Nerd Glasses

The countdown at the top of the page is now in the scary single digits. I feel like I’m going into a theater of a movie I know nothing about, and other than knowing the name of my arrival city and the first hostel I’m staying at, I don’t know what I’m doing or where I’m headed next. When I was young my mom would have this saying whenever I asked her where we’re going. Wherever the wind takes us. I think it’s her way of saying go with the flow, to not be concerned with the final destination.

But she’s concerned about this.

The other night she tried to convince me to stay. You’re stupid to throw away a comfortable life at your age. To her, my happiness needs to measurable and concrete, like having my own place, a j-o-b, a nice car, money in the bank that is growing instead of evaporating. The only way I could stop the tears in her eyes from falling was to tell I would be back soon, resume my unfullfilling career, and never do something like this again. Certainly taking a trip of this nature will sap the will and desire to take another one and push me to settle down in the suburbs where I can motor around from work to gym to bar to home. I’ll just get it out of my system now before I get old. She smiled.

My dad doesn’t think I’ll last longer than two months, and he’s been more supportive than some of my friends. While I would like to travel for at least six months, it is totally possible I’ll not like things down there and quickly return to the safety of my dad’s damp basement, ant infestation and all. I kept this in mind when declining to have a Farewell Roosh party with my friends. I imagine it would be a little lame if I threw this big party and returned before DC’s first snow. The only reason I have a feeling I’ll be away for a while is because I know that once I return I’ll have to resume working. I rather cross the Atlantic and let the Euro finish off my savings.

The other Friday night I went to the late-night Starbucks / Barnes & Noble. I found it strange that the parking lot was filled and a cop car was parked in front of the building. Inside, I noticed half the people I saw had witches hats or round nerd glasses. Little girls in capes encircled my table in the geographic middle of the cafe and every thirty minutes a cute teenage girl would roll by in her skimpy goth-inspired clothing, probably unaware of how that may trigger the sleazy men around her, like myself. I stood out, without a thunderbolt marking on my neck or any other Harry Potter paraphernalia.

Well it’s nice that these people are exciting about something, I thought. Something they can look forward to. I wish I could get excited over something here so I don’t have to escape from a soulless but nice paying job—a very nice paying job—for something that has no plan, no goal, and mostly involves spending lots of money. I’ve worked so hard and come so far to this moment that I could be wrapped up in self-delusion, but I think the far greater risk is not doing what I’m doing. I could be gambling with my career, my life, but the dealer is showing a low card, I got 10, and even if I don’t have the bankroll a gambling expert says is necessary to ride the ups and down of a typical swing, I’m doubling down. Regardless of whether I win or lose, or what that next card is, it’s the right move. There will be no regrets.

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KassyK
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As someone about to take a leap into the career and “normal life” unknown, I understand the excitment and trepidation. You are doing the right thing for you and that is all that matters.

Have the best time!

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I see the “did I make the right decision” anxiety is starting to creep in. You said it yourself, man, whatever comes of the whole thing, at least you’ll never have to battle the “what ifs.” As long as you make it back alive, you’ll be better off for it. You’ll always have your degree and your science background, and the job market will always have a place for that. You’ve got the next two decades to build a nest egg. Go down there and get it in for all of us.

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I personally think it’s great what you’re doing. One day you’ll settle down into a routine with a job, wife, kids, and you’ll look back with no regrets, knowing that you traveled and saw tons of things that you might never get a chance to see again. Once you’re married with kids, you’ll never have the opportunity, so this is the time to do it!

I just wish I had a savings that would support my own travel goals — until then, I’ll live through your stories smile

And feel free to ask for advice once you cross over to my “little” homecountry, Brazil.

suicide_blond
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a wise guy…(not named vinny…)once told me that… choosing to LIVE life..is rarely the wrong decision…ive never regretted taking the road less traveled…have fun..and dont forget to write!!!!
xoxo

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Certainly taking a trip of this nature will sap the will and desire to take another one

don’t bet on it.

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Good luck!!! I think what you are doing is great- at best, you will go and have an amazing time and your life will be forever enriched by the experience, and at worst, you will go, hate it, and come back with a newfound appreciation for your life here. Either way, you can’t really lose.

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I think it would be strange for you not to wonder. But it seems to me that we don’t often get to choose the adventures we take in life: they come to us. Choosing this doesn’t mean it will turn out a certain way. But then, there’s comfort in knowing that happens with the things we don’t plan, either, maybe?

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It’s a lightning bolt, and it’s on his forehead.

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Dude, Taking a trip of this nature will increase the desire to take another one smile Have you watched ‘Map of Saturday’ yet? Or read the books ‘Vagabonding’ by Rolf Potts and ‘Walden’ by Henry Thoreau?

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Good luck my man. I am jealous. Have a good adventure.

Land-Man
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What does Thoreau have to do with traveling to Ecuador?

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When/if you make your way back into the professional world, the time off that you took will be looked at as a sabbatical, which is pretty normal if not very common. You should be able to pick up more or less where you left off, so you’re not throwing anything away, except however many months of salary. And in the long run who really gives a crap about that.

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Sometimes, the only way to know if something is “right” is to just do it. And even if you find it’s “wrong,” or not for you, at least you’ve learned something. Have fun!

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Take it from someone who is a bit older (and hopefully wiser). Your decision to travel at this point in your life is a wise one, despite the opportunity cost. Yes, you had a well-paying job and could have been on your way to a very secure retirement. Yet what kind of a retirement would it be if you had significant regrets about not seeing the world while you were physically able?

Then again, it is important to balance the desires of the present with the needs of the future. When you come back to the States, consider a job/career that will allow you to travel for work. There are plenty of jobs out there that so-called “normal” people don’t want because such jobs will take them away from their wives and children. Until you have one or the other (or perhaps both), you have the freedom to see the world on your future employer’s dime. This may preclude you from meeting the future “Mrs. Roosh”, but I doubt it. Rather, I believe that you’ll find her wherever you are, because she will share your same passion for traveling.

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I think Roissy missed your sarcasm.

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PS: don’t forget us office dwellers/blog readers/working stiffs. Looking forward to reading stories of your travels and seeing your pics. Let’s be honest, you’re doing something only the very few would have the gonads to do. You said that your goal is to travel for six months, but what are the odds you stay longer or are gone for good? you could find a town with everything you ever wanted in life, get a job to pay your living expenses, meet great people, and spend years there. Good luck to you.

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“consider a job/career that will allow you to travel for work”

Jay Gatsby. Example, please?

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Dude, you have the rest of your life to work, get a wife etc. Enjoy your youth while it lasts. Don’t look back…..you’re doing what you want, and that’s what counts….

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“Only love’s paradise.”
-Modern Talking, a quality europop80sband

Baby, you’re just lonely. I think love is the solution to all of your problems.

Jay Gatsby
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Land-Man,

See this link:

http://money.cnn.com/…/100138820/index.htm?postversion=2007073106

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i know a guy that went to Quito and never came back, been there a few years now. Have a blast!

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Remember the story of the American on vacation vs the Mexican fisherman.

Both wanted to end up with the same lifestyle of enjoying their families, relaxing on the beach, and fishing.

The Mexican lived that life as soon as he figured out that’s what he wanted by keeping things simple and not being materialistic. The American decided to pile on the bills and the fancy lifestyle and only do what he really wanted 2 weeks a year if that and maybe if he lived long enough and didn’t make ANY mistakes for a few years when arthritis sets in, his eyes and hearing are shot and his libido is low.

Dude, seriously you’re making the best decision of your life. Don’t get loaded down with expectations. Go down there and make as many friends as possible. Stay chill and you’ll be fine.

I hope to hear all the adventures of your travels for months to come.

Wishing you loads of memories, the confidence to stick through trials, and the most fun you’ve ever had in your life.

Kim-E

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I am thinking about taking a similar trip.

Do you mind me asking how much money you’ve saved up?

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Why don’t you get into some online businesses? You’ve been on the net for awhile now, you have a head start on most of the guys that are doing stuff like advertising arbitrage, monetizing blogs, e commerce with drop shippers, etc… why don’t you start into some of this stuff, you can manage it from anywhere in the world and the income should be enough to live in most third world countries. The initial start up will take some time, but after that it becomes much easier, especially if you just plan on maintaining the current income rather than growing.

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I have a huge glasses fetish in women, and have continuouslz lamented the fact that while European girls don`t shrink from wearing glasses if they have less-than-perfect vision, in the US glasses are almost unseen on 20- and 30-something women, unless they`re making a conscious effort to look hip, edgy, or emo. In other words, in the US, glasses are used by a small minority of girls to make a “statement”, but are otherwise eschewed in favor of contact lenses and LASIK surgery, to assuage their fragile self-esteems.

That is to say, in the US, the decimating of young women`s self-esteem is so pervasive and total, that the vast majority of young women won`t wear glasses.

This tells me more about the self-esteem problems of young American women than it does about fashion.

In Europe (including the UK, where I was last week, which has the most INCREDIBLE looking 20- and 30-something women on the planet, IMHO), you see young women with glasses everywhere. In fact it makes you realize that eye problems are much more common than a cursory view of the US population would lead you to believe. Whereas in the UK and even moreso in Continental Europe, nearly everyone who needs to wear glasses, will be found wearing glasses.

I think glasses hugely enhance an attractive women`s features. They suggest intellect, seriousness as opposed to flightiness, and call attention to the eyes and indeed the entire face.

In the US, marketing and product penetration are so pervasive in almost all facets of life, that glasses have almost become a thing of the past for people under 50. How sad.

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Yea lifestyles of travel are hard to get away from I think. I was in the Army lived in Germany and find that I can probably never do a typical 9 to 5 working 5 days a week till I am dead. I think what a waste of a life. Now I work 12 hours a day 365 a year oversees. Lot’s of opportunity for those willing to travel. If you can save the money you can do whatever. When people say money isn’t everything. They feel it isn’t when they have enough to live comfortable take there job and paycheck away and see the fear in there eyes and know the truth. I think Roosh should of saved a 100 or so but hey he still has time later. This trip may give him the motivation to save to be able to do it all the time. I know meeting my wife and seeing another culture gave me mine.