READ NOW: Lady – How To Meet And Keep A Good Man For Love And Marriage

Today I’m releasing Lady, a 154-page book that helps women find love, long-term relationships, and marriage in a modern environment where most men seem to only want casual sex. It shares the habits, values, and behaviors of a woman who is most likely to settle down with her ideal man while providing useful tips to reduce the anxiety and stress that are the root causes of wasting time with bad men, alcohol, and consumerism.

Lady is also intended for men who have a sister, girlfriend, wife, or female friend that could use positive guidance when it comes to finding one man to settle down with. The book will allow men to help the important women in their lives from a position of care and understanding.

Lady is divided into three books:

  • Book You helps you understand the true side of your female nature and why the feminist movement is making it difficult to connect with a man.
  • Book Men explains what men really want and why most of your relationships seem to go nowhere. It shares advice on how to maximize your value, date successfully, and enter a monogamous relationship with a good man who wants to marry you, even if you’re over 30.
  • Book Relationships describes how to maintain and care for your relationship in a way that encourages a man to marry you.

Lady provides practical knowledge and advice for a woman to identify and attract a good man for a loving relationship without having to sleep around or be needlessly hurt. It will allow her to nurture her feminine side and experience love with a dedicated man who wants to protect and provide for her.

10 key benefits that are inside Lady

1. Why the ideology of feminism has been so effective at hurting women and dividing them from good men.

2. Why so many men do not want more than casual sex with you.

3. An easy shortcut to identifying men who are serious about creating a family.

4. Two reasons why a man decides not to make you his girlfriend.

5. things that a man wants from a woman. The more of these you’re able to provide, the more likely a man will be eager to marry you.

6. Two changes you need to make to drastically improve your beauty, and details on exactly how to achieve them. Many women focus on the little things, but it’s these two big areas that will cause men to see you the most favorably.

7. The number one mistake women make that causes men not to invest in them.

8. Dating has an atrocious failure rate when it comes to finding long-term partners, but I share my dating strategy to minimize getting sexually used before connecting with a worthy man.

9. Two pieces of advice if you’re over 30 and feel like you’re running out of time.

10. Two common ways that a long-term relationship fails, and how to bounce back from one to meet a man before time runs out.

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The audiobook + ebook edition costs only $15.99 and includes both the ebook package and the 5 hour 30 minute audiobook in unrestricted MP3 format that is narrated by myself. I narrate the book with a tone of consideration…

The beautiful paperback edition costs only $15.99 + shipping and is shipped worldwide directly to you from the Roosh Warehouse. It makes a fine addition to any coffee table or bookshelf…

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Leave a comment below if you have a pre-sale question or contact me directly if you need help with your order. Since Lady is the first book I’m writing for women, I’m especially eager for reader comments. Many people will be surprised that a man who has been wrongly called a “misogynist” and “pro-rape guru” has perhaps the best relationship advice for women today.

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I just ordered a paperback copy — can’t wait to read it.

I appreciate how your writing so far has had the ability to help me understand a lot of things I wouldn’t have, had I not taken the time to listen to you. What you’re doing has the potential to positively impact many lives; you’re so full of wisdom that no one else has. It shows the kind of character you have that you’ve grown to the point that you’re writing a book to help women.

Much of what you say reaffirms things that I already believed and that my values/morals are the right ones. Some of your blog posts make me glad I’ve never been in a bar or nightclub (or even drunk for that matter.)

Also, I’m totally with you about how toxic social media is. I have NO social media. Or icky dating apps (and I’m proud to say I never have.)

Anyways, congratulations on Lady and good luck!

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Ordered the all-format bundle because I don’t want to wait to start reading it. I suck at reading ebooks, though. Can’t wait to get the paperback!

I’m really grateful that you’ve started writing for girls/women as well as men. I always wished you would! I suspect there are more of us out there wanting and searching for guidance than a lot of the men in your circles give us credit for. Even for those of us already in happy/healthy relationships, this is all valuable insight to apply to the raising and guiding of future generations.

Thanks, Roosh.

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So, I blew through the ebook in a few hours. It was a very easy and pleasant read, and full of good information. I’ll be doing my part to get this book into the hands of as many young women as possible.

There are a few passages that shed some subtle light on why my first marriage failed, and how someone with a LOT more worldly experience than I had at nineteen might have sensed that something was off. I can’t disclaim all responsibility, but I’ll be honest – it feels good to have a little external validation that I did most everything “right” on my end – at least up to the point where I put my worldly relationship with my husband before my relationship with God and my obligation to model appropriate behavior regardless of who is or isn’t watching. That’s definitely on me.

I’m looking forward to re-reading the paperback at a slower pace, taking some notes, and giving it a good thorough pondering. I often think about what I’m going to tell my kids eventually, when they’re older and start probing into why their dad and I didn’t stay married. This book puts words to a lot of things I’ve thought and felt but have never been able to articulate succinctly.

It’s also neat to see how my current relationship followed most of the points naturally. I feel pretty confident at this point that my first marriage was a bit of an anomaly, a convergence of some fairly unique circumstances – not a super common trap that the average woman has to worry about falling into. Nothing is guaranteed in marriage – the book says as much – but this is GOOD advice, and it WORKS.

9/10 WBAGAR (will buy and give away repeatedly).

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I blew through the book too. I liked it a lot! There were a few nuggets in there that made it well worth the read. The sex vs. commitment section was great. I will say that I disagree with a few points. For example, I don’t think a girl should cook and clean for a guy like she’s his wife when they are only dating.

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I cooked for my two exes (yes, I’ve only had two because I only get involved in monogamous relationships that are going somewhere — hard to find these days) and they really liked it. They both ended up wanting to help me in the kitchen and both really enjoyed it. And they also both treated me well and went ridiculously out of their respective ways to do nice things for me. I think that if you’re with a decent guy, they’ll meet you halfway (or actually probably more) as far as doing nice things for one another.

Roosh is right about cooking!

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Among the lies of out times, that women respond positively to the kindness of men. But, this a proposition not merely refutable, but refuted.

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You should only cook for traditional men after they marry you. Just like you should only have sex with traditional men after they marry you.

Men are always looking for what they can get out of a girl as soon as they start seeing her, not on what they can give or add. It’s a human thing, and rooted in selfishness. Men want sex, something they have a stronger desire/need for than women do and they want to be doted on cooked for, cleaned for, his clothes prepared and ironed. What are women getting out of this deal? What initial benefits are we getting?

Invite him to a family gathering where he can taste food you and other women in your family have cooked. But no, the male ego doesn’t want that. They want to feel as if you did something specially for them that you aren’t doing for anyone else. A holiday meal cooked for everyone doesn’t feel special to them.

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Because that level of consistent daily or weekly care-taking is for wives. I respect that you may disagree with me but women should reserve some things just for their husbands. It’s one of the reasons she should be chaste of have a low partner number because that degree of care-taking (dotingly cleaning, cooking, nurturing) and physical intimacy should, in my opinion, be between man and wife.

I think it’s enough for a woman to demonstrate that she does those things by having her own neat and organized place, giving him food when he’s sick, or inviting him to a holiday or family gathering so he can try some of the food she’s made and some of the food the women in her family have made. She could even help him with New Year’s holiday cleaning or they could both do the cooking together.

And in my opinion, this degree of care becomes one sided if he’s not your husband. What consistent thing that takes effort is a boyfriend exclusively doing for a girlfriend. He’s he paying her car bill? Is he giving her an allowance? It gives the impression that a boyfriend gets to tryout the benefits of having a wife when the girlfriend doesn’t get to tryout the benefits of having a husband.

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This discussion right here imo sums up why dating is not ideal, and honestly shouldn’t be an intermediary prior to marriage(Not advocating marriage today).

I get Roosh’s point but a lot of guys will still be able take advantage of these women. But then I ask what is the point of dating? To those of you who disagree

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One side effect in this environment, is the good women out there that keep attracting the wrong guys who don’t commit and basically use them for sex, these girls eventually withhold sex when they aren’t getting commitment. And then from that point they will tend to attract more betas than alphas by a landslide. This is how it is now imo

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This is why marriage used to be a family affair. A daughter isn’t left out on her own but had the support of her father especially in finding suitors and screening out players and bad men.

China has this interesting phenomenon of marriage markets btw:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sq8RWsOs8yg

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These men are wise who refuse to entangle themselves in the Scylla and Charybdis that is contemporary women. Tie the rags around your ears and row away, fast as you can.

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Dating is not ideal, but neither is the market or the infrastructure.

“Dating” can also mean a lot of different things. My first husband and I had a pretty traditional courtship that started with talks of marriage, but I’ll still conversationally refer to the period of time before our formal engagement as “dating” because it’s easy and people don’t look at me funny.

It was a bit different when my fiancé and I first got together. There were lots of weird circumstances surrounding the start of that relationship that gave me a little glimpse into what more “typical” dating seems to be like. By all accounts, we were just casual for a long time (if you can really call it that when neither of us was seeing anyone else, ever), and I remember stopping and thinking at one point when he was at work and I was putting the sheets I had just washed back on his bed. “Should I be doing this? This is the sort of thing I did when I was married. This guy is a FWB and I’m acting like his wife. Is this weird???”

The little part of me that was mad at myself for having casual/non-marital sex in the first place said that if I was going to do THAT part without being married or even in a serious relationship, saying that doing his laundry is weird was just an excuse to be lazy. Plus I just LIKE doing that stuff.

Conventional modern dating is a lousy model for building the foundation for marriage. No argument there. It’s all full of ambiguity and uncertainty and anxiety. It sucks. It’s stupid. But when you’re flailing around out there with no better model to follow, if you’re going to do test drives and trial periods… I don’t think it makes any sense to be having sex with someone, sharing the MOST intimate part of yourself, and withholding the more mundane features. That’s like, backwards on top of backwards.

I’ve NEVER bought a piece of software where the trial version was gimped and useless.

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Thank the only guy on this forum, willing to admit that a traditional woman will get used in this situation.

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Thought I’d add this…

Roosh, I’ve recruited a new fan for you: my mom (also known as my best friend.) She was into the whole red-pill thing before it was cool. From a young age, she actually taught me how NOT to fall victim to the feminist programming in our culture. I had no idea what she meant at the time…but now I do!

She watched a couple of Roosh Hours (and while doing so, would enthusiastically blurt out things like “he’s right!” and when I was like “I need my phone back, please,” she was like “hang on, I need to finish watching this” — it was really funny how into it she got), she’s read a few of your blog articles, and followed you on Twitter (she’s only on there to follow political news.)

She said she agrees with everything she’s heard you say so far. She is highly impressed and says that you’re more intelligent than any political commentator (for lack of a better word) or politician out there.

Also, side note: you look like George Clooney (actually you look better than him) with your beard shorter these days. It’s a good look for you. 🙂

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Oops I added it to the wrong section. Sorry, I’m not experienced with blog commenting. ☺️

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You didn’t say what consistent thing a boyfriend is exclusively doing for a girlfriend. It’s all about what she’s doing for him. Doesn’t sound like a reciprocal relationship. Just sounds like wife tryouts with her risking wasting her time and efforts and him risking nothing at all.

This is why I respect Indian Arranged Marriage and Romani Gypsy Arranged marriage. Everyone is already brought up in the same culture. He knows that she can either cook and clean or will be taught to do that by her in-laws or parents and the man is free to ask for the prettiest girl he can get and the woman is free to choose the best provider who makes and offer for her.

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I think you’re right about not looking after a man as a wife before marriage (don’t do his laundry yet), but as spending time together and getting to know each other is a must, I don’t see how you can avoid cooking for him. Once you know that you’re serious about a man, you don’t want him wasting what may be your mutual funds on dinner dates. It’s time to have him over for dinner, picnics, etc., so that the relationship can progress economically; the fact that good cooking is a powerful tool to build attraction is almost ancillary after that consideration. 🙂

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Cooking and cleaning for a guy like she’s his wife, maybe not. But in my book, cooking and cleaning like a wife is preparing 2-3 meals per day, plus coffee/tea/desserts, all of the tidying/dusting/vacuuming, all of the laundry done and put away, all of the dishes and kitchen cleanup, scrubbing down bathrooms/showers/toilets, and picking up whatever he leaves lying around the house or on the floor. Plus some other stuff I’m sure I’m forgetting.

I didn’t do all of THAT while my fiancé and I were dating, but I did cook for him pretty regularly, made the bed after staying over, changed/washed sheets and other laundry when I could beat him to it, etc.

Pretty sure that initiative is a big part of why he’s marrying me. And a HUGE part of why he’s ok working while I stay home now.

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Well you were an awesome girlfriend and congrats on your upcoming nuptials? What husband like things did your boyfriend do regularly?

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Thanks!

He paid pretty much whenever we went out, drove me places (I haven’t had a car in years), fixed broken things, kept my knives sharp, made phone calls that I didn’t want to make… all sorts of things. Basically the same sorts of things he does now, just on a smaller and less regular basis.

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I like your avatar. The kitten looks very huggable.

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Your relationship was reciprocal, that’s the way it should be. However, I stand by women not cooking for any man unless he’s been vetted or he’s already married you. Vetted: Were his parents married? Are his parents still married? What does his religion say about marriage? Does he have a religion? What are his values? Are his friends married? How long were his friends engaged before marriage? What traditional things does he do? Does he fix things, does he open the door.

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I hope all women who read lady and/or want a traditional lifestyle read this: DO NOT GET USED. I respect Roosh and he gave some great advice in Lady but I now realize why some of his advice wouldn’t be effective in today’s dating market, it’s because he’s viewing it through the lense of what he would do with an attractive, traditional girl who cooked and cleaned for him was pretty and gave him regular sex. He’s saying he would reward her with marriage within perhaps a year or two. The problem is not every man is going to reward a woman with marriage after she’s given sex and cooking away for free. My grandma used to tell me to cook for men, today’s men will just enjoy the food and pump and dump you or date your for 3 years and say, “the relationship has run it’s course.”

So this is what women who want to get married have to do: GO TO CULTURAL SAFE HAVENS. Men go to foreign countries because they don’t want to scrounge America, looking for needles in haystacks. They go to Eastern Europe and Asia to find the best needle in a needle factore. Women have to take a page out of men’s books and find cultural safe havens that reward traditional women with marriage. Mormon men propose after anywhere from a month to – 6 months of dating, Indian Americans date for marriage, Romani Gypsies get married at 18 or 20. I will never date or marry a Mormon or a Gypsy but I think you get the idea. As women we don’t need to date down based on looks necessarily, we need to date up based on culture.

Culture is what made our grandparents so ready to get married in their early 20s. If you take all the people born after 1990 and make them born in 1950s they would be totally different people.

How do women succeed? Move to the south, date military guys, date evangelicals, date country music lovers, move to areas where there are more men than women.

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Well now I’m curious. I might have to check it out.

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I am so excited about this book! I’m buying it tonight after I get off work. I’ve read Why Men Love B*tches and I’m eager to see what this book advises. Roosh has really become a nice man and he’s really smart so I can’t wait.

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“Why Men Love B*tches” is written by a woman, Sherry Argov, and it is the feminine projection of craving bad boys. Men don’t function like that. Men want good girls. You want to know what a man wants from a woman? A man knows better what he wants than Sherry Argov knows what a man wants. Roosh is a man and we men have simple predictible expectations from women. To be this state of affair where men prefers dolls to real women, a doll who does basically NOTHING, women are pretty toxic nowadays. Listen to Roosh, not to a woman’s opinion about what a man wants. That is if you want to be anchored in reality, not do magic rituals.

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What men say they want and what they actually go for are two different things.

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funny you say that when women go on and on about wanting “good men” while fucking “bad boys”. I was the “bad boy” so I do know how women are of all races, all sizes, and of all ages. I really took a dip in the gutter just to see how women are and it seems that there is the natural habitat for majority of these creatures. Over 60 and still cheating on the poor sucker who waits for them to go home? So as a courtesy, I poked between those rare pubes of older white or black pussies, or struggled with moving around the hams on the younger and fatter ones but I generally fucked pretty good looking ones who also had boyfriends and husbands (poor wealthy suckers). I didn’t fuck Eskimos and fat Asians over 60. In rest I did them all. I for one wouldn’t marry because I know what is going on behind the veil pulled over the husbands eyes. No chance in hell I would marry.

I promise you that guys know way better what they want than women. Women are a bit confused in the head and usually decide to settle down only when they have no options to sleep around and no hope to catch a wealthier guy. Often that hope doesn’t even die to the point of ridiculousness. THEN they decide to settle down, when they are too old and men don’t want them anymore, at least not for marriage (unless they are Bezos the idiot who married a duck lipped chunky 50 year old 🤮)

You want to know what a man wants in a woman? ask a man. He will tell you directly.
If I want to know what a woman wants in a man, I ask her, take half of what she says directly as true, listen carefully to what she says between the lines or unintentionally and watch her behavior.

For example women wouldn’t admit for example they look for a guy’s resources and lie to my face about it; there are countless other examples like that of intentional lying, lying and manipulation coming completely natural to women. Men are ” simpler” like that, they tell you directly, unless they are cowards and don’t want to “hurt your feelings”.

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Roosh,

I really believe you may save the west. Women are thirsting for the ancient knowledge you provide. They’ve had no one (dads, mothers, sisters, aunts, girlfriends) to example the true power of femininity to create the life they need. God bless you young man!

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Women are thirsting for power, more of it, all the time. The recent SCOTUS hearings should have confirmed that for everyone. Clearly, they haven’t suffered enogh for them to reconsider their tyranny. Walkaway is the only rational strategy till they do. And it must not be anything less than unconditional surrender. Till them, keep dropping the nukes.

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Very good Roosh. you make me smile with your first step towards family oriented people. For the reviews, I understand that is for 30+ women ( for women who been lost in degenerative lifestyle) but still matters slowly you will understand better people who value family and I hope for you to write a book for full oriented people. Big thumbs up for women who want to live family values in an era which is geared against the family.

Also, I noticed you don’t speak about patriarchy or feminism.
I believe you clearly understand that this was a big lie for controlling people because both patriarchy and feminism are ideologies like capitalism, fascism, and communism and they used for control.

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I disagree. What feminists call “Patriarchy” and the real thing which is also accurately described as “Patriarchy” is not the same thing.

The bible shows what the real thing looks like unlike the caricature that feminists put up.

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I read the book over the course of 24 hours. Even after reading your online content the book still managed to teach me a few things (surprisingly!). I thought your writing was lovely and not at all patronizing like I had expected. Some of the info was a little brushed over but that can’t really be helped when there is quite a lot of scope within the book. All in all when I finished I felt I had really seen a glimpse through the curtain. I almost wish I was in a position to test out the contents, alas I met my future husband at 18 😉
The main issue with the book, and its a BIG one… is getting it to the target audience. I know a lot of single over 30s who NEED this information but there is no way I have the gall to give them a copy! I would probably be socially ostracized for endorsing something by a ‘pro rapist’. A shame, as most of them do the exact opposite of what you advise in Lady, and suffer the consequences predicted. Although a bad part of me finds it funny to watch, I also ache for them and the chance of having a family and children they are letting slip away. Despite a lot of news articles about the ‘childfree’ life to the contrary, I truly believe that the vast majority of women find fulfillment in their children and families and getting to the point in your life where those options are no longer available must be devastating. So while some aspects of the book as harsh, it is true that you have to be cruel to be kind.
Wish you all the best Roosh with your future endeavors!

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I finished reading the book in one sitting last night. I enjoyed it, it contains very sage advice for women who are trying to find a man. However, I have a difficult time applying the advice for my situation, because I’m not sure which inner voice is the “devil” and which is the “angel”

What is your advice for a woman who just turned 30 and has been in an intimate LTR for 4 years with a man who is the same age, but is not married yet and desires children. The man exhibits all the ideal qualities that indicate a good man, he is faithful, continually tries to please me and make me happy. The relationship is way past the honeymoon stage and is at times boring, yet it still remains mutually satisfying and both partners follow all the traditional conventions of respect (neither partner has female/male friends outside of the relationship for example) The man’s reasoning for delay is lack of financial stability but he is working on it and there is an informal promise for that in the future. Should I take his word for it and remain even as my biological clock ticks with no guarantee he will follow through in the future, or should I end the relationship and find someone else who fulfills what he lacks? I don’t want to abandon someone who loves me and who i also care deeply about, but at the same time my clock is ticking really loud and theres the possibility that investing more precious years of fertility could result in me never having children. If i leave him for someone seemingly better, I also feel like whatever relationship I have after will be difficult to attain and shallow, and theres also no guarantee for marriage and children with that either, since I am past my prime years. I truly am torn on what to do.

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At some point I think you have to decide which you want more: financial stability, or children.

Part of having children is making peace with the possibility of facing financial instability. Kids usually aren’t terribly expensive, especially when they’re little, but there’s ALWAYS the possibility that your children are going to beat the odds and cost you a fortune by hurting themselves or others, destroying something, burning the house down, being born with special needs, etc.

I see the goals of “money” and “family” as being at opposite ends of a continuum. Money as its own goal is NOT a step on the way to family. It’s a distraction that sends you chasing in the opposite direction.

That’s not to say that you have to be penniless to have a family or that you have to be sterile to be wealthy. Obviously neither of those things is true.

What’s true is that you only have so much time and energy (innate resources – i.e. “life”) to invest in anything, and if you don’t have the good luck, fortune, whatever, of being born into circumstances where one of those things is more or less handed to you – if you’re somewhere in the middle – you probably have to accept that you don’t have enough “life” to run as far to one end of that continuum as you’d like to, and still make it as far back to the other end as you want. You’ll have to accept having a smaller family, or less money/less stability of financial/material resources.

You get to decide where the appropriate balance is. But please don’t buy into the idea that first-world financial stability is requisite to raising a family. The kind of stability your boyfriend is talking about is an unattainable dream for many people in the world – and plenty of those people lead happy, fulfilling lives and raise wonderful children in loving families, in spite of having to scramble a bit to keep on top of life sometimes (or maybe sometimes BECAUSE of that).

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Thank you so much for the insight Kitty. I’m really taking in what youre saying.

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If my line of thinking resonates with you, you might try pitching it to your boyfriend. Instead of asking for a timeline for him to complete his requisites, tell him you want to throw them out the window. You want to build a FAMILY with him, not a portfolio of assets. Point out the ways in which you think he would be a good father. (Of course you have to genuinely mean it for this to work out.)

There’s a reason traditional wedding vows include the bits about “in sickness and in health/in poverty and in wealth.”

The important thing is sticking together and being willing to face the challenges together – NOT to somehow line up the “perfect shot” where you only jump into it once you’re reasonably assured that everything will be fine and dandy.

Some men get hung up on prevailing social expectations and legitimately think they HAVE to have X, Y, and Z lined up before getting married and/or having children. Some men just don’t want to commit to having to work hard to obtain and maintain those things. They’re waiting for it to be easy (which it almost never is). It’s important to suss out which he is.

Nuclear option, you can tell him you won’t be using contraceptives anymore because YOUR timeline says it’s time for babies, and see if he stays or runs. Mostly joking about that… but a little bit not. 😆

I wish you many blessings in life. And by blessings I mean babies. <3

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Great advice! One thing to consider also if you believe in karma or destiny is that children bring their own karma with them into this life. It means that the financial /professional situation of the parents will naturally evolve to fit the children’s needs.

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The sticking together part is most important so your kids don’t become thugs or sluts. This is true whether they’re R bred or K bred. Really it’s what’s inside the kid whether he wants to be representative of R breeding or K breeding. Who YOU are is all in the mind. YOU are YOU regardless of your parent’s (R or K) breeding style. The most famous men climbed from the pits of an R bred swamp. And reaching that perfect K bred family is like reaching for the lottery. But relax. You’re already a lottery winner. In fact everyone, you, I, and even every Joe Schmo is a lottery winner because from amongst the millions upon millions of sperm that fought, duelled and warred to gain entry into that egg deep within your mother’s biscuit YOU WON!! Face it. The winning sperm that determined YOU was one helluva determined door kicking critter that wanted to live so bad that he kicked and SLAMMED DOWN THE WALL of the biscuit shop and got in. Trespasser HA! Face it and deal with it. You’re here so keep it up. Keep moving ahead and kicking the doors in life down and out of your way. Keep kicking and kick that family into fruition. Nurture with a front kick and breastfeed with a back kick and serve your man dutifully with a flying pinwheel wallenza. Kick kick kick it baby. It’s the least you can do to pay homage to that wonderful sperm from your father. From his most honorable wrecking balls came the fortress kicking sperm that blasted through insurmountable barriers to give you literally everything, to give you life!

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Unless you’re homeless, “waiting for financial stability” is just an excuse. After four years, he doesn’t have a proper job? If he does, now is the time to get married and have children. The physical reality of conceiving and giving birth to children rapidly gets worse for a woman after the age of 30. No time to waste! My ex-wife and I had children when we were in our mid to late 20s during grad school, and there was no “financial stability” at all then. But the children didn’t really cost all that much money, and what they most is a loving family, not JP Morgan for a father. It all worked out.

So what you have is a situation of incompatible needs. You need to start your family pronto. He needs to make up his mind. Sounds like he has, actually, and the answer is nyet. You say you almost broke up over the issue a year ago. Well, what has changed? Only that 365 days have been taken away from your count-down clock (as you clearly are aware).

So, you don’t have to be mean about it, but simply factual. “You know I feel that time is running out, and I’d like to plan for having a family. Are you on board or not?” The answer to that question should make it clear whether he’s part of your future or not.

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Im going to buy this book and give it to my future daughter.
I met my future wife using your strategies from Daybang after years of sleeping around with unfulfilled casual sex. Im so glad you’ve found some middle ground in your work – there was a time when i logged off from you because it got too extreme at one point.

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“Roosh has really become a nice man and he’s really smart”
hey, you are not a “rapist” anymore now that you wrote something that benefits women.

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Looks like a good book to read. You have done so much good work for men (and women) in this degenerate age. My loved ones insisted that I pursue an “education”/career before even considering having a family, so I did (they knew better than me, I thought). I never understood why I felt so depressed after each lecture. Being religious, traditional and introverted, I thought it was my fault for not enjoying college. It was in the middle of my anti-white/Marxist “education” post-high school years that I found your site. After spending hours reading the truth online, I wrongly thought that my dad would be happy when I told him that I rejected feminism, despite all the indoctrination I was taught. Turns out, my dad resents me for not sharing his leftist views (I always thought he was conservative until the 2016 election). He berated me on my birthday months after Trump won, because he was still angry that the candidate I supported won. It’s like I’m a mistake to him now. He shames me when I voice my concerns for mass 3rd world immigration. My dad only cares about his pension, and couldn’t care less how dangerous society will be when I’m his age.

Also my other relatives are against me learning any form of self-defense, despite rising crime due to said immigration. They make me out to be evil, or some dyke who wants to be a man, for wanting to be able to have some protection. I’m fully aware that I can’t overpower a man, but any bit helps when it could be the difference between life and death.

When I look at where things are going, even if I did find a husband in this God-forsaken place (Cuckada), would it be cruel to bring a child into all this? Bill 89 allows the state to take away children whose parents are against their child being trans. However, I’ve always wanted to be a wife and mother, and can’t fathom living if I’m not going to fulfill my biological purpose.

Please excuse my long comment. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Btw thank you so much for mass-triggering these morons in Cuckada back in 2015. It was satisfying to see these Marxist cucks face some real defiance for the first time ever.

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Here is some help from a former street thug:
http://nononsenseselfdefense.com/

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Thank you for the link, info. I’ll check it out.

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I assume cuckada is Canada? If so I live here too and have been happily married 13 years and have three kiddos. It is 100% worth it! You can be happily married and if you are very involved in all aspects of your kids lives ( don’t expect others to raise or educate them for you). You can both protect them from the mess and be part of reshaping the country. The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world which is why the government is pushing for universal daycare and ‘early childhood education ‘. I’d recommend finding a good church to get connected in and marrying a man who shares your faith. Much better odds of success.

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Thank you for your response, Anne. Yes, I meant Canada. I’m in an NDP stronghold and can’t move anytime soon. I felt very bleak about the future of this nation when I wrote that comment. With the amount of degeneracy in society, I would never trust others to raise my children and would be as involved as possible, as I always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. Although I’m Christian I’ve never been to church (my dad is Catholic, my mom is Protestant, and neither would go to the other’s church without everyone together as a family, so we all never went). I’m not even sure which denomination to pick, if I choose one of my parent’s denominations my other parent will feel slighted. I’m looking for something that’s not infiltrated by Marxism/liberalism so that there are more like-minded people, but I don’t know if that’s even possible in 2019 Canada. I was thinking Eastern Orthodox, but I really don’t know if I would fit in since I’m not Greek or Slavic.

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Roosh, this article is a trap…

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I bought Lady last week and have loved it, five stars!
Solid and precious advice, and it is respectfully written.
I will share this with female friends and family.
Thank you so much Roosh for writing this book for women

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DISCLOSURE: I am a man, and this book renewed my faith in finding a good woman.

Given where our society is now, it’s hard for me to imagine how our society would go back to these values, but it doesn’t need to. However many people you reach with this (like me), you are showing that there is another alternative that is richer than what our society currently promotes. And affecting one person is enough to make 1 strong family that wouldn’t exist otherwise. What I am trying to say is – thank you for writing this book.

As a 31 year old man, who for the last 3 years has been unplugging from western society (left US, traveling the world indefinitely, with sufficient income from business to go where I want/do what I want to do, chasing club girls and also Tindering), I have had a lot of time to reflect on what I value in life. I will admit that for that span of time, I have been feeding my devil… going after “fun” girls, and having a pessimistic view that all women are the same… thinking what is the point of finding a good one if all roads lead to the same outcome.. so my value of what I wanted in a women has almost solely of how good our chemistry is in bed (going after these kinds of girls also made it easier not to get attached…a sort of defensive mechanism after some heartbreaks)… but I have felt at the core that it’s not it… THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN FEELING, but have been having difficulty putting it into words.

There is a huge community of men now getting better and better at attracting women (PUA/RSD/RED PILL). And it is so easy to get pessimistic about the nature of women when you are chasing sluts and reinforcing that with material about what works in attracting these kind of girls. The women I have had access to (at least since college), have almost exclusively been been people I met on Tinder, clubs, or bars. So yes, I have become one of those men that started viewing women as useless, emotional creatures that are there for the taking if you can manipulate them with enough attraction cues. This book has really made me re-think about my sexual strategy, what kind of women I want to meet, and WHERE to find them. I think my clubbing and Tinder days are coming to an end.

If nothing else, this book has helped me start transitioning from the fun stage to the settle down stage at a much higher pace than I would have otherwise. And more importantly, I am more open to the idea that there are good women out there and I need to be more strategic about where I hunt to meet a girl that is marriage-worthy. I don’t usually write reviews (not sure why I am going into detail really), but I wanted you to know that you are making a difference, and I thank you for that.

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Violates AWALT. When women become some thing other than flash, perhaps we can reconsider. But not until. This book is a kind of petite treason against men. With all the assaults on men from all quarters, now is not the time to educate the enemy. I have bought your other books, but I’ll pass on this one.