A cold streak is inevitable in any player’s career. He’s going to hit a patch where the game that was effective for him seems to be now shooting blanks. He may even feel that nothing at all is working. He ramps up his effort in order to compensate but it just increases the bad interactions and flakes he receives, souring his mood and making him more unattractive to women. Though he’s ready to make changes to his game to increase his results, there’s no way for him to be sure of what he’s doing wrong. It’s even worse for a newbie in the game because he doesn’t even know what good game is. Both men may feel stuck in solving their problem.
Diagnosing bad game is tough for two reasons. First, you will never know for certain exactly what you’re doing wrong because women are not honest in their dealings with you. Even if you get a girl to tell you why she doesn’t like you, her answer isn’t accurate since it’s unlikely she knows the conscious reasons. For example, she will state that a guy was “boring” when it was really an attraction problem. Second, game problems can’t be diagnosed objectively like a medical problem. If you have an illness, a doctor can run a blood test or MRI to conclusively show the defect, but this is impossible with game, especially when you consider that you are executing hundreds of different variables to a woman from a short interaction. Unless you’re a newbie, it’s rare that you failed on a woman because of one bad feature—it was likely from a combination of issues.
One common and fast way to find out why your game is bad is to ask a man to look at it. Since you never talk to women with a mirror nearby, he can quickly identify appearance or body language problems, but when it comes to critiquing the verbal content of your game, that guy is operating from a subjective view on how game should be. He has a single method of getting laid that he believes is the best way, and so he will give you advice that makes you operate more like him. If his game is highly specific to himself—his appearance, his personality, his energy—his advice may actually worsen your game instead of improve it.
It turns out that diagnosing your own game problem is like an auto mechanic fixing a car in the dark. You have a general idea of the parts and where things should be, but can’t see the detail that is crucial for fixing the machine. Men who have had success in the past but are now in a deep slump must be especially careful not to replace parts without proper lighting, because it’s possible to wreck the whole car.
There are two things to keep in mind when fixing your current game problem:
1. Analyze your past successes. Meditate on your past hookups and identify the things that happened. How did you meet her? What was the initial conversation like? What indicators of interest did she put out? What were the parts of your game that she responded exceedingly well to? What was the first date like? Try to find repeated behaviors or lines you did that seemed to contribute to the success, and continue to do them in the midst of your slump. Even newbies in the game who do 100 approaches blind will have a handful of small successes within that data set to being pulling out things that work.
2. Make two or three changes at a time and collect data. If you’re failing to get numbers from women, the problem is that you’re not building enough attraction. What new routine or move can you try for the next 15 approaches that can change that result? If you’re getting a lot of flakes, the problem can be either not enough attraction or not enough comfort. What new routine or move can you do which increases a girls curiosity and makes her want to know more about you? Take a guess at what you’re doing wrong and try something that may resolve it in your subsequent approaches. Does it resolve or not? If not, try something else. Only change a couple things at a time while keeping the other parts of your game the same. You will easily be able to remove the changes and go backwards if they don’t work.
Game problems and slumps are never fun, especially when you’re not getting laid, but these are actually the only times that you’re game will improve because you’re forced to experiment with new techniques that you wouldn’t have otherwise tried if you were receiving sex. You’re required to deeply analyze your game and swap all the parts that just aren’t working with new parts that are. Once the machine is out of the shop, you will go on to experience success for a period of time until the next inevitable slump when you feel like you’re back to square one again.
Such is the nature of game—cycles of success and failure. No man is immune from it. If you consider that you are changing every day, and the environment we live in is changing every day, it would only make sense that the game you used last year would not receive the same response today. Your game must constantly change and be refreshed if you want your results to remain high, which is why you’ll never be able to rest forever on what you know now. You’ll always have to examine underneath the hood and replace the parts that aren’t working as well as they were before.
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