I’m 28-Years-Old And Not Jaded Or Bitter

I was at a bar talking to a girl who kept bragging that she was a bitch, and quite literally: she repeated “I’m a bitch” several times when I questioned her abrasive attitude. It made me think back to this girl I met in Brazil, who was feminine and gentle and would be embarrassed to say something like that about herself. But this is America.

I don’t mind a challenge under the influence so I wanted to see if I could crack her candy-coated shell to get to the gooey lubricated center (I know, I’m reinforcing the behavior). Whenever you meet someone who has a shell, 99% of the time it’s because they have been hurt badly in the past, but since everyone has been hurt, why is it some people get colder as go through the human condition and others get more.. human? Well I think it’s because one group has a belief that pain is bad and you must do everything to avoid it, while the other sees value in all experiences, good and bad.

truck.jpgAfter I built rapport with this girl, I asked her why she’s so rough. I told her how much attractive she’d be if she’d be more like a gentle flower instead of a box of razors. Eventually it comes out that she has been hurt. Her eyes well up and I felt a moment. Most girls I meet are intolerable and I wouldn’t want to spend time with them outside the bedroom, but you get these moments from them where they are so vulnerable and sweet. Her shield collapsed and I felt like this was the real girl and I wanted to get to know her. There was a short kiss and I got her number.

I bump into her one hour later. It was obvious the moment was gone and I’d have to work to get it back, but it wasn’t worth it. She’s capable of being the type of girl I want, but I shouldn’t have to constantly dig to find the real person inside. Any girl in her 20’s should come pre-fabricated to livable specifications. I’m not a dog trainer. So I never called her.

Exactly one week later I met another girl, also young. She wasn’t a bitch but she had a shield up as well and referred to being jaded from “crash and burns,” which I took to mean “pumps and dumps.” “Twenty-two and jaded already?” I worked it like other girl and had a nice moment with the “real” or natural girl. Her sister, who was a bitch, became alarmed and dragged her away per the tired American female cockblocking ritual. One hour later I saw her, but the moment passed, and I didn’t bother.

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I’m glad for your sake that the women in Brazil were “gentle flowers,” cause you can’t make eye-contact with a man there without him trying to jab his flexed and fully-extended tongue down your throat.

Tongues are supposed to be soft, cocks are supposed to be hard.

I realize this is entirely irrelevant to your post, but I needed to get it off my chest.

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Roosh I see half of your face on this pic and this picture reminds me of Mexicans who are being transported across US border in back of pickup trucks or vans……I want you to paint my house this weekend, I’ll pay $20, I know it is a generous offer…

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“bitch is the new black!”

you know a word gets under a girl’s skin when she tries to co-opt it for her own use. kind of like the word cunt.

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“cocks are supposed to be hard.”

This almost never happens baby, I swear.

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bee-yatches love being complicated thinking their the gawddam formula for getting to the moon when they ain’t nothing but the recipe for sugar water. Bitches need to wake up and recognize this process don’t have to be difficult.

So Roosh whats you insight on the 3 remaining political candidates. You haven’t posted any political stuff in a long time which I consider one of your strong suits. Unless you got more pics of samba dancers or the beaches of Rio…

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The two sisters then began to wonder amongst themselves about why they were single…

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So basically you’re not getting laid now? Not worth the hassle?

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I think the way to penetrate the defenses of a “bitch” like this, assuming she’s someone you really want to bang, is to take a page out of the chicks’ playbook, with a male spin.

Instead of walking into a bar with a cockblocker like a girl does, or a traditional “wingman”, use a “heavy”. Get a friend who will play the “mean cop” to your “nice cop”.

I could imagine this…

ROOSH: Hi.

GIRL: Better watch out! I’m a real bitch!!

ROOSH: Oh, yeah?

ROOSH’S HEAVY: Oh, another bitch. Most women who define themselves as bitches are either lesbians or have strong lesbian desires.

Okay… see what that did? It embarrassed the shit out of the chick, turned her own words and preening, obnoxious self-definition back on her, devalued her sexuality (cutting down her ego, implying she’s not desirable and creating intense emotionally vulnerability), and very possibly gave you an opening, if you say something marginally nice, like “I don’t know, I’ve heard that too, but I think every woman is different.”

Don’t know if something like this would really work, but it’s worth a try.

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Why did you let girl #1 go after a kiss and a phone number? What is this catch & release bullshit?

Work that shit like a champ and reel that bitch home.

Be a closer, not a poseur!

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I don’t know why, but something about this post touched me and actually made me feel sympathetic for the self-proclaimed “bitches” out there. Not sympathetic enough to actually want to deal with them, but at least enough to not be so harsh on them.

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Seduction Chronicles
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Girls with shields are good imo, they tend to come out after 3 dates of “homely behaviour” eg. cooking a meal at home with her, introducing her to a few friends…

If that’s too much work, then don’t bother =)

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ugh the bitch number one will fall in love with you fast if you insist on getting her to open up to you, she’ll be miss passionate and then decide that men aren’t so bad after all…. but she will bust your car’s tires when you’re out with another girl, while you’re “dating” her. And she won’t get it if you try to explain that you only wanted to be special friends.

Don’t be her excuse for being a bitch the next time she meets a guy in a bar.

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I’ve been badly hurt and I had a shield up for a long time. Men have shields up too, and the first few months of a relationship often involve slow bulldozing through this shield. I don’t expect or want a man at a bar to pass through the shield, but I put myself out there when I get a feeling that I can trust the man I’m dating.

And you’re so right. A lot of people, Americans in particular, are very afraid and go to any and all costs to avoid bad feelings. But how can we really appreciate happy feelings if we don’t know the opposite. After a few years of burns, finding that person who loves us and makes us happy feels all the better.

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well i guess the stars were on their side because they were saved from another pump and dump

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Why put an effort and go for a bitch bitch, when Roosh is slayin’ normal bitches?

Nobody wants to deal with your shit if you are bitchy bitch with a major attitude, it gets old, shield or no shield get over your problems and open up. ……….your legs.

PS. I think I have the record for the number of times I said bitch in this comment.

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“i’m 28 years old and not jaded or bitter.”

ummm perhaps you don’t understand the sensitivity of women like those because you, yourself, haven’t been in love and had your heart broken before.

there are women who are just inherently mean and have downright bad attitudes…those girls don’t deserve time of day and have their own multitudes of issues. then there are the ones who have hardened over various bad experiences. they still have a heart, but you have to dig a bit deeper to find that sweetness and vulnerability. the same applies to men – this is not a gender-specific phenomenon.

if you get burned, you kinda don’t want to play with fire anymore. speaking from personal experience, i only soften up to someone who’s worth trusting and who inspires me to open up. i’ve found that some guys are the same way. just the way it is.

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Maya Angelou sucks.

virgle Kent
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Dude, I’m pretty sure kissing girls in the club is how I got this fucking cold, from now on I’m just going for the hand job in the corner from them

Bridal Bird
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Meh. Some girls think it makes them sound cool to tell a guy they’re a total bitch. These are the same chicks who claim they’re huge football fans and then can’t name a single player who’s not a quarterback.

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“Can’t name a single player that is not a quarterback.”

That’s a good one.

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True dat !

The problem is we live in a society where pain, any kind of pain or suffering, is considered un-natural, and to be avoided at all cost. No one actually accepts anymore that pain, being hurt, suffering, are normal components of a human life and cannot always be avoided. Because a girl (or guy) gets hurt once, she or he takes shelter in a “i don’t want to suffer so i’d better never fall in love again” attitude, which is plain ridiculous.
What ? Say again ? You have been dumped ? you’ve had your heart broken ? BIG DEAL ! Get a life. Everybody has. Every human being suffers. Gets rejected. Gets his/her heart broken. THIS IS FUCKING LIFE, and if you can’t accept such a small amount of pain, well, just shoot yourself, or become a Buddhist so you can extinguish your worldly desires. This is not pain. This is nothing. Maybe if you were born in a war-torn african country and had your whole family raped in front of you just before you were enlisted as a child-soldier at the age of 8, well, maybe I’ll feel compassion, and understand that you need to build a defensive armour around your soul and mind so as not to become completely crazy. But don’t fracking tell me you need to be a cold-hearted, cocky bitch for the rest of your life because you prom date actually just wanted to fuck you and you felt disappointed.

Being hurt and becoming careful is normal, but too many people, guys included, tend to overreact. That’s sad.

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I find it interesting whenever I meet a girl and she openly declares that she is a bitch. It seems to happen more and more lately. Sometimes I feel like the women are simply declaring that they are a bitch as some sort of justification of why men aren’t interested in them. As if they are realizing some self-fulfilling prophecy.

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pain can be a pain

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I blame sex and the city.

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