Monogamy

There is no one perfect girl that has all the qualities I want. Instead there are many girls who can please me in a lot different ways. This girl pleases me physically while this other girl has an exotic vibe that I like while this other girl is funny and that girl over there is sharp and witty. I like them all. And because I don’t currently want children, why pick one?

Regular sex, you’re thinking. Well if you can only get regular sex by committing to one other person, then maybe monogamy is best for you.

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Irina
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why not just do what 75% of most people do: marry one person, sleep with many?

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I agree, why pick one. Thing is as a girl not currently wanting children and not ‘picking one’ sure does get you some, um, glances. Oh well, guess I’ll just see if variety is the spice of life!

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haha! fun reading as usual smile

Genevieve
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Why not find a fwb? Although that could cause problems if she starts liking you. You just need to find a solely sex- driven girl who isn’t down with emotional attachment.

Or, always carry condoms with you. Never know what people have these days. Ick.

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Quit the girls, move on to women. You’ve got to move beyond college at some point.

mhm
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Genevieve,
Because why have sex with just one woman when you can have sex with various women? Sex with the same women is boring after awhile. Nothing like a little variety.

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Only reason I’m in a monogamus relationship right now is because I want to be in one. Not for kids or anything, god no, I’m only 22 and still in school. I’ll say this about monogamy. If you’re willing to be in a relationship with someone (i.e. she isn’t an uggo or a dipshit AND you care about them b/c she’s earned it) it aint that hard. it might not last for very long, but hey 50% of marriages end up circling the drain, so what’s a couple months out of your life. The only down side is your game might suffer. Big deal, it’ll be back in a few weeks – there’s a reason that men’s relationships typically end with lots of booze and floozies in tow.
Monogamy should be a non-issue for roosh – he’s never in a relationship. There’s no reason for him to even think of it.
If you are and you want to sleep with other women, then don’t be a beta, lie to yourself and her about how you care for her and cheat. Step up to the plate, dump her ass, and fuck everyone you want.

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“Monogamy should be a non-issue for roosh – he’s never in a relationship. There’s no reason for him to even think of it.”

He’s not qualified to write about sex, getting laid, or anything about women either.

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Im Anon # 1 and Anon # 2 is worthless

BG
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Yup. Couldnt have written it better myself. You’re always going to want to bone other girls so the key is to bone enough variety that when and if you do finally get married, when you want to hook up with some other young hot chick, you can at least go back through your personal database of notches and say “yeah, i know what that would be like, i’ve bones a similar chick in my life. If i were like some guys who have boned 3-4 lifetime, i would kill myself. either that or become real religious.

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If I ever return to posting a guest column, I’m going to have to address this issue. There are advantages to monogamy, though it has it’s pros and cons just like playing the game does. It’s really a question of which pros you want more and which cons you want less.

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You’ve never had moments where you want to share the rest of your life with someone?

As a traveler, sure, I love to be independent (I went backpacking through Central America alone). But the inherent desire to love and be loved makes you want to share those nights in Nicaragua with someone who understands you, just looking at the stars together, or giggling about some inane joke that only the two of you get.

What can I say? Some people are romantic. Some aren’t. Obviously that’s the divide between monogamous and non-monogamous.

PS–Enjoying love and romance doesn’t make you a beta.

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You just have to find that .0013 percent of the population and you can make it work no problem.

hedonistic
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Monogamy makes perfect sense when ones romantic hormones are going crazy. Thing is, they wear off in a few years and often you’re stuck with a spouse thinking, WTF? I signed up for this?

They should be teaching things like this in high school.

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Hey mandy!

Romance has little to do with being a Beta, but if you are changing the person you are to satisfy women’s infatuation with romance and love, then yes, you are a beta and it is because of romance. Unfortunately that is probably every guy you’ve ever been with. I don’t know many guys who actually enjoy doing romantic things. They convince themselves they are enjoying it.

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Trust me, the day you fall deeply in love you’ll start doing things you never thought you’d do in a million years. It makes you CRAZY! My (now ex) husband wrote dippy poetry: We both found it terribly “deep” at the time, but now we just laugh.

How to tell two people are in love: He’ll do something dippy, and she’ll say it’s “cute.” Meanwhile everyone else around them is trying not to puke.

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I’ve got a bit of a knack when it comes to monogamy and want to share my 2 cents on this subject…(I’ll try to keep it short so it won’t bore)

Thing is that I just got out of a long term relationship. it was with a girl I dated for one year and 4 months’ and we even lived together for almost 4 months until I realized I cant bent the fact that I don’t want her as a mate…(naturally we broke up).
Other then that, the relationship was beautiful, with a good measure of respect and benefits you don’t usually get from your occasional lay.

I have been in the pussy wagon business for some time and I know the flipside of a monogamist relationship because
before that girlfriend, I was chasing girls at my city, inspired by game philosophy, and had sex with a few dozen. So I’m qualified on this subject as well & know what fun game and girl chasing can give you.

Why a knack about monogamy you ask?
Well, at the “game time” I tried to set up a business and I think that chasing tail really hurt my entrepreneurial energy and “helped” me crash my bank account till I had 0 cash.
I made progress & was able to build myself up again and at that time got into a monogamist relationship (basically I was working a lot so I did not want to give time to game)

I saw some very good parts that monogamy can give you: it gives you a good sense of confidence and a home base territory. It helps stabilizing you so this is a major plus for monogamy.
There are things which you will never get from your occasional lay and you will from your girlfriend, things like emotional support, organizational help etc…(heck! She can even cook for you if you ask her to!)

To wrap stuff up, I believe that monogamy is necessary if you want to have kids. It’s kind of mandatory if you want to help your kid grow up un-bent. I defiantly don’t want any kids at the moment but I wander what do people who do want them have to settle for…they got to monogamies and learn to enjoy it.

I’m still trying to figure out what is the best alternative…

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Hi everyone. I’ve been reading Roosh for a couple of weeks now and I can tell you that he’s got his shit together when it comes to women. I’m a 62 year old retired Army officer, married and failed marriages twice each within 7 years duration, but hey I only married Women who earned more than I did. The last one ended 3 years ago, she was a Doctor 12 years younger than I am, and I reaped a very lucrative property settlement. Why do I tell you this ? A number of reasons; my Solicitor/Lawyer advises that most western marriages only last from 5 to 7 years, and it’s the woman who usually terminates it; so why bother ? If you do succumb to self-flattery and marry, ensure it’s a younger woman with a great asset base and significant earning potential, professionals are the obvious answer. Why younger women, because they have to pay out a larger property settlement to an older man earning less than them. All women are mercenary creatures beyond any man’s understanding, you will never captivate them long enough to be able to rely on them. If you have disadvantages manipulate them to your advantage. I have a prominent scar from my reconstructed covered-over ear down to my jaw; as soon as a women notices it she want’s to know what happened. I always answer that I don’t want to talk about it, which of course makes them even more interested in me ! Enjoy the Game, and thanks Roosh, I always smile when I read your advice, maybe we should co-author one day.