Learning During Cold Streaks

Excerpt from Bang:

Some productivity experts recommend you attach a deadline to your goal. For example: “I am going to sleep with a mother and daughter team within six months.” I don’t advise doing this because the game is so unpredictable and quirky that time goals can be discouraging during the inevitable cold streak. As you gain skill, there will be periods where you sleep with multiple girls in a short amount of time, followed by nothing for several months.

When I was a full-time student of the game, I went to great lengths to get out of a cold streak. I would pull out a piece of paper, write a short-term goal, and make a bulleted list of all the things I should do and try to get out of it. The goal was usually set a month from when I started to write down this list. The sad part: I never achieved the goal within the deadline, and stopped making lists.

It took myself years later to realize what happened. During the goal month I experimented a lot with a shotgun strategy, trying to hit something that can get me out of the cold streak. I was learning instead of succeeding. Once the month was over and I was disappointed with the results, I put my list away and then unconsciously only did things that worked well. Then I hit.

At least once a month I go out and spit the craziest and weirdest shit I can think of. I remember one time I got out a scrap piece of paper and pretended I was reading simple lines like “Hi. How are you. What is your name?” Then the girl would peek at the paper and see a stick-figure drawing of me and a cat. And she would give me this look like “Who are you?” I don’t do this to get laid but to learn how girls respond to things and where the limits are. Learning and success go hand in hand, but they don’t always happen at the same time.

Girls and monogamy-included men really hate the methodical approach to game where you set goals in the form of vaginas and write down notes or ideas to accomplish them. I’ll admit it is a little weird, and it’s not something I’d tell to people who aren’t doing what I’m doing, but it works.

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Nomadz
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Good analysis !

irina
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The way you write about Game makes it applicable to anything else: getting good grades, finding God, learning about your bf/gf. It’s like the power of intention.

PS: I’m envious of your photographic abilities. Sometimes I put down the intention of having my photos look like yours.

Matt Savage
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Interesting, I always found that constantly trying to set goals with a specific outcome was more of hindrance than anything. Setting long term outcome oriented goals I think are good but sometimes when we tell ourselves, “ok, I’m going to approach 10 women today” or “I’m going to have a threesome this month” than we are likely setting ourselves up for failure. The goal shouldn’t be to get a certain outcome, the goal should be to learn a new habit or skill and then let the specific outcomes materialize as a bonus to the goal of learning a that new skill.

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i guess that goes with the saying that when you go out specifically looking for something, you never really get it, because when you create that tunnel vision you become oblivious to everything else that’s happening around you

roissy
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goal-setting works or doesn’t work depending on the characteristics of the person who is trying to reach a goal. some people feel constrained and pressured by goals, and ultimately let down when they don’t reach them. these people are usually perfectionists. artists fall into this first group. other people can’t handle a freeform lack of structure and perform much better when they have a to-do list. these people are known as systematizers.

i think most people can be grouped into these two types.

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Bobby Rio
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There is nothing worse than a drought… it seems the more you try to get out of it.. the further you fall into it.
its usually not until you stopy worrying and seeking that you wind up finding.

i agree with goals.. but i think you should trust right them down, glance at them often… but not worry about how you’ll get there.

just know that you will get there

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Jack Goes Forth
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I’m loving the paper idea. I’m trying it on my next night out. For some reason the wierd tip always seems to work for me…

Instead of stick figures of me with a cat though, I’m thinking I’ll draw some sort of bloody mutilated girl with a stick figure of me standing over them smiling… That should really get the girl thinking

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Can’t wait to read Monday’s post about how Jack ended up spending the weekend in jail!

Ava V
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jack you’re so twisted

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Nomadz
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Well, Jack, there MAY be a niche for serial-killers. One has to experiment, if he wants to know the limits of the game, right ?

Jack Goes Forth
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I say, leave no stone unturned….

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That drawing of you with your fey little hair-flip makes you look like a dedicated homosexual.