In The Company Of Men

I saw In The Company of Men, a movie recommended by Roissy. The plot is about an alpha male who convinces his beta male coworker to help him emotionally destroy a woman. The reason is to “restore dignity” in their lives. The plan is for both of them to date her, take her out, buy her flowers, treat her nice, and then dump her at the same time. What ends up happening is the beta falls in love with her while the girl falls in love with the alpha.

At the end of the movie the girl, who is deaf, confronts the alpha about the game. He laughs in her face and says, “How does it feel?” He leaves her on the bed, crying, proud of his handiwork.

This movie has made me realize that I am a nice, stand-up guy. I don’t lie to women. I don’t manipulate them. I’m convinced I leave them better than how I found them, with short but intense memories of my bedroom. (Clarification: the memories are short due to the nature of the relationship, not because of the actual activity that… ah fuck it).

If you ask a girl about guys who like to sleep around, her blood will boil and she will say they are all jerks with mommy issues. But then if you ask her about the last player she fucked, her tone will soften. It’s because the player, with his experience and fuck style, made her feel good. You can’t stay in business for long if you are the type of guy who seeks destruction instead of pleasure. Most girls can pick up on the psychopaths that Hollywood loves to portray as smooth-talking pick-up artists. These guys end up in the corner office, not in the pants of quality women.

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terps
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“psychopaths that Hollywood loves to portray as smooth-talking pick-up artists”

yeah, like Jack Nicholson LOL

great actor though

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“These guys end up in the corner office, not in the pants of quality women.”

Here, here…well said.

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I both loved and hated that movie. Aaron Eckhart’s character was such a believable jackass and he infuriated me. I had a difficult time remembering that it was just a film, which I suppose is the mark of good filmmaking.

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i saw a neil labute interview when this movie came out (shot for $25K in 2 weeks and it’s his best artistic effort), and though today he’s successful, it was easy to see by his looks and remnant mannerisms that he was a big nerd galoot during his formative years. therefore, i suspect he harbors some resentment and envy toward alpha males and desirable women. but his real subversive ire is saved for those beta males with whom he probably most identifies. case in point: you don’t feel sorry for the beta in ‘company of men’. labute treats this character with the utmost contempt, as if to say “look at yourself you sniveling mewling spineless effete sycophantic milquetoast! you deserve your fate.”

there are a few subtle easter eggs in the movie that showcase labute’s eye for male hierarchy. in one scene, beta is in the can taking a dump when he drops his loose change all over the floor. i believe he mumbles nervously from behind the stall door “can you get that for me?”. alpha (aaron eckhart plays this character perfectly) ignores his request, cracks a friendly joke about how long he’s taking, and then sight unseen picks the quarters out of the change on the floor for himself.

labute also makes a point of showing that an alpha male need not have woman issues to do the cruel things he does to women (and to the beta males who *do* have woman issues). we learn that eckhart’s character has a loving GF/wife in the movie and is clearly capable of pulling ass when he wants. he is cruel because it’s fun. i think this is what bothers a lot of people about the movie — a cruel but perfectly functioning member of society getting away with shit because he has charisma. remember who voted in droves – twice – for bill clinton, notorious womanizer, wife humiliator, and probable rapist.

there is a disturbing subtext that perhaps a LOT of men would do the same if they could get away with it. labute is not one to shy away from the darker recesses of human nature.

re: lying. yeah, no true player resorts to lying on the regular. lying is fear-based. you lie when you are afraid the truth will lose the girl. but no true player is honest up front, either. courtship is one-half things unsaid.

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interesting.

Gunslingergregi
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The website from when Roisy first recommended the movie is crazy. Talking like we don’t have a free will and are at the mercy of beauty. Looking around it does seem true.

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although, aren’t the guys with the corner offices getting the quality women?