How To Pick Up Girls For Real

I can’t tell you how important not giving a shit is. I never met a successful player who cared. The only problem is it’s hard to fake.

Never, ever covet another guy’s girl. You have no idea what he had to go through to get or not get what he is getting.

If you don’t have a method to screen girls, you’re wasting your time.

They’re always more interesting and beautiful before sex. Fantasizing about her before sex will do you no good.

Ice cream dates are cute and sometimes fun, but if you’re going for speed, always get drinks. Just one drink increases the chance of getting laid by at least 50%. Alcohol is sex fuel, whether you like it or not.

Approaching is just one way to get laid, but the one where all you need is the clothes on your back. Always keep your eyes and ears open.

If you can’t close, you’re an entertainer.

You’re not living up to your potential. If you are not approaching at least ten girls a week, you never will.

There’s a girl you like in the bar. What’s your line? If you don’t have one then get one.

Don’t go out if you’re in a bad mood. You’re wasting your time and the girl’s.

You should never compliment a girl, until that time your brain tells you that complimenting her will you in her pants faster. It may take a while for that to happen.

The better you get, the less new notches you get. Your rolodex becomes huge. Sex on demand is all it’s cracked up to be.

If you want average, plain girls, then fit in and go along with current hot trends.

You should be able to talk for hours without stopping. If a crowd wouldn’t form, you’re not interesting. There’s ways to become interesting, but it’s probably not by what you’re doing now.

You don’t need a car, a job, a place, or money to fuck above-average girls. I’m fascinated that some girls have a type that can be described as unemployed but interesting bum.

If there is a possibility you are meeting up with a chick, take two condoms. If not, take one. If you leave your house and forgot a condom, turn back.

There is something you need to fix if there is a girl you are very attracted to but your feet don’t start moving in her direction.

There has to be a moment in the interaction where you think you might lose her, and vice versa. Not caring if things go wrong is attractive.

It’s easier to peel a banana from the bottom than the top.

You have up to a week before you things will go stale. After that it’s probably done.

If you see a guy with a hot girl, it wouldn’t hurt to watch him for a couple seconds. You may notice something.

Be like the soap opera. Master the art of drama and girls will keep tuning in.

Anger is either a huge turn-off or strong aphrodisiac, depending on when and how you show it.

Some girls decide within 3 seconds if she wants to have sex with you. And it’s not only based on your looks. Your stories, experiences, and attitude are broadcasted (or not) as you move through the world.

You must have standards. They can be low but there has be situations where you say, “No I’m not doing it.” In the long run being selective rewards you with more.

You don’t have to dance if you don’t want to, but it sure makes things move a lot faster.

I generally don’t take pictures of girls I like before I get them. I think it sends the wrong message.

If every girl liked the type of guys seen in GQ and Details, the guys you are trying to emulate, I would never get laid.

Once a girl gives up hope that you will get into a relationship with her, she’ll let you fuck her without having to put in any effort.

You’re only as good as your last approach.

Some nights girls throw themselves at you, while other nights you can’t get a beast to give you eye contact. Not everything can be logically explained. Consistency is the hardest part of game.

It’s a pretty good sign when a girl asks you to take her number, but it doesn’t mean you’re guaranteed to get anything. There are no guarantees in pick-up, and you’ll be surprised at the girls who do come through.

Always let a girl ask you for your name first.

Your goal should always be at least a make-out, and never the number.

Being a risk-taker or adventurer seems to make up for lack of money or status.

If I’m lazy I like to wait for girls to give me eye contact before approaching. I usually go home empty handed when I’m lazy.

Her friends absolutely hate you, and will do everything in their power, during and after the pick up, to make sure you don’t get it. Having a cool wingman is the only thing that helps.

Girls say I have nice hair, but I wash it once a week… with conditioner. I don’t remember the last time I used shampoo. If a girl likes you and isn’t sure why, she’ll rationalize all sorts of amusing bullshit.

Your game will never stop changing. I remember when I used to grind on girls and dance more than I talked, when I used to pick up girls in clubs and fail miserably in bars. When your game changes, so should your venue selection, or your results will go down.

Don’t jerk off before you go out.

The best way to get her to stop is to gently grab her forearm.

The less educated she is, the more direct you can be. The more educated you are, the harder it is to believe that game works.

I don’t know if I give girls orgasms or not because I never ask. The more I care, the less likely there will be a repeat.

You should have a staple of quick one-liners that make most girls laugh. If you don’t have tested material then you’re just going by luck.

It’s easier to pick up when you are the exotic one. If you look around and all the guys look like you, you might want to try somewhere else.

Some women don’t know how to flirt, so when they insult you or give you advice they are trying to show affection. It’s up to you whether you find that acceptable.

Witty girls who like the back-and-forth banter get old really fast. Sexy and feminine girls never get old.

You’ll bounce back if you care enough.

You may naturally evolve to the point where the more interest you show in a girl, the more she likes you, even though before she’d run away.

Sometimes the best way to get into a girl’s place is to say nothing and just follow her in.

You should have a plan for the most frequent situations, whether it’s approaching, comebacks to common questions, asking girls on dates, getting into the bedroom, and so on. Already know what you’re going to do before you do it.

If you’re running out of things to say, either hang out with a player or read a book.

It’s a myth to think of a certain girl as “end game.” You just age, get tired, and pick one.

I regret I didn’t try harder to get more naked pictures and video. You won’t know unless you ask.

There will be some really bad days, where nothing seems to go right and you forget things you mastered before. It’s okay to beat yourself up about it every now and then.

No guy gets their dream girl, unfortunately. How can she be your dream if you can get her?

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Jay Gatsby
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Good advice Roosh.

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“You must have standards. They can be low but there has be situations where you say, “No I’m not doing it.” In the long run being selective rewards you with more.”

Hmmm I only have standards when I’m not drinking for some reason. I don’t know why that is. It’s like when I’m drunk I ask myself, “where the trannyies be at?”

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whoa, hell of a way to start the day. red pill, blue pill…

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Pearls of PUA wisdom there.

Nice work Roosh.

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When I started out and had trouble getting over being snubbed, I just told myself: “The most important approach is the next approach.”

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“Some girls decide within 3 seconds if she wants to have sex with you. And it’s not only based on your looks. Your stories, experiences, and attitude are broadcasted (or not) as you move through the world.”

This is true to a point. It varies. I could meet a plain guy that I don’t look at twice, as soon as something about him perks my interest (guitar player, traveler, etc.) then I’ll instantly give him my attention and he’ll have another chance.

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Years worth of wisdom in a single post, but it was the journey, not the end, that makes it worthwhile I imagine.

And of course the usual trolls will find fault with every sentence.

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It’s a myth to think of a certain girl as “end game.” You just age, get tired, and pick one.

There has to be a solution to losing ones energy and eventually just settling on a girl. We can still be incredibly fit and energetic at 40, yet every guy seems to start panicking around 29-30.

There has to be a way to break the mold and do it without becoming a really creepy guy who still hits on 19 year olds.

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i just came over. we must be on the same wavelength.

this is a strong post of maxims. nothing to argue with here.

Anger is either a huge turn-off or strong aphrodisiac, depending on when and how you show it.

true. the best time to show anger is when she least expects it. when she does something that makes you mad, first lull her into a false sense of serenity with a low-key response, then gradually build to a controlled outburst of anger. her loins will quiver.

There has to be a way to break the mold and do it without becoming a really creepy guy who still hits on 19 year olds.

talk to me, son. i will show the way.

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“No guy gets their dream girl, unfortunately. How can she be your dream if you can get her?”
…i love that…
xoxo

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“There has to be a way to break the mold and do it without becoming a really creepy guy who still hits on 19 year olds.” — JGF

There is. Don’t become that guy. Acquire your money, power or fame (preferably all three), and you won’t need to hit on 19 year olds. They will come to you. Do you think that men like George Clooney, Sean Connery, Harrison Ford, Robert Redford, Bill Gates, Larry Ellison, etc… would have to hit on women? (if they were single, as applicable).

True, women who approach men like those listed above will likely be gold-diggers, but why does this matter? If a wealthy, powerful and famous man wanted to get married and settle down, he would have done so already, probably long before he acquired such status.

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“The less educated she is, the more direct you can be. The more educated you are, the harder it is to believe that game works.”
This, to me is one of the most amazing aspect of plying game. I don’t consider myself a player, but I have spouted some outrageous unabashed BS on occasion, to a few women, usually when I’ve determined that there is absolutely zero chance of getting even remotely close to anything sexual with them. And then, almost by magic there she is, held in rapt attention, admiration even,just lapping up this insincere line of BS. I’m saying in my mind “She’sactually listening to this crap!” Unbelievable!!!

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Fucking Classic!! Everything on that list is gold.

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you have issues. I tend to think the easiest maxim is simple.

STOP BLOGGING, START BANGING.

get a life dude.

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do i still need to by Bang!?

good stuff dude keep it up. Also wanted to ask you to put out a recent reading list, more specifically i was wondering if you read any Eckhart Tolle.

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best post ever

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WOW- not well written but it wasn’t meant to be but fucking awesome post man

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Great,just what the world needs…another batch of self-centered, self-indulgent assholes who think they are justified, revered and macho for preying on others not as smart, savy or as educated as they are. What a contribution to society! Be proud that you can feel so good about yourselves by using and taking advantage of others!

Pity the poor girl who winds up with you as the PRIZE package when you finally decide to “settle.” (Guess we just described email #2 from the previous post discussion.)

Ah well…carry on,boys, carry on!

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Just another ugly bitch

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“You must have standards. They can be low but there has be situations where you say, “No I’m not doing it.”

I am an extremely depraved human being and that is all I’m going to say about that.

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You’re cool! Let’s be friends! :0

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So funny when the angry Anons show up and always say the same thing…Probably crusted up women lawyers…heh.

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No matter how hot she is…somewhere, out there, is some guy who’s tired of her sh!t.

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Fucking amazing.

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What the hell happened to you, Roosh? You were onto something once, now you’re just another lazy unemployed loser who lives still lives at home with bad hygiene..Hey, that reminds me – how are those intestinal/stomach parasites? We really wanna know and please don’t hold back with the explicit details! We all miss your daily poo reports.

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thank you, Roosh! that was exactly what I needed to read today!

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ain’t nuttin’ wrong wit being a lazy unemployed loser – not a pejorative in da slightest.

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I see Roosh 20 years from now living in the trailer park with his Philippine mail-order bride. LOL!

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Roissy- I’ve been listening to you for quite awhile now and I will continue to.

“You don’t need a car, a job, a place, or money to fuck above-average girls. I’m fascinated that some girls have a type that can be described as unemployed but interesting bum.”

– I’ve been finding this out every few nights for the past 6 months or so.

If only I would’ve learned this 7 years ago…. I could’ve bypassed college all together

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I witnessed it for myself last week. I came up to DC, went out with Roosh, and just walking down the street he would stop a random girl, have a 2 minute conversation and she would be begging him to take her number. There was a girl who asked him 3 times if he is going to call her!!

I couldn’t believe it. A lot has happened in the 8 years I’ve known this guy.

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“You should be able to talk for hours without stopping.”

My personal kryptonite. Very easy when girls are talkative and/or interesting. Tough otherwise. I always go for very quick closes to compensate.

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“You don’t need a car, a job, a place, or money to fuck above-average girls. “

True, but this makes things MUCH easier.

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“” Great,just what the world needs…another batch of self-centered, self-indulgent assholes who think they are justified, revered and macho for preying on others not as smart, savy or as educated as they are. What a contribution to society! Be proud that you can feel so good about yourselves by using and taking advantage of others!
Pity the poor girl who winds up with you as the PRIZE package when you finally decide to “settle.” (Guess we just described email #2 from the previous post discussion.)
Ah well…carry on,boys, carry on! “”

^^^ Wow , someone hasn’t been laid in a while.

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It never ceases to amaze me how bitter some of the anons seem. Pathetic.

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“It’s easier to pick up when you are the exotic one. If you look around and all the guys look like you, you might want to try somewhere else.”

this should only mean good things, even for me, when i move to the middle of corn country

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Great list! Some of these observations are so on the mark, you wonder why they’re not common knowledge.

I take issue with the dream girl thing, though. I think it can be done.

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Great post. Very insightful stuff. I think your advice comes best in machine-gun aphorisms like this.

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haha oh roosh, you never cease to amuse me. XD

Don’t jerk off before you go out. this was always my rule when i was single as well. unless i didn’t feel like hooking up that night.

it’s interesting to me how different guys can be. some are just like all that. only thinking about how they can get laid next with the lease amount of anything else involved.
some guys only want to date a girl and harass her about it until they get dropped.
then there are the guy that just kind of sneak up on you when you least expect it.

life is so interesting. smile

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“If you can’t close, you’re an entertainer.”

Exactly. So many of my friends are satisfied with her phone number and a kiss. I rarely ponder past the present when pressing for new pussy – every decision of the evening reflects the assumption of a bang.

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Always let a girl ask you for your name first.
You just age, get tired, and pick one.

These are both true and my favorites on the list. Well done.

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you just age, get tired, and pick one

this cuts both ways….

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“It’s easier to peel a banana from the bottom than the top.”

I fucking concur.

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Roosh, Great post man. This is right up there with TDs 25 points list. Guys could get laid from this one post alone. Awesome!

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So i just read the book “he’s just not into you” after reading your blogs for a week I realize “he just wants to fuck you”

it took me all of the 8 years of dating to understand this concept.

I say Cheers to you smile

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“Never, ever covet another guy’s girl. You have no idea what he had to go through to get or not get what he is getting.”

I like this advice.
But it seems to completely contradict BANG, where you suggest that it’s fun going after attached women and anyone who makes judgements on you is being “high and mighty”.

So which is it?

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Despite all of this advice, if you’re ugly, old or have a small dick we’re still not going to want to fuck you.
Just sayin’.

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Untrue.
Don’t ask me how I know.

Chris
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Wow you are terrible man. I believe satan has nice place in hell for you oh and by the way im never coming back to this site so say whatever you about you pig

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This is like whore, gold digger, and pig central enjoy safe haven for now.

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Wait, I’m confused. Is this whole website supposed to be a joke?

Because it’s really not that funny.

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you are a jackass!