I’ve chopped up her missive because of its enormous length…
A friend has sent me the address to your blog. And I was very surprised to read the content of it. It is very sad to see that a well educated men from a known developed country has such a small and limited view of the world. Or maybe he doesn’t have, but he is definitely making a buck or two on that.
Don’t you realize that some of your readers actually believe the things you say? It is people like you that make prejudice still exist. Instead of using your international experience and your ability to write to make a difference and help people be more culturally diverse, no you had to make a big joke about the countries you’ve visited.
In the past couple years I’ve been more careful here before hitting the publish button because a lot of guys depend on my information for not only picking up girls but where to take their vacations (I like to think the number of guys who’ve visited Cordoba because of me is in the hundreds). Sure I include a little theater in some of my writing, but when it comes to straight-forward advice I keep it clear and honest.
Everything I’ve written about the countries I’ve visited has been based on my own careful observation and information from dozens of other guys whose brains I pick, preferably in person. While my job is to generalize, I resist doing it until I’m very certain that what I’m sharing will apply to most men. And the reports I get back show that my generalizations are almost always dead-on.
As a Brazilian girl myself, I can tell you that there is nothing more lovely then having to explain that Brazil is not about naked women, sex and soccer. It is SUCH an honor to explain that actually, I’m not a whore to every ignorant guy I meet along the way. By the way, I do hope that you are smart enough to get that I am being ironic here. It is sad and disgusting to know that there are still people that see Brazil in that way. There is more to Brazil then that. I am not from Rio, but I’ve been there many times to tell you that there is more to Rio then that.
I know that in A Dead Bat In Paraguay I painted a picture that Brazilian girls lean towards the easy side, but I made sure to explain that quality is the big unknown factor. While guys share tales of incredible sexual adventures in Brazil, they sometimes forget to include that they paid for it, or that the girls were beastly, or that they banged a former man. (Romanticizing about travel is not something that only travel writers do.) The stereotype of the easy Brazilian girl continues through the power of inertia and it’s only during extended time here that I’m realizing Brazilian girls are definitely not easier than American girls. Sure once you bang them they’re more sensual, loving, affectionate and all that good stuff, but getting there takes more work.
Thank you so much for creating a legion of ignorant jerks and maintaining the ones that have always been that way! Yay for American men who think that they are so much better then the rest of the man in the world that they can just fuck which ever girl in Brazil they’d like.
I always advise guys to take time to learn the local language, which many of them do. The “ignorant jerks” you speak of not only spend more time in Brazil, contributing healthy amounts of money to the local economy, but they know more of the language and culture. As for fucking, last time I checked sex is a natural act that both women and men enjoy. Since every woman they fucked wanted to get fucked by them, it’s clear to me that I’m making the world a better place. I sleep very well at night as I consider myself doing God’s work.
I find that your blog on “Brazilian Girls” it’s quite wrong and poor in data proving whatever it is that you are saying. First of all, in case you haven’t noticed, Brazil is a country almost as big as the USA, and quite diverse. Even Rio de Janeiro is diverse as a city can be, as Manhattan is very different from Brooklyn. What you did was a poor generalization of your own experience, which lets face it, it is probably fake. Which, frankly, I don’t give a damn about it, I just feel sorry for the girls who did end up going to bed with you. But I guess you often lie about your master piece blog and books. You may think that this is a big joke. But we are talking about prejudice here!
While Brazil is a huge country, most guys will spend lengthy amount of times in Rio, so it makes little sense to research how girls are like in dumps like Recife or Salvador where the talent is hurting. Plus there there are very few tribes in Rio (Brazil’s Miami), as opposed to nearby São Paulo (Brazil’s New York). The culture is homogeneous and for the most part you only have a couple subgroups: the artists/bohemians, the preps, the meatheads/cheerleaders, and the gangbangers. In New York you can have half a dozen different tribes in the same neighborhood, so it would be just about impossible to write an all-encompassing post called “How To Pick Up New York City Chicks.” The reason I can generalize about Rio and Brazilian girls in general is because there is so little variance.
To give you an example, I can tell, by my own experience living in the USA as an exchange student almost 10 years ago, that I’ve never seen so many pregnant teenagers, or teenage mothers, as my classmates in High School, and may I add that none of the people I knew from Brazil were even having sex at that time. Also I was often surprised when the girls would talk about doing blow jobs on the first date – which in Brazil, we just make out, and apparently that makes us the easy ones.
Do you think It’s not a coincidence that the most bitter email I’ve gotten from a Brazilian girl happens to be one who lived in America for a lengthy amount of time? Again she’s merely letting off steam and attacking the “Brazilian girls are easy” stereotype instead of my previous writings on it.
Have you ever pointed out the cultural differences? You’ve not mentioned once that there are all kinds of girls here. The same thing happens in the USA and in many other countries. And by the way, I would never dance in a club the way some American girls do – which is much more promiscuous then the way the cariocas from the favela dance.
An educated Brazilian girl in the North is very similar to one in the South if you take away factors like appearance and accent. If you’ve heard an average guy’s story about picking up a Brazilian girl and dating her, you’ve heard them all: fast kiss, bit of work to bang, needy, wanted a relationship fast, did something crazy in a fit of jealous rage.
This Brazilian girl complains about grinding, but then she’ll regularly tongue-down two or more guys a night like I commonly see in the clubs. I think exchanging saliva (and possible diseases) is a more intimate gesture than bonobo rubbing through multiple layers of clothing.
After you travel around the whole country and see that each state, and realize that even each city and town has their very own culture then you can attempt to make a few statements. And still, there is not way that you alone can make such a generalization.
I’ve been to the following states: Ceará, Rio Grande do Norte, Pernambuco, Bahia, Espirito Santo, Paraná, and Rio de Janeiro. Many Brazilians have told me that I’ve seen more of their country than themselves. I have a basic understanding of how each state is like and while there are differences like New York City and Washington D.C. are different, every Brazilian state is not a completely unique world like she is insinuating.
Even if you do a proper research with over 100 cases from each city and country you visit, which is enough for statistical data, maybe then you can say “some” “most” “out of the research x% …”. But don’t go assuming and saying things which are absurd, especially things that most people don’t have access to the information. How would you like if someone went around and wrote about American girls, but just taking on city and trash talked them? I don’t know about you, but most Americans I know would not be flattered.
Most American guys I know are tired of American girls, so they would find it to be very amusing, as they have here in the past. They don’t have this blind pride when it comes to their country’s women. They can admit that hey, there are some big flaws here and I’m going to have an open mind to see what else is out there before I commit my lifeblood to any one girl.
Also, this is the part of the email where the girl outs herself to be an engineer or scientist of some sort. As someone who has worked in the science field, I can assure you that she is most likely a very homely women whose opinions should be taken with extreme hesitation.
I’m not saying that what you wrote doesn’t happen here in Brazil – I am well aware of how things are here, as I’ve traveled to most states in the country and have friends from all over the country, from different backgrounds and different social status. What I am saying is that the same thing happens in the USA and most other countries.
Do you even know what goes on in the country? Have you studied or learned about the social differences and why things are the way they are? Have you learned Portuguese? Have you learned how public education works in Brazil? How hard it is to have access to things in the country? It doesn’t sound like you have. It doesn’t seem like you even learn the Brazilian way of living. How hard it is to find work here, how people really have a hard time paying the bills, getting education, safety and so on! It looks like you are just an ignorant man who is making a joke for the fellow ignorant men out there. And that’s too bad.
I won’t even bother mentioning how sexist your blog is, because honestly it doesn’t look like you are looking for a girl with a brain. Which bad news for you, because looks go away, no hot girl will look hot after their 65.
Paying the bills? Hot until 65? Alright I think I gave her enough space here. She obviously has a lot of pent up anger from how her country is viewed, but my response to that concern would be, “Why do you give a fuck?” If some random Australian complains about the United States, am I going to take the time to argue with him about why he may be wrong? I honestly couldn’t care less and it’s not because I have zero patriotism, but if someone comes at you with a negative opinion it’s going to be impossible to change that with reason and logic instead of more needed violence. In the end I get the last laugh anyway, because he’ll go home and watch American movies, listen to American music (I got a feeling!), and eat shitty American food, while the only thing I’ll continue to know about Australia is what I gleaned from the Crocodile Dundee movies and Outback Steakhouse.
In the end this email is a criticism on generalizations. I agree that there is a problem with generalizations as it does not apply 100% of the time, but they are absolutely essential in sharing information that others can use with a reasonable degree of certainty and consistency.
“Girls from Cordoba are hot.”
“Colombian girls are flakey.”
“South American girls are needy.”
“American girls are crazy easy, and one night stands are very common.”
“Brazilian girls have big asses.”
These statements will hold true at least 80% of the time, and it allows me to compare and contrast different cities and girls for those guys who are looking for something different. Without it then it would be impossible to properly advise guys where and how to spend their limited time on this Earth.
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