Fried Chicken Empire

I’m in the dumps. It started during my final days in Rio around the time of my five year blog anniversary. My Danish roommate already left for São Paulo and I was going through some drama with a girl. My subsequent travels through the state of Minas Gerais were pleasant, especially the weekend in Belo Horizonte, but I started losing motivation to do things.

I went to Córdoba, planning to stay for at least two months, but it became apparent that I wasn’t going to last. I made an honest effort on the girls for one whole week but then gave up completely, realizing that I really didn’t like them. I didn’t care for the challenge. Eventually I dated a Brazilian girl who I met through my young landlord. She tried to drag me to clubs but I resisted, saying I rather do quieter things.

My apartment didn’t have internet so I sat and watched VH1 Classic and Style & Life for over three hours a day. I followed a four-year-old season of Project Runway and also saw a gay guy beat out all the girls on Paris Hilton’s show. I didn’t want to study Spanish, didn’t want to write, didn’t want to travel, didn’t want to hit on girls, and I didn’t want to read. I forced myself to take Spanish lessons just keep myself busy, so I could say I was doing something productive.

I came back to America and it’s been fine so far. It’s great catching up with Virgle Kent, Roissy, and The Rookie, and especially fun to watch The Rookie in action. He reminds me of my younger self when I approached not just to get laid but to experiment or have a laugh. Now I just approach to get laid. It’s a job, putting in my time to get that notch.

My two books sell on their own. I’ve already put in the grunt work for a setup that is mostly passive. I’m not rolling in money, but I do make enough to live comfortably in developing countries. If I stopped being so fucking lazy I could make more, but with a good amount of cash saved up (enough for my future travel plans that I’m thinking of this winter), I can’t get excited enough to work more than I am now.

With the blog I’ve been doing the bare minimum, three posts a week. You’d be annoyed if I did less. This isn’t because I don’t have ideas, but I’m simply too lazy to develop them. I have a file with ideas so old that I don’t remember what angle I was going to take. So I delete them, a potential nugget of knowledge lost forever because I didn’t want to work for a few minutes.

I think I’m feeling down because I’ve reached my loftiest goals. I’ve shared all that I’ve wanted to share. I’ve banged the girls I’ve wanted to bang. I’ve experienced what I’ve wanted to experience. And I have enough money in my pocket that I don’t need to steal other people’s drinks anymore, no trivial accomplishment if you’ve been there. It’s true I could dig deeper, but I’ve hit the point of diminishing return in most things I’ve set out to do. You pass the peak of something and it becomes a grind, so it’s easier to repeat the process with something new. But what new worthy goal should I set out to do? Try to write for a magazine? Get a book “professionally” published? Accumulate lots of money? Aim for fame? I wish I cared more about those things.

Lately I’m having some morbid thoughts. I do a lot of healthy things so that I can live a nice long life, but now I’m questioning that. People are running marathons twice a year so they can live until 85 instead of 70. But what are you going to do after 70? Go to Europe a couple times a year? Watch more television? Unless you’re lucky like Hugh Hefner, who’s looking pretty frail these days, old age is no joy ride, regardless of how healthy you can keep yourself. Would you trade shoes with your grandparents? Because that’s what you have to look forward to. I never believed it made much sense to plan to work your ass off now in order to make it to an age period where the grim reaper is on your doorstep, but I understand we need a lot of people to think that so society can function.

I think many people refuse to accept death. A deep fear of it then manifests itself in obsessions and compulsions with exercise and food (only grass fed and organic!), and sometimes environmental concerns (no plastic bags!). At least it keeps them busy. The reason I work out and eat right is now for mostly aesthetic reasons. I’d eat pizza and McGriddle sandwiches every day if it didn’t make me feel lousy and increase my body fat percentage. Why not otherwise? To preserve a couple years when the highlight of my day is waking up and realizing I’m not dead yet like many of my friends and relatives? I’ve read stories of the 80-year-old man lifting a piano over his head and another a few years younger building a fried chicken empire from scratch, but I’m realistic to know that those things probably won’t happen to me. And say I have children. Are they going to want to deal with an old man who can barely hear and do very little besides sit in a recliner and stare blankly off into space, reminiscing about the glory days where all his sexual perversions were satisfied? This isn’t Colombia where my kid is obligated to take care of me until I die but America where I’d be lucky if my nursing home is within 100 miles of my spawn.

I understand that while life is long, there is a window for the best years, starting in your early 20’s and ending somewhere in your late 40’s. I know I only have 30 good years at the most, and I have already used up a third of that. But right now I’m wasting my days, and I’m not sure how to get out of it.

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good post. good luck man.

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Hobbies, personal projects, school, employment, & kids — ways how most people keep themselves busy at this point.

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Time to conquer eastern europe me thinks.

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Killing Time (Kris Kristofferson)

See that long line of people who keep standing in the rain
Looking tired,getting cold,
And that signal light they’re waiting for ,don’t ever seem to change,
Killing time,ain’t it slow

Watch them bending with the burden of the pennies that they save,
Marking time,growing old,
Slowly marching by the numbers to the freedom of the grave
Killing time ,ain’t it slow

That’s the closest thing to living that they’re ever gonna know,
And their good times ain’t no better than their bad
Cause they think they need a signal light to tell
they can go,
Killing time ,ain’t it sad

Don’t feel sorry for those people who keep standng in the rain,
they don’t mind,they don’t know,
Cause it never crossed their mind they got a reason to complain,
Killing Time ,ain’t it slow

They’re not haunted by the visions that they never dared to see
And they never miss the dreams they’ve never had,
They’re condemned to go on living in a penitentiary,
For Killing time,ain’t it sad

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I’m sure there are quite a few flags you’re still missing.

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I can see two directions, to get you out of your state of numbness.

First: Have a near death experience. And I don´t mean jumping out of an airplane. Have someone who truly hates you beat you to near death. You WILL appreciate life and all those small things around you again. And you will be obsessed with learning the skills to prevent such a beat down.

Second: Get a girl you genuinely like, settle down, have kids. This might be the easier route. And maybe the one, which fulfills you even more – not just keeping you busy.

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Don’t stress about it. I’ve been in that situation; just relax, take a break, and you’ll feel like your old self in a few months.

In relation to your morbid thoughts – living a healthy life isn’t for your 70s/80s, it’s for how you feel right now. But it’s also ok to take a break from that now if you want to.

Just relax and do whatever you feel like now. Eventually you’ll feel more motivated but its nothing you need to worry about now.

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You sound like an Olympic medalist- having won the prize, what do you do next? Every athlete retires sometime.

You’ve accomplished something all men dream of but few ever achieve- the sexual success they want. And from your story I give you a lot more credit.

I think you will find other goals to get excited about pursuing soon.

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First things first, look in the mirror, and smack yourself in the face for being a whiny estrogen filled drama queen.

I mean, what did you expect to happen when you decided to check out of the real world, and go putz around without developing any useful skills, and then periodically return to your parents basement, all the while waking up at noontime?

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It’ll pass. Everyone goes through stages like this when you start thinking about where life is taking you. I think part of it is the realization that being old can be worse than death. You’ve accomplished the dreams of many men and are respected for it. I like what Pete said above:

“In relation to your morbid thoughts – living a healthy life isn’t for your 70s/80s, it’s for how you feel right now. But it’s also ok to take a break from that now if you want to.”

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Time to settle down Rooshie.

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That how I feel after one crazy year in Brazil, probably one of the best of my life in many ways. But more challenges and life discoveries await.

There’s Eastern Europe that I’d love to try Brazilian game on, and more spiritual places like India that I’ve been eyeing.

Growth, comfort, growth, comfort. Rinse and repeat.

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You could write a book on Ethiopia.

In all seriousness though, writing is something that you are clearly good at and appear to enjoy. But you definitely haven’t hit your peak there. Bang was great and your writing has probably only gotten better since then. Maybe this can turn into something bigger.

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It seems like you’re suffering a mid-life crisis a little early. Rejecting a lot of material things means you don’t have the same motivation that requires lots of money to reach certain goals. You’ve reached those goals that money didn’t require. So you’re experiencing it 10 years early…

I could spout out goals, like being the best at pick up on the east coast, or getting enough passive income to get a nice place in the city. Or get a ripped body. But those are goals maybe for me. You have some but only you know what those are.

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Roosh,

You once wrote about childless women in their thirties wondering what that missing essence in their life was. Maybe it can happen to us too. Much of what we do in this culture are distractions from our basic biological instinct to reproduce (career, hobbies, wealth).

Lately I’ve become a lot closer with my parents, and I got the chance to talk to them about what it was like having kids. My dad was always a hardass who never liked to talk about mushy stuff like that, but he was almost in tears when talking about how proud he was watching us grow up. Sure it’s different for everyone and I don’t want to sound like a bored mother, but maybe fulfilling that natural instinct will bring more weight to your life.

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1. First, you are definitely clinically depressed. Thats a biological issue that won’t go away with behavioral changes. A lot of your ennui is do to neurochemical imbalance. Try to get some clinical help for this. While none f us like the idea of taking pills, the quality of life increase could be worth it.

2. Second, it does seem like you need to go deeper instead of wider, when it comes to women.

i agree that getting laid becomes a job that never ends, and truthfully has limited appeal past a certain point of our youth. I mean its nice, but the work involved compared to the reward is ridiculous. Getting into a relationship with a woman, and having companionship as well as easier regular access to sex, can be worth it. Go on that relationship hunt, just be sure that you find the right woman.

The problem with this is that you may have to go through a few relationships before you find a worthwhile one. Therefore, start the hunt now so that you can get the work out of the way and get to where you want to be before you get even more tired of dealing with women.

I’m just reaching the point where Im feeling like I need to settle down as well, and Im about your age, so I can relate very well to how you feel about your current mode of operation.

3. You are currently doing well with your books, but please don’t take it for granted. Your right, its no small accomplishment. Don’t let your work slip away. Be sure to value what you’ve accomplished so far, and the passive income that it brings, and make sure that it lasts the rest of your life. You might be up a creek if it starts to slip. Maybe its work to keep going, but not as much work as a 9-5.

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Oh yeah, and life is meaningless and pointless.

Once you accept that, I find that happiness is easier to come by.

If nothing in life matters, then you are free to enjoy the smaller moments without worrying about how you will improve your lot in life or otherwise worrying about the future. NONE OF IT MATTERS. Just enjoy each breath, because one day your breathing will stop, and thats not such a big deal either (as it isn’t with any of us).

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A summer in DC should cure that.

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Roosh, I’ve learned a lot from your stuff, but….

in the end, I think the Catholics have it right (I am one). The purpose of life is to love and be loved. Get married to a good girl and have kids.

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Ride it, man. Just ride it.

Happened to me when I hit 30, nothing I did made any difference and brought me out of it. A year had to pass until something like the old zest returned. You just have to ride it out.

It happens when a goal that has consumed your life for so long suddenly loses its meaning; game.

You gotta realize you are not entirely in control in life, gotta sit back, indulge the apathy and laziness, do little or nothing that isn’t strictly enjoyable, and then after a year or so your mind discovers on its new own new projects and directions. But you can’t force the process. Your mind will tell when the batteries are recharged and when something new has meaning for you.

Could be a few months, could be a year. In the meantime, enjoy the laziness!

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Just keep going?
time re-read your own posts man

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Roosh,

Man up and get out of your funk. Set some new goals…

Start strength training and set your sights to be able to dead lift 500, squat 400 and bench 300 in 2 years.

Start a philanthropic project… Maybe a game workshop/bootcamp for dudes who can’t afford the premium ones from ‘gurus’.

Stop worrying about a morbid future and live in the present. Be comfortable being. If you are unhappy or bored, fucking get out and do something about.

Of course, you know all this shit. Funks come and go. There are many more things in this world you’ve yet to experience or see, go out and find them.

-Matt

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Also, you have an incredible opportunity to find something to get trained in that will fulfill you for a career. You have passive income that will help finance your living arrangements and tuition. Most people don’t have that. Obviously, doing something that will help people would be the most fulfilling and would give you some purpose in life.

If I was in your situation, I would train in Prosthetics. If you move now, you will beat the 2012 deadline for having to have a masters degree. Get a one year certificate, do a one year residency, and then you have the skill to fit limbless people with prosthetics. You can then do travel missions to 2nd and third world countries, or start a lucrative practice in the USA. Your passive income is the key to doing all of this without pressure.

Or find something else that fulfills you career wise. Most people that are suggesting kids are doing so because they think it will fulfill you. I say that getting a fulfilling career is much more responsible than having a kid for purpose of fulfillment. Once you do that, then think of the kid if you still feel the need. You can always change careers, but kids are permanent.

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chris:
can you post more info on this prosthetics training?

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I was in your position a few years ago.

I decided to sell up, change country and embark on a new challenge, culture and language. This gave me a fresh perspective on things, new friends and outlook. I suspect I’ll do the same thing again in a few years time…now considering China annd learning Madarin.

I know you’ve done South America but the world is a big place and the great thing about life is that you never know what’s round the corner…

cheers, A

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go to tim ferris’ blog, maybe he’ll give you some inspiration.

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maybe you want to meditate? You’re already almost there

http://www.dhamma.org

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I think we all go through funks like this.

I just try to limit those shitty existentialist thoughts as much as I can.

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You are more motivated then lots of people I know, and maybe it is time for a book tour?

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Dude,

Take up a new hobby besides pick up. Something manly like kickboxing or jiu jitsu. That will give you something to look forward to rather than your routine.

You sound like you need something new in your life.

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Go to medical school

you can join dr’s w/o borders

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I just started taking piracetam due to lack of focus and laziness. I am in a not to far off situation having lived in 5 countries, backpacked through 25+ other countries, i am now kind of asking what the hell do I do next?

This piracetam stuff (look it up on wiki) has regained my focus now I am well on my way to become a pro online poker player. crazy shit.

good luck man.

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Come to Indonesia, or any Asian country, for a change….nothing like the thrill of being in a totally new place where everything is so new and exciting. I even miss the incredibly bad smell near canals, rarely notice it now…

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You’re a smart person. Pay attention and try to learn something.

You’ve devoted your being to getting a tickle in your pee-pee. Now it’s been tickled a lot. Feel great?

However fulfilled you feel, that’s how fulfilled you will be when you achieve your next goal.

Stop tricking yourself.

Contentment comes from within.

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while getting older is scary when you’re young, lots of older people are actually pretty happy

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/01/health/research/01happy.html

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Next time you’re in Brazil, drink ayahuasca.

New vistas will open.

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Roosh

If Cordoba girls couldnt get you excited, there’s definitely something wrong!

I’d recommend reading some more philosophy or classic literature. People have gone through this.

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32 Meck

If your newfound wisdom is to become an online poker player, maybe you should reconsider whether or not that drug is helping you.

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1. Do NOT have a kid. People who have kids to fill gaps in their lives are retards. Take care of your own bs before breeding.

2. Do NOT just screw off and go travel somewhere. You can run as far as you want but you can’t get away from yourself.

3. DO learn a useful skill, and develop some hobbies that aren’t superficial.

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write a novel

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Roosh, your too smart for these “Pick Up” mind games.

Who else in this little online world would recommend a Noam Chomsky book?

Dude is nearing 90 years old, so was Howard Zinn. I think they were living pretty fucking well for that age… Chomsky just blew my mind with an amazing speech last week that nails exactly where the world is going… transcending the stupid idea of “political spectrum”:

Also, Johnny Cash good role model for really old dude who was still rad, recording his “American” series of rock covers right until his death.

Meanwhile, pure “Playboys” like Hefner are embarrassing to look at and much grosser in bed I’m sure.

Take your pick of role models. Wish you the best.

Ken

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Oh, forget to include the speech I mentioned. You can read or watch it:

http://www.democracynow.org/2010/5/31/noam_chomsky_the_center_cannot_hold

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Roosh you´re already doing something quite skillful. It might seem meaningfull to some, but it´s not.
I can only talk about travel forum and your blog.

You probably thought South America would be
better than it was. Rio is nice for a vacation, but not to live. Too superficial. Go to Europe. Eastern Europe. Enroll in a university course there, not only languages, but something related to your college degree. You don´t have to go to classes, but key is meeting people by the conventional way not only in bars etc. You have to stay there more than 6 months to make lasting relationships.

If you´re not happy with what you´re doing change it till you do. You still don´t have responsibilities traping you down.

Don´t have babies to fill your void. That´s the dumbest thing you could do. Have it when you feel like the time as come, don´t push it.

You could translate your books to different languages (spanish, portuguese, chinese). Just a thought.

You´re already good with women, now it´s time for choosing another subject you like to improve.

“Has anything you´ve done made your life better?”
If so continue doing it, if not change it.

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Im big believer in compulsory military service. My friends from Rio say they have it in Brazil. True?

I personally have enjoyed serving my country abroad and here. Do you love the outdoors, to break things and blow shit up as I do? Perhaps Military/Fire/Law Enforcement might be an exciting new challenge for you. I can attest that I am very satisfied with my work and have never been more challenged in my life. It’s not for everyone though, but if military is not your thing, I know State Police and FBI need scientists too. Trust me that academy or boot camp will be far more challenging than game. I am rooting for you.

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You’ve reached the hedonist’s paradox. The Wiki entry for “Paradox of hedonism” is a pretty good introduction.

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DC,

Find my profile in the forum, “Hydrogonian”, and PM me. I can fill you in with the details privately.

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I like Pete’s suggestion of just relaxing. I’m in the same situation as you (psychologically but for vastly different reasons).

I recently took a manual labor job with absolutely no responsibility, other than being a worthy worker (a job that wasn’t necessary but I thought I might as well). Is it alpha? Well, the position isn’t; but there’s something satisfying for a man to work with his hands and be able to see what he’s accomplished on a daily basis.

I took a break from game, although that was pretty circumstantial. However, after putting in no effort for some time (a month or two) I’m realizing how desirable I am by the girls that are coming to me. There’s no bounty but I’m now able to see and appreciate a lot of opportunities that I otherwise might have ignored. That doesn’t mean less desirable girls either. Now I’m practicing game again.

My point is that I’m turning around and finding new motivations. You should try it. It’s turned out to be a break that has given me new perspective.

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Life doesn’t end at forty. Or even fifty. Trust me on this. I’m having the best decade of my life, in every way, right now.

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Next up is the religious phase. You’ll slide right in to Jesuit Missionary work.

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I like some of the advice here, like Chris´s and AlphaXAlpha..

It’s funny how, always, when people give advice, they advice you to do what would be best for THEM and what they would DO. But it’s not guaranteed that it works for YOU. I guess more times doesn’t than does. But of course it works that way.. I’d also give advice from my own personal life but I dont want to play like i knew you enough for that..