How A Woman’s Career Damages Her Relationships With Men

The following is an excerpt from Book I: You of my new book for women, Lady. It is available in eBook, audiobook, and paperback. Click here to learn more.

As a woman, you need only enough strength and independence to find a man who possesses genuine strength and independence. This means that you should pursue employment that merely allows you to maintain your beauty and ensure you have what you need to survive. Beyond this, you’re expending your time and energy on things that won’t increase your chances of landing a good man. The more you become caught up in your career, the more you’ll convince yourself that it’s the most important part of your life. It then becomes inevitable that you will pursue exciting sexual encounters to compensate for your soul-destroying office job while your biological clock steadily ticks away.

Ask any woman whose long-term relationship fell apart around the age of 30 and you’ll sense her panic. I had a relationship end when I was 37, and though I was deeply upset, I didn’t feel panicked, because my father had his last child when he was in his early fifties. Although not ideal, it’s entirely possible for me to take a few years off, start hunting for a wife when I am in my early forties, and start a family a decade later. A woman can’t do this unless she pays vast sums of money for fertility treatments that are not guaranteed to succeed.

The reason men work is so they are seen as attractive mates. It’s not because they love being stuck in an office for forty hours a week—they innately know that women don’t want a man who is poor. They work because they have to work. On the other hand, women start working at a young age because they are programmed to do so after being sold a false bill of goods that a career will be more fulfilling than having a family. Once your career satisfies all of your basic needs, and you no longer need a man to provide for you, the devil on your shoulders will tell you to seek high-status men. The problem is that many women confuse high-status men with men who don’t care about them, which ensures that they will end up in bad relationships that don’t lead to marriage.

Having a career enables you to effortlessly feed your devil. If your financial status were much lower, and you genuinely needed a stable man in order to lead a comfortable life, would you pay any attention to a starving artist or musician? Would you be impressed by the “bad boy” drug dealer who you know has a rotation of other women? Would you quickly sleep with the alpha Chad who simply invites you over for sex without putting in any effort? The more stable and successful your career, the more likely you will seek relationships with men who won’t commit to you.

Nice guys are now deliberately acting like jerks, “fuckboys,” and assholes because it’s the best way for them to get laid. I teach men how to simulate alpha-male behavior because women no longer want providers. When a man shows you his business card in the hope of impressing you, he is executing a game that worked for his grandfather in the days when few women worked, but today’s woman doesn’t need a man’s money—she needs a tall man with big muscles and flawless facial aesthetics who makes her feel butterflies in her stomach by paying her backhanded compliments and not showing too much interest.

The more stable and comfortable you are financially, the more you will gravitate towards seeking men who excite you. You must consciously block this pattern of behavior by ignoring your devil’s call to seek an alpha male or “bad boy” who you think has high status. If you don’t, you’re in danger of losing your chance at creating a family.

Another sign that your job isn’t essential for a healthy marriage is to ask what would happen if you lost your job and couldn’t get another one. Would your husband leave you? It’s extremely unlikely. I’ve never heard of a case where a man left his wife because she was unemployed. Now let’s consider the opposite scenario, where a man loses his job and remains unemployed. Will his wife leave him? Not only will she leave him, but we can expect that she will do so within two years.

This shows that men don’t value a woman who has a job nearly as much as a woman values a man who has one. If you do find a man who claims that his future wife’s employment is important, it’s because he has been programmed to believe in the cult of equality and is insufficiently masculine to take pride in being able to take care of his family on his own. It’s unlikely that you will be deeply attracted to this type of man, or you won’t feel completely confident that he will be able to protect and provide for the family, which increases the likelihood that you will cheat on him.

One great thing about being a woman is that if you find a successful man, you have the option of not working. Men never have this option. Unless a man finds a career that allows him to wake up whenever he wants and set his own schedule (as I can), he will slowly destroy his soul in an office job, where he stares at a computer screen for dozens of hours a week while enduring petty politics, mind-numbing meetings, and extended periods of sitting that slowly degrade his muscles, leading to chronic back and neck pain. His income may be high, and he may be able to afford the best of what a “Made in China” materialist life can offer, but if a man takes materialism too far and does not focus on creating a family, he will resort to over-eating, alcohol abuse, drugs, video games, pornography, meaningless sex, or some other hollow vice. It’s not only women who are affected by the ills of modern society.

The bottom line is that you will not find lasting fulfillment through a career. It’s a wretched dead end. Many books have been written on how to find happiness by pursuing a career, but that approach leads to failure, and the latest trend of finding a “work-life” balance will also fail, because it’s impossible to contort female nature to that of a man’s, who, unlike a woman, must work in order to signal to his potential wife that he can provide for her. Women who are seeking providers will always appreciate men with a career, but a man seeking the future mother of his children is far less likely to.

The above excerpt was taken from my new book Lady. It is available in eBook, audiobook, and paperback. Click here to learn more.

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A great piece from Roosh with strong emphasis on a male being a provider, but I would also add the importance of women for “external validation”. I learned very early on that the best looking women were attracted to one with a vast amount of wealth or someone with a job with a fancy title that also earned a significant amount of money, and it was important that the women were able to talk about it and brag about it constantly. The collectivist mindset of women means they are living for external validation – how others view them & judge them and continually re-affirm the details of their lives. They want to be able to tell their mothers and friends from church that their husbands are rocket scientists or doctors and went to Harvard or Yale and drive Mercedes-Benz cars and take vacations in the Bahamas or Europe. You may have a job with bullet proof job security and benefits (ie. public school teacher) but your ability to attract a attractive mate is not as good because a potential mate is not going to be able to brag and rub that in her friend’s faces (or parents faces) as good as one who is married to a brain surgeon.

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“add the importance of women for “external validation”.

You mean men and women seek this external validation.

“I learned very early on that the best looking women were attracted to one with a vast amount of wealth or someone with a job with a fancy title that also earned a significant amount of money, and it was important that the women were able to talk about it and brag about it constantly.”

Actually, men and women when they find someone good looking and wealthy are drawn to tell everyone about what they have in their possession. I really do not understand why you are only telling one side of the story here.

“They want to be able to tell their mothers and friends from church that their husbands are rocket scientists or doctors and went to Harvard or Yale and drive Mercedes-Benz cars and take vacations in the Bahamas or Europe.”

Similar to manospherists bragging about their conquests. They are one and of the same.

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I liked the article. I also think this alcohol abuse and promiscuous sex is a way (a wrong one) to relieve the stress caused by corporations and toxic working environment which gives the same amount of task and work to both men and women.
Try this: step in any company and you will see that the happiest women working there are usually secretaries or more “humble” roles. they finish their work, they go pick up kids at school, they cook and they have sex with the same man. they will complain a lot but because they say they are always working (true, even more than career-oriented women) but you can sense that at the end of the day they go to sleep with a smile on their face feeling grateful for that life. That is beautiful.

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I had a pretty intense job for a few years – after my ex and I split (relevantly, mostly due to his unwillingness to hold a job), and before my fiancé gave me the green light to quit and stay home: I ran a small-scale commercial bakery. I probably couldn’t have done it for much longer even if I’d wanted to – lots of hard, repetitive physical labor (and no small amount of stress since I was also the manager and the pastry chef in addition to primary/sometimes-only production baker). But it was amazing to me how much everything changed when my fiancé settled into my life. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids all day, then going to work and coming home late at night, exhausted, covered in flour and sugar dust, barely enough energy to take a shower… suddenly wasn’t so bad when I had a good man to crawl into bed with at the end of my day. Even though I “had to” work for a while longer, just having a warm, strong pair of arms to wrap up in, and knowing I could count on him if something really went wrong was like magic. I did go to sleep with a smile on my face, even on the hardest days.

Life is much better as a homemaker, though, hands down.

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Neighboors living across the street from me, have two different families living in the same house, the two ladies (they are sisters) are the only ones working while their boyfriends stay at home cooking and selling drugs. Looks like the women dont have a problem being the only ones working, AND in the 4 years that I have been living there (across street) it does not ‘seem’ to bother them. Although there is some serious domestic violence sounds you can hear emitting from the house….especially on the weekends.

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Excellent observation on the one of the inversed roles of male and female relationships today. Thanks to feminism, women and their hypergamy can run almost wild by seeking whatever excites them instead of settling with a good husband and creating a family. I can relate to an experience of my ex-girlfriend who went to a top business school while dating her so called “hubby” only to find out that she cheated on him with another business grad student. Her once “hubby” vanished from any future she might have imagined with him after that. She ruined what her friends and family thought would be a hopeful marriage. Let’s just say she regretted that night. This is what happens when women are given free range to test the waters for men that excite their primal hindbrain when their basic survival needs are already met by working as a corporate slave. They ruin situations and encourage other caddish chads to continue reaping their sexual rewards at the expense of perpetuating the casual sex culture and degrading the moral fabric of society. You just can’t fully trust any woman who dedicates a large part of her life to a meaningless job or a fanciful career (which sadly corrodes her femininity) to be a mother. Women have taken a step back while men have encouraged this pathetic “equality for all” movement which is partly to blame of our current state of affairs.

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“Thanks to feminism, women and their hypergamy can run almost wild by seeking whatever excites them instead of settling with a good husband and creating a family.”

Actually, due to modernism, men and women are tending to run wild by seeking to whatever excites them. Of course, people today are finding good mates and are having children.

“I can relate to an experience of my ex-girlfriend who went to a top business school while dating her so called “hubby” only to find out that she cheated on him with another business grad student.”

Cheating happens with men and women.

“This is what happens when women are given free range to test the waters for men that excite their primal hindbrain when their basic survival needs are already met by working as a corporate slave.”

You mean it can also happen to men who let their primal urges get the best of them as they “pump and dump” every woman they can find, and blow their hard earned cash working as an office chump.

“They ruin situations and encourage other caddish chads to continue reaping their sexual rewards at the expense of perpetuating the casual sex culture and degrading the moral fabric of society.”

Mmmm, caddish chads. You mean the manospherists, right?

“You just can’t fully trust any woman who dedicates a large part of her life to a meaningless job or a fanciful career (which sadly corrodes her femininity) to be a mother.”

The fact is that American men and women will define for themselves what type of relationship they will engage in, as well as what they think is “masculinity” and “femininity”.

“Women have taken a step back while men have encouraged this pathetic “equality for all” movement which is partly to blame of our current state of affairs.”

That would be “white men” who have encouraged this “pathetic equality for all”. Sounds like you really have some personal issues you are dealing with here.

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playing devil’s advocate here: we’re presupposing that having a family is better than the more modern take on what it means to live in a society. but is having a family really better? i find myself thinking about both sides. i’m bored and depressed now, even after having slept with over 100+ women and living in NYC. but would the alternative, having gone the route my hs friends took (1 woman, family, suburbs, etc.) be better? i’m wont to think that the grass is always greener. in the end, human happiness and fulfillment just aren’t consistent or long-term ends achievable of being reached.

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There is no supposition. Having a family is observable better, with long-term ends clearly within our reach. And if you are bragging about how you “slept with 100+ women” online, the fact is that number is in the single digits. Next time, don’t try so hard.

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“If you do find a man who claims that his future wife’s employment is important, it’s because he has been programmed to believe in the cult of equality and is insufficiently masculine to take pride in being able to take care of his family on his own.” Men that rely on a woman’s work aren’t very masculine. A man may take pride in the fruits of her wife’s labor, but if it is money and he doesn’t feel emasculated, then it’s probable he isn’t very masculine (as in protective, driven, assertive) to begin with. I speak from experience and close observation. However, many women don’t have the choice not to work. Many women have to give up dreams for power (be it financial, be it social, be it political) and are aware of the clock ticking. That’s why they simply cannot lick the leathery belts of their elite masters, but eventually, rip them off. Elite mothers and wives can build lives of domestic bliss on the backs of hard working women, we are after them, too.

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“The more stable and successful your career, the more likely you will seek relationships with men who won’t commit to you.”

This is why i like your writing: summing up truths in one sentence.

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how tough is that old man without his soy boy tool the gun

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Actually I predict, “Lady” won’t help men in the long run, if it actually succeeds in making “women traditional” again. Why?
“Game” (2018) was probably released/written to teach men how to adapt to the existing modern culture we face now and get sex… Because sex is often the first thing (or litmus test) today which THEN leads to a relationship. It basically is a good book, and more or less, a “survival manual” for a modern man’s sex life. Its more about changing oneself than to “changing a woman.”
If “Lady” is teaching women to go “traditional”, then what I feel is once women do really go traditional again, you’re gonna write another book for men on how to game “traditional women.” In short, if women do read Lady and take it on board, you’re gonna have to write another updated Game manual in the future…. If trends do change. That’s what I foresee.

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Actually most “reformed” (former slutty/whorish) women automatically go into “Lady” mode once they are in their 30s while they encourage younger women to follow their impulses in their 20s to ” sexually experiment, discover their own sexuality or their real selves.” The truth is that the tenets of “Lady” only logically applies to women in their teens and early 20s before 25 (the time when they’re most exposed to male attention/sexual temptation), when their female SMV is highest. After that, most women automatically go into “Lady mode” to snag a beta buck. So guys should keep this in mind, that a real lady is the one who is actually a real lady during her sexual prime, not someone who’s adjusting to her own falling SMV and age by putting on a “Lady’s” character.

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This is why prostitution was, is and will always be the world’s oldest profession. Sex was, is, and will always be an exchange of sex for a “resource” (whether it is validation, entertainment, pleasure, protection, money, “love”, commitment, power, acceptance, etc). And career is just one avenue, which often directly provides these “resources” to women, the easiest “career” being prostitution, whether open or secret, blatant or subtle. So a woman who has greater access to these resources over her man through a selected avenue, will always the potential to “disrespect/dominate” a man. Commonly seen today.

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oh my god-Roosh have u sold us men out for some $ tipping off women about the truth of us men out there, might deplete our unlimited source of pussys. tell your male readers really why u are helping pussies and how can we males benefit-are u still on mens side? or did the devil get your weiner blocked and u cant/wont help us males anymore. jjames canada

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“Although not ideal, it’s entirely possible for me to take a few years off, start hunting for a wife when I am in my early forties, and start a family a decade later.”

Sure–if you’re mega-rich you could, in your EARLY FIFTIES, snag a wife who is still young enough to crank as many kids as you want.

Most of us will never be that rich. And, in our early fifties–or even our forties–health and physical fitness may decline, causing prospective brides’ greatest concern to be how much life insurance we can afford.

IF we want to marry (and that’s a big if), better to do so while a young(ish) man’s physique–and likely ability to keep working for another twenty-plus years (and also perhaps to defend woman and children against assault)–are still part of the package.