Never Cancel Plans With A Girl For Another Girl

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while and already read my book (while also putting things into practice), you most likely have a firm grasp on the do’s and dont’s of game. Besides day game, the big points have been covered, so now it’s time to get into the little details that take you from good game to tight. These are things that alone don’t make a huge impact, but a powerful cumulative effect is seen if you nail them all.

I hope you understand the reasoning behind working on multiple girls simultaneously. Girls are flaky, impulsive creatures and a plan of working on one girl at a time is a plan for guaranteed frustration and bitterness. But if you have several pots simmering on the stove, what happens is you will develop favorites. The girl you met in the coffee shop is prettier than the other two you’re talking to, so you call her first to make plans.

Something that always happens to me is I make plans with my second or third choice and then the first choice suddenly comes through. I already had a date with a girl on Thursday but first choice girl can only hang out on Thursday as well. So I’d cancel on the other girl to squeeze first choice into the mix. Guess what would happen?

First choice would wind up canceling and I’d be stuck with my hand on Thursday night. It’s like she knew that I valued her and canceled plans with someone else just for her.

My Danish roommate had a solid date for Friday night with a girl he met on the internet. His old fuck buddy called him, apparently horny, and asked if he wanted to hang out on Friday. The internet girl wasn’t a lock for sex, but the fuck buddy was, so he cancelled the original plans in order to get laid. Well, the fuck buddy cancelled and he was stuck without any girls for the night.

These situations aren’t coincidences. When you confirm plans with a girl by cancelling on another, the first choice can feel that you’re pressed for her. I’m guessing that it’s due to your willingness to make short term plans along with an excited and eager tone in your voice when you find out she wants to see you. These two things subconsciously clue her in that she needs to wave her upper hand and flake out.

Don’t underestimate the power of saying “no” to a desirable woman. Too often you will feel that you need to get her out ASAP or else you might “lose her,” but in that case you definitely need to pull back because she’s going to sense it. If she’s as quality as you think she is then she has seen it all from other guys who think just like you.

Now can you guess what I’m going to suggest next?

DON’T CANCEL ANY TYPE OF PLAN FOR ANY GIRL, PERIOD.

Are you hanging out with a buddy on Tuesday night for drinks but a girl wants to go out that night? Unfortunately you’re busy and maybe some other time. Are you working out at the gym late at night when a girl wants to see you? You’re busy. Are you taking your mom out to a Turkish bistro for some bonding time on the night the hottest girl you’ve ever met in your life wants to go out? Busy. If a guy tells me, “Hey let’s plan for Friday but if Stacy calls me back then maybe some other time,” I know Stacy isn’t going to call back and Friday is a lock. He’s valuing her too much, and top-tier girls don’t respond to that.

Stick to your schedule and be resistant to moving things around. Put your friends, family, hobbies, and responsive girls in the calendar first, and then whatever days are left you can toss out to the stragglers. It’s no surprise that they have a strong appreciation for men who are busy with their own lives.

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Big Snot
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this is the best advice ever given on this blog. also the hardest to follow.

Hughman
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Bros before hoes, timeless advice.
This sorts out your inner game real well. You’re putting yourself and things/people that really matter to you above some random booty. If she’s a real good catch, then it may be the one of the few times in her life where a guy will be aloof on her (he’s used to guys dropping everything for her)
Plus it leads into asshole game real nice as well.

Steve Lurkel
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so true, so true.

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TIMELINE:

1. For years Roosh complains about how inadequate girls are;
2. Roosh describes great sex acts with sheep;
3. Roosh says he’s tired of girls.

What’s next??

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This is one of the best posts in a long time. Roosh is dead on with this one and I know from personal experience that it’s the truth. I’ll admit I made this mistake twice and both nights ended up with my hand as Roosh says.

It’s important to note that even if your plans are not with another girl, these rules still have to be followed. I’m glad Roosh put the non-girl examples in there.

In Vegas it’s even harder to follow these words because of the extreme flakiness here. Making plans even two days in advance can be tricky business, so you really have to learn how to deal with it.

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I think this falls into the old “stop being needy” category.

The G Manifesto
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This is also good advice for doing business.

Business and swooping have a lot in common.

– MPM

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One problem is that if the first choice is far superior than the 3rd choice girl you have plans with, the night with 3rd choice tends to be ruined even if you go through with it because you’ll just think about how much worse she is than 1st choice.

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man i don’t know how many times this has bitten me in the past, but now I know: she can wait.

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You speak the gospel again Roosh. Case in point: fuck buddy texted me last week to go out Friday. I bailed because a hotter prospect called me after. Went out with hot prospect (and her friends, cringe), nothing doing. Fuck buddy unavailable until next week. Doh!

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this seems like a case where the application of game reminds us of the good, old-fashioned value of not being flaky. if you make plans with someone, then stick to those plans. a man should do everything possible to honor to his word. the idea of ditching someone you have any sort of social appointment with becuase you got a “better deal” just smacks of sycophantic social climbing.

there are exceptions to this rule, but those exceptions should only reinforce what roosh says here. for instance, i would reschedule a date with a girl if an old friend suddenly came into town and was only available for one night. i would not cancel on an old friend for a girl who was only available for one night.

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Hell with them biches, I’ll just wait for sexbot revolution

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I’m following you, but who has nights when they have no plans and are just sitting on their asses? Does this advice apply only to instances when the girl asks -you- out?

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phillipmarlow
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Once again, G and I agree. Business and Swooping. Sounds like an ebook if I’ve ever heard one : )

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7 The G Manifesto

“This is also good advice for doing business.
Business and swooping have a lot in common.”

Is that why you said it’s ok to hire hookers?

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Basement Game,

No. People value your time in business the busier you are.

– MPM

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Willy Wonka
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Yeah, this shit is so true.

I think this chick almost got me last week, but I might have saved it.

She texted me last minute to hang out and at first I jumped at it, and was like “yeah come over”

Then I thought about it and before she could respond, I hit her with, “On 2nd thought, it is kind of late and I need to be at work early in the morning. We’ll just do it another time, babe”.

I don’t know how good of a save that was, but I definitely regretted jumping at the opportunity to hang out with her so quickly. At least I was able to renigg before she responded, lol.

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agreed

also if u have plans with third choice and first choice wants to come out, invite them both and let them compete

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great post!!!

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Good shit, I def. needed to read this. Not sure I will be able to follow through because there is sometimes just logistics that makes next windows of hanging out 14 days apart, but might be worth it. Looking back I have always gone for pussy over arrangements with friends

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People, can you please stop spamming your blog links on here?? Noise to signal ratio is lousy!

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I do this from time to time especially when the star rating between girls is sizeable. I have both struck out and been rewarded gloriously. The upside is that the flaked on girl could be especially drawn to you the second time around.

This rule is way too stringent and ascetic for anyone to apply consistently. Sure you don’t want to sound like a puppy dog wetting itself with excitement. But if you smoothly conveyed to the hottie your availability with some reluctance and it so turned out that it coincided exactly with her peak fertility period that some serious sexy time could ensue. Carpe diem!

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What if my only plans were to chill and choke chicken with some G’s? Can I cancel those to see if I can get laid?

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No actually, you have to make her feel that she has to earn the privilege of being given a slot to blow you. It’s as not complicated as that.

I don’t know how to explain this but, watch Ricardo Montalban as Khan Singh on The old Star Trek show. He’s
mentally abusing/manipulative to the hot love interest on the episode.

You gotta be like that because that’s what they need & want inside.

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“its like they can feel it”

motherfucking word.

last night a girl i fuck texted me saying she was horny and could i come fuck her tomorrow
after waiting a while i said i was free tomorrow
we arranged a time

i read this post this morning

just now i get a text saying something came up

i didn’t cancel anything to see her, but, still.

how do you know roosh, how do you know

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Roosh V isn’t a savant he really just has his eyes wide open. He has what most men his age don’t have, wisdom.

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A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush.

charon
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Solid advice, roosh, but shouldn’t you re-title the post?

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Are you still in Rio right now? I’ve been reading that the favelas have been hit pretty hard with the rains. Latest figures show at least 82 dead. I hope you’re not one of them.

Vincent Ignatius
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I don’t think this is too hard to follow at all.

A good corollary is to occasionally cancel plans on a girl who thinks her shit don’t stink. She deserves it and it temporarily deflates her tumorous ego.

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Anon, he is in Cordoba I think and it wasn’t rain, the flood was caused by the tears of all the brazilian chicks who just found out he left obviously.

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i came on this site for very odd reason. i put in a search engine to see if get response from anything like i go through. it came up with this anc cancel plans. is this anything related. i get my plans cancelled behind my back. not by
girl want see at all or consider a friend. i find while i am making plans they are making counter plans for me. in otherwords they plan where i will be and where i will go even if i have no wish or desire or knowledge about it. They do this so persistently even if tell them to stop and a very odd thing happens my life gets cancelled [of its plans]. Anything like this ever happen to anyone? Or does this place have anything to do with or can help! Is it help i’ve been kidnapped or what. o.k. if it doesn’t relate i’ll stop relating here. Yet even if it weren’t what i was looking for it is interesting thinking.

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This post should definitely be on “Game Hall of Fame”.

Definitely.

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You should have “Game Hall of Fame II”!

Including this post!

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moltus exellentis postis 😉