Fantasies Tend To Remain Fantasies

There once was a time when I would go to bed fantasizing about this one girl. If I could get her then I would be so much happier and everything in life would fall into place. As the years went on that girl would change, but there would always be at least one. No matter who I was currently seeing, I’d think of buying her creative Valentine’s Day gifts or taking her on romantic walks on the beach. This occurred during a time I barely got any ass. Maybe there is a girl out there who has all the qualities I want, but it’s a waste of time waiting for her to land on my lap, if she so happens to exist within driving distance of me.

It’s fun to have this one ideal crush who you think will make you happy and bring you fulfillment while sitting at home eating microwave popcorn, but that’s just not how it works. Because meeting girls I connect with is the result of unglamorous, persistent work. There is nothing lucky or fateful about it. I go out and talk to cute girls I like. I put in the effort to get to know them. I stay open-minded about the ones who don’t fit my perfect ideal until I at least have sex with them. I listen to my gut and experience instead of friends or Sex and the City. What do you do? If you think something great is going to be served to you just because you think about it when you close your eyes at night, you deserve to be alone.

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Mike
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solid post, roosh

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Very motivational as this could apply to any dream one has, not only in the dating scene. Though, why does it sounds almost insulting at the same time?

The Dude
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dude- sorry for any hating in the past. This post is totally solid– this is the reason I am still reading this blog after all these years.

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Fantasing is a lot of fun, but will only lead to disapointment. I used to do that a lot too, then I had my first serious relationship and real life came and punched me in the face. Everyone has flaws and I know now that my ideal guy does not exist. However, there are a ton of guys out there than I can be compatible with. I’m with one of them right now and I’m pretty satisfied.

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Damn good advice.

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Great post…fantasizing only leads to disapointment.

I think the fun of love/falling in love is realizing that the quirks you thought would turn you off in someone now turn you on with the right person, etc.

With the risk of sounding corny…I hope one day you find it…its worth it.

Steve Lurkel
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true.

HM
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I don’t see why you can’t fantasize and still keep your game tight. Then possible refine your fantasy based on your experiences on the field.

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Well said.

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Top notch, as usual.

A poem
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Did you know that you
Are a
Ridiculous ass?
You
Use people, then
Shut us out. We will
Have revenge.

inSOMnia
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A poem. Do you know if you reveal yourself i would have an easier time of kicking ur ass. Rob I cant wait to see you!!!!!!

Jewcano
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I disagree. Going to bed fantasizing about that dream girl really comes in handy to maintain the hardon while the club skank goes to town on top of you.

Devil
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that is y they r called fantasies….unrealistic supposition…

Dirk Diggler
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You never completely stop oneitis. You must simply learn to control it. Years after taking the Red Pill, I’m still wanting to oneitis over this particular girl. I haven’t and I won’t. Intellect over Emotion. Mind over Matter.