If you’ve been reading my blog for a while and already read my book (while also putting things into practice), you most likely have a firm grasp on the do’s and dont’s of game. Besides day game, the big points have been covered, so now it’s time to get into the little details that take you from good game to tight. These are things that alone don’t make a huge impact, but a powerful cumulative effect is seen if you nail them all.
I hope you understand the reasoning behind working on multiple girls simultaneously. Girls are flaky, impulsive creatures and a plan of working on one girl at a time is a plan for guaranteed frustration and bitterness. But if you have several pots simmering on the stove, what happens is you will develop favorites. The girl you met in the coffee shop is prettier than the other two you’re talking to, so you call her first to make plans.
Something that always happens to me is I make plans with my second or third choice and then the first choice suddenly comes through. I already had a date with a girl on Thursday but first choice girl can only hang out on Thursday as well. So I’d cancel on the other girl to squeeze first choice into the mix. Guess what would happen?
First choice would wind up canceling and I’d be stuck with my hand on Thursday night. It’s like she knew that I valued her and canceled plans with someone else just for her.
My Danish roommate had a solid date for Friday night with a girl he met on the internet. His old fuck buddy called him, apparently horny, and asked if he wanted to hang out on Friday. The internet girl wasn’t a lock for sex, but the fuck buddy was, so he cancelled the original plans in order to get laid. Well, the fuck buddy cancelled and he was stuck without any girls for the night.
These situations aren’t coincidences. When you confirm plans with a girl by cancelling on another, the first choice can feel that you’re pressed for her. I’m guessing that it’s due to your willingness to make short term plans along with an excited and eager tone in your voice when you find out she wants to see you. These two things subconsciously clue her in that she needs to wave her upper hand and flake out.
Don’t underestimate the power of saying “no” to a desirable woman. Too often you will feel that you need to get her out ASAP or else you might “lose her,” but in that case you definitely need to pull back because she’s going to sense it. If she’s as quality as you think she is then she has seen it all from other guys who think just like you.
Now can you guess what I’m going to suggest next?
DON’T CANCEL ANY TYPE OF PLAN FOR ANY GIRL, PERIOD.
Are you hanging out with a buddy on Tuesday night for drinks but a girl wants to go out that night? Unfortunately you’re busy and maybe some other time. Are you working out at the gym late at night when a girl wants to see you? You’re busy. Are you taking your mom out to a Turkish bistro for some bonding time on the night the hottest girl you’ve ever met in your life wants to go out? Busy. If a guy tells me, “Hey let’s plan for Friday but if Stacy calls me back then maybe some other time,” I know Stacy isn’t going to call back and Friday is a lock. He’s valuing her too much, and top-tier girls don’t respond to that.
Stick to your schedule and be resistant to moving things around. Put your friends, family, hobbies, and responsive girls in the calendar first, and then whatever days are left you can toss out to the stragglers. It’s no surprise that they have a strong appreciation for men who are busy with their own lives.