Don’t Disrespect My Friend

I was in a Brazilian club recently with a group of Brazilian guys. Most of them were in college, around 22-years-old, and I thought of myself as the wise elder of the group. To foster conversation and build rapport I asked them questions about Brazilian women that I already knew, pretending that I was learning information that was completely new.

A couple hours into the night the group scattered and I found myself with only one of them, a short but muscular engineering major at the local university. He overdrank a bit but overall I found him to be a good, fun kid.

Following him through the club, he opened a group of five girls, a tough approach in any country. Instead of dealing with the entire group he focused on the girl closest near him, a logical move since the music was too loud to attempt to engage everyone. About fifteen seconds into his approach, the ugliest girl of the group raises her hand into his face and makes a goodbye motion, telling him in so many words to fuck off and die.

Now if she did that to me then I’d accept it and move on because I almost deserve it for all the women I’ve used and abused over the years, but this guy was harmless. He only tried to have a conversation instead of going for cheap feel. He didn’t say anything sexist or mean. The ugly girl had no reason to treat him like trash.

I saw the ugly girl’s hand hanging in the air and my vision focused on her chubby fingers going back and forth in an undulating wave pattern. That bitch… who the fuck does she think she is? Does she think she’s better than him? I became enraged. I couldn’t believe that this undesirable human being would disrupt the normal flow of nature and prevent an attractive person from getting with another attractive person. Just because she can’t stop stuffing her face with Hot Pockets doesn’t mean she should interrupt the game of someone who can.

In one quick motion I put my hand on top of her wrist and pushed down.

You could only see the shock on her face for less than half a second. She quickly glanced at a far off spot in the club and started to dance again with a forced grin as if nothing happened. She didn’t look in my direction again. Of course the approach was over but I taught that bitch a lesson: do not disrespect a man who didn’t disrespect you. I guarantee you that for the rest of her life she will never do that again. Part of being a real man is teaching lessons to those who sorely need it.

Now imagine if all men would stand up to disrespectful women, whether it be cockblocking or just general bad behavior. Most of the problems that we bitch about would eventually disappear, all because we stopped accepting it. If we don’t punish what deserves to be punished, it will merely continue.

I have no sympathy for guys who always whine about getting cockblocked, because they’d remain silent if I ask them what they’ve done to stop it. Have you called out cockblockers? Have you made it uncomfortable for girls to continue cockblocking? Have you put the nasty fat bitches of the group in their place? Have you ruined her night by teaching her a lesson she’ll never forget? If not then as far as I’m concerned you’re part of the problem. You have done nothing to stop it so you don’t deserve for the problem to stop affecting you.

One night at a time, one girl at a time, we can change the world.


  1. Carl Sagan December 7, 2009 at 10:43 am

    Well done.

    I think you did a service to mankind.

  2. outlaw josey wales December 7, 2009 at 10:50 am

    When I read what you did I read it as “I put my hand on top of her WAIST and pushed down.” I guess that might have been effective as well.

  3. Anonymous December 7, 2009 at 11:17 am

    good man. thank you for your service to humanity!

  4. The Truth December 7, 2009 at 11:27 am

    Good post. This actually works in a wider context as well. Do not accept disrespect from anyone. Treat others fairly and expect others to do the same for you. Call them on their transgressions or eliminate them from your life.

  5. Simon December 7, 2009 at 11:43 am

    “In one quick motion I put my hand on top of her wrist and pushed down.”

    How about:

    “In one quick motion I put forced a twinkie in her hand and pushed it into her face.”

    Simon’s last blog post: That Awkward Friend Zone Feeling.

  6. BasilRansom December 7, 2009 at 12:38 pm

    I’m totally on the same page – but for every time you discipline a woman, there’ll be five guys who’ll tell her that she did the right thing, to get into her snatch. (They won’t.)

    When she gets consistently shamed, by the people around her, she will learn not to fuck around. But combine the approval of her friends, and her suitors if they’re around (just think of the scoundrels in The Odyssey) vs you and maybe a wingman, how often is that going to happen? With social approval of her actions, she’ll consider you weird and creepy. One-on-one with a confident frame, shaming will usually work.

  7. Mrs. Chocolate December 7, 2009 at 1:37 pm

    Here in Bra we hv a name for this kind of girl, and there is men (!!!) in the same position. It’s always the ugliest in the team, and never bang anyone and teases the others.
    I just save my friends when I see them uncomfortable, I always ask first with thumbs up/down before to make a move. The brazilian game is too difficult to get away by yourself as a girl, sometimes. Then u need a friend to go “bathroom” with u. LOL.

    Mrs. Chocolate’s last blog post: Dias melhores…Ou não..

  8. The Rookie December 7, 2009 at 1:48 pm

    wait… there was an ugly fat bitch in Brazil?? My fantasy is RUINED!!

  9. Big Snot December 7, 2009 at 2:17 pm

    You really shouldnt let these dumb girls get under your skin. And probably not a good idea to physically confront women as you’ve been suddenly advocating (see GGW hairpulling video you were praising recently). Grabbing and pushing women’s arms is a recipe for nightlife disaster. You talk about ruining the chubbys night but i think she came close to ruining yours.

  10. Kataphraktos December 7, 2009 at 3:07 pm

    I got cockblocked by a lawyer in Sao Paulo yesterday evening.

    Yep, they’re not fucking parasites in D.C. alone.

    I love this place, and I’m glad I will be spending a lot more time here for business in the coming years. I have the advantage of a large, well-connected group of friends, so I never have to be the lone hunter in the clubs.

    The question my friends and I asked ourselves these last few days: why the hell do we even live in the US? I have a bunch of dates set up back home when I return in a few days, and I’m actually kind of depressed by it, because I will be having a drink with one of them, but I’ll be thinking of the delicious girls I kissed and played with down here this last week.

    Brazil actually WANTS you to be more alpha. The U.S. seems to be structured and populated in such a way as to push guys deeper into the Beta Zone.

    Fuck, the U.S. sucks.

  11. Simon December 7, 2009 at 3:27 pm

    @Kata Be you, homey. Fuck whatever social norms exist. Fondle and play with the US honeys with your new Sao Paulo alpha vibe. If they don’t like, you’ll be back soon anyway it sounds like.

    Simon’s last blog post: That Awkward Friend Zone Feeling.

  12. The G Manifesto December 7, 2009 at 3:49 pm

    “The question my friends and I asked ourselves these last few days: why the hell do we even live in the US?”

    I have been asking myself that question a lot lately.

    Glad I have a ticket booked.

    – MPM

    The G Manifesto’s last blog post: The Las Vegas Litmus Test.

  13. Stein December 7, 2009 at 3:55 pm

    She didn’t call the bouncer on you? No asshole hovering near the group tried to white-knight and shove you because you ‘hit a girl’?

    I find myself avoiding any physical contact with cockblockers because they make a scene and I get thrown out. Trouble finds me. I wonder how you pulled it off.

  14. Lovechild December 7, 2009 at 9:25 pm

    Talk about Keepin’ your Pimp Hand Strong and Bitch-Slapping her with the Hand of the Law! hehehe!


    Good Job on taking care of the problem…quickly!

  15. Roosh December 7, 2009 at 9:37 pm

    “I find myself avoiding any physical contact with cockblockers because they make a scene and I get thrown out.”

    This is exactly the problem, being scared so you do nothing and the problem continues.

  16. Anonymous December 7, 2009 at 9:55 pm

    Now, *that’s* being a wingman.

  17. Anonymous December 7, 2009 at 10:18 pm

    Not a matter of being scared Roosh. I think what you did was great, however, back in the U.S. if you even lay a hand on anyone you can be arrested for assault. Not kidding. Another reason not to live here.

  18. Anonymous December 8, 2009 at 1:51 am

    Two girls pretended like my friend was invisible when he opened them at a bar. It was beyond rude.

    So, I said “Are you girls from Iowa?”

    This turned their head and they looked at me. They said no and asked why I said that.

    I said “Because two corn fed bitches like yourself, I figured you were from Iowa.”

    Then we walked away.

    1. Roosh December 8, 2009 at 8:51 am

      “I said “Because two corn fed bitches like yourself, I figured you were from Iowa.””


      Guys need to start emailing me stories like this so I can post them.

  19. olivherbst December 8, 2009 at 8:30 am

    Maybe the interaction with your target doesn´t have to end when you crush the cockblocker. I once did, and the girl I was aiming for was not shocked or angry, but impressed. Stand up for your friends and for yourself.

  20. dude December 8, 2009 at 5:41 pm

    wow, you really showed that girl!

  21. Roosh December 8, 2009 at 5:47 pm

    17: Well being scared of getting arrested is still a fear. There’s many ways to call out a cockblocking bitch without breaking laws. In this case I couldn’t bitch her out in portuguese so I had to get slightly physical.

  22. dude December 8, 2009 at 6:51 pm

    Aren’t you afraid some local badasses will kick your ass eventually and you, as a gringo, will always be the guilty one with the police?

    1. Roosh December 8, 2009 at 6:56 pm

      So much fear in these comments:

      1. Fear of getting beat up
      2. Fear of getting kicked out of the club
      3. Fear of getting arrested

      Are you scared to leave the house to even approach girls?

  23. Anonymous December 8, 2009 at 8:05 pm

    The last time a girl did anything like that was in a club. I started talking to her friend and a girl that I didnt know and had never spoken to turned around saw her friend talking to a guy that she did not know (shock horror) and literally grabbed her friend and physically dragged her friend away from me.

    I was so offended I bitch slapped the cockblocker in the back of the head as she walked away. I aint down on hitting women but she deserved it.

  24. Shaman December 8, 2009 at 11:08 pm

    Those of you talking about being afraid of getting physical with a chick need to remember that this happened in Brazil, and what doesn’t seem to be registering in your brains is the possibility that there are actually other countries in the world that do not have exactly the same social norms.

    I’ve never even been to Latin America, but from what I’ve heard from several friends who ARE Latin American, men definitely have a LOT more leeway with that sort of stuff there, in fact they’re EXPECTED to physically discipline women when it’s appropriate, and if not then the woman will actually think the guy is weak because he didn’t stop her from acting up and she’ll dump him specifically because of that.

    No, he’s not going to get in trouble for grabbing the bitch’s fucking hand…jesus christ, come the fuck on. He probably could’ve just shoved her out of the way and he would’ve been fine. Understand that places not in the United States are NOT IN THE UNITED STATES (and therefore, sometimes, VERY different cultural/social norms will apply).

    From what I understand, there are many places in Latin America and Eastern Europe where a husband or boyfriend can LITERALLY smack around his woman if she’s acting up IN PUBLIC and nobody will think twice about it, let alone do anything to stop him, LET ALONE try to fight him or call the cops–it’s normal, no one gives a flying fuck. I’m not saying that particular behavior is NECESSARILY alright, but I’m just using that example to make my point.

  25. dude December 9, 2009 at 12:36 am

    Shaman, I have lived in Latin America and you are partially right: men who ARE Latinos do have a lot of leeway b/c they often see women as their property. For that very reason, Gringos grabbing their property (women) are treated very differently and it’s just another reason for cops to f–k with a walking ATM-gringo.

  26. joker December 10, 2009 at 1:35 pm

    I was in a club with my mate and we started flirting with this pretty girl at the bar. After just a quick exchange of smiles the pretty girl’s chubby friend comes up to us, PUSHES us and says “get the fuck away!” and gets back into the group. Well, thanks to Roosh, I go into the set and ask the girl “Excuse me, did your mom teach you to be rude? I was just smiling at your friend and you come, push me and my friend away and tell us to fuck off” You should’ve seen the face of the chubby one. She just walked off with her friends but the original target, the cute one, stayed with us. Hooray o//

  27. joker December 10, 2009 at 1:38 pm

    Another great classic got me a hit in the balls by a girl. Just asked her “Excuse me, but where is your fat friend[who disrespected us before]?” Ha, I consider that on a classic. Girls just love when you call their friends fatties (which they are!)

  28. stone December 11, 2009 at 1:19 am

    once, at a pool party, i talk up a hottie dancing at the edge of the water, and get a hand put in my face in a fuck-off motion, and “zamalchi” shouted rudely at me.
    tried to shove the bitch in the pool. due to alcohol, my uncoordinated motion
    did not produce the desired effect right away, plus some guys came to the rescue.

  29. stone December 11, 2009 at 1:21 am

    forgot to add, “zamalchi!” is russian for “shut up!”

  30. Anonymous December 12, 2009 at 1:52 pm

    I remember watching a video someone sent in the same vein as the jo (whatever his name is) guy you linked.

    Just found it…here it is.

    when a girl/s have been a cunts to me I like to watch things like this as I enjoy the catharsis if only slight. We should gather all we can to have a little sanctuary for them.

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  34. Tyciol December 11, 2012 at 5:38 am

    “.. don’t disrespect a man who didn’t disrespect you .. imagine if all men would stand up to disrespectful women”

    God this is a real pet peeve of mine, I hate it when ‘respect’ is treated like a verb (oft given the antonym ‘disrespect’) because to me, it’s only a noun and a feeling I get for people I like.

    Better rephrasing “don’t insult someone who didn’t insult you” “Imagine if men stood up to rude women”.

    Insult/rude are way better here. Insult’s a letter shorter verb, rude’s 2 syllables and 6 letter shorter than ‘disrespectful’ and clearer too.

    As for the positive forms: ‘being respectful’ = ‘being polite’.

    Sorry for the obessive pedantic sophistric nagging but man… I just think the term ‘respect’ and it’s derivatives is overused.

  35. Anonymous January 13, 2013 at 5:20 am

    Wow, Anonymous at 12/8/09 8:05 REALLY showed that woman when he hit her in the back of the head. She must have felt so stupid from preventing her friend from hooking up with such a catch.