I haven’t written a lot of about relationship game because, well, I don’t get into many relationships. Even girls who are high quality to me, meaning the top 0.01% of girls I’ve dated, bore me after a short period of time. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have a basic relationship model to guide me.
Unlike with approaches, you can’t apply a routine-based or memorization strategy in relationship game, because there is so much time spent with your girl, with so many different scenarios, that a robotic approach will paralyze you. It’s best to possess the optimal rules instead, and let the spontaneous and correct behavior flow from them.
Here are my three relationship rules:
1. Never escalate the commitment side of the relationship before she does.
Do not say or do anything which tells her you want monogamy or a deeper relationship. Do not suggest going on trips before she does. Do not insist on her spending the night unless she requests it. Do not suggest hanging out at a greater frequency than she has implied. It is entirely the job of the girl to demand commitment, while the man’s job is to act with bemused reluctance (if not outright belligerence).
2. Make it seem like you value her mainly for sex.
This will probably be true for you anyway, so make no attempt to hide it. Bring up sex often outside of the bedroom, remarking on the things you want to do to her. Make sexual jokes. Compliment her body, not her personality. Be reluctant to plan complicated activities instead of easy booty calls. Tell her to dress sexy. Be generally perverted. You want her to understand that if she doesn’t continue with the sexual rewards, you may get bored and search elsewhere.
3. Only make declarations of affection and love in response to hers.
Even the most aloof of girls will want some display of your feelings, but do so only as a response. It should come at a random frequency and at a lower intensity than what she gives. When she says, “I miss you,” you can reply “Aww” some of the time and “I miss you too” the others. When she says, “I want you,” you may say “I want you too.” In the back of her mind, she will know you aren’t being completely sincere, and may even call you out for being a “liar,” a compliment to your game. There must always be doubt in her mind if what you’re saying is true or not, because if there isn’t, she will feel that she has you and then get bored herself. Things do become a bit more sticky when she tosses out “I love you,” but as long as your responses are flat and have the word “too,” you will be safe.
If you keep these three rules in mind, you shouldn’t enter needy territory where she gets turned off. Don’t slip on your game entirely, such as showering her with gifts and being too quick to reply back to her via text, but you can treat her generally well, spoon with her, and take her out to dinner, because she will still be anxious about the state of the relationship, constantly seeking reassurances of your feelings for her but never quite getting it in the unambiguous way she desires. While some of the harder girls in America may need more doses of dread to keep them anxious, I find the above model to be more than sufficient for all my mini-relationship needs.
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