to treat you well or be easy just because she’s not as hot as another girl you had a long time ago. All that matters is how committed you are to putting in time and effort towards your goal. Your game, your skill, your environment, and the level of difficulty will always change but as long as you work, you will succeed. Walk up to the universe, tell it you’re not spoiled, you’re not entitled, and then punch it in the face. Make it watch you put in that work.

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Steven Lurkel
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Tell ’em, Roosh!

Piano Keys
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“Your game, your skill, your environment, and the level of difficulty will always change but as long as you work, you will succeed.”

fuck yeah Roosh!

Alpha
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The one line that impacted my game the most was,

“You wont be successful at the game until you start treating it like a job.”

This is a great post, one of those things I’m tempted to print up and hang. Guys like Vince Kelvin will promise you the world, but if you want the world you have to work at it!

You can’t just expect to have it all handed to you. Good post man, thanks for the ass kicking and telling it how it is.

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A question that I have for you Roosh is this. I can get the desire to go out one night, but if I go out drinking, I feel like total crap the next night and can’t spur the energy to go out again. I guess my question is this: how much do you drink when you go out? Are you getting drunk, not drinking at all, or just having two beers. I’m in my early 30’s and I just can’t rebound from nights out drinking like i use to. The other question is if you aren’t drinking that much, how are you blending in in the social environment of the bars? Does that matter. Just curious..

In your post you say you went out a bunch of nights in a row, which is something I could have pulled off early in life, but just seems hard for me to get it going anymore. I still get ass, but I am obviously limiting my output and reward by not grinding enough.

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The flip side is: the only thing that maters is if you are having a good time *right now*. Happiness doesn’t accumulate. You can’t bank it. Live for today, or live for tomorrow, but don’t live for yesterday.

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Tampa –

“I can get the desire to go out one night, but if I go out drinking, I feel like total crap the next night and can’t spur the energy to go out again.”

You need to toughen up. Simple as that.

” I’m in my early 30′s and I just can’t rebound from nights out drinking like i use to.”

What is your drink of choice? I have a feeling this could be your undoing.

– MPM

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@Tampa – I read in one of the old posts or in Bang that Roosh keeps it around 3 drinks(high quality scotch). That sounds right. Limiting yourself to 3 drinks saves cash, and more importantly, keeps you from fucking up your own game. Plus you don’t have to deal with a hangover the next day.

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“Your only good as your last bang”

Yup this is my mentality as well but you wanna be careful cause this thought process can also fuck you up because then you start to validate yourself with the type of vagina your getting. For awhile that fucked my game up, because if I banged something beneath me I felt I wasn’t good enough. Ego/Validation bullshit

Great post though Roosh

P.s. To the Poo Pirate that said something about going and getting a lay only after 4 times. Dude your a KBJ Poo Pirate. Let me guess you pull every night right? Unless you are Brad Pitt or tricking on hoes you ain’t pulling every night. hate these KBJ’s who think this shit is ping pong

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But then, Roosh, if there is no cumulative effect, what is the purpose of it all?

Shouldn’t you feel like you’re working towards some greater goal, as supposed to having to start from scratch every bang, over and over again? When does it end?

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@Tampa…it’s definitely a sign you’re getting older when you can’t recover from drinking like you used to. From my junior year of college through age 25 or so, I drank HARD. Constantly getting drunk. A bad bought with walking pneumonia told me I needed to stop doing that. I went several years without drinking at all. A glass of champagne at New Years was all the alcohol I had for a few years running. I got back to drinking socially, with an occasional drunken night here or there when I was with a crew of my harder-drinking buddies. I’ve pretty much maintained that into my 40s. Typically, I’ll have a couple of beers, or maybe a couple of Jack & Cokes with a shot or two. As I got older, I became less interested in simply getting lit. Booze has never been the key to me enjoying myself, while I’ve encountered a lot of friends and acquaintences where it seemed to be the goal every time they went out – getting smashed.

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This really resonates with me professionally having to go down and do lower type of work that I did years ago….

Anonymous
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Damn, the last paragraph kicked me in the ass.

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The opposite is somewhat true as well. Don’t let past failures hold you back.

That said, I’m pretty sure that there’s a cumulative inner-game vibe that can grow.

I’d bet that the subconscious reveals this. It would be interesting to see a study that compares player MRIs to MRIs of guys who don’t get much action.

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Game Denialist –

“Shouldn’t you feel like you’re working towards some greater goal, as supposed to having to start from scratch every bang, over and over again? When does it end?”

When the casket closes.

– MPM

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Game Denialist –

Any woman, any where, any time. That’s my goal. But just because I have a goal, doesn’t mean I dwell on the past, or turn my nose up at any girl “less than 8” because “I’ve banged better”.

You give an excellent example of entirely missing the point.

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Yes, our game becomes sloppy when we resign in overviewing our flags and trophies.

Right now feel such lazyness, I blame it on the cold that comes with winters awating Spring time… butthen I realize I just let go a lay and the frustration builds up again.

Keeping your game tight needs discipline and hard work.

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And this is exactly what most of us cannot do. At the end of the day, the shit takes work, a lot of work. And this is why most men, in the end, seek out a steady relationship.

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Nomad77

Exactly. If game feels like work can you still call it a game? People like Roosh invest waaay too much time into chasing pussy. Though, to be fair, for Roosh it overlaps with his work. But for the rest of us, focus on your mission first, and pussy second. Now I’m not saying to ignore this department completely, but it should not be the main focus of a balanced man. Goal should be happiness and pussy for pussy’s sake.

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Oops, I meant “Goal should be happiness and NOT pussy for pussy’s sake”

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It’s worse than Roosh says.

Every day over 35 you’re FURTHER from automatically triggering the “cool young guy who feels like a peer” reaction you all take for granted right now (How could it be otherwise? You’ve never known anything but youth.)

“Gather ye rosebuds while ye may…:”

–Robert Herrick 1591-1674 (Hint, hint)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Herrick_(poet)

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It’s so hard not to be spoiled. I’ve just had a string of hot college girls (18-21) and I find it difficult to go after anything else.

Being spoiled sucks, because you miss out on what makes seduction great; novelty and variety.

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@Tampa

Don’t drink so much, or at all when you go out.
You’re game will probably improve as a result and you won’t be limited by hangovers.

Or, try Day-game.

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@Tampa

Gaming when sober is the greatest challenge but also the greatest reward. When you know that you can conquer approach anxiety w/o chemicals, it will only increase your confidence

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Only as good as your last bang!! Hell yeah nigga! Yell that shit from the housetops!Q

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““I can get the desire to go out one night, but if I go out drinking, I feel like total crap the next night and can’t spur the energy to go out again.”

You need to toughen up. Simple as that.”

G- any tips for the gentlemen that need to get up in the early morning yet want to enjoy the night on a regular basis?

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It’s always better to be in the mindset that you have had girls in the past as fit as the one you want to go speak to at the club/bar you’re at. This is paramount if you want to get over the approach anxiety (I do it all the time – “different toilet, same shit”).

All that is different is that she knows fuck all about you and is going to judge you on how you talk as oppose to how you judge her based on her looks.

In other news I thought you might be interested in this:

http://lifetech-it.hosted.jivesoftware.com/videos/1016

& this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=7Y5H9Sasq5U#!

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“I can get the desire to go out one night, but if I go out drinking, I feel like total crap the next night and can’t spur the energy to go out again.”

Well, that’s that player lifestyle.
It does not mix well with a 9-5 job (does Roosh have one?) or when traveling, with sightseeing all day (does Roosh do that?)

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“You’re only as good as your last bang. ”

That sounds very Hollywood in the same sense of saying “you’re only as famous as your last movie you were in” but given that superficial sex is of the same level as fame in the film industry one could argue its all the same.

“I dont care what you’ve done in the past. I dont care where youve been and who you fucked”

This is the equivalent to the popular expression that the past does not = the future. It also runs both ways whereas in the context of this current post means just because a man has been banging supermodels doesnt gaurentee the next skank he bends over a sink will be a supermodel. The opposite is true as well in the sense that if a man was banging fugly warpigs doesnt mean he cannot put himself on the path to banging supermodels. For guys who have been plugging aging toothless crackwhores or any variety of the snouts and entrails that are supposed to pass as females in todays western world, its important they realize that they can change their destiny for the better.

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It’s great to get a trophy. It’s even greater, to still fight for more of them, no matter how many trophies on your shelf.

Astelamos
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Fortunately I am crazy enough without drinks!

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Well ず, i have just 1 thing 2 say..disgusting.Hope you guys gonna go 2 hell and “the big boss” there will treat you the right way!

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I enjoyed this blog, like watching my country from an american aspect. Native Latvians doesn’t know you and what are you doing in here, but it’s not your business, carry on!
Cheers

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Uh oh..
Here come the Latvian haters

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Roosh, time to high tail it out of the eastern block

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Hah..such a looser..

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Read your article after seeing you being mentioned in a local news web page.

A ProTip for you – you have to offer more and give less. Latvian girls have changed in their nature in the past few years. It’s hard near to impossible to get a 9-5 job with no real duties for a decent salary like it used to be.

So the majority of women have turned from an independent party hard type of woman to a woman who just seeks opportunity.

Offer a bright future and lie! Lie like you have never lied before. Position yourself as a businessman, lie about your life, your income, your everything, just don’t go over the top(nobody is going to believe that you are a multimillionaire astronaut cowboy from outer space).

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Hey, I’m ‘nother native latvian))

I won’t go into the details of your broken psyche and what I’d do to you if you went over the line, but I applause you for helping us get rid of the slutty scum contingent. Those are not the genes we are looking for, so thanks again!

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I guess you have already found out you can’t have the same approach as you had with Polish girls, because Latvian girls have very different mentality, more introvert and Nordic (but not so extreme as in Island, Sweden or Finland, they don’t get drunk and fuck whatever). But I would like to hear more about your research and strategies how Latvian girls have to be approached. It’s interesting to look abstractly to myself from aside as I’m 100% Latvian.
Just be creative man!
P.S. Latvian girls are mostly very independent, because life forces them, but any way, I believe that any of them want some warm shelter and be protected and feel that one is caring about them (might be the warmness and emotional feeling of security can be bridge to pleasure).

[Roosh: I’m writing a book about Latvia. It will be released in a few months.]

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Well, you’ve done well to get a decent Latvian media attention lol. I also read an obviously altered version of your Latvian adventure on our local news. For Latvians, You’re the ultimate hero now, who has turned the bad reputation of Latvian girls (that has been haunting us for years) bright and shiny! grin
Thanks, much appreciated!

However, from what I’ve seen and observed – Latvian girls have gotten smarter and tougher to get lately, which is great!

And also – British and Italian sex-tourists have disgusted us to the max already, so unfortunately, the same perception of ‘foreign assholes’ is now automatically attached to basically any male tourists that are willing to enjoy Riga nightlife (…especially if they are in groups of course)

It is almost a guarantee that tourists will end up with the ‘cheap end’ girls in Riga (which are not so many here anymore – went to pick mushrooms in the UK), cause the good ones will simply ignore every attempt. We’ve seen and heard it all, trust me! smile

Good luck & watch out girls, he is still here! wink

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..with such a look like you can get girls just in some more alternative bars (“Aptieka”, “Leningrad etc., but I’m not sure that girls are going there for fucking, so won’t look like supermodels).. but in other places you have to take bit more serous look and get some appropriate outfit, because you can look as hansom as you want but if you look poor it will be hard to get respect from pretty faces. Serous fancy businessman type that what could sell..

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@41 – “It is almost a guarantee that tourists will end up with the ‘cheap end’ girls in Riga”

I always wonder about the quality of girls that Roosh hooks up with.

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@43 Not only in Riga, but pretty much everywhere. Just go to your local club and check what the tourist with no command of the local language, no money and no social circles are pulling

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So Roosh, what you are saying here is that the past doesn’t matter, nor the future, only this moment matters?

Correct me if I’m wrong.

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Roosh good post…..I miss you buddy

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> She had no idea that violating her pussy was the culmination of four grinding days where I questioned the decision to visit her city.

No wonder you spent four days trying to find a girl in Latvia, if sex for you, is “violating her pussy” – don’t you think that women know that you think that, on some level?

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Great motivation to go out and do many actions today, including a bunch of approaches. Thanks Roosh. Let’s keep it up and keep on going!!

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This nigga just said don’t eat if you’re lifting weights