If you believe in the secular lies that underpin Western culture, you probably see yourself as an animal that should not be denied pleasure. You believe that sex is one of the principal features of life, perhaps its only joy, and so we should all succumb to it whenever the mood strikes us. Besides, it’s “biological.” We should sexualize others, sexualize ourselves, watch pornographic entertainment, obsess over sex continually, and fornicate without intending to reproduce. We must all adopt a “sex positive” outlook and treat our existence as just a means to diddling our genitals and achieving orgasmic release.

I don’t believe we are intended for recreational sex, in part because I was a world champion at it and got nothing for my efforts: no lasting happiness, no inner peace, no love, and most severely, no family. I donated the prime years of my life in exchange for practically nothing, just temporal physical entertainment, and so it wasn’t especially difficult for me to choose a life of chastity, which is demanded of me as a non-married Christian. The implementation of chastity in a sex-obsessed society, however, is challenging, especially since I’m still a healthy, vigorous man who has the skill and know-how to fornicate with random women.

Here are the four ways I’m resisting urges of the flesh. I tackled these one at a time in sequential order, but you may attempt to fulfill them all at once.

1. Stop watching pornography

I believe hardcore porn is a direct tool that Satan uses to corrupt the minds of males of all ages. I can’t think of something more directly evil with not only destroying the innocence of young boys, but also fully grown men who become addicted to watching other men sexually devour and humiliate broken women. Porn programs you to think of sex only in recreational terms and to view women as masturbatory glove sleeves that happen to be attached to a human being. Even worse, it desensitizes you to sex and makes it more difficult to be intimate with a real woman (i.e. your wife). Moderation of porn still introduces a drop of poison into your cup, so I advise you to erase all the porn you have saved on your computer and delete all your favorite bookmarks in one go.

It doesn’t stop at porn. You also have to stop viewing sexy images of women in bikinis, lingerie, and yoga pants. Even movies that are rated PG-13 must be watched carefully: close your eyes or turn away during scenes of passion. When I watched the horrible final season of Game Of Thrones, I turned away from all sex scenes, no matter how mild, whereas in seasons prior I’d have no problem letting the show’s producers plant seeds of sex into my psyche.

2. View women in public from only the neck up

Once you get the “virtual” world of sex handled, it’s time to move into the real world. When I was still in Poland upon receiving the faith, I was tempted daily by countless beautiful women who seemed desperate to show men their sex. They wanted me to stare at them because it gave them power in the form of attention and validation while steering my mind toward sexual thoughts.

I solved this by viewing women only from the neck up. This can be extremely difficult because fashion companies design clothing to frame the breasts and butt. These two areas are the centerpieces that help sell clothing to insecure women who want to feel sexy, meaning that even if you look only at a girl’s face, the periphery of your vision will still catch sight of her breasts, especially in the case of a plunging neckline or extra tight blouse. Your eyes, in spite of your best efforts, will stray and look downwards, but a glance is quite different from a prolonged, lustful stare. The latter will provide more than enough fuel for evil to penetrate your mind.

God created beauty for us to appreciate and admire, so I don’t believe in poking your eyes out. While some women can sexualize their face with makeup or by injecting their lips with plastic filler, you will find it far more difficult to think of sex upon staring at a naturally beautiful face than a big butt or pair of breasts. If you’re single like me, viewing women from the neck up has an added benefit of encouraging you to only meet girls who have genuine beauty, instead of a tainted sexuality that she displays to all men of the world in order to extract cheap pleasure. In other words, if you’re interested in a girl after a thorough examination of her breasts or butt, you’re giving consent for a woman to place sexual shackles upon your wrists.

3. Do not feed sexual thoughts that enter your mind

When sexual thoughts about a female entered my mind, I used to feed them by enhancing the fantasy and, if I was in bed, stroking my penis as if I were a monkey. I would essentially self-hypnotize myself with sex by keeping the fantasy alive in my mind as long as possible to feel a maximal state of arousal that could lead to a satisfactory session of masturbation. If I wasn’t in bed, I would let the thoughts take hold until I at least got a firm erection. I applied no will in stopping the sexual thoughts. If anything, I welcomed them when they came, a sign that I was still a “healthy” man with “high” testosterone and optimal “biology.” In order to halt this pattern, I began reciting the Jesus Prayer whenever a sexual thought entered my mind:

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.

For some thoughts, you may only need to recite the prayer a few times. For potent fantasies, you may need to recite it on and off for hours or even days. Focus on each individual word of the prayer and be persistent. If you are encountering a sustained demonic attack, I advise you to add sessions of the Jesus Prayer well after the sexual thoughts abate in order to ensure that the fire is completely extinguished. It may help you to get a prayer rope and recite the prayer in blocks of fifty or one-hundred. The fact that sinful passion can be defeated by asking Christ for mercy shows that it’s difficult to be in full communion with God while also feeding your lust, which is why our elites had to kill God before ushering in the sexual revolution. Soon, you’ll be able to stop a sexual thought just by saying “stop” to yourself or shaking your head, but for cases where that doesn’t work, call on Jesus to help you.

Recently, an attractive woman made it clear that she desired me for sex. I had to fight this urge for multiple nights. She even entered in my dreams, where she was more seductive than in person. To overcome my passion for her, I recited the Jesus Prayer hundreds of times, and stepped up my prayer rule. After eventually winning this particular battle, Satan has diminished his lustful attacks on me. He now tries to distance me from God through pride, which is a significantly more challenging battle to face than lust.

The goal here is to stop feeding the sexual thoughts that enter your mind instead of attempting to control your thoughts entirely. Sinful thoughts will decrease in frequency over time, but they will not be eliminated completely, because God did give us a sexual nature that is both useful and necessary within the confines of marriage. Beware: if you experience a long streak where no sexual thoughts are entering your mind, it may be an effort by Satan to make you complacent before he hits you with fury. Never proclaim ultimate victory over your passions until this life is finished.

4. Do not masturbate

Masturbation is so normalized in the culture that we think of it as natural as eating, but it’s actually a grotesque behavior. What happens when you witness a dog or cat humping an inanimate object? You probably think it’s funny, and take out your phone to record the scene so that you can share the laughter—in the form of that animal’s humiliation—with other people. It’s no different when you do it. Masturbation, if viewed from the outside in, is a humiliating and degrading act where we treat our bodies like a plastic doll for a moment of gratification that harms our relationship with God.

What’s even more harmful than masturbation is that it requires you to consume pornography, whether on a digital screen or through a fantasy in your mind. In either case, you hypnotize yourself with a scene that is not based in reality. The porn actresses, often a sex trafficking victim or a drug addict who ran away from home, moans in pleasure when she’s actually experiencing both physical and emotional pain. Her affection for the male actor is not real. The sexual images in your mind are also not real. In effect, you have to delude yourself in order to masturbate, a hint to its perversion. I therefore advise you to cease all masturbation without exception.

I know what you’re thinking: it’s impossible not to masturbate. It surely will be impossible if don’t follow the first three guidelines above. If you watch pornography, view women in a sexual way, and feed sexual thoughts that enter your mind instead of praying to Jesus for help, your prostate gland will be busy producing seminal fluid in anticipation of sex, creating a “backed-up” feeling that can even cause testicular pain. Refraining from masturbation will then seem like torture. However, if you faithfully follow the guidelines, and lean on God when you need help, He will help you achieve what you previously thought was impossible. Your body will quietly drain unused seminal fluid and semen faster than you can create it, and you will not experience any pain.

Conclusion

You will be tempted to make exceptions to what I’ve written above. You’ll think that just a little bit of porn won’t hurt you, or that masturbating once in a while is no big deal, or that checking out girls can’t be that bad because you’re “in control,” but I can tell you from experience that slipping just slightly opens the door just enough for Satan to flood your mind with filth. Once the camel’s head is in your boxer shorts, it’s inevitable that you’ll succumb.

I have not found a way to control the lust I have for women unless I go all the way. Otherwise, a small compromise in my willpower will lead to a full-blown crisis, and there I am, my tongue hanging out of my mouth, craving a promiscuous woman’s body. It’s either all or nothing, though when starting off, you can tackle one guideline at a time until you achieve full chastity.

Controlling your lust may be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do, because the path of least resistance is doing what most other men are doing: viewing women in predominately sexual terms, opening the door when a demon comes knocking with fantasies of sex, accessing Jewish-produced pornography as an aid to your dog-like behavior, and degrading the holy temple that is your body. Cease all those behaviors through willpower, prayer, and faith. If you really want to stop participating in sexual sin, God will help you, as He has helped me.

Read Next: 8 Personal Defects That Allowed Me To Worship Fornication For 18 Years

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Eternity Matters
7 months ago

Thanks for the outstanding post! This is a keeper.

“Beware: if you experience a long streak where no sexual thoughts are entering your mind, it may be an effort by Satan to make you complacent before he hits you with fury. Never proclaim ultimate victory over your passions until this life is finished.”

Absolutely. This passage is very helpful overall and the first verse is a sober reminder.

1 Corinthians 10:12–14 Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry.

boots
boots
7 months ago

Is there any science that backs this up, or is this a bunch of unbacked assertions?

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  boots

“Science” tells you to masturbate to avoid prostate cancer and heart attack.

OnlyByGrace
OnlyByGrace
7 months ago
Reply to  boots

Anecdotally, pretty much the same approach has freed me from the scourge of pornography. While I don’t say the exact same words as Roosh does in the Jesus Prayer, what I say is very similar. I typically say something like, “Father, please give me the grace of purity and chastity”, while recognizing in my heart my absolute need for Christ as a sinner. The spirit of dependence upon God’s grace and of repentance is far more important than the actual words.

Scientifically, there is evidence behind the power of prayer. From the book “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” by Joe Dispenza:

“In July 2000, Israeli doctor Leonard Leibovici conducted a double-blind, randomized controlled trial involving 3,393 hospital patients, divided into a control group and an ‘intercession’ group. He set out to see whether prayer could have an effect on their condition. Prayer experiments are great examples of mind affecting matter at a distance. But stay with me here, because everything is not always what it seems.

Leibovici selected patients who had suffered sepsis (an infection) while hospitalized. He randomly designated half the patients to have prayers said for them, while the other half were not prayed for. He compared the results in three categories: how long fever lasted, length of hospital stay, and how many died as a result of the infection.

The prayed-for benefited from an earlier decrease in fever and a shorter hospitalization time; the difference in the number of deaths among the prayed-for and not-prayed-for groups was not statistically significant, although better in the prayed-for group.

That’s a powerful demonstration of the benefits of prayer and how we can send an intention out into the quantum field through our thoughts and feelings. However, there’s one additional element to this story that you should know about. Did it strike you as slightly odd that in July 2000, a hospital would have more than 3,000 cases of infection at once? Was it a very poorly sterilized place, or was some kind of contagion running rampant?

Actually, those who were praying weren’t praying for patients who were infected in 2000. Instead, unbeknownst to them, they were praying for lists of people who had been in the hospital from 1990 to 1996—four to ten years prior to the experiment! The prayed-for patients actually got better during the 1990s from the experiment conducted years later. Let me say this another way: the patients who were prayed for in 2000 all showed measurable changes in health, but those changes took effect years before.

A statistical analysis of this experiment proved that these effects were far beyond coincidence.”

Here’s the study citation: Leibovici L. Effects of remote, retroactive intercessory prayer on outcomes in patients with bloodstream infection: randomised controlled trial. BMJ. 2001;323(7327):1450–1451. doi:10.1136/bmj.323.7327.1450

jdoeford
jdoeford
6 months ago
Reply to  OnlyByGrace

I admit I was unfamiliar with the Leibovici paper till I read your post, but I googled and according to this article Leibovici himself does not take the supposed results seriously: https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/the-ethics-of-joke-science

OnlyByGrace
OnlyByGrace
7 months ago
Reply to  boots

Here’s another scientific study on the power of prayer (this time with regards to alcohol consumption): “Invocations and Intoxication: Does Prayer Decrease Alcohol Consumption?”

Abstract: “Four methodologically diverse studies (N = 1,758) show that prayer frequency and alcohol consumption are negatively related. In Study 1 (n = 824), we used a cross-sectional design and found that higher prayer frequency was related to lower alcohol consumption and problematic drinking behavior. Study 2 (n = 702) used a longitudinal design and found that more frequent prayer at Time 1 predicted less alcohol consumption and problematic drinking behavior at Time 2, and this relationship held when controlling for baseline levels of drinking and prayer. In Study 3 (n = 117), we used an experimental design to test for a causal relationship between prayer frequency and alcohol consumption. Participants assigned to pray every day (either an undirected prayer or a prayer for a relationship partner) for 4 weeks drank about half as much alcohol at the conclusion of the study as control participants. Study 4 (n = 115) replicated the findings of Study 3, as prayer again reduced drinking by about half. These findings are discussed in terms of prayer as reducing drinking motives.”

Citation: Lambert, Nathaniel M., et al. “Invocations and intoxication: Does prayer decrease alcohol consumption?.” Psychology of addictive behaviors 24.2 (2010): 209.

Urizzi
Urizzi
7 months ago
Reply to  boots

Enough with the f–kin’ “science” already. It is holy, sacred, wonderful “science” that has lead us to this predicament. I care not in the slightest for any further science!

DipstickRick
DipstickRick
5 months ago
Reply to  Urizzi

Amen brother, it’s science that teaches our children evolution.

Lothario
Lothario
7 months ago

These “strategies” were written about at length in the nu-old christian classic, “Every Man’s Battle”. Most modern churches go to great lengths to provide structure and space for men to deal with their sexual shame and sin. Despite all of that, the church’s divorce rate and intersexual patterns in general look no different than “the world” the church claims to be separated and sanctified from. Watch for the results, not the methodology. Watch what they do, not what they say.

The redpill and truth about women caused my lustful thirst to become focused to the point where the aforementioned type of christian groups would look at me today and say, “that man has sexual control”. Religion couldn’t do it. The redpill did.

Don’t forget where you came from, Roosh.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  Lothario

Well said.

jamesjamesjames
jamesjamesjames
7 months ago

Wutch yall think bout if da “hot grill” be mah teachah, and I gotsta look at her from da sittin down position so I cant block out da neck down since she be standin up? Whatch yall think bout circumsision yo? Maybe I tell her “HO SIT DOWN!”. Prolly wut st paul would do.

MCG00
MCG00
7 months ago

You seem a bit tongue tied but ye be forgiven. I’m commenting because you mention circumcision. Islamists justify circumcision that it inhibits masturbation. But it also inhibits your ability to control a woman. Chopped at birth, a whacked man grows up to be a whipped man, never the master of his own house but the other way around. With the handicap of circumcision, Muslim men can go to the extremes keeping their women in order. That is why they so quickly sink into western ways of women’s liberation when exposed. While the Amish continued with zero divorce rate in the 70s, Iraqi women were wearing mini skirts like they saw in the slick magazines.

If circumcised, realize you have a handicap. Even if the covenant of circumcision were ended today, it would take God himself coming down from the heavens to teach the new generation of ‘whole’ men things that their circumcised fathers could never know or grasp. How can a chopped father teach his son to wield such a rod of power over his shebeast when 90% of the nerve communication between his reproductive delivery system and brain HAVE BEEN SEVERED??

And when I say the new generation of ‘whole’ men I mean ‘whole’ like Adam. A truly strong man born whole and remaining so has achieved the ultimate discipline when he properly brings his shebeasts to heel and keeps his clan and tribe as per the ordinances set by the supreme patriarch of all GOD.

John
John
7 months ago
Reply to  MCG00

Circumcision rates are extremely low in Europe but rates of divorce and infidelity are relatively high. I certainly won’t argue against the notion that circumcision is harmful but I don’t think it influences intergender dynamics nearly as much as you’re suggesting here.

Vision
Vision
7 months ago

And also we should not eat too much. Half of our stonach should be empty. Avoiding meat and spicy food that awake our carnal instict.

Vision
Vision
7 months ago

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.
The problem with this prayer is that you repeat that you are a sinner. And god will maintain your will to stay a sinner.
So i would better say something like
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God make me as pure as you.
Because the the finallity is the union with god not to reamain sinner.
Sorry for my english i m french!

Justuseful
Justuseful
7 months ago
Reply to  Roosh

Matthew 6: 5-6 New International Version (NIV)
5.When you pray, don’t be like hypocrites, because they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the squares for people to see. I assure you that they have already obtained their full reward. 6. But you, when you start praying, enter your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is in secret. Thus your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  Roosh

“I’ll pass it on to all the Orthodox Saints in heaven that they taught the Jesus Prayer incorrectly and that a commenter on my blog figured out what they were doing wrong.”

Sarcasm noted—not very Christian answer, Roosh.

First if all, the prayer in question (“Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner.”) was written by a human being, and the poster (Vision) was just merely making a point that he does not want to be forever a sinner, and be getting closer to Jesus. What is wrong with that? Is being a Christian supposed to be about feeling guilty all the time simply for being alive? This is what will make people run, not walk away from the church.

Like I said before, you should keep an eye on how you act towards others if you have a message to spread, because it is an important message, and you need to not become one of those self righteous types we all see to much of in Christianity today.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Banner

Saints and Church Fathers used irony from time to time, so nothing wrong with Roosh’ answer. As long as we breath we are capable of sinning. The prayer is not meant to instill guilt but humility.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  Radu

“The prayer is not meant to instill guilt but humility”

Yet installs guilt NOT humility. In essence, it fails. I’ve spoken to many who have left the Church and they cite this very reason. Just because something is meant to achieve a desired outcome, doesn’t mean it does.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Banner

It is not the only prayer one can read or say. Saint Teophan the Recluse recommends to use those Orthodox prayers which bring confort. For example if one likes a line from a Psalm he should say it.

Thomas
Thomas
6 months ago
Reply to  Banner

The Jesus prayer is scripture.
Luke 18:13 King James Version (KJV)

13 And the publican, standing afar off, would not lift up so much as his eyes unto heaven, but smote upon his breast, saying, God be merciful to me a sinner.

Jesus Christ is God the Son and Lord. So saying “Lord Jesus Christ Son of God, have mercy on me, the sinner.” is quoting scripture.

Fren
Fren
7 months ago
Reply to  Roosh

Roosh, reply with kindness and understanding. This person is “sh!t testing” you as a Christian. Pass the test by responding with kindness instead of snark and sarcasm.

Omar
Omar
7 months ago
Reply to  Roosh

I am a muslim. In the Quran there is a verse saying “dont go near to zina”. Which is very similar to the message of your article. Do not even entertain a small thought.
Also i agree with Vision. The prayer taught to you may not be wrong, but it may be poorly translated. English is a poor language for translation of semitic languages. It doesnt translate arabic or hebrew well and the bible english is approximated. You know better than me i am sure. Just that maybe you would want to check the original language to check whether its translated properly.
I remember verses in the Quran about asking for forgiveness, its always in the past tense. I.e i have sinned, so forgive me. It may seem trivial but i do see how people can find faults with the prayer.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Omar

There’s nothing wrong with the translation, it is the same in all languages. There are other prayers one can recite and even this one can be used in a short version, Lord, have mercy on me.

Eternity Matters
7 months ago
Reply to  Vision

I’m pretty sure the prayer came from this passage, where Jesus is contrasting the pride of the Pharisees with the humility of the tax collector: Luke 18:13 But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’

Thomas
Thomas
6 months ago

It is. It is quoting scripture. Saying “Lord Jesus Christ Son of God” is expounding on “God” in the verse. This is how the Orthodox use scripture. It’s not the letter but the Spirit. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me the sinner” has the same meaning as “God Be merciful to me, a sinner.” God bless.

Justuseful
Justuseful
7 months ago
Reply to  Vision

Mental ascetism. Control of thoughts, by will. You don´t need to pray each time, just like a fly that is stubborn to you while you are doing something, just ignore it and change thought , think positive.

dd4567
dd4567
7 months ago
Reply to  Vision

The problem with this prayer is that you repeat that you are a sinner. And god will maintain your will to stay a sinner.
So i would better say something like
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God make me as pure as you.

You are always a sinner, no matter what, until the day you die. We as humans are by nature impure. To say “make me as pure as you” is not only impossible, but heretical. Our soul cannot be free from sin until we are one with God in heaven.

John
John
7 months ago

“When I watched the horrible final season of Game Of Thrones…”

I remember checking out “Game Of Thrones” once on an airplane flight. Watched 5 minutes of it to see what it was about because it was so popular. Got bored and annoyed immediately and turned it off. Same thing with “Lord Of The Rings” and “Star Wars” etc. I just can’t stand this unrealistic entertainment garbage. The old James Bond movies were entertaining, at least somewhat funny. The new ones are completely unwatchable. Full of propaganda, brainwashing, BS. Hollywood is an insult to anyone with an IQ above average. Haven’t been to a cinema in at least 8 years if not more. There just isn’t anything out there that I find exciting or thoughtful.

Read a book. Watch a good documentary. Work out. Take a walk. Work on your business. Travel. Whatever. But consuming mainstream entertainment is a complete waste of time and energy. On top of it you might even be subconciously contaminating your brain with propaganda. Think about it, you’re paying for your own indoctrination and corruption. You’re paying with your own time, money, energy, lifetime, long-term happiness. Paying people like Harvey Weinstein. Think about it.

taochange
taochange
7 months ago
Reply to  John

This was an epic answer and well said. I used to get down on myself about the fact that I had wasted so many Years of my life consuming movies and television. I realize now that I’m free and learning what I thought was set in stone is not with consuming pickup material. I don’t think all pickup material is bad and its not like you CANNOT start a relationship with a girl you pickup. I’m sure the new Roosh would disagree, if anyone has an article on why I’m wrong then please enlighten. I’ve learned to let go of the past some and realize that I can’t go back in time and feeling shame, stress or anxiety etc over what I should of, could of, or didn’t do is a waste of time. However what you said says it all, I can switch gears from pickup to money and then other skills and hobbies and next thing you know. In just a few years, I can be more successful than 90% of Americans that might have been born with better looks or more opportunities etc. I’m saying this at ripe age of about to turn 38. Imagine younger men realizing this. Maybe there is hope after all if enough young good men learn moral values as well as what you wrote. I honestly think my small amount of media brainwashing from Netflix and a few other things may have ended a fairly descent marriage at least compared to most now in America.

Michael
Michael
7 months ago

Exactly what I needed to hear.
Thanks for the post.

rokpr
rokpr
7 months ago

Wishfull thinking. This doesn´t work!!!!!! If this worked you would have found a girlfriend before engaging on the path of fuckery. Women are women. They are not some angel set on earth without faults. They have good things and bad things.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  rokpr

“Women are women. They are not some angel set on earth without faults. They have good things and bad things”

Indeed. I wished could have realized this decades ago.

taochange
taochange
7 months ago
Reply to  Banner

yeah, I need to find some of Roosh’s old material or do you think the other stuff out there is better?

conservative2019
conservative2019
7 months ago

Roosh, your world view swings from extreme to extreme. Why don’t you chill out, find a good girl, get married and have some kids like regular people do?

Chris
Chris
7 months ago

Preaching moderation doesn’t sell or earn readers like living on the extremes. And neither extreme will get any man a good woman and meaningful relationship.

conservative2019
conservative2019
7 months ago
Reply to  Chris

Chris, thanks for the comment. It seems to me that Roosh actually tries to live out the extremes he preaches, but your point is well taken. Before the flip, Roosh had books and merchandise to sell. I am not sure how he can monetize the new religious version. His life reminds me of Tommy in The Who’s famous rock opera.

kevm3
kevm3
7 months ago

Being a follower of Jesus is anything but ‘being regular’ and if there is no distinction between you and those of the ‘world’, then you aren’t of God. True Christianity is ‘extreme’.

Matt
Matt
7 months ago

Meditation will accomplish all of the above effortlessly.

Meditation totally disolves lust. I spent years on nofap painfully fighting lust. But once I meditated every day for 8 weeks and it suddenly occured to me that not once in those 8 weeks did I jerk off. I wasn’t even aiming for a nofap streak. But I don’t even remember having an erection during that time. Pornographic imagery just bounced off my psyche without effect. It was the smoothest and easiest nofap run I ever did.

Jesus said my yoke is easy and my burden is light. This is precisely what meditation does–the feeling of being light and walking on water while the storm rages.

Prayer and meditation are not incompatible or at odds. In the gospels there are many references to Jesus meditating. Meditation enhances and magnifies prayer by first stripping all the material obfuscations off your psyche. Anything less and you are in no position to be addressing God because your mind will be corrupted and blocked by material fixations.

Meditating purifies the your soul. Do it every day and you will become a vessel of God’s perfect will.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Matt

Yeah, right, meditate yourself into nothingness. There is a huge difference between meditation and prayer, the latter makes you whole. The former increases your ego.

Matt
Matt
7 months ago
Reply to  Radu

Why do you have an opinion on something you’ve never experienced?

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Matt

Unfortunately, I experienced meditation. Now I’m having difficulties in praying the right way. The devil won’t let go that easy.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  Radu

“Unfortunately, I experienced meditation. Now I’m having difficulties in praying the right way”

That’s your problem, not ours. If prayer and meditation conflicts with you, then don’t do it. There are those who meditate on Christ’s and his message—and that works out fine for them.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Banner

I was scolded for not speaking from experience and now you scold me I do. I must have got it wrong, thought meditation was meant as an far east practice, which I oppose. The kind of meditation you mean is common and it is fine.

Matt
Matt
7 months ago
Reply to  Radu

You need to be more specific with what you mean by meditation.
And meditation is an Indo-European practice originating from the Vedic culture that the ancient Aryans created in India. From there Vedic concepts such as karma, dharma, and reincarnation spread to the far east. In fact, reincarnation is even in the gospels. Jesus makes it very clear that John the Baptist was Elijah reincarnated.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Matt

Here’s refutation of the idea that the Bible supports reincarnation. John is Elijah in spirit, not in body. https://www.scribd.com/doc/48422435/The-Orthodox-refutation-of-the-Reincarnation-concept

Matt
Matt
7 months ago
Reply to  Radu

I’ve read these refutations, and it all boils down to semantics–the last refuge of pseudo-intellectuals. But I have also read the arguments in favour of reincarnation reference Elijah. And I find these latter arguments far more convincing. John the Baptist was Elijah reincarnated.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Matt

No, he was not. And you have not read that refutation.

Radu
Radu
7 months ago
Reply to  Matt

Elias should have died first so he could be reincarnated, but therevis no such reference in the Bible that he died, on the contrary, in IV Kings 2,11 he was taken up in to skies in a chariot of fire. Assuming he was reincarnated as John the Baptist, it means that on Tabor mountain, before His 3 desciples, when Christ’s transfiguration occured, they should have seen John the Baptist beside Moses, not Elija.
Christ said of John the Baptist as being Elija in the sense he has the talent of prophecy and the power to preach the truth.
Other interpretations are devil inspired.
If reincarnation is true Christ’s dying on the cross is meaningless. We do not need Him to save us as long as we can be reborn again and again as a way to purity and salvation.

Big balls
Big balls
7 months ago

Roosh, are you a believer in the no fap trend? Or is that just a cope?

Boi
Boi
7 months ago

This writing is so true. It is indeed necessary to cease from feeding the flames of lust. Althought its hard.

Eli
Eli
7 months ago

“Once the camel’s head is in your boxer shorts, it’s inevitable that you’ll succumb.”

If I had a camel head in my shorts, I can assure you I would not succumb. How the heck is that sexy?

With all due respect Roosh, you are also on your way to becoming a judgemental funadamentalist. It pains me to have to say this as I have admired you for years, and still do. I know you do not think you are, because nobody becomes a fundamentalist overnight. But there are subtle hints even in your video tour of the usa where you come across as being someone who criticizes those who do not think like you.

Also, for some of us it is much easier to get rid / greatly minimize lust. I think your advice is good for a true sex addict, but not for me. My lust for women dropped greatly over time the more I interacted with them. They dress gross, they multilate themselves with piercings, many get fat, tatoos, and über haughty attitude accompanied with dysfunctional behavior. All that, plus one just need see how they act with their social media. They are resource driven animals who truly do not give a fuck about men unless men provide money, fame or drugs or whatever. They are what they are and that is their true nature.

It is practically a contemporary adage now that when a females become old and fat with bastard kids in tow they become nice; but guess what? Who cares at that point. Old women are not women, IMHO, they’re just past-their-prime zombies. Some of them have come to their senses and behave accordingly, but no amount of contrition on their part would make any difference for me due to the absence of their youthful bodies which as a man, I require when I spend time with any female.

I’m sure I’m not the only man whose lust for today’s women naturally dropped due to women simply being women. Every thing is cause and effect, and I think my drop in lust is simply the effect.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago

“Once the camel’s head is in your boxer shorts, it’s inevitable that you’ll succumb.”

If I had a camel head in my shorts, I can assure you I would not succumb. How the heck is that sexy?

With all due respect Roosh, you seem to be on your way to becoming a judgemental fundamentalist. It pains me to have to say this as I have admired you for years, and still do. Nobody becomes a fundamentalist overnight, but there are subtle hints in your video tour of the usa where you come across as being someone who criticizes those who do not think like you.

Also, for some of us it is much easier to control one’s lust. I think your advice is good for a true sex addict, but not for me. My lust for women was much easier to contain over time the more I interacted with them. They dress gross, they multilate themselves with piercings, many get fat, tatoos, and have a über haughty attitude accompanied with dysfunctional behavior. All that, plus one just need see how they act with their social media. They are resource driven animals who truly do not care for men unless men provide money, fame or drugs or whatever. I’m not judging—I’m simply stating that they are what they are and that is their true nature.

It is practically a contemporary adage now that when females become old and fat with illegitimate kids in tow they become nice and looking for Mr. Nice; but guess what? As a man I don’t care at that point. Old women are not women, IMHO, they’re just past-their-prime zombies. Some of these zombies do come to their senses and behave accordingly, but no amount of contrition on their part would make any difference for me due to the absence of their youthful bodies and pretty faces which as a man, I require when I spend time with any female—even if I’m just having coffee with them.

I’m sure I’m not the only man whose lust for today’s women became easy to control due to women simply being women. Every thing is cause and effect, and my control is not even control, but rather a genuine disinterest in something that is callously indifferent to me.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  Banner

Ps – somebody copied and pasted my post.

Banner
Banner
7 months ago
Reply to  Banner

Agreed. It is easy to control lust these days for today’s “women”.

Daniela
Daniela
7 months ago

My man, you are a Jehu spirit. God Bless you fellow soldier in Christ. I feel so happy for this article. I’m battling porn addiction, and I also wasted my prime years because of it. However, I believe God will Bless you immensely regardless of this fact. Warm hug!

Lizzie McGuire
Lizzie McGuire
7 months ago

Roosh a lot of what you say is what some women have been crazy and dramatic for bringing up to our boyfriends. I have an hour glass figure and wearing a sweater wear you can see the shape of my breasts or a pencil skirt. It bothers me because I like those clothes. I like to be stylish and I feel I look pretty and sophisticated in those clothes, they are not short or low cut but you can clearly see the outline of my body and it bothers me that guys gawk at me, even in front of their wives. They stare at me up and down and I had a coworker thank me for wearing a pencil skirt. I told him to stay away from me and don’t wear those outfits anymore but I just wish more guys would look at women from the neck up so I could go back to wearing clothes (not bikini or yoga pants or bodycon dresses) without feeling like a lust object.

Lizzie McGuire
Lizzie McGuire
7 months ago
Reply to  Roosh

Ok, Roosh. Thank you for your response.

Kitty Tantrum
7 months ago
Reply to  Lizzie McGuire

Lizzie: the problem here is that what is “stylish” is established by an industry which specifically and pretty much exclusively derives its profits from the overt sexualization of the female form. You’ve been programmed via marketing to see these clothes as “sophisticated” – but they are designed to be SEXY. They can really only be considered sophisticated in the sense that they are highly sophisticated tools of sexual arousal.

Once you really turn a critical eye on the fashion world, it’s obvious: it’s nearly impossible to find an article of women’s clothing in a major retail store in the US that 1) IS feminine, AND 2) isn’t designed to sex you up somehow.

It might have a high neckline – but it’s going to either be very form-fitting, or it will have big gaping “cutouts” in it somewhere (shoulders, arms, back, legs, etc.) to show as much skin as possible.

It might be a long dress or skirt, but it’s going to have a slit allllll the way up to the point where you can’t walk through a gentle breeze without at least showing off your inner thighs. Or it hugs the hips and emphasizes the shape of the buttocks.

As you’ve learned, pencil skirts are VERY good at emphasizing the nuances of the pelvic area even while completely covering it – hence, they drive a lot of guys crazy.

SOPHISTICATED: “having a refined knowledge of the ways of the world cultivated especially through wide experience.”

Allow your experiences to teach you the difference between sophisticated and sexy. If you wear clothes that emphasize your hips and breasts, that is where people will look – and feigning naivety in this regard (“I just think it’s cute/classy, why won’t men stop lusting after me?!”) is unbecoming.

In my experience, there are a handful of places where it REALLY makes sense for clothes to be well-fitted and not baggy: shoulders/overbust, arms, underbust/natural waistline. And IF I’m going to wear pants, they need to be “anchored” somewhere near the level of my hip bones (but should be relaxed through the legs – and I honestly don’t recommend pants for women ever).

The old fashioned “fit and flare” style of dress is my personal favorite – although a lot of modern options are still tarted up a bit (plunging necklines, no sleeves, keyholes, cutouts, criss-cross “strappy” nonsense, etc.).

My personal standard is:
– shoulders and underarms stay covered.
– no exposed cleavage or midriff.
– hemline just above knee or longer.
– relaxed/flared fit below the waistline.
– relaxed fit through bust.

I struggle with bustlines myself because I have small shoulders; if I fit a dress to my shoulders so it doesn’t gap open at the neckline, it’s usually a bit tight through the bust. That’s where cardigans come into play.

How you dress absolutely sets the tone for how people view and interact with you. Once upon a time, I got a lot of lustful stares and comments myself. I gradually changed the way I dress, and these days I still get a lot of compliments – but it’s things like “I love your hat,” or “that’s a beautiful dress.” Men still look at me, but they look at me differently.

Be a strange and beautiful flower; not a tightly-wrapped piece of meat.

Lizzie McGuire
Lizzie McGuire
7 months ago
Reply to  Kitty Tantrum

Thanks Kitty, I really appreciate this advice. Do you have any amazon links to dresses that are still girly and cute but not lustful?

Kitty Tantrum
7 months ago
Reply to  Lizzie McGuire

Lizzie: it’s a lot harder than it should be to find examples. It really does seem like some kind of industrial conspiracy – the nice fabrics and pretty detail-work are almost exclusively reserved for the slutty clothes, while the more modest options seem DELIBERATELY designed to be ugly, plain, overly-casual looking, etc. And usually polyester, which I hate. But here are a few examples I managed to find (can’t vouch for the quality of the materials, but the STYLES are overall good – cute, feminine, reasonably modest):

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07J1XCTSH/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_f1UuEbVNQVRJK
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QK6ZCM5/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_UTUuEbHWSY6JB
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07NBMY2MQ/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_W1UuEb2EA3CQP
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QNJTJ8H/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_2XUuEbHRJKSMQ
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R8C1L9K/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_rRUuEbMKVHBXT
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07QP9GZ5Q/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_U_x_IXUuEbJDQJ576

(That last one is actually a little risque for me, since I’m pretty sure the underarms would be exposed if I lifted my arms over my head while wearing it – I probably wouldn’t wear it, but I also don’t really think it’s slutty or terribly immodest.)

Kitty Tantrum
7 months ago
Reply to  Kitty Tantrum

Someday I’ll suck it up and start my own clothing brand for cute modest dresses that don’t suck and aren’t made of plastic. I’ve already got most of the designs worked out. Just gimme like… ten years to finish raising my kids. And then someone has to remind me or I’ll forget to do it. D:

raze
raze
7 months ago

Roosh this advice is awful.

1) These tactics won’t work for anyone else. Your sexual temptation is limited because you’ve had sex so much your rational mind understands it doesn’t make you happy. Expecting other men to know this is like expecting a kid to resist candy like an adult who has many diets under his belt. Prayer only works for you because you have such a strong emotional connection to it since you found religion recently under strong durress.

2) Meditation/witnessing/meditative breathing is far more effective. If you resist sexual thoughts that doesn’t stop you from having them, you just shove them down and they eventually explode and you lose control. Some form of meditation, where you just sit with the feeling and let it stay until it natural goes away, would actually work. Or meditation that focuses on not thinking by focusing on something else.

3) You don’t need porn to masturbate. Thoughts in your head are not porn. Pick up artists advocate for quitting porn and masturbation because of how much it increases energy and sexual thoughts for game motivation. Your advice is essentially do things that increase sex drive exponentially but also don’t think about sex at all.

You’re seriously asking men to not think about sex, not consume porn, not masturbate, and not even watch passionate scenes in pg-13 movies. That won’t work, your mind will naturally reset until you become turned on be even the most mild stimulus as much as whatever turns you on now does. After a while of this a scantily clad girl in some tv ad will pop up infront of you and you’ll nut in your pants. Resisting emotions doesn’t dismiss them, they just go into your subconscious and eventually come back in a surge later but not completely uncontrollable. You could end up marrying the first person you have a chance with without thinking it through because you’re so horny.

big balls
big balls
7 months ago
Reply to  raze

Models: Looks don’t matter
Millionaires: Money Doesn’t Matter
Former Playboys: Sex doesn’t matter

Jerry
Jerry
7 months ago
Reply to  raze

He is right I have been punting around the world. Right now I am in Germany the quality of women you find here to punt is incredible I am shagging young hot birds everyday 🙂 and its cheap too. Respect to you Roosh for commiting himself. I have punted over 500 women yet i want more.

Andie G
Andie G
6 months ago
Reply to  Jerry

I doubt anyone who uses ‘punted’ instead of plainly saying ‘had sex’ had much of it if at all. This screams immaturity. Also, Germany my dude, if that’a what you are indeed, is a cesspool of nasty debauchery with sjw females that look and behave like men. Againx trouble believing it is the Mecca of sex you make it to be.

Stub
Stub
7 months ago

Great piece!

Palamas
Palamas
7 months ago

About Point Number 3 about not feeding sexual thoughts that arise:

Check out “Orthodox Psychotherapy” by Metropolitan Ierotheos Vlahos. There is an ancient methodology for dealing with “logismoi”, or verbal mental forms. Ideally, you are connected to the Church through the Mysteries and to a spiritual father as you deal with these things, but, with some discipline, any man can become adept at becoming impervious to mind controls of various kinds. Peace.

farmlegend
farmlegend
7 months ago

Well done, Roosh. Best thing I’ve read in a long while, and I read a lot, my brother.

Finn
Finn
7 months ago

Hm, is Roosh alluding to actual biology and anatomy vis-a-vis that backed up fluid part? He could be for all I know. Seems right in experience.

Georgios Barbosa
Georgios Barbosa
7 months ago

Great tips, especially to only look at the face.

renoir
renoir
7 months ago

Last year, I unfollowed almost every Instagram thot on my account. Today, I unfollowed the remaining three. I am going to avoid sexually charged images of women for Lent.

Heralds of the gospel
Heralds of the gospel
7 months ago

There is also an extremely effective and powerful weapon against lust and pretty much any vice or addiction: the rosary. Recite it completely and while you pray the hail Mary meditate on the passion of Christ. Satan cannot stand Mary, if you add to that a special devotion to Mary and her immaculate heart it will be very hard or even impossible for the devil to touch you. Also, another thing that will protect you greatly, being in a state of grace and daily communion. There are also saints that demons particularly hate, such as fr. Pio, saint John Paul II, Saint Anthony of the desert, saint Miguel, saint Bento. The use of sacramentals, such as holy water, the scapular, the miraculous medal. All these are extremely powerful ways and tools that Jesus has given us for our protection and conversion. The help you to achieve a humble heart and contrite heart, humiliated before God essentially gets you closer and closer to Jesus and repel evil and conquer sin.