The next interview is with a guy who needs to either start a blog or write a book. He has dropped the most amount of travel and game knowledge that is not only accurate but also fun to read, so it’s no coincidence he has the highest reputation count of everyone on the forum (even higher than me). He’s the only guy I haven’t met recently whose material I’ve successfully integrated into my own game.
MiXXmaster’s most recent contribution was a field report on Solvenia (you can see from the replies how eagerly forum members await his reports). You’ll find his best advice in threads about Brazil and Colombia.
On to the interview…
1. Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in? What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?
I’m 35. I grew up in very tough streets of Brooklyn, New York to humble and hard-working class parents. I was never the most popular kid in school, and especially my neighborhood since my parents did not allow me to integrate with the riff-raff that plagued my streets. I got into a lot of fist fights as a kid and a teenager, mainly because I was different, and was not part of the lower-class, Puerto Rican/Dominican Hispanic community.
Both my parents worked, and did not live off the welfare system like the rest of the poor Spanish kids in my neighborhood. I got good grades in school; the other kids envied me and called me names all the time. I was probably one of the few kids whose parents were not on welfare, and who had a good family without drama or a brother in jail, or a mother with a new boyfriend every other week.
What influenced me the most to succeed in life was the day I was jumped by eight neighborhood kids. They beat me pretty bad with their steel baseball bats, bicycle chains, and Timberland combat boots. I was 12 at the time, and I remember that beating ’til this very day. They beat me senseless. Sure, I got in a few solid punches of my own, but sadly, it was not enough. I had not done anything to them, but just because I was not part of the street gang and aimless lifestyle they had, or who knows, maybe they were just bored, I was always a target of violence. I guess there is nothing better to keep you humble in life than to get punched in the face and feel real pain.
As the blood fell from my eyes, I knew that this is not the life I wanted, and that the only way out was to educate myself as much as I could so that one day I would never have to return to the ghettos of Brooklyn, NY. I could have done like my cousin, who got fed up with the daily fights, got a gun, and shot 3 kids dead—he is still doing life in prison after 20 years of being locked up. That’s not what I wanted either.
Among all of this mayhem, there was a neighborhood girl……yes, a girl that gave me butterflies all over my stomach. Her name was Johanna (she looked like Pebbles, the late 80’s pop singer). Man she was beautiful, and I never knew just how much she liked me. I probably regret never having the guts to talk to her, and rumor was she liked me very much and always asked about me secretly. One day, many years later, in my early 20s, I found out my then best friend banged her. It broke my heart to hear that my best friend banged my childhood crush, and I never told him.
2. Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?
Wow—that’s a tough question. I’ve had so many women in my life, I am not sure there is such a girl. I am attracted to intellectual/executive women, but those women come with a hefty price tag—marriage. I don’t believe in marriage. Whenever there is free choice to walk away, it somehow makes being with somebody fun. You are not pressured or legally bound to stay, and that’s what marriage is to me; a legal contract designed to punish a man for not being happy down the road with the woman he chose.
If I want straight ‘no-strings attached’ sex, I go for Latin women. They are hot in bed and thirsty for sex as much as men. However, as a girlfriend and someone I just want to do anything with, and maybe spend Christmas morning opening presents with, I like women that are mentally a challenge to me (otherwise I get bored very quick). A woman with a playful charm, and witty personality is a winner to me.
3. What type of game do you run? How does your typical bang go down? How do you change your game when you’re abroad versus in your home country? How do foreign girls and American girls differ?
My game is usually 75% playful, 20% funny, and 5% cocky. I usually run street game. Street game is just about anywhere women can be found—of course to mix it up, I often to clubs, but only before 1:00am—after that, its a waste of time to be at a club, and not in a cozy, private apartment of a woman you are seducing.
I typically approach women in a very playful manner, kind of like the innocence of a kid inviting her to play outside her grown-up world. I observe carefully how she reacts to this approach, and can usually tell what outcome I will have if she plays along, and how she plays along. I typically bang women on the 3rd date, but wait no more than 5 dates before completely going aloof on her, or dropping her completely and moving on to the next one.
When I am abroad, I typically get as much information about the culture as possible, learn some friendly lines, and look for places to take girls away from their everyday lives. Foreign girls give me the sense that they compete for me, compared to American girls where it constantly feels like I must compete for their attention. The roles reverse in other words, and I enjoy being approached and chased when in a foreign country.
4. Describe your travel experiences and strategy. What kind of lodgings do you stay in? How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.? What do you fill your days with? Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?
I usually travel to private apartments for the convenience of being able to integrate with local people faster than in hotels packed with tourist or traveling businessmen. Most women hate the stigma associated with going to see a foreigner in a hotel. The apartment gives them the same feel they’d have with a local guy. As far as integrating with culture, I usually start querying Facebook contacts, and making new friends and asking about it. Some even turn into lays when I arrive.
5. How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?
I work in the film industry as a film scorer. I produce music for commercials, TV shows, movies and Latin soap operas worldwide. I started this field working as a foot courier at Unitel Video in New York when I was 14. Mariah Carey came in one day to review her video “Dream Lover,” one of her very first songs produced by Tommy Mottola. I then met a comedian popular in the 90s named Sinbad, and sat down to edit a Showtime special he was doing. I sat through the editing session, and I knew it was something I wanted to do for the rest of my life, especially since I got to work with stars and celebrities. They’re now my clients.
Aside from the creative side, I had to learn many skills, including how to showcase and sell my work (a.k.a marketing guru). I also play musical instruments.
6. What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?
As I approach 40, I think about winding down a bit—working less, and doing more with my life. I never married or had kids, but I think my current set-up is perfect to travel the world worry-free. I want to experience cultures and find a place to live where I will enjoy a slower paced lifestyle, while still chasing local women.
Twenty years from now? I will just be happy to be healthy like a race horse. I cannot ask for much—I lost my father to a car accident—so you never know what curve ball life will throw at you. I’ll enjoy what life has been able to give me short-term: physical health and financial health too.
7. What’s the most important thing you’ve learned so far in life?
Never be afraid to walk away from anything, and keep moving. Don’t get pinned down by staying still for a long period of time, and don’t be afraid to move on to next challenge. Things always work out.