Exit Strategy

“I had an nice apartment in Southwest DC. This was in the 70’s. The apartment had a great view and I lived a short walk away from a row of clubs. I’d get off work every day at three and by four I was drinking.

“In short time my place became the party spot. Girls would call other girls, who came with other guys and girls. There were always women, in and out. It was just one woman after the other I was taking to bed. Man, some of them were so beautiful.”

A big grin formed on his face as described one particular girl, using his hands to shape her body.

alone.jpg“But after nine months I had to get out of there. I moved to the suburbs, not far from here but before it was developed.”

“Why did you move?” I asked.

“I wasn’t respecting women. They meant nothing. They were great girls, very good girls, but after a few days I’d move on to the next one.”

“You’re a stronger man that me,” I said.

“No, look. There was one guy there who was a decade older than me, and I was already older than most people so he was that much older than everyone. I’d see him all the time at my favorite club and he was always surrounded by people. You can tell how happy he was when there was a crowd around him. In this club he was respected and known, but that’s all he had. That’s all he lived for. I looked at him and knew that’s not where I wanted to go.

“That type of lifestyle, it’s shallow. Very shallow.”

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Yea, I was going to say in one of your other posts, you were beginning to remind me of the Will Ferrel character from Wedding Crashers, the one who lives at home with his mom but goes out banging chicks at funerals.

Similar point to what the guy you were talking to is making. You better start slowly removing yourself from the game or you’ll end up like that.

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I suppose the ideal end game is when you meet a really sweet girl that you click with in most facets and settle down.

The opposite of that is settling for someone once your old and giving up. (scary)

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The old guy at the club is always a depressing sight. When you realize it’s you that’s the old guy in the club – it is time to move on.

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this is one of the problems with game. it’s great for tactics, but you shouldn’t let it dictate your strategy.

it’s hard to stop doing something that you’re good at. think about babe ruth playing for the braves, michael jordon on the wizards, or muhammed ali’s last two fights. those might be the three greates athletes of the 20th century, and none of them could stop competing well past their prime.

at some point you’ve just got to find something else to live for. hopefully for me that will be a family.

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This Brazilian chick was telling me that in her country, Men would be at the clubs up until their 50’s – drinking and carousing.

“it’s not cute”

No, it sounds glorious.

Banging Brazilian chicks until you’re almost eligible for social security, with your wife and kids safely @ home?

Sign me up.

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There’s so much more to live for than extended travel, and wild sex w/ many varied & beautiful women, which while enjoyable will never satisfy.

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Marriage is the culmination of man’s acceptance of his eventual demise. At least it’s easier on you than cigarettes, drugs and liquor.

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This Brazilian chick was telling me that in her country, Men would be at the clubs up until their 50â??s – drinking and carousing.

â??itâ??s not cuteâ??

No, it sounds glorious.

Banging Brazilian chicks until youâ??re almost eligible for social security, with your wife and kids safely @ home?

Sign me up.”

Yea Anon what is wrong with being old guy at the club if you enjoy it. Why are people only supposed to work at a “Carreer” “shit job” for many many years.

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Ok that was wierd I posted and it came out as lisa wtf

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“Marriage is the culmination of man’s acceptance of his eventual demise. At least it’s easier on you than cigarettes, drugs and liquor.”…..nice one. Fuk that, i’ll take the drugs and liquor man. Men are hunter’s, not gatherers. If you’ve been blessed w/ the ability to scoop chicks by the handful, you might as well cuz there’s a bunch of ugly/fat/poor/bald/socially awkward men who won’t ever have that ability

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God– the delusion on here is incredible. Chances are you will pick up no one down the line. Your looks will fade and unless you have money or something more to offer young girls will find you uninteresting.

Even if I am wrong about that– you guys miss the point of the whole post. It’s not about getting married and giving up or whatever, it’s about the fact that the well lived life is not a shallow one. Don’t want to get married? Fine– don’t, but hopefully you’ve done more after 60 or 70 years then getting drunk and fucking. Obviously I want to do that as often as possible, but it’s not all I want to do. And no, I am not referring to a job as being the answer. What I am thinking is that I want to pursue interests whatever they are- run a marathon, learn to dance, learn to cook, travel europe, spend time with my family, maybe start my own family, maybe start a business, take some risks. Life as the perputual party-boy is pathetic and shallow.

This isn’t the mom-you-need-to-grow-up-and-settle-down-speech, I am just saying that eventually there is more out of life than just fucking and being drunk, not that one should ever sacrifice the company of beautiful women and wine only that there is much much more to be enjoyed and experienced.

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You said everything “The Dude”.
I’m 28, woman. I’m consider my self pretty and I really enjoy go out and have fun. But I definally do not want to do that, as if it’s my only goal in life.
It’s something else.
I wanna more!
That’s some places that would like to go, people that I would like to see. Few things that I wanna share and teach, learn. Get a doctorade. Maybe skydive once more!
I don’t even know if I want settle down and raise a family. It’s not the goal. But, would be the consequence of find someone that shares the same thinking.
That’s why I think that wake up everyday. I am looking for simple things. Things that I am totally able to fight for it, it’s only in my hands.
That’s why I am happy.
My hapinness doesn’t depends of anything or anybody else besides me.
I’m fun, not shallow.

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Wow, Nina is fucking annoying.

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I am glad that I am bugging you.
it’s lot better than just be invisible.

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Get a doctorade.

the thought quencher.

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Of all the RV post-latina-odyssey reads, this one seems under-commented. The pros&cons of going raw gets many dozen posts, but this one, contemplating the future, gets like only 15 the first day. Surprising that there are not more vocal opinions on destiny, than there are about Brazilian old guys sticking to clubs and game as a retirement strategy.
Everything that’s been said about being the old dude at the club has to be true… everyone snides at this phenomenon heavily, and we all know one. And this is especially true of anybody who’s older than the bell curve at DC clubs because this isn’t one of those quaint towns where the young perceive the older as cool. Richer maybe, but that’s not the same as cool.
If a key part of the game is to overcome all the tedious hurdles of dating in order to score more notches and bed more babes, then the tedium is a given. The objective of the destiny-minded is to get beyond tedium to a point where, either the notches are obtained with no tedium whatsoever… good luck, or the place where the tedium is no longer needed, because yre satisfied. You came, you saw, you came some more and you made the best of it… if yre not looking for the next level, then what are you looking for really? If you care about being anything else, is it to be the next John Edwards self-imploding player?
Women are a pain in the ass? We get the point. We knew it already. Do we want them to be better for us than they are in the game scenario? Of course. That’s where the exit strategy comes in… eventually, ya find somebody who wants to escape the game scenario and be real with you. Who is that? Depends on you. Don’t miss it, cause the flicker of the window happens in the blink of an eye.
When all yr cares are youthful, like limited to making rent and cover charges and the tab, that’s the time to game like a killer. But eventually, if you’re like most people, your cares grow with time… mom has emphysema, the house mortgage has to be paid, that kid that you wanted to snub in your player days snuck by the goalie has to be cribbed… Your game instincts are actually useful for other things, like managing everyone who wants a piece of you and you actually have more important things to save it for.
So I’m not saying exit because it’s good to exit. But be self-aware enough to not miss the exit when you’re about to pass it and doom yourself to making loops around the beltway forever.

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If someone’s biggest problem in life is that they’re fucking too many women…well, that’s not a bad problem to have. I know a guy who guy who is 32 and he’s a virgin, and not by choice.

I couldn’t see wanting to spend my life running around being a playa till old age, but there’s not a guy alive who wouldn’t want that for at least a couple years.

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Roosh, man you’re really growing up lately.

I was going to write more, but then I looked over to my man’s chair and saw our black cat sleeping soundly there, looking so adorable, and I couldn’t think of anything else to say.

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Yo Roosh. Hope has the hots for ya man. She wouldn’t be reaching out if she didn’t, with details about her man and her kitty. If you know her, you’re money there brah. Kill it, I say.

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Huh. What if you’re the old guy at the club and you’re still there because “The Game” is fukking HARD when you have to learn it from scratch, starting with developing the intuition that society de-developed out of you and the masculinity and sex drive that were temporarily killed off by 90s feminism?

I know how to suffer for “My Art”. Still not as enthralling as a 22-year-old Dominicana.

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If the old guys in the club are happy and picking up hotties.
Good for them.
If thats the goal, go foward.
Persuit…

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“No, it sounds glorious.

Banging Brazilian chicks until you’re almost eligible for social security, with your wife and kids safely @ home?”

You’re missing the context of the story which is understandable Brazil is very unlike the U.S. because in Brazil there is no need for a man (particularly a wealthy man) to ever touch his dick.

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For the record, I am happily married with children and I still hit up clubs—when I need a good laugh.

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Eurosabra said “Huh. What if you’re the old guy at the club and you’re still there because “The Game” is fukking HARD when you have to learn it from scratch, starting with developing the intuition that society de-developed out of you and the masculinity and sex drive that were temporarily killed off by 90s feminism?”

You just keep blaming society and feminism for your inadequacies. A real man would suck it up and admit he spent too many years sitting in front of his video game console and didn’t learn how to converse with other human beings.

The concept of going out several nights a week and hitting on multiple women is really all about learning how to socialize. The more people you meet, the more you learn about human nature.

Sims will only take you so far. Then you have to get out in the real world.

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Anon-
Good point. I think some of these guys bragging about “the game” are total nerds who learned late in life how to talk to people and socialize.

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Great post Roosh. It’s a subtle way of saying your wheels are turning in looking for new and better experiences No doubt you will find them. It should make for some great writing ahead.

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Not really, I was always an ugly, scrawny, enthusiastic extrovert. I approached about 5000 women as an undergrad, generally, about every 9 or 10 weeks, I’d get some ugly/fat chick interested in me. I had an overt playfulness that only got read as sexual by chicks who weren’t looking to “date up” among the frat boys. Game is NOT simple social skills, or NOT ONLY simple social skills, it is learning to develop your own state of Teh Horny ™ and inculcate it in others. With so many women making such an effort to desexualize men and society, a little push-back is a good thing.

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Eurosabra said With so many women making such an effort to desexualize men and society, a little push-back is a good thing.

It can happen to you only if you let it. I’m big into personal accountability.

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29 was not Hope. Sorry.

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See, Hope, the problem is that we exist in a social context. I have to avoid economic dependence on organisations that have “sexual harassment law” or “sexual harassment policies” (which means I have to be independently wealthy) before my sexual expression can be free of the dictates of feminism.

I’m big into personal accountability too. Feminism is into COLLECTIVE accountability and pre-emptive social control.

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“hostile environment” and “unwanted advances” are code for “advances made by an unattractive man.”

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Or a man perceived as unattractive.

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11 The Dude

Good comment. I agree 100%

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hey roosh…any news about the brazilians from the pool?
hope it’s post-worthy down the road…

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FYI, I give great head on demand

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^^^^ shock

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Looks like a nice cock-fest party is going in that picture.

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this sounds like a shot at Roissy. I’ve heard he’s almost fifty. don’t know if it’s true???

are you guys feuding? I only ask because I remember he wrote on this blog a few weeks ago: “You can gain more knowledge from a Wikipedia entry than traveling to lay on the beach in a foreign country.” at the time I thought it sounded like a shot at you.

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