Should a man structure his life around comfort or around growth?
Comfort, principally in the form of poosy paradise, is very appealing to me. I want to settle in an environment where the sex is easy and low effort. I want to have liberal use of my free time and not be forced to work, lift weights, or study languages. I want to be able to make spontaneous plans, party every night, and generally pursue a hedonistic path without cause for worry about the future.
On the other hand, growth, in the form of hard work, is also appealing to me. I want to struggle in my efforts to get laid so that I learn more about seduction and human nature. I want to have a daily schedule busy with tasks that add value to my life and others. I want to exercise my brain and my body, as time consuming as it is. I want to fail more often than not to discover truths of the universe.
The problem with comfort is that over time there’s an atrophy of skill and ability. You start to forget what enabled you to experience comfort in the first place. The problem with growth is that you’re forever running on a treadmill, only intermittently enjoying your labor. I ache for both comfort and growth simultaneously, seesawing almost daily. If I have a tough night in the club, my mind starts thinking of booking a ticket to where poosy was easy. If I bang out a girl over a few days, emptying my balls, I start wishing for the excitement and variety of the game, of something new and different. If I write a new book, I’m ready for a hiatus where I can sit back for weeks, but just a couple of days into it, new ideas pop in my head and I can’t wait to get back to work.
The problem lies in the ability to easily change your environment. That bad night at the club, if I let it, could very well send me to an entirely new city. Therefore the question is not so much whether to choose growth or comfort, but impulse or restraint. Those who choose comfort are impulsive, unable to delay gratification, while those who choose growth are able to maintain this delay in the pursuit of long-term goals. Do you have a role model who chose a life of impulse? Did great men of the past choose impulse instead of continuous hard work?
I think it becomes obvious which is the correct path that enables you to be the best man you can be. Comfort should can be chosen after great success, but only temporarily, because comfort is weakness and growth is strength. A life of growth is the life of man.
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