Out of all my podcasts, I’ve received the most amount of comments about The Black Pill, where I state that it’s fruitless to try to change society instead of yourself. Many men feel that this possibly can’t be the right approach, because if we don’t try to change society, how can we ever make it better? Won’t the whole world just become one big African slum?

What is society composed of? Buildings, music, art, language, government, and more, all produced by people. Without those people, there would be no society. As a living human being, you are an integral part of a society, and it will change by a degree, however minuscule, when you die. You’re already changing it through your mere existence, but trying to change society directly through conscious effort is futile.

The problem with becoming an activist to change a broken society is that it’s almost always done by imperfect people. Broken cannot fix broken. If you’re not living by the code you think your perfect society should be, or you suffer from anxiety or fear, you can’t improve the whole that you’re a part of. Changing society is therefore a form of therapy, just like how teaching game was a form of self-help for me.

This car should not be designing the highway system

Your problems, vices, mental issues, and addictions are too difficult to solve, but it’s all to easy to command other people on how to live. If you gain a soapbox, you’ll feel soothed that others are listening to you even though your own life is in disarray. The ego boost of becoming famous or influential can’t compete with even the best sex or anti-depressant pills, and in the end we have a case of the blind leading the blind.

The only foolproof way to change society is to make yourself the best person you can be. The society then automatically changes upon your change, since you are a part of the whole. If you rid yourself of your brokenness and your fears, your addictions and your denials, society will improve. If you become a golden standard for others to follow, you could then advise others on how you solved your own problems. Until then, any attempt to change others is just a way to delay or procrastinate your own change. This is the most obvious with pundits on the internet who have an interest in changing the minds of people who don’t even live in their country. They don’t care about their own neighbor, yet they are activists for those who live in lands they have never been to.

I will not tell you by which standard of morality to live by, because I know that a society full of fornicating men like myself would lead to catastrophe more than not. Unless we’re talking about a man like Jesus, a society filled with the person who wants to change the world would always lead to disaster. If you ask me questions, I will give you answers, and I will surely share my opinion like I’m doing now, but I will not take a crusade to save those who did not ask me to be saved.

A society full of men like Jesus wouldn’t be so bad

Today, I would not run a “Fat Shaming Week” like I did on Return Of Kings several years back. I can state that I’m not attracted to overweight women, but I no longer care how women I don’t know choose to live. I set a weight limit for my body, and if people want to ask me for health advice then I will help them, but if the whole world becomes obese then so be it, for it must be a part of human nature if its occurrence is so seemingly inevitable.

One of the first things you may have figured out when learning game is not to convince a blue pill friend to also use game. The friend will resent you for thinking that you’re better than him. It turns out that this basic lesson applies on a societal level as well. People don’t want to hear your opinions, standards, and morals. Even covertly inserting those opinions into movies or music won’t work unless you’re programming people to do what is already within their primal nature.

It’s easy to attack mainstream media and Hollywood, but most people really want to sleep around, accumulate material possessions, be addicted to all matter of substances, invent their own gods, and simulate being a “good” person by virtue signalling for an outgroup. It’s easy, fun, and makes them feel powerful and superior. They don’t want you to tell them how to genuinely be a good person or solve real problems. Doing so is a waste of your time, and if you’re too persistent, they’ll try to kill you for it.

I intend to live for several more decades. I will use that time to face my lingering demons while sharing what I know to people who want to hear me, but I will not attempt to change the world. That’s just a form of therapy that is kicking the can of my own problems down the road. I know that if I become the best man I can, and be open and honest with how I did so, society will improve ten times more than if I try to jam my opinions and theories into people who don’t want to hear it. There will be no arguments, no persuasion, and no debates, just an individual journey that leads to openness and dialogue, and I hope that I will be successful at it.

Read Next: You Become What You Fight

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Joe Blow
Joe Blow
2 years ago

Well said douche. I mean Roosh.

Davis M.J. Aurini
2 years ago

Very much where I’ve been lately.

Tim
Tim
2 years ago

ditto

Durandel
Durandel
2 years ago

This post nailed it. Similar to what I was trying to convey on your blog.

Matthew Forney
2 years ago

Tl;dr: clean your room, bucko.

Lucius Clarus
Lucius Clarus
2 years ago

Roosh, this sounds awfully like the tribe’s “everyone is an individual there’s nothing you can do to affect society” demoralization to prevent any efforts to thwart their designs. They certainly don’t believe this. They work like hell to bend their host nations to serve their group interests. (There’s nothing wrong with a group advancing its own interests btw).

I think there *is* little an individual can do. But a motivated group with strong in-group/outgroup boundaries can do a great deal.

The loss of racial and ethnic identity for Whites has effectively disarmed us as a people. Other ethnics and races are not so gullible. They will win on the present course.

Roosh
2 years ago
Reply to  Lucius Clarus

Jews are the most anxious and fearful race in the world. Even at the top of the food chain, their angst and mental suffering is endless. You can feel it as they go from one hate speech panic attack to the next. They’re proof of the point I made in the article.

Hubert Cumberdale
Hubert Cumberdale
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

0:38 (Hello there, I am a bankers nightmare, I care not for the boundaries they create, in this world we’re all victims, of Rabbi’s in the alley, spraying swastikas on windows that they own, as if we don’t know who is behind this global meltdown, can we just get our shit together now, just get together now.

IT’S THE JEW
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nkcXySJMbs4

j molonoy
j molonoy
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

I agree with the article that you should be the best you can be, but it doesn’t help change the world so to speak IMHO. But that being said, ‘being the change you want to see’ does have its merits.

DYahn1
DYahn1
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

Roosh, I’ve been following you for almost ten years and gained more than I can possibly even contemplate.

I mean this entirely sincerely. Do you think there is even such a thing as anti-semitism and if the statement “Jews are the most anxious and fearful race in the world” would not qualify as anti-semetic, what sort of statement/language would rise to the level of anti-semitism ?

Lucius Clarus
Lucius Clarus
2 years ago
Reply to  DYahn1

Get a Jewish person to give you an objective and clear definition of “anti-Semitism” first. I’ve found they won’t do it.

DYahn1
DYahn1
2 years ago
Reply to  Lucius Clarus

Well I’m not jewish and until a jewish person on the site gives us his definition, what do you think would qualify as real anti-semitism?

Lucius Clarus
Lucius Clarus
2 years ago
Reply to  DYahn1

“Anything Jews don’t like.” That seems to be the SPLC definition.

lindseywagners
lindseywagners
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

Yep, the more motivated you are, the more insecure you are.

Lucius Clarus
Lucius Clarus
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

Perhaps. But they work like hell in a coordinated fashion to advance change benefitting their group, effectively. Nothing wrong with pursuing interests. But out-group members would do well to understand that’s what’s happening.

I think the reason you were slapped down so forcefully is you weren’t part of a well-connected group. You are an individual. It was easy to use Alinsky tactics on you to isolate and polarize. And you made it easy for them to do it with the thought experiment post. “The high blade of grass gets cut” and all that.

I don’t have an actionable suggestion for how you might have done it better, or how a man or men might do it going forward. That’s a puzzler. But giving up and going apathetic — “do nothing” — feels wrong. The men who posted flyers “It’s ok to be White” took action that feels meaningful.

It would help a great deal to have a group related by blood with exceptionally strong ingroup/outgroup barriers and a paranoid disposition. But then, “You become what you fight.”

Roosh
2 years ago
Reply to  Lucius Clarus

My article shares the best solution for me. If you decide to take action, I would not fault you for it or get in the way.

Lucius Clarus
Lucius Clarus
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

Fair enough. I respect you and your work, Roosh. Time heals all.

Veni Vidi Vici
Veni Vidi Vici
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

True but the SJW’$ reading this article will feel they won this battle.

Mr. T
Mr. T
2 years ago
Reply to  Roosh

Hey roosh, why you be talking shit for. You aint exactly white youself. Go wage jihad somewhere else.

j molonoy
j molonoy
2 years ago
Reply to  Lucius Clarus

Jesus was mentioned in the article – he flogged the j3wish pharisees in the temple and 2000 years later, after expulsions from 109 different countries and genociding almost hundreds of millions of humans later(via Communism, ww1, ww2 etc..) the j3w needs another flogging (or pogrom, as they call it) to keep this evil parasite in check.

Rebel Yells
Rebel Yells
2 years ago

https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/17bfcbfa9e173c9eaf10dd918c6229bb334cab058b453d1234d39396786f9d63.jpg Roosh, I think this is one of the best posts you have ever done. I had initially thought to argue with you when I first started to read it (by bringing up slavery or some other major social issue) but after finishing your piece and giving it some thought I agree. Most of the major changes would have happened anyway (like in Brazil where slavery ended peacefully without a civil war). Slavery ended because the economics no longer worked with the age of industrialization.

There was a famous scientist whom I cannot recall at the moment but he basically said that new scientific theory never convinced anyone of anything at the time it is introduced. Theory changed when all the old scientists died and the new scientists who were brought up with the new theory (and accepted it) had taken up ascendancy.

Hubert Cumberdale
Hubert Cumberdale
2 years ago
Reply to  Rebel Yells

Good call Rebel Yells. One of the most irritating claims that American SJWs make is that slavery would still exist if the South won the Civil War, or for at least another “100 years” or some bollocks. It’s Just one of their hyperbole riddled arguments for the sake of virtue signalling.

Slavery would have continued for 15 or 20 years TOPS in a hypothetical southern victory. The technological upheaval of the 2nd industrial revolution along with relentless pressure from every other western power would have seen the end of it by the 1880s.

Gammelsvensk
Gammelsvensk
2 years ago

I’ll take this chance to thank you for the great value I have received from your podcasts, i have listened to them all more than once. I find this format to be one where you really shine and they will be lasting sources of visdom and inspiration. I hope you produce some more over time.

anon1
anon1
2 years ago

>Even covertly inserting those opinions into movies or music won’t work unless you’re programming people to do what is already within their primal nature.

this is very interesting but then does that mean nudge theory is bullshit?

most people don’t think, don’t want to think and/or don’t have time to pay the cost of thinking. nudging opinions and thoughts works effectively on them.

I also like Nassim Talebs work on the “how the most intolerant wins” and the minority rule. This is true of SJWs in the workplace as it is in other realms as well.

Reglardless the emphasis on becoming our best selves is very critically important. Too many people nowadays have an urge to speak based on second hand wisdom and not first hand life experience. Its only until you’ve learned something that you can really definitely speak on it, and its only by people looking at your success and asking you, can you help them.

Most people get it the other way around, they court attention first rather than bothering to focus on improving themselves.

In early history great philosophers, scholars and whatnot spent a long time with life experience before writing their grand thesis or treatise on things. People miss this bit out nowadays and want to go straight to the book writing.

I find this in myself too and my stuff with making an online business. The desire to write is stronger than the desire to live a life worth writing about.

This makes for shit writing.

Roosh made another point once a while back about how he can’t watch a film if the behaviours of the characters [particularly the females] in those movies don’t match up to real life. Once you’ve seen reality you can’t play and appreciate make believe and falsehoods.

I think its the same with writing works. People are yearning to talk but not to become.

Secondly a idea i stole from gary vaynerchuk was “Document don’t create”. You need a lot of life experience to create something people want to learn from or appreciate. But documenting your journey and experiments is free and provides a form of authenticity that makes the journey to creation easier as people follow your path.

Nowadays people are skeptical of everything, particularly salesman. But if they’ve seen your progress, stumbles and failures they’re interested when you hit big. but you must still hit big. or atleast in so much as you want to make a career out of it.

George Whale
George Whale
2 years ago

“The only foolproof way to change society is to make yourself the best person you can be. The society then automatically changes upon your change, since you are a part of the whole. If you rid yourself of your brokenness and your fears, your addictions and your denials, society will improve.” This is hippy nonsense. Society can only change by the active will of the people. All of the great social movements and successful liberation struggles have been achieved by flawed human beings acting in concert towards a powerful shared ideal.

j molonoy
j molonoy
2 years ago

I got rid of my limited brokenness and fears, rid of any addictions and your denials, but society has gotten worse. Being a better man does not necessarily mean the society goes in ascendancy with you rather than crashing and burning as the west is.

j molonoy
j molonoy
2 years ago

The jew taught me that if you use usury to get cash to fund all your subversive projects, abuse and rape people like Weinstein to get them to keep quiet, commit genocide like against 100 million Christian whites in Russia via communism then rewrite the history books to glamorise the holohoax, and murder all your competitors by getting the jewSA to bomb countries, then you can change the world(for the worse to everyone’s dismay, even that stupid greedy fat jew).

j molonoy
j molonoy
2 years ago
Reply to  j molonoy

The only defence the j3w has is in the statement that for most people, “people really want to sleep around, accumulate material possessions, be addicted to all matter of substances, invent their own gods”- this has to be in part, if not wholly, true. A sad indictment of a damned species. However, without j3wish social engineering aimed to maximise these issues we would have a much better of a time of sorting these problems out. Its so bad that my comments have been censored by j3wgle multiple times in the past but if I write about any other group then its okay.

Anti-Gnostic
Anti-Gnostic
2 years ago
Reply to  j molonoy

“However, without j3wish social engineering…”

That’s Fake News.

j molonoy
j molonoy
2 years ago
Reply to  Anti-Gnostic

Get lost anti-gnostic you j3w, don’t deny it.

Anti-Gnostic
Anti-Gnostic
2 years ago
Reply to  j molonoy

It makes you feel better to call others a Jew, when you yourself are one. I get it, you are battling self-hatred.

Samseau
2 years ago

Helping society still has its purpose because you are helping your Neighbor. Even if your help is completely ignored, the act of charity helps improve your own soul.

I see politics as a form of charity, and like charity I expect nothing in return nor do I have high hopes that it makes a difference. I do it to please God and improve my spiritual well-being.

At the end of the day, I can state, “God, I did my best for my Neighbors, they rejected the help, I wash my hands of their sins so please have mercy upon me.”

BlueBot22
BlueBot22
2 years ago

There’s some wisdom here. Good article.

“I know that if I become the best man I can, and be open and honest with how I did so, society will improves ten times more than if I try to jam my opinions and theories into people who don’t want to hear it.”– I think this is true. I wish you well with this.

I think if you focus on doing what you know is good with your own life and avoiding what isn’t you can have a very strong, healthy impact on the world. And the world is very connected, each person really does affect society. https://research.fb.com/three-and-a-half-degrees-of-separation/

Nate Mircovich
2 years ago

“…the prevailing majority opinion in a population can be rapidly reversed by a small fraction p of randomly distributed committed agents who consistently proselytize the opposing opinion and are immune to influence.”

https://journals.aps.org/pre/abstract/10.1103/PhysRevE.84.011130

How does one become “immune to influence” though?

Identity > Culture > Politics

It comes through having an immutable identity, but as Roosh pointed out about the “broken not being able to fix the broken”, that identity can’t be grounded in the finite, the temporal.

If your sexual preferences are part of your identity, how you define “who you are”, then you can be influenced by sexual opportunities which satisfy that preference. Think about the character that Tom Hanks played in “Castaway”. When alone on the island, would it matter what that character’s sexual preference was if he could never actualize it? Would it have made sense for that character’s “identity” to then include sexual preference?

This is the heart of why abundance and hedonism can be so evil. It’s not that anything you are doing is necessarily or intrinsically “bad”, but because when you can afford such effective distractions, you naturally add qualities to “who you are” that are temporary, contingent, and in turn, allow you to be manipulated by those who have a greater mastery over the material than you.

If “who you are” would change if you were stranded on an island, alone, then what opportunities for exploitation have you opened yourself up to by baking more into your identity than is necessary?

We could instead take cues from the infinite as to our identity.

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” – Genesis 1:27 (NKJV)

“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.” – Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)

“Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into
barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value
than they?” – Matthew 6:26 (NKJV)

“And you, who once were alienated and enemies in your mind by wicked works, yet now He has reconciled in the body of His flesh through death, to present you holy, and blameless, and above reproach in His sight-” – Colossians 1:21-22 (NKJV)

“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?” – Mark 8:36 (NKJV)

“And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. But rather
fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” – Matthew 10:28 (NKJV)

Roosh is correct that you can’t change the world until you’ve already made changes in yourself. I’d only seek to add that the changes you make, the context for defining “improvement”, is rooted in identity. If your identity is rooted in the immaterial, the infinite, then you would have laid a firm foundation upon which great works could be built. You could change the world.

Tigran Petrosyan
Tigran Petrosyan
2 years ago

It seems like Roosh is finding that internal balance and following a more spiritual and content path.

Xeloda85
Xeloda85
2 years ago

I was saying that as well. I was afraid for him that he was hitting a existential crisis of depraved nihilism and fleeting unfulfilled life.

jayteeniftb
jayteeniftb
2 years ago

Congratulations on finally realizing your fulfilling path.

lindseywagners
lindseywagners
2 years ago

The way things are now are the way they’ve always been, it’s just there’s a new ‘Halloween costume’ over top the evolutionary mechanism at play. Nothing ever changes, ultimately. Sure, there are illusions of change all over the place, but they’re only illusions that distract us humans so we can delude ourselves into thinking we are making “progress,” which is perhaps the biggest illusion of them all.

Alessio Grahovac
Alessio Grahovac
2 years ago

FYI, there is a typographical error in the final paragraph. It should read: ‘society will improve ten times more…’

just a human
just a human
2 years ago

I think- if You have a money and very, very big ambitions- You actually CAN change the world, like Soros do. An other way in some countries (if there is such a political system),is by starting a real political party. But to do that,You also need money. There are a lot of changes in the world,done by people,who have a resources to do that.

Ron
Ron
2 years ago

Roosh, you have always been looking for something. It’s your goal, the search.

Eric
Eric
2 years ago

I agree with the article, a in a culture in decline men will find peace in stoicism.

I never found a tribe, neither my nationality my skin color or diet or work out. I don’t really feel any belonging with this group former pick up group either. There are people out there I like and I feel belonging with and people I don’t. Even if many of those I like fuck themselves over. Either by watching copious amounts of tv, doing drugs or spending their life being mad about shit they can’t change. But it’s their choice. Focusing on doing good myself is what my life is about. Tribalism doesn’t suit everyone.

Ron
Ron
2 years ago

Roosh, you provide good social material. Women are random and all have certain insecurities that can be exploited. They are easy game when a person knows what makes them tick. Good skill.

I’ve read this post a few times and get the impression that you are used up. Used goods ect. All those women and no kids? I’m sure you have a few that you neglect.

I’ve met so many women that come to the realization that whoring around leads to a bad mental state. You are them. Exactly them. Folllow their lead and redeem yourself, spiritually. I don’t mean to demean your life’s work of exploiting young vulnerable women. You have made a living from it.

As a man let this post wake you up. Create something real without leaving destruction in your wake.

And good luck, dude.

Ron
Ron
2 years ago

Think of all the women and men you have played for fools. I also have sociopathic tendencies. There does come a point where it is not correct. It might be age or whatever, not sure. Definitely make this life worth it. Explore your own mind, figure out why we are here. So many questions we will probably never answer.

My path, is raising my children. And traveling . My early life was inflicted with death. On a personal level it never bothered me. To fit in I had to show signs of emotion. My father fought in wars and he never cared. Must be a genetic aloof trait.

If I’m correct, you need purpose and a goal. That is hard to find, most of us just float around. Smart as hell but see no reason to invest real time outside of ourselves, and our pleasure. And pleasure is good. I have the ability to get what I want, be it civil or violent.

What calmed my soul was being a father. Keeps me busy and I get validation. And I truly love my children. I’d kill for them at the drop of a hat. They are cared for and as strange as it is, sociopaths are very good parents. Like a possession. An asset and the only real thing we have. Anyone hurts my children I’ll put them in the ground.

I’m rambling. Think on it. I’m educated and have always wondered about myself and why I’m a bit off. Self centered. I think you might have the same issue. The women, a disconnect, lack of empathy. Who the fuck knows!

Roll on and get a new hobby.

Ron
Ron
2 years ago

I was in a court ordered domestic violence program about 15 years ago. It was fascinating. Some people are wired differently. On my first day of the classes, which were useless, a friend of mine walked in. I had to laugh. What are the odds?

I’m not a violent person, I prefer seductive ways. Though I will get violent easily. I did the MMA stuff just incase I ran into a person like myself. Crazy stuff. I have been in very uncomfortable situations, according to others, and never felt a thing.

I do attract women. Good ones at times. I’m married now and she gets it. I have to push myself to fit in.

Anyhow, it is what it is. I find solace in the stars and thinking beyond. Reading history and connecting the dots.

Ron
Ron
2 years ago

So, Roosh. Give some insight, or go back to banging used up whores. That is kid stuff at this point in our lives. You are a smart guy, don’t waste your talent.

Ron
Ron
2 years ago

Who the fuck knows? I’d wager that most readers here are in the same boat. My gaze alone pulls women. And I don’t want a leach taking my energy. That’s what it is. Women are attracted to it so they can benefit. We want sex, they want your power.

Find one that is sincere and go forward. Or get a whore, cheaper and less headache. Thats it. I’m done here.

Anti-Gnostic
Anti-Gnostic
2 years ago
Reply to  Ron

“My gaze alone pulls women.”

Code for “I’m saying something cool to be with the cool kids, but I know it’s a lie, and I hope no one calls me out on it”.