Everyone Is Hoping That You’ll Fail

Beta males are hoping. White knights are hoping. Feminists are hoping. Believe it or not, some of your friends and family members are hoping. They want you to fail because your success is their failure. It reminds them of their laziness, their poor work ethic. I’m sorry to tell you that they all want you to fail. Their subtle jabs and withholding of encouragement are aimed to keep you in an inferior station. No one wants to see someone rise at faster speed than themselves.

There is no point in telling other people your goals. They will talk you out of it or give you bad advice. There is no point trying to convince others of your world view. They will plant seeds of doubts that prevent you from action and seeing the truth. The minute you go just slightly higher than you have been, they will try to sabotage you. They are the worrymongers, fearmongers, scaremongers, shamemongers, guilt-trippers, trolls, and haters. Ignore them. Feeding them brings you down to their level, which is exactly what they want.

You’re completely on your own. You don’t need help from anyone. If you can’t reach your goals without the validation and support of other human beings, the bulk of whom I promise are against you, then you don’t deserve to succeed.

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madmax
madmax
8 years ago

they not only hope, last thuesday i had an white knight attacking me (trying to choke me) and telling me not to touch other women the way i did, even though the girls obviously liked it..

Zorba
Zorba
3 years ago
Reply to  madmax

I hope you deprived him of his nuts permanently.

Bertman
Bertman
8 years ago

jealousy motivated by feelings of insecurity and inferiority is extremely common. I agree that it’s best sometimes to just fly under the radar and keep your goals and achievements to yourself. it would be more pleasant if you didn’t have to do this, but unfortunately we live in a world of spineless conformists.

Tom Leykis Fan
5 years ago
Reply to  Bertman

Yes 98% of the human race are fucking dumb sheep or lemmings. This can include family.

Brandon
Brandon
8 years ago

Agreed.

Jim
Jim
8 years ago

Yup. Even family can be resentful. At 40, I’m taking a much needed break from work that I’ve been hard at for over 20 years. That everything is paid off and I’m living in relative comfort compared to some of my own kin who had MORE opportunities yet not enough DISCIPLINE to control their habits and lives is not my fault. Yet the jealousy and envy is there. Say, is it my fault that one knocked up a woman at 18 and his out of control gambling habits ensured he’ll work until the day he dies and another with his drug habits kept him from growing up? No, but they hate because that’s all they can do. Misery loves company. Fuck ’em.

davidlaska
davidlaska
5 years ago
Reply to  Jim

Family is commonplace in this

Yams
Yams
8 years ago

“There is no point in telling other people your goals”

The truth

Tom Leykis Fan
5 years ago
Reply to  Yams

+1000000

Guccio Vuitton
Guccio Vuitton
4 years ago
Reply to  Yams

Disagree with this as a blanket statement, it can be useful to let like-minded people (handful in life) know them if you are good about hiding your true intentions to the public. I have plans to start my own natural resource extraction company in 10 years, but to get to that position I have to learn how to do it by working for someone else. I’ve identified one or two people whom could be beneficial to achieving that goal (and me being beneficial to them in return) and have shared this to encourage them to make themselves as valuable as possible in the mean time.

But after typing that I guess your right, only in extreme circumstances is it worth it telling someone your goals.

Alex
Alex
8 years ago

I agree for the most part, except about not sharing your world views because others will plant seeds of doubt. If your worldview isn’t strong enough to destroy these seeds then it doesn’t deserve to live. For example the strength of my atheist worldview is so strong because I actively look at religious arguments.

I like the rest of the article, even though it’s a bit harsh. The longer I’m in college the more I see hints of resentment from other students.

davidlaska
davidlaska
5 years ago
Reply to  Alex

I don’t talk about my religious views, it’s a waste of time unless it’s going to get me laid, then I confirm.

David
David
8 years ago

So true Roosh! Many times I’ve had to abandon friends because they refused to see that I wanted to change and DID change. They saw me in a certain light and only keep holding me back from “evolving”.

Theophilus
8 years ago

Not only is there no point in disclosing your goals to others, it also saps the energy from those goals.
It’s a weird phenomenon, but I’ve seen it many times. The more you tell others about a goal, the less likely you are to reach it. It loses its power, somehow.
But beware of the guy who’s always busy with something, buy never talks about it – he’s on his way somewhere.

Good Ken
Good Ken
5 years ago
Reply to  Theophilus

This is so true. Speaking about a goal is like putting a curse on it.

Brit Conservative
Brit Conservative
2 years ago
Reply to  Good Ken

I think when you’re a teenager and you’re saying this to maybe your parents, then you might well get some encouragement to do whatever plan it is you have.
But yeah, when you’re an adult, NOBODY is gonna help you. It’s up to you and you alone. Why would they actively assist you in rising above them? And of course they cannot be blamed for that, for they are looking out for themselves, just like you are for yourself.

ABDOOL
ABDOOL
2 years ago
Reply to  Theophilus

well said my friend, show your goals in action rather than words nor revealing
them to others

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

“Their subtle jabs and withholding of encouragement are aimed to keep you in an inferior station.”

Ding!

This is what my parents and sisters do. From developing a business to dressing better to traveling, I get very little support.

Onder
8 years ago

This is very true. I started a new blog a few weeks ago and expected my friends to support me on it after i hinted that a surprise was coming. At first, everyone was wondering what it was and sending me loads of status message updates.

The minute i announced the blog (Which i won’t say on here in case i get labelled a troll) and they saw what it was, that it was my plan B. I got hardly no praise from anyone. I also got hateful and shameful comments from anonymous people after checking my wordpress messages.

It’s a real shame, but Roosh makes a very good point. No one really wants to see you successful because it will directly attack and challenge their beliefs. No one wants to see their beliefs tarnished by some wise ass who is confident enough to rise above the norm.

I say to hell with it all. We only live once and time is limited. Might as well make the most of it.

Der Mac
Der Mac
6 years ago
Reply to  Onder

Huh? If you communicate like that, please don’t write in a blog.

KIll; Yourself
KIll; Yourself
4 years ago
Reply to  Der Mac

The irony…

FJ
FJ
3 years ago
Reply to  Der Mac

The irony of your comment cannot be lost on this article.

Yams
Yams
8 years ago

Sounds like my mom.

Tom Leykis Fan
5 years ago
Reply to  Yams

Most people actually.

Joe
Joe
8 years ago

‘Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies.’

– Gore Vidal

Levon
Levon
8 years ago

I generally find weak men will always try and undermine anything your doing in life.

ABDOOL
ABDOOL
2 years ago
Reply to  Levon

well said I agree too and I believe that it is a matter of confidence

Odds
Odds
8 years ago

Good words of wisdom, Roosh.

Lately I have been saying less about my goals but getting more done. Everyone has to live their own lives. I know for a fact that nobody supports my goals to travel the world and obtain flags, but it’s what I want to do. But talking about it isn’t going to make it easier, it is only going to make people resent me. Best to blend in and be formless around other people, to say what they want to hear while working toward your own ends.

dave
8 years ago

Thank you very much for taking the time to write this post, Roosh. Very encouraging. It’s a sad world we live in, but it’s the truth.

ABDOOL
ABDOOL
2 years ago
Reply to  dave

I really needed someone like Roosh too to learn wisdom and be enlightened about some aspects of life especially when it comes to pick up and communication with girls and how to be an interesting man that everybody likes…

Eric
Eric
8 years ago

also worth mentioning is the power of sexual transmutation for achieving your goals. for those who don’t already know, see chapter 11 of ‘think and grow rich’ here: http://www.sacred-texts.com/nth/tgr/tgr16.htm

Sine Wave Killer
Sine Wave Killer
8 years ago

On point and well said Roosh. I’ve always found that my mother was the most critical person of the dreams I had. I learned to ignore her, i’ve also found that fat women are the biggest haters as well.

The G Manifesto
8 years ago

The only question to ask is, “Is this right for me?”

And the only person to answer that is yourself.

– MPM

Phinn
Phinn
8 years ago

This post strikes a deep chord in me, Roosh.

Last year, I was a classic AFC. I was the poster boy for what Dr. Glover calls Nice Guy Syndrome.

As a result, I was going down an all-too familiar road with my wife of 10+ years.

My degenerating marriage began with my (unreasonable) expectation that my wife support me in a career change. I never got it.

I had supported her career change, and her new creative career with everything I could offer, and it worked. But once she was over the wall, she never reached back to pull me up.

My resentment grew from there. I blamed her for not helping me. For the nay-saying. For the times I’d tell her about a new idea I had or some new, exciting thing I wanted to do, and her response was a long silence or a change of subject.

Instead of just doing it for myself, I was supplicating more and more, qualifying myself to her, wanting her approval and support more and more, and getting less and less.

My resentment grew. I withdrew emotionally. I became sedentary, fat, self-absorbed and depressed. Sex dwindled to near zero.

She met a happy-go-lucky, sporty guy, in his 40s, no kids, never married, who spoke a couple of languages and traveled the world all the time. He had all kinds of money and time and a positive, fun attitude, largely because he never married and had kids. He’d sacrificed nothing for anyone. He lived for himself.

My wife was seeing him for coffee, meeting up with him in groups at bars, and 3 months later was one phone call away from dumping me and fucking him.

Thanks to Game, I figured out how to deal with the situation. I manned-up, cockblocked the shit out of him, and turned the thing around, but not after enduring an unbelievable amount of emotional pain, which I would rate as second only to the death of my first son.

It all begins with being responsible for achieving your own goals. It all begins with knowing that YOU are 100% responsible for EVERYTHING that happens in your life, all the good things and all the bad things. You are the boss. Blame no one. Rely on no one.

By all means, work with the right people to achieve your goals. Cooperate with other like-minded people for mutual exchange and mutual benefit.

But accept one basic idea, deep into your consciousness, that no one is responsible for your own well-being and happiness other than you.

Especially not a woman.

ABDOOL
ABDOOL
2 years ago
Reply to  Phinn

in my humble opinion my friend is that a man is the provider and woman brings up children right? I understand that you have been through some problems but as you said you manned up and stood up for your rights, I don’t like it when you said your wife saw another man while she’s your wife I sorry for that but that wasn’t right of her to do, but luckily in the end you got it and won…

Ian Ironwood
8 years ago

Totally agree, Roosh. The best thing for any man to do is to make your plans and decide your goals in private, and pursue them with dedication without inviting criticism from others. It isn’t just that they sow the seeds of doubt in your mind, it’s that they will delight in your failures to an extent that is unseemly in those you consider your friends.

Regardless of who it is, the best thing to do is to achieve your goals and then present folks with a fait acompli. I can always spot a writing poseur at a workshop or something because they don’t hesitate to regale me of their ambitious plans for novels they haven’t written yet. But the guys who actually make it in the business are the ones who keep quiet about the stuff they’re working on, and stand on the quality of the work that they have completed. Because no one will fuck you because of a book you haven’t written yet, but plenty of girls will fuck a published author.

dickbutt
dickbutt
8 years ago

ass-deep in pussy, yet somehow Forever Alone

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

Yes Horatio Alger. Pull yourself up by the boot-straps. The self-made man. Lies.

20th Level
20th Level
8 years ago

I keep my crew small and tight. I dont roll with haters.

Mahker
Mahker
8 years ago

Beastly post. Continue to guide your brothers out of the wilderness.