For a man there are two ways to approach getting laid: logic or emotion. With logic, men work on obtaining cars, money, clothes, or anything that is expensive. They focus on the shallower, more superficial things that they themselves use to rate women. For instance, no guy has turned down a hot girl because he didn’t like her sense of humor. Sometimes it works but usually it doesn’t because they are trying to attract women with items that a lot of other guys have.
Approaching the problem with emotion—jealousy, drama, unbridled rage—will do more to get a girl’s attention than Italian shoes. Even women don’t realize this. If you ask one what she likes in a man, she is ten times more likely to say nice shoes than “a guy who I see enjoying a conversation with a girl more attractive than myself.” But every time a girl I like does see me engaged in conversation with a beautiful girl, it is a certainty that she will be much more receptive to me afterwards. Now I’m not saying follow the girl you like to a club and talk to every cute girl but her, but it would be a better and cheaper strategy than buying a BMW.
When it comes to things like business or engineering, a man’s gut instinct is usually the correct one. But with women, it’s always wrong. Men need to develop a second instinct that hits a woman’s illogical and primitive buttons. A lucky few learned this somewhere along the line, leading to a lopsidedness where 20% of the guys are banging 80% of the girls. The others simply don’t care to learn.