My Philosophy On Life

Easy come…
If you’re experiencing a period of joy or pleasure, either with a situation or a person, cherish it because it will not last. Nothing lasts.

Gray
You’re not only happy or only unhappy but happy about some things and unhappy about others. The worst question in the world is “Are you happy?” Happiness is more like a thermostat, and throughout your life it will be stubbornly constant, moving only if you change how you think about the events that happen to you. If everyone experiences the same things, heartbreak and illness, money problems and aging, the main thing that differs us is how we think.

Decisions
The difference between a good life and “bad luck” are the choices you make. Seemingly intelligent people make poor choices that eventually lead to disaster. Getting in that car after too much to drink, standing down when you should stand up, letting life idle by in front of a television set, abusing your body with poor health choices, not living within your means, having unprotected sex with a stranger. These are the things we do without daily conscious thought but nonetheless increase the risk for future disaster. “Why me?” I can tell you why.

Today
It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday. It’s done, finished, and no amount of reflection or regret will change unless you act. Constant, focused action on the present helps fix the past. It sets your future.

Rare
If you find someone with character, don’t let that person go. The world is full people who will sell out their beliefs, their words, their country, and their fellow man for money or power. You have government agents spying on their neighbor because they want a steady job. You have doctors who put their name on research papers for a drug that’s as bad as the disease. You have the pastor with the extra marital affairs, the environmentalist who owns a car, the family values conservative who flirts with little boys, the lawyer who suppreses free speech for his big money client, the libertarian who takes government assistance, the mayor who helps his friends before his voters. The only way I can sleep at night is if my words and my thoughts match how I live my life. Without character you’re a fraud.

Empty
No one will complete you or make you better or happier than you can make yourself. This is true for many reasons, but the biggest is if someone else was much better or happier than you, they wouldn’t waste their time on you. Everything that is needed to become fulfilled and self-actualized and so on is only found within you. The faster you realize that the sooner you’ll stop waiting for someone else to do a job you can do for yourself.

Stages
There is comfort and then there is growth. You can’t do both at the same time. If you are comfortable in life right now then you are not growing. I think I’ll go for comfort when I run out of ideas. Or when I’m ready to die.

Extra credit
You need a project, something beyond your normal job or habits, that pushes you do and learn things you’ve never done before, something that has a journey with a concrete beginning and a not so concrete end. And when time comes for you to move on to something else, when you’re sitting around for weeks or months with that empty feeling of accomplishing nothing beyond mere survival, a new project comes into your mind and off you go again. A meaningful life is a series of projects.

UFO’s
If you haven’t experienced it first hand then you don’t know, regardless of the authority. It’s just time killing entertainment. It’s not true unless you see it, touch it, feel it, taste it, until it’s confirmed beyond a reasonable doubt. There’s theoretical knowledge and there’s applied knowledge. But don’t take my word for it.

Should, must, have
You don’t have to do anything but die. There’s no rules in life. Anyone who pushes rules onto you is suffocating by theirs. No one said you have to work for megacorp on the exact same days and same hours as everyone else. Think about this concept we have called “rush hour.” Twice a day most of the population drags themselves to work and then back home again. Who said it had to be that way? Who said you have to have to own a house and car and barbecue grill to be a complete person? Who said you had to work hard most of your life to save money until you can barley bend over to tie your shoes? Who said you had to act and talk and look like everyone else? If you can’t answer why you are doing everything you are doing then you’re living by someone else’s rules, not your own.

Late
The most important thing in life is time. Besides basic survival with food, shelter, and clothing, it’s the only thing you should fear losing. While many people are lucky enough to live long lives, you may not. I’m not a gambling man—I’m not going to assume I will live to 76.3 years of age. Time is a savings account, and you’re drawing on it with soulless endeavors and draining relationships. You will die before you are ready, and there is no praying or hoping or wishing that will get back the time you did not spend wisely.

Garbage in…
Everyone wants to get something for nothing. Quick cash with scratch tickets, quick weight loss with pills, a big house with a self-destruct loan, Hollywood style love, talentless fame. People want the sweet things without having to taste the bitter. I don’t know if the things I do in life are right or not, but if it’s really hard to do and I curse it every night before I go to bed wishing life was easier then it’s safe bet I’ll have a rich payoff. If it’s easy then it’s not worth doing.

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Eric
12 years ago

I really enjoy it when you wax philosophical like this. Great stuff, Roosh.

Eric’s last blog post: Great Expectations.

Jamie
Jamie
12 years ago

I agree with a lot of your philosophy, you’re basically existential. Especially when it comes to choosing your friends.

However I have a problem with “should, must, have.” It’s easy for you to say “don’t live by the man’s rules” when you’re not pulling your own weight. We’d all like to be carefree and life life without selling out to anyone, but the reality is, it’s pretty hard to do that – and it’s pretty lame to criticize anyone else who does that when you yourself are getting a free ride.

What would you be doing now if you had to pay rent?

roissy
12 years ago

Without character you’re a fraud.

true. the world is full of phonyfucks.
unfortunately, for so many people, character is destiny.

roissy’s last blog post: The Five Stages Of Cougar Grief.

J. Woods
12 years ago

Thanks, Roosh. You basically outlined most of my beliefs.

I am a big advocate of Eckhart Tolle’s philosophy of living in the “Now”. If you haven’t read The Power of Now, I encourage you to.

If you aren’t happy, you can either do three things: Escape it, Change it, or Accept it. This concept can be applied to a lot of your philosophy.

What you or I hold true today may or may not be true for others, or even ourselves tomorrow.

J. Woods’s last blog post: Parting the Red Sea.

Withers
12 years ago

Great post, in some ways reminds me of Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist.’

“There is only one way to learn. It’s through action.”

The Dude
The Dude
12 years ago

This was an awesome post and very inspirational. Thanks dude– this is why I am still reading this site after 6 years.

mike says
mike says
12 years ago

Been on a tear lately. Well done.

dchero
12 years ago

Roosh, I think I see eye to eye with you on more or less everything but this:

The only way I can sleep at night is if my words and my thoughts match how I live my life.

It seems like you’re equating character with consistency. The older I get, the less I believe that these two things are related. What happens when your new words and thoughts don’t match how you’ve lived life so far? If I contradict ideas I’ve previously thought, do I have less character? I really believe men are walking contradictions, and fighting this will only leave us as slaves to our past. It’s only natural to change our beliefs as we gather more information.

I think true character is never being afraid to stand up for what you believe, even if this means letting go of your longest-held beliefs.

dchero’s last blog post: Girls and Their Powers.

DF
DF
12 years ago

Without character you’re a fraud.

Oh, so where does this “fake it till you make it” game mantra come from?

Paul
Paul
12 years ago

Roosh,

Nice Job man

I feel this post really hit the spot… especially
the part about fake character.

Namtab
Namtab
12 years ago

Great, great post. I second ‘The Dude’ – these are gems that keep me coming back.

The Pink Fish
12 years ago

Yep.

The Pink Fish’s last blog post: relatio felacio…..

todd hackett
todd hackett
12 years ago

thanks — good stuff again

Matt Savage
12 years ago

Ahh Roosh, like a modern day Socrates perhaps? Good stuff. I think I would add the following life philosophy though:

“Every now and then say, ‘What the fuck.’ ‘What the fuck’ gives you freedom. Freedom brings opportunity. Opportunity makes your future…Say ‘what the fuck.’… If you can’t say it, you can’t do it.”

– the guy who played Booger in Revenge of the Nerds (although the quote is from his character Miles in Risky Business)

Matt Savage’s last blog post: How To Kiss in the Rain.

namaste
12 years ago

What a great post. A well-rounded departure from the usual drill. I especially agree with “Rare”.

namaste’s last blog post: “You May Say I’m a Dreamer…”.

SeaFighter HSV
SeaFighter HSV
12 years ago

More drivel.

mr. hanky
mr. hanky
12 years ago

great post….but something confused me

in your past post title “the rules of life” you stated that if you were in a situation that you hated (esp with a girl), it would be better to cut your losses now rather then keep going and hope for a good outcome/payoff because you’ve already invested so much.

but in this post, under the section “garbage in” you say that if you’re in a situation where you curse yourself every night, it makes you feel good since you know it will lead to a good outcome…

not sure if that makes sense

RG
RG
12 years ago

Mr. Durden,

I agree with you completely!

skadanks
skadanks
12 years ago

This is gold! Pure gold. I should repost this on myspace.

Rita
12 years ago

I like this post. I really needed to read something like this right now. Thank you for sharing.

Rita’s last blog post: finally!.

Anonymous
Anonymous
12 years ago

Who said it had to be that way?

Nobody, but if for example, your vocational calling as a writer required you to work in the city center as a journalist. Then you could practice your writing skill and make money and then live in your own apartment. You would be a rush hour drone like the rest of us.

Who said you have to have to own a house and car and barbecue grill to be a complete person?

Nobody, but its handy when you have kids and wife and you look stupidly out of place in a pub and just want to have some friends over to relax after a hard weeks commute.

Who said you had to work hard most of your life to save money until you can barley bend over to tie your shoes?

Nobody, but I may want to put good food on the table for my family and make sure they get a good education. I also might want a pension so I can retire early and maybe have a nurse bend over to tie my shoes…

Who said you had to act and talk and look like everyone else?
If I dont, I will just alienate myself socially and end up trying to justify my lack of conformist by traditional hippy philosophies. I will also significantly increase my chances of depression.

If you can’t answer why you are doing everything you are doing then you’re living by someone else’s rules, not your own.

Bollox, its a pattern that works to ensure safe and successful reproduction.Which is the ultimate aim of the human species after survival.

Anonymous
Anonymous
12 years ago

Another thing interests me , as to why with your deep understanding of life and the system you would throw away your job and education to a life of scrimping and scraping as a writer in your dads basement in order to justify your own happiness and doom any family you may be fortunate to have to lesser quality of life than the one your mother obviously WORKED hard to give you.

This is pure selfishness ?

R. Mutt
12 years ago

Good stuff Roosh, I espeically liked this sentence:

“Everything that is needed to become fulfilled and self-actualized and so on is only found within you. The faster you realize that the sooner you’ll stop waiting for someone else to do a job you can do for yourself.”

I think a lot of people searching for love could use this advice. You’ve mentioned several times that it’s statistically unlikely one will ever find a soul mate.

Bearing that in mind I think genuine confidence and self fulfillment is an important part of life to keep you trekking down the long road. Otherwise if you sit there waiting, wondering where and when you’ll find it…time will pass you by.

The Dude
The Dude
12 years ago

I am not sure why there is so much hate about you wanting to be a writer. I mean, you were a chemist, correct? There’s no reason you couldn’t go get another job as a chemist tommorrow right? I don’t see anything wrong with following your dreams for a while– it seems like too many don’t.

The G Manifesto
12 years ago

What does “Hollywood style love” mean?

Three LA party girls and some Beeks at 3am Chateau Marmont?

– MPM

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