Getting Approached By Girls

Something interesting has been happening since I returned home: I’m getting approached in bars a lot more, generally by cuter girls who are more direct in their affections.

Before I left, I’d get approached maybe once every couple months by a 5 or 6. I’d talk to her just to be friendly. But each week I’ve been back, girls are either gawking at me or just approaching me outright. The other night a pretty Greek girl said, “I saw you from across the bar and I told myself that you’re hot and I have to talk to you.” I don’t think I’m ugly but I don’t have stereotypical good looks valued by this culture. If the first time you are called hot is when you are 28 then you know something else is going on besides looks. What has changed in six months?

A friend of mine suggested that times are changing and girls are approaching more. I do believe this. I think the seduction industry has filtered down to girls and they are taking their sex / love lives in their own hands instead of waiting passively to be swept off their feet. But is six months too short for a cultural shift to occur?

07-10-15-argentina-170.jpgMy theory is impossible to prove and has to do with body language. I’ve always believed that a person’s experience, confidence, and attitude is somehow transmutated into their body language. Whatever I experienced in the past six months is being told, like a story, with the way I carry myself. This body language is hitting some unconscious button on a couple girls, and they act with the justification that I’m physically attractive. But looks without the context of body language or vibe is pretty useless unless you are a guy still oogling the pages of Playboy.

So what am I doing differently? Nothing… that I’m aware of.

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Brian
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100% agree. in the last 6 months i left a job i hated, spent a month in europe, a month in miami, and am as happy as i’ve ever been and people tell me it just projects in how i carry myself now.

Gannon
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At the risk of sounding gay, I too think that your looks are average. But there is a huge difference between men and females. females are the most attractive between 15-25, whereas men are probably the most attractive for women between the ages of 25 to 35. Females are hardwired to go for the somewhat older, more experienced males. Homosexuals on the other hand probably prefer men between 15-25.
Probably you are just irradiating more confidence.

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You think his looks are average?, ha, good comment….

Beach Bum
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Maybe you’re just giving off a more “approachable” vibe? Sounds silly, but the fact you had to interact with total strangers for the last few months might mean you’re giving off a friendly vibe, so girls feel comfortable talking to you.

More than once I’ve been told by friends that they thought I was stuck up when they first met me — which is funny, because that’s far from what I am, but since I’m not a shy person in general, but can be shy/quiet around people I don’t know, that gives out a “stuck up” vibe, instead of a “shy” vibe. Which I guess it’s not too approachable…

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Arjewtino
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It’s probably your new banner photo they’re recognizing.

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Maybe it’s because you’ve stopped caring about whether girls approach you or not. When you stop caring, they start coming around. I used to go to sales div meetings and be ignored by the hot women. Then I got a girlfriend and started saying things like, “I don’t care about that bs, that’s a distraction; we’re doing it this way.” Next thing I know, girls are saying hi more frequently. But you know what? I don’t care… go say hi to someone else who will be captivated by your shiny-trinket-good-looks.

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Body language is everything. I’m starting to think a girl’s body language is a lot more important than her “photo looks” too, it’s not just limited to guys body language.

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Ha, I just picked a guy up at a bar. I think it really is all in the attitude. If you look like you’re “on the prowl,” I’m not going to pursue you, because you’re obviously going to pay more attention to yourself than to me (at least in your head, thinking, do I look ok? Is that girl over there hotter?) If a guy’s just out to have fun with friends, he will naturally give off a more laidback and confident vibe. And confidence is hot.

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From experience, I will say that body language definitely has something to do with it. I’ve had runs where I got approached a lot, times when I had dry spells, and times again where I got plenty of gawking and approaches…and when I looked back it was always my body language. When I was happy with life or confident or in great shape, my body language was always better. The body language you have when entering the room is especially key. Now I put more effort into my body language than anything else.

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You were traveling alone for six months.. you must have been sending a talk to me vibe while you were down there..

maybe be that vibe has followed you back to the states.

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Jack Goes Forth
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You’ve been a student of the game for 5 years, and you’re trying to say that the last 6 months have changed your vibe and how women look at you? I doubt it could’ve made you that much more relaxed and confident. Maybe you’re just hotter than you think you are.

I’m not sure anyone correctly sees themselves when they look in the mirror. How could they? They’ve been looking at the same face for their entire life.

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I think Roissy´s advice as an PUA is very valuable because he is only avergae or somewhat above avergae in looks, so his success in fact correlates to his game. Some PUAs just get a lot of Pussies because of their looks, so their advice is useless for the average guy.

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Maybe she found out you whored out your blog page and are now mainstream. Or did you get a google Ads tattoo ony our neck?

Ava V
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A cultural shift definitely hasn’t happened in the past 6 months. It has to be the vibe you’re giving off. Being in South America had to have changed how you view females, and this is coming out in your body language. So the women are seeing this and feeding off it.

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mike says
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an approach like that would catch me off guard. how did things progress?

Matt Savage
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I honestly don’t think that there is a change in the way that women are approaching men. As we know, the attraction process has been pretty much working the same way it has been for thousands of years and for women to all of sudden start approaching guys in high numbers doesn’t seem likely to me.

As some of the other comments have mentioned above, I think it probably has more to do with body language. You just got back from 6 months of partying and relaxing in a whole different continent. I’d imagine this must have had some affect on how you carry yourself.

Perhaps, it’s because you are more cultured now and thus more confident, which is now being subtly displayed in your body language.

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irina
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The law of attraction! The law of attraction!!!

virgle Kent
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Man that night ended well for you. Welcome back to DC, girls aren’t playing instead their bringing their A game too

Seduction Chronicles
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Roosh,

I definitely think its the body language that confidence produces. It’s a natural process and only comes through experience.

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Roosh, you look better in recent photos than you did in 2002. It’s a natural evolution as you get older, and like others have said, your experience over the last 6 months probably made you friendlier to strangers. That’s a good thing, enjoy that benefit smile

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Roosh – a valid theory. However I think it’s slightly silly to explain your recent come on’s as a result of a paradigm shift in male/female relations that occurred exclusively while you were out of the country. I’d agree with previous commenters…your vibe, body language and attitude, fresh and attractive from your trip, is leading to this (plus you’ve been working out). It happens…

InterestedParty
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Maybe not taking showers (like you mentioned a while back) is working? smile

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I’d guess that as ugly as you are, you must have money hanging out of your pockets

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I think it’s all vibe. I have some of my best success when I go out disheveled, unshowered, bearded, jeans/t-shirt. When I’m out to just party and have fun, the girls want to be a part of it. When I’m well-groomed and “on the prowl”, the results are dismal.

Looks play a role in the equation for sure, but vibe/attitude/body language rule. It’s the most important lesson I have learned over the years. “No Game” is my game.

ListenToLeon
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I have to agree with most everybody else, because I’ve noticed that body language has a lot to do with how desirable you appear to a woman. I have made a conscious effort recently to improve what I deem are my bad habits in the body language department, and it’s made a world of difference as far as women are concerned.

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My friends and I were lesser alphas when we were younger(Who became betatized). We’ve been talking about five hour lays or same day lays. We didn’t have game but we got free Fucks without putting in any effort. That was 15 years ago. An assertive ovulating female may approach but it’s unlikely you’re the only guy she’s fucking.