How To Become A Multilingual International Player In 61 Easy Steps

1. Believe your family or Western culture when they teach you that women are infallible snowflakes.

2. Be ashamed of your sexual preference in thin and attractive women.

3. Be friendzoned enough times that you begin to question your self-worth as a man.

4. Get tired of masturbating, with little hope of having sex with an actual woman.

5. Listen to sappy music and watch romantic comedies, believing that they hold the key to sexual success.

6. Have a meltdown where you finally refuse to accept the pathetic existence you’ve found yourself in.

7. Stumble accidentally upon a game book or web site.

8. Study the game resource for weeks or months, soaking up its teachings.

9. Gather up enough courage to do a cold approach on a woman you don’t know.

10. Approach a hundred women to learn how to maintain a conversation, get a number, and plant the seed of attraction.

11. Get flaked on by most women who give you their number.

12. Learn how to get a girl out on a date.

13. Fail on countless dates to seal the deal while learning how to escalate the encounter to a kiss.

14. Spend countless hours on more failed dates until you eventually have sex with a girl.

15. Receive no reply to the text message you sent her.

16. Spend three evenings a week at the gym improving your musculature.

17. Learn how to properly kiss a girl by copying moves that girls do on you.

18. Spend years optimizing your appearance to maximize both your confidence level and your attractiveness.

19. Learn a new skill such as dancing, story-telling, or public speaking.

20. Gradually improve your wardrobe with fitted clothing that women notice.

21. Read a hundred books that increase your understanding of humanity and the world.

22. Improve your finance management skills and build a fuck-you fund of one years living expenses.

23. Take a trip to a foreign land with the goal of sleeping with beautiful woman. Fail utterly and contract a stomach illness for your efforts.

24. Return home and spend the next year learning a foreign language.

25. Date your first foreign girl after meeting her at a salsa club or international lounge.

26. Start an internet business that makes you a couple hundred extra bucks a month after 100 hours of effort.

27. Take a longer trip abroad. Perform your first successful pickup in a foreign language.

28. Continue to work on your foreign language studies, side business, gym routine, and self-improvement efforts while maintaining a full-time job and pursuing women.

29. Take notes on things that work for you.

30. Learn additional skills like cooking, martial arts, playing an instrument, or writing.

31. Go against the advice of all your friends and family by quitting your stable job and relying solely on your modest business income or freelance work.

32. Take one long trip abroad to countries that interest you.

33. Re-learn the game from a basic level every time you step foot into a new country.

34. Fight bouts of homesickness.

35. Spend 300 hours studying another language.

36. Experience several setbacks to your business and poon-chasing where both your income and sex life take large hits that only recover after months of recovery.

37 . Get hit with random illnesses and injuries that delay your goals.

38. Meet the girl of your dreams and then lose her.

39. Fall out of touch with old friends who don’t understand your life choices.

40. Make new friends.

41. Encounter problems that you simply don’t know how to solve.

42. Receive criticism from your countrymen based on the new beliefs that come from your changing lifestyle.

43. Experience moments of satisfaction and contentment.

44. Meet another girl of your dreams. Fuck it up again.

45. Study books on history and culture to help you make sense of differences you see in the countries you visit.

46. Get ripped off by a hundred taxicab drivers.

47. Develop a work and play routine that keeps you grounded when you’re hit with inevitable periods of loneliness and depression.

48. Gradually perfect both day and night styles of game in multiple languages so that you can get laid relatively easily in many different countries.

49. Stay in touch with like-minded men you trust.

50. Shock yourself with strange environments to learn something about yourself that you didn’t know beforehand.

51. Meet another girl of your dreams and know exactly what it will take for you to pursue the relationship to its natural conclusion.

52. Look back on past conquests and realize that your standards must have gone up since you wouldn’t now sleep with many of them.

53. Consciously accept that your sexual needs are changing and then re-adjust your game to meet this change.

54. Experience a new round of failure where you’re essentially starting over from scratch.

55. Watch as new technologies or changing consumer tastes hurt your business.

56. Start a new business based on what you learned from your previous one.

57. Sleep with a girl so beautiful that you experience a moment of insecurity and wonderment at why she chose you.

58. Learn another language, the hardest you’ve yet to try. Feel like a beginner after 400 hours of study.

59. Find a city that you like and wouldn’t mind staying for a year or so.

60. Work as hard as you ever have to maintain a steady income while having relations with the women you desire.

61. Pause every now and then and reflect in silence.

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  1. Wald January 20, 2014 at 9:11 am

    Story of your life?

    1. Roosh_V January 20, 2014 at 11:42 am

      Based on a true story.

      1. Coldplayme February 14, 2014 at 12:57 am

        I know you for about a year or so. You need a pause. I wish you’ll have a wife and kids this and next year. Perfectioning the pick up is endless, it won’t be perfect. I hope you’ll go to heaven, because your heart is clean. No matter how hard or easy is what you do, human always gets used to it. Care about your parents. I don’t any person who prospered, who let down his father. Thank you for reading this message

  2. psyrus January 20, 2014 at 9:15 am

    Great checklist.
    I’ve got my fu*ck you money saved up.
    I’ve studied a foreign language for one year, to a B1 level.
    I’m currently working on my side income stream, so far 60+ hours of effort put in.

  3. Nguyen Improved January 20, 2014 at 9:19 am

    Reader’s Digest version of Rossh’s biography. Great read.

    1. Leroy X January 20, 2014 at 1:29 pm

      Man I gotta hand it to Roosh as far as risk taking. He’s done what he has by having the courage to risk it all but corporate Muricas grey cubicle women and the worst (most evil) town in America (maybe the World) known as DC and its Sea of 6s on a GS Scale delusion of reality are enough to drive any man to complete Inter continental revulsion. I know if I was from DC I would react the same way- words cannot convey how sick and twisted that City’s culture, people, and women are- piss on DC aka AIPACs yes man slave city for their cotribalist Rothschild Illuminati Khazar banksters.

      All the truth you need on Zionism-

      1. felix January 22, 2014 at 9:52 am

        ye thats really orginal, blame it all on the Zionists…..neo-nazi much mate???

    2. Question To All Readers January 20, 2014 at 6:40 pm

      Roosh and readers????
      Any general tips on how to make 3k/month online so I could live the EE dream?
      I don’t know crap about computers or marketing. Any tips would help- its like most of these make money online opportunities are total rip offs.
      What’s something solid and legit that actually brings income???

      1. Purple Penguin January 23, 2014 at 6:54 am

        Start a blog about a topic you master, when you have some readership put your knowledge in ebook format and sell it online.

      2. Papa July 20, 2014 at 4:01 am

        go to audiencebusinessmasterclass . com I’m not affiliated with them, but the guys have huge reputation. Jeff Walker is another name to consider (he was featured on Forbes); good luck;

      3. Papa July 20, 2014 at 4:02 am

        sorry the site is audiencebiz . com

  4. Purple Penguin January 20, 2014 at 10:18 am

    There are many more pathes, but that’s one very concise biography !

  5. InternetDork January 20, 2014 at 10:34 am

    Is this about Gmanifesto?

    1. Dick Dabone January 20, 2014 at 2:03 pm

      Lol- I miss Michael Pornfiro masons wit and humor. Get your ass back G. The rest is up to you…

      Man Roosh you are cool. My town sucked so bad it drove me to depression not writin a game book but I do think its cool how you took a frustration and made it an International occupation and you found out beaner land sucked (I could’ve told you that I’m Latin) and that Eastern Europe is better. Even in my little white trash area of Murica- I knew EE girls were mad fly from this cock Harding high heel wearing Ukranian secretary an office I used to frequent had. I said man they have some fly girls there not all these flip flop sweat pants bags like Team Murica.

  6. SJ January 20, 2014 at 10:50 am

    This is good summary of tips. I learned this 20 years ago when I was a foreign exchange student in Mexico learning Spanish and Mexican culture. Not only did I learn Spanish but had fun with hot latina women. Now I am learning Russian and Portuguese to game Brazilian and Eastern Euro women.

  7. seth January 20, 2014 at 5:42 pm

    Its ridiculous the amount of stuff most men need to do to get laid consistently. Women just needed to be thin (ie what passes for hot) in the past. They can’t even get that one right.

    Ive been shocked at what I’ve seen recently. Never mind dropping standards of female beauty, a male heavy environment (immigrants are mostly male these days) and smartphones cockblocking men. At my med school, I must have seen some of the most handsome guys from the States and Canada, who were dating women 3/4/5 points below the man’s SMV. There was this one girl with excessive OCD, smoked like a fish and was obese; but the guys were horny and she put out easy, so this 2/10 (?) was easily laying 8/10’s consistently.

    Sad days ahead for the West….

  8. shotgun January 20, 2014 at 8:26 pm

    If your life became a movie, a narrative of this post would be the final scene. Kinda like Trainspotting.

  9. Viceroy January 20, 2014 at 8:38 pm

    I wish I had half the guts you do, Roosh. You were right when you said guts are more important than brains.

  10. Nick T January 20, 2014 at 11:00 pm

    Does anyone know a good place/country a half white/black man like myself could go to pick up girls?

    1. RJ January 21, 2014 at 4:24 am

      Where are you from? Your culture will impact how you are perceived and how you see things.

      I think a better question to ask yourself is-
      What kind of women do I find most attractive? If Latin looking women do Columbia or Romania. If pale Slavic white girls do Czech Republic, Poland, or Ukraine. If petite hot Asians do Thailand or Vietnam.

      Believe me friend Inunderstand the whole Mulato lifestyle- I’m part Latino and grew up in a red neck Southern shit hole in America and was called spic and also unleashed my boxing skills on some white trash. I personally find Czech and Polishnwomen the most attractive so you know where I’ll be flying to when I get my money right.

      Don’t let our race be a hindrance to you instead go after the type of girls you like the best. Approach in mass don’t be afraid of rejection do 100s of approaches on the type of women you desire the most. Saying your race limits you would be like UFC Champ GSP defending his title and going into his next fight thinking”oh what will my opponent do to me” when the rift attitude is “what ways will I attack and defeat my opponent” and in game what kind of girls do I find the most attractive that I can spit mad game at. I’ve been in fights and I never think- oh what will my opponent dork me- my only thought was and (I win mos fights btw) was what can I do to hurt this pro I the hardest and fastest- it could be a left hook, an eye gouge, a choke, just depends on the situation. Make them fight your fight. Good luck friend.

      1. RJ January 21, 2014 at 4:31 am

        If you like black girls do Dominican Republic or Addis Abba Ethiopia (they say that place is black girl Heaven). I had a friend who set to Jamaica and said a young fine stacked Beyonce looking stacked hottie wanted him- he’s a 50 yo white Doctor btw. Did I leave out any race? Poland would be top for me but I believe Roosh when he says Romania rocks foraging women and is safe and cheap. I’ve met some Romanian ancestry nice brunette a here in the US- those girls have good genes for real.

  11. Harry January 20, 2014 at 11:03 pm

    You’re the man Roosh

  12. Blunt January 21, 2014 at 1:18 am

    I like the not-so-subtle dig at our present Buzzfeed-style consumption of media in 10-step lists.

    Interesting post. I skipped a few steps (i.e. mass cold approaching) which weren’t necessary at the time to get laid, but I’ve realized how essential it is for the whole foundation. Cold approaching and side business are the two key areas for me this year.

    The thing I admire most about your journey is that you never went back. You never had to return to the cubicle farm with your tail in between your legs.

    That prospect is what scares many men the most.

  13. Takako January 21, 2014 at 9:35 am

    And for girls, Roosh? Not to become a player, to change and improve your life.

  14. PUA January 21, 2014 at 12:01 pm

    Why do I want to be a player even tho I only get a boner once a week ?

  15. WorldTraveler January 21, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    Roosh, just 1 question WHY should every male become a player? How about becoming a personality with integrity, honesty and own thoughts and opinions who dares to stand up and be counted as well as to lead by example??
    Why the need to become a player? Following all the 61 steps ain’t that easy as it first seems to begin with:-)

    1. Redpillgetusedtoit February 4, 2014 at 2:50 pm

      Because being “real” is just for entertainment purposes in america, People hate real people. Being fake always gets you further in life! Thats the red pill Pal.

  16. Raul Felix January 22, 2014 at 10:33 am

    Wonderful. Knowing your biography through your books and all your trials and tribulations have inspired me to push myself forward. I still working on piling up Fuck You money but I’ll get there. Thanks for being a trailblazer.

  17. the one who knows January 22, 2014 at 6:27 pm

    Such lifestyle is a major major energy drain. You could end up being over 40, without a regular GF, without home, kids. Just wild experiences, which i admit are fun, but….. at some point we gotta ask a fundamental question: is life just an endless play, or do we want a fulfilling relationship with a woman, being in love, grow a family, aquire assets? Its very hard to combine with international gaming.

    For most western folks, much better option is to find one dominant, smart woman and dive yourself into female led LTR. Why its better?
    1. Much more sexual activity vs game.
    2. at WAY lower costs
    3. less stress
    4. who is more alpha:
    gamer who is not likely to inseminate a female, takes 100s of slaps in the face without much procreation reward, whines about chicks on the internet
    a slave who is able to swallow and survive the true woman nature (which is men exploitation, regardless of what kind of guy you are) and to build some long lasting bond resulting in offspring.

    We are being told that dominant traits are the best way for a guy, but hey maybe in Romania or Andalucia. In America, UK, Canada or Australia it just simply does not work, fellas. Your own life will be the judge.

    1. LOL January 23, 2014 at 9:43 am

      Aunt Giggles, is that you?

  18. cielo January 23, 2014 at 2:04 am

    Roosh is a cut above because he is 100% real. No BS, perfectly content to share his own failures in a public forum

  19. expat January 23, 2014 at 4:03 pm

    Roosh, I stumbled on your site by accident a couple of months ago and I really enjoy your musings. I’ve been around the globe and ended up marrying (5 years now) a nice russian girl at the age of 40 and regret nothing. Good luck to you.

  20. silent January 24, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    Number 49 is probably the most important

  21. Quintus Curtius January 27, 2014 at 2:03 am

    This is just…poignant.

    Accurately describes a good part of my life’s trajectory.

    It’s posts like this that the enemies and haters never look at, never comment on, and never will understand.

    The one, pure, simple thing that they never get–or don’t want to get–is that the manosphere’s roots are all about self-improvement. That’s it. It’s a code that developed in response to an environment that was deliberately designed to keep young men down, marginalized, and frustrated.

    Young guys in their 20s: read this, laminate it, and put it on your desk.

  22. Sebastian February 1, 2014 at 6:41 pm

    This is just inspiring. It is great how you describe both the ups and the downs of your journey. My fuck-you money is ready….

  23. : fvaetha: el February 3, 2014 at 3:05 am

    I want to print this out, frame it in gold, and put it up on whatever wall is around me to remind myself every day of what I’m doing. Thank you, Roosh. You’ve helped me improve my life in ways I couldn’t have previously imagined. You really are an inspiration, and I fucking mean that.

  24. Fooled No More February 7, 2014 at 8:37 pm

    Steps 1 through 6 are so eerily exact to my upbringing and existance that it’s pretty wierd to read.

  25. john February 18, 2014 at 11:27 am

    Moving out of the U.S. is the most important. I mean taxes, regulations, hideous women, more taxes. This country is stifling.

  26. Matt March 14, 2014 at 11:02 am

    I think we have a Leykis listener here… Great list man. Everyone should get a **** you fund.

  27. Dadang May 15, 2014 at 4:10 am

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