Spain 2006

I flew into Barcelona for my third ever trip abroad. I stayed in a hostel, excited to be surrounded by foreigners, especially young European girls. Through sheer persistence, I was able to out-compete the other males to get a cock rub from a pretty Belgian girl on my first night there.

On the third night I came down with a horrible cold that developed quickly into a sore throat, mild fever, body aches, congestion, and headache, but I refused to stay in. Indoor smoking was allowed in Spain back then so my throat became raw and inflamed. I did not feel well.

While on a bar crawl not even halfway through the trip, someone told me that my eyes were leaking green boogers. I contracted a bad case of bacterial conjunctivitis and had to ditch my contacts. Still a travel newbie, I did not have the mind to pack my glasses. My nose was blocked, my voice was starting to descend into a croak, and I was nearly blind, unable to see clearly more than three feet in front of me. Even worse, I was developing a dry hacking cough that would give me 20 second fits, turning my whole face red. My body needed to rest.

But I did not rest and I did not stay in for one night. I was hungry to experience Europe and get action from European babes, knowing full well I’d return to Washington DC for god knows how long. As long as my heart was beating, I would keep working. I went on to get some light intimacy from three other girls, and the only thought of mine that I remember from that time was, “Why do these girls want to kiss me when it appears like I have a serious case of tuberculosis?”

When I came back from the trip, I had to visit two doctors to clear up my health issues. It took three weeks to feel right again, but I had no regrets, because the success I had, which was rather minor in hindsight, was more than enough to push me to quit my job less than one year later.

Turkey 2014

Fast forward eight years. I planned a trip to get away not from Washington DC but from Ukraine, a place that has the most beautiful girls I’ve encountered in my travels. My complaints were that they took too much time to get into bed and I was tired of speaking in Russian. I wanted something easy and more slutty. I figured that I could head to a Turkish resort town and fornicate with a handful of sloppy Scandinavian girls.

Unfortunately, one million horny Turkish men had the exact same idea as me. I became just another cock in a massive sea of cocks. My first night was tough and my second night I put in only a half-shift, coming home early because I couldn’t find many opportunities. On my third night I was ready to call it quits, and tried to change my return flight. All flights were booked, so I was forced to stay another week. I did an approach here, an approach there, but nothing that I’d consider even medium effort.

On the fifth day I contracted a cold (I always seem to get one soon after arriving in a new country). It wasn’t nearly as bad as the one I contracted in Spain, but it was the excuse I needed to cease even the minor effort I was putting in. For two days I holed myself up in my hotel room watching movies and music videos. On the seventh day I ventured out but did not do one approach. Not until my last night out did I scrounge up a bit more effort, managing seven approaches, but it wasn’t enough. I didn’t get any action at all in Turkey, eight years after a trip of similar length where I got much more. It’s true that I went to the wrong place at the wrong time, but nothing that my training and skill shouldn’t have been able to overcome.

Somebody might say, “Well, you looked better when you were younger.” I doubt it: I looked way worse in Spain than in Turkey. It’s actually a miracle in Spain I got any action at all, especially considering that by the end I sounded like a dying man. No, it’s not appearance, because even at my ugliest with a homeless Jesus look I was getting laid in Washington DC, one of the harder environments in America to score in. In Turkey I was at my peak in terms of game, wisdom, intelligence, and not that far off in terms of my peak in physical appearance, and yet I utterly bombed.

The answer lies with my desire. In the past, I was willing to do whatever it took to get laid. I have worked extremely hard at that goal and have been able to enjoy the fruit over many years, but from that fruit I have grown fat, lazy, and spoiled. My drive to work has atrophied. Consider that I booked the trip to Turkey specifically because I wanted something easy—because I didn’t want to work! Nature punished me accordingly, with not even one scrap of intimacy from a woman, not even one kiss, while in Spain it rewarded me with far more in spite of lower game, a pumpkin appearance, and bad health.

What will you do if I put a mountain in between you and your goals? Will you take a few steps up, exclaim the mountain is too tall only to turn back, or will you seek out supplies and equipment so that you can scale it? In Spain, I climbed the mountain. It was hard, and I needed a lot of time to recover, but I did it. In Turkey I looked at the mountain, complained about it, blamed Turkish men, and then sat at its base as I watched others attempt what I did not have the will to do, all because they wanted it more.

In any goal you attempt in life, you will not only encounter a mountain, but also large rivers, forests full of predators, and deserts lacking water. If your instinct is to turn back from these obstacles, I promise that you will not succeed. Any time you look for a shortcut, any time you look for a way not to work, you will fail in your goal. For me to succeed today, I don’t need more information or knowledge, but the desire of yesterday, the will to traverse anything put in front of me. Until I regain this hunger, until we all have an irrational and pathological need to succeed, until the mountain is nothing to us, we will not be victorious.

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  2. P226 December 22, 2014 at 10:37 am

    This post sounds like old school Roosh where its highly motivational, very clear reasoning, a realistic vibe, and a positive yet blunt helpful/coach tone to it.

    I have a question for you-
    I’m big but not super lean like an American football offensive lineman- what country in your travels has big boobed petite blondes with average builds (skinny twig arm girls are gross imo I love blonde big rack natural porn star girl next door types over Victorias Secrets models).

    1. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      1. Country-Ukraine.
      2. But change your requirements a bit cause you sound like a North American female in her eternal search for “Mr. Tall, dark, handsome, rich, wealthy, with status in the society, with a nice condo, a couple of fancy cars, a lot of money in his bank account who’d obey every order I give him without ever objecting anything and complying with every demand I make”.

      1. P226 December 22, 2014 at 12:58 pm

        I’ve heard a lot of guys say Ukraine has more small breasted skinny girls. I just like a blonde with some meat hardly like some bird wanting some guy with 4 Ferraris and a 16000 sqft house (we all know if a guy had that kind of paper he’d be in Moscow with women who look like prime years Victoria Zdrok, Heidi Klum, Laetita Casta, or Jenny McCarthy) not taking orders off of some random girl.

      2. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 1:05 pm

        There are a lot of different women in Ukraine and Russia and it is possible to meet any requirements. But people have to be relaxed and willing to go with the flow instead of looking for a “castle in the sky” in form of the above mentioned female with blond hair, big rack etc….

      3. TyKo Steamboat December 22, 2014 at 12:58 pm

        Ukraine doesn’t have a lot of the women he described above. I would day Norway & Sweden do though.

      4. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 1:04 pm

        1. Ukraine and Russia have the best women if we take all the categories into consideration.
        2. Forget about Norway and Sweden. Feminism rules in those countries.

      5. TyKo Steamboat December 22, 2014 at 1:10 pm

        I like Scandanavian girls. Not for relationships perhaps but if you’re looken for a kinky night, girls from Finland will let you do anything you want.
        July 2014 was great to me. Kittos!

      6. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 1:15 pm

        May be! I’m not an expert in Scandinavian girls;)

      7. Tom Dane December 23, 2014 at 2:25 pm

        I can almost agree on Finland. They are not like other Scandinavian countries. The language is not even the same and immigration has not run wild. Been there a few times and I liked it. They call it “Scandinavian” but it has nothing to do with Denmark/ Norway/Sweeden, who are almost like one country (language is almost the same)

      8. TyKo Steamboat December 23, 2014 at 8:59 pm

        The woman with the best body I’ve ever been with was from Finland. Upper-half was soft & feminine. Lower-half was built like a fire hydrant. Kittos!

      9. ChimpGod December 24, 2014 at 11:39 am

        Swedish and Norwegian are mutually intelligible.. Danish is somewhere between German and Norwegian.. and we can’t forget Iceland 🙂

      10. Tom Dane December 23, 2014 at 2:20 pm

        No man has that list. Our list is “Good ass, nice breast,sweet, can cook”

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  4. Luisaceo December 22, 2014 at 12:06 pm

    Great post. Expect nothing unless you give it your all.

  5. Zam December 22, 2014 at 12:13 pm

    LOVED this. I needed this hear this shit. Thanks man!

  6. TyKo Steamboat December 22, 2014 at 12:59 pm

    This was a great read. It reminded me of your post many years ago entitled “What’s your project.?” from Jan 31, 2011
    My answer depends on what’s behind the mountain. Time & effort invested vs. the reward. Some “mountains” are worth it & some are not. Enjoy the journey just as much as the summit.

    1. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 1:02 pm

      GOOOOOOD point! North American women can also be considered a “mountain”. But are they worth the effort? Absolutely NOT!

      1. Tom December 22, 2014 at 2:57 pm

        They’re ruined- it all caters to them
        now and for what- they’re mostly idiots.

        Youve said you have a family.

        What’s it cost you to keep a family
        up over there/month in USD?

      2. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 3:09 pm

        Yes, I’m married and have a family here!
        Our monthly “costs” are in the range of 1000$ US.
        But it is VERY possible to have a decent life on a budget around 600-650$ US per month!

      3. Tom December 22, 2014 at 4:13 pm

        How can you feed,
        Clothe, and educate kids
        For that cheap?
        Are the schools in Ukraine better than N America?
        Does your wife have to work or do you handle all the $ issues?
        Do you live in poverty or are your costs so low (ie your house/flat is paid for) because of your lifestyle?

      4. FormerCanadian December 22, 2014 at 4:30 pm

        what’s so surprising???? Ukraine ain’t no USA.
        Food is cheap and so are clothes. Schools are free and the quality of education in Ukraine and Russia is a lot higher than in North America.
        My wife also works, but don’t forget that we own a smaller Resort on the coast of Black sea not far from Odessa, so there is a lot of work to do! 😉
        NO, we do not live in poverty, we have a good house and a nice car, but BOTH the house and the resort are all paid for, as well as we do not live a lavish lifestyle in general.

      5. TyKo Steamboat December 22, 2014 at 5:25 pm

        [email protected]
        Please send me your contact info about your resort. I have been to Ukraine for 3 long periods of time but not Odessa. (Kyiv, Zaporozhia, Kamenka & Berdyans’k)
        I want to bring one of my girls to Odessa soon. Thanks

      6. Ian December 22, 2014 at 9:11 pm

        Former Canadian-
        What kind of specials domyou have for the Roosh V Family rate/week @ your resort?

      7. FormerCanadian December 23, 2014 at 9:22 am

        1. I can always figure out some kind of a discount for “Roosh V Family”, sure thing. As well as I can guide you and help you through the area and stuff absolutely FREE.
        2. The resort is located a little bit south of Odessa and we offer 2 options: “Room only” and “Room+meals”. Which one would you be interested in?
        3. Feel free too get in touch with me at: [email protected]
        4. There are several options we can help with regarding accomodations in Ukraine so the choices are plenty.

      8. Ian December 23, 2014 at 1:12 pm

        Tell me more about your specials for 2 weeks and a month as well as what kind of activities the area offers. Is there a good tourist website for the area?

        Do you have mountains or national forests nearby for something different from the coastal life?

      9. FormerCanadian December 23, 2014 at 3:43 pm

        Again, prices do vary a lot depending on a season and for example they become a lot higher come mid April.

        This resort is NOT located IN Odessa, it’s a bit outside of the city borders.

        The area it’s located in can initially offer limited activities, people come here in order to relax on the beach, play some beach volleyball during the day, swim in the Black sea and relax at night.

        There are NO major discos, night clubs in the area thus the supply of girls and entertainment is limited;)

        I’m honest and do not want to bullshit you just to attract you to our resort.

        You can see some photos here:

        If you want to spend 2+ weeks in the area it’d be better for you to rent in apartment in the city we live in. We can help you with that as well. Moreover I sure can introduce you to the city and everything in the city!
        And here in the city you can find EVERYTHING from hot and sexy night clubs to hot sexy and stylish girls;)
        There are NO mountains or national parks/forests here in the area, it’s mostly flat land, but there are obviously some places of interest besides the beach and the sea.
        Feel free to get in touch with me at : [email protected]
        It’s a lot easier to answer your detailed questions 1 on 1 by e-mail.

      10. FormerCanadian December 23, 2014 at 9:17 am

        Noo problem! I’m gonna send you all the information in a couple of hours later today. Thanks for the interest!

      11. Tom Dane December 23, 2014 at 2:28 pm

        You live in pussy paradise ! Congrats !

  7. Boagrius December 22, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    If I ever have a late flight (afternoon) I’ll do cardio in the AM & be sure to sweat a lot first. Then i’ll load up on fruits & vitamin C.
    I have when people cough & sneeze on airplanes.
    My only travel paranoia is germs.
    Good write-up, Roosh. Thanks

  8. Christopher Bear December 22, 2014 at 2:35 pm

    good shit………………..the quality writing returns!

  9. A December 22, 2014 at 5:35 pm

    is there a bang France or germany?

  10. Blahh December 22, 2014 at 9:05 pm

    well, you look Turkish, so it makes sense that Turkey would be a dumb idea. You said yourself not to go were you look like everyone else. Since I’m white as a sheet, lanky and blue-eyed, it seems S.A. is calling. It’s also cheap

    1. Guano Apes December 22, 2014 at 9:57 pm

      IMO passing on blonde girls for chica booms is dating down. One of them ancestoral DNA sailed the Seas, invaded, and conquered foreign lands while the others had machete duels and rolled corn wraps from stones in the jungle. If you had to wrap your DNA up in one of the two which one would you choose?

      1. DeCode December 23, 2014 at 3:02 pm

        HA! It never ceases to amaze me how some guys just swear that since they think white women are best, everyone else does too.

        News flash man, a lot of guys don’t care for or put white women on that level. Heck, just by world census, 70 percent of the world doesn’t.

        Don’t mistake the permutation of white euro-centric culture/standards as proof of a world wide desire for whiteness.

        For most guys of other races, white women are merely a sexual curiosity/notch. Nothing more, nothing less.

      2. Jannik Thorsen December 25, 2014 at 7:43 am

        Thats really great news. Far better that people date within their own race.

  11. Tal December 23, 2014 at 2:01 am

    I don’t think you can get back that hunger until you change your goals. You’ve already had so much experience with short term mating with less than top notch girls — why would more of that be inspiring? It gets old. I think you either need to set your sights on super high value girls, switch to a long term mating strategy, or find another hobby.

  12. Tom Dane December 23, 2014 at 6:40 am

    I guess the reason was that in in Spain you were returning to DC..and in Turkey, a place maybe even WORSE than dc, you were returning to pussy paradise. There’s just no real incentive to work.

    1. G Ron December 23, 2014 at 6:43 am

      Is Denmark as awful as Roosh thinks it is?
      What countries have the best looking girls in your experience?

      1. Tom Dane December 23, 2014 at 6:50 am

        It seems like the younger generation is wising up a bit. I see a lot of sweet 16-22 years old, behaving nothing like the 27+ year.. for some reason..but there’s a long way to go before it’s fixed..
        Every where you go is a massive cockfest so you need real good game..right now, would not recommend anyone to go here, really..
        Also the place is being swamped with Arab immigrants..not that I have really anything against these people (many are pretty friendly) but when entire neighborhoods are being taken over by them it makes you feel weird as a Dane.
        There’s no question in my mind that their ultimate goal is to replace the Danish population completely..and the government is helping them..very sad.
        Also, with so many muslims the men-female ratio goes up because muslims never bring any women to he table themselves..only men !
        So yea, this place is a hellhole.

      2. G Ron December 23, 2014 at 7:08 am

        Some of the hottest girls I’ve seen have been from northern Denmark from small towns like girl next door yet model looking. Ukraine, Scandinavia, Russia- all Viking blood-that’s why they’re all so hot.
        The mass immigration is a Zionist ploy. Research about Zionists and immigration as they take the top posts in the system and the. Stick it to the goyim. Also, Inget tired of people sayin because I notice this I hate Jews- I don’t but they are sticking it to everyone everywhere. It’s all such bs its like a bad dream and this is not what our European forefathers wanted for future generations. It’s an asylum ran by Jew banks out here.

      3. Tom Dane December 23, 2014 at 1:54 pm

        There’s a lot a jews here in top positions, I agree on that..if I buy fully into the jew conspiracy theory I don’t know..after all, imagine Denmark becoming 100% islam ? would not be the ideal situation for them..better keep the Danes since we more or less live in peace with them.
        If the goal is to fuck of the country 100% and then get the fuck out, yea ok might be. I’m not really sure anyone is that messed up though, but who knows.

      4. G Ron December 24, 2014 at 6:34 am

        The Islamophobia is a game the elites are running to sell the dumb white guys into a total war that will ruin them and the Arabs so they can have a global government by the Jew/Ashkenazi khazars for the Khazars and put chips in everyone so they can control what you buy and sell and own you. It’s total evil. Google “Albert Pike 3 World Wars” the major war cycle of debt and destruction between the West and the Arabs has been planned out already by the globalists.

        The men are more beta than their forefathers because of social engineering (media, education, etc). I see young boys here in America and they are so feminized and its not their fault the system is forcing a vast majority into this so thy can have docile slaves. It’s definitely not entirely the kids fault as they’ve been getting screwed their whole lives by the game.

      5. Jannik Thorsen December 25, 2014 at 8:00 am

        I am mid thirties, and can confirm that additudes have significantly worsened in the last ten years or so.
        Clothing styles have just in the last 5 years become really ugly. More short haired SJW girls abound, green hair, full body tats, and mutilating piercings.
        And the younger generation is also fatter. Girls in their 20s were some what slimmer 10-15 years ago. But nothing even near American levels, its still a different League.
        Danish girls still have som good basic genetics. Really the embodiment of the pretty nordic blond girl. And they are far better looking than say English girls.
        Additudes are however among the worst. Feminism coupled with a very upfront Nordic additude, makes for very rude and entitled behavior. This part Roosh has got right.
        This is not the best place to go as an American. EE is a better bet, also alot cheaper.

  13. Schultz December 23, 2014 at 9:27 am

    Roosh, It is safe to assume the attitudes of the females in Barcelona in 2006 were different than today. Smart phones weren’t around back then and the social virus that contaminates female minds was less (though it was present). I would strongly encourage you to attempt Barcelona again this summer. It will be 2015 (9 years later) and attempt, with same level of enthusiasm, and see if you score equally as well or not. If your past article about the decimation of western women is correct (and I suspect that it is) then you’ll truly know that the answer is that now even with full-amped enthusiasm, that the decline of females will start to trump anything.

  14. greyghost1 December 23, 2014 at 10:57 am

    Very insightful article. The desire just isn’t there. Put in the effort and what you have is the greatest burden and threat to your freedom and well being a man has.

  15. Blue Tropic December 23, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    Still, recognize that Turkey was far worse than Spain, and the quality of the environment has a huge influence in the results.

    If its that difficult, there is a point where it just doesn’t pay off well enough for the effort

  16. RebelAlliance December 23, 2014 at 1:58 pm

    Roosh, your writings go way beyond game, into the sublime. Thank you.

  17. Stonewall December 23, 2014 at 5:13 pm

    While in the hiring process for the first law enforcement agency I joined, I spent a Saturday night on a mandated “ride along” with a veteran of the agency. My goal had always been to work in law enforcement, and that night was my initial exposure to what it all was like.

    Long story short, it was a great night. I was on top of the world. I thought it was the best thing ever, the action and sense of adventure totally captivated me. The thrill of it all was even more than I had imagined, and I’m sure that I looked the part of the “wide eyed kid”. Anyhow, during a period that night when things had slowed down, the veteran agent looked me right in the eye and said, “After awhile, it just becomes a job”. In other words, the novelty wears off over time.
    Looking back, he was right. And the same can be said of all professions. Every vocation brings with it a certain level of monotony, this is inevitable. Even professional athletes are not immune to this. I’ve heard numerous Major League Baseball players talk about the “daily grind” of a 162 game season when interviewed, and how much they enjoyed/needed the offseason. These are men of elite fame who make millions of dollars a year.

    Roosh, I’m saying that what you are going through is perfectly normal. Keep pressing on. Keep battling. Don’t underestimate your accomplishments. I’ve only recently been exposed to your websites, yet I can clearly see your steady progression over the last 8 years. You’ve gone from writing a little-known blog while living in Washington DC to being a featured guest on national television in Ukraine.

    You’ve paid your dues. Now, you’ve positioned yourself to take things to the next level. Actually, you already have taken things to the next level. That can be hard to see yourself, as you are in the daily grind. But, it’s readily apparent to an objective outsider like myself. You have evolved significantly, from starting out as a man giving specific information to travelers (a niche market) to expanding whereby you currently are taking on major societal issues of grave importance.

    Being new to your forum/sites is beneficial as it gives me a unique perspective to base these comments on. I’ve been very impressed with your material/commentary, and have been spreading the word about your websites on a daily basis. Your message resonates, and your number of supporters is continually growing. Bigger things are clearly ahead.

  18. trudatness December 24, 2014 at 5:25 pm

    Sometimes you might not always feel ready for the game. That’s OK. As we age, it’s not that weird for us to let the younger guys run with the hunt. By this time we’re supposed to have built at least the foundation of our own personal empire.

    Past the age of 35 the game changes. We stop needing to chase so hard. If we’re in good shape, have financial success and lead a solid life without major baggage we start becoming the prize. Part of getting a little older and wiser is the accumulation of resources. Sounds like beta style bait (and it is) but once you have your home base and career established – with a solid network built up around you then it becomes super easy if that’s what you’re looking for.

    You’ve done the tourism sport fucking thing now for nearly a decade, even that shit gets old I would imagine.

    My brother just got divorced, got out with minimal damage. He’s 38, no kids, goes to the gym 5 days a week and makes a 6 figure income. He’s dialed in running his game in Tampa, FL. He’s got beautiful girls chasing after him – not scraggly pigs either. His phone’s loaded with naked pics they keep sending him.

    There’s an old story about two bulls on a hill. The younger one says to the older one “Lets run down that hill and fuck one of those cows” The older one replies, “Nah, lets walk down and fuck them all.”

    As a man in my 40s I couldn’t imagine having to constantly run club game on chicks sight unseen night after night in bars in order to get laid. Too much fucking work and I’m getting too old for that shit if that’s what I had to do to get laid. At this point its about having life game. Build it and they will come. Be a personal success, have a good social network of friends and live life with a solid Red Pill awareness and it becomes like fishing with dynamite.

    1. Roosh_V December 25, 2014 at 4:11 pm

      “If we’re in good shape, have financial success and lead a solid life without major baggage we start becoming the prize [after 35]. ”

      Not to women 18-23. You still have to pursue them aggressively.

      To single women over 25, yes it is way more easier to attract them.

  19. castaban December 28, 2014 at 9:04 pm

    You’re a great writer roosh. Going through tough times in my life right now, I needed to read this.