In order to be with a woman, there is no sacrifice a modern man is not willing to make. He will pretend to be a feminist, travel around the world, and even feign allegiance to abortion or homosexual marriage. If a man wants a woman, and the woman professes to like something, the man will profess to like it as well, all for a chance of intimacy, sex, or just a bit of companionship, but like Adam following Eve, his actions lead directly to spiritual death.
I originally got into the game because I wanted one idealized sexual relationship, not many. I imagined that the lust and sex from one woman would fulfill me and give my life meaning, so I learned some tricks and techniques on the internet and applied them to random women. My newfound game knowledge led instead to sex with multiple women, fueling my pride and lust to such an extent that I rewrote my personal history. Instead of admitting that the relationship fantasy I desired in my mind didn’t exist in the real world or was unattainable in my current immature state, I convinced myself that I wanted sex with a lot of women all along. I always wanted to be a player.
For nearly twenty years, I provided women with whatever they wanted—entertainment, fun, alcohol, emotional attraction, anonymous sex in European Airbnbs—so that I could feel pleasure from them, a paltry simulation of the love that exists within a devoted Christian marriage. If I didn’t apply my game skills and “social technology,” I feared that I would end up alone and miserable, yet how different was I from Adam?
Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?”
And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’ ”
Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. —Genesis 3:1-7
Adam’s woman was tempted by Satan first and lost eternal life. When she came to him after eating from the tree, I imagine he noticed that her countenance had changed. She was no longer innocent with a saintly glow, and must have appeared worried and tense. The birds were not singing in the Garden like before. He was faced with a difficult choice: turn away from her and reorient himself to God, counting on Him to create another helpmate to make his life worthy, or fall with the woman in a moment of panic and fear of being alone to serve the will of Satan.
To Adam’s credit, he fell with the only woman in the world, yet today, men are begging to fall not for women who love them, not for women who could give them children (they would be immediately aborted), and not even for women they know, but for the potential to meet a godless woman. A man will spend hundreds of hours training to be more interesting or wealthy, to be more attractive in the hope of garnering the momentary interest of a woman, and he will stock his home with all the things that she wants, such as exciting travel photos, bottles of alcohol, playlists of sexy music, and “For Her Pleasure” condoms to satisfy her physically after spending hours straining to satisfy her emotionally. Some men even learn new languages, and the hundreds of hours that entails, to satisfy such a woman. Pathetic! In effect, the modern man pre-eats the apple from the Tree just for a chance of making a good impression on an Eve who has already gorged herself on the fruit. He falls for a woman who is busy serving her true master, Satan, a master she will always serve first.
I can’t help but laugh at my foolishness at the handful of times I tried to transform a girl I had met randomly, often in a bar, into a devoted housewife. When a woman is serving the evil one, she doesn’t want a human master. Why would she follow you anyway, a desperate, weak man who has re-arranged his entire life to make a false god out of a fallen woman?
Any woman who made the decision not to follow me into my perverted idea of marital bliss without God made the wise decision, because while I could puff my muscles up in the gym, strain to be more interesting than a smartphone, or pretend to be some type of dominant gorilla in the bedroom when all I really wanted was love, I was still the servant of the woman, and only deserved one who treated me like the fool that I was by playing games with me, lying to me, and treating me as a disposable toy.
Don’t make the same mistake as Adam. Don’t act as if you were made from the woman’s rib instead of the other way around. Don’t attempt to satisfy a woman with worldly trivialities and pleasures, because I assure you that it is far better to go it this life alone, walking with Christ under his love and protection, than to follow a woman into hell.
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