No Escape

For the past two months I’ve been trying really hard to slow things down and not view women as pieces of meat, to just enjoy their company and not always try to bang them quickly. But no matter how hard I try, just knowing I have the ability to make something happen is enough for me to make it happen.

I met a girl at a bar and talked to her for maybe five minutes before I had to leave to catch the Metro. I have been telling myself I was done with numbers but she was cute and Venezuelan so I got it. Besides, I’m going to South America and it will be useful to pick her brain.

On the phone I found out that she is going back home in four days for several months. By the time she returns I will most likely be gone. A girl doesn’t give you her number with one week left if she’s not trying to bang, but I’m done with this casual banging, I said to myself. “How about ice cream?” Just for one hour, to talk.

Man, that night was chilly for ice cream. “Do you want to get a drink instead?” I said. Of course she wanted to. Once we started drinking that sangria I was put into situation that I’m all too familiar with. The auto-pilot switch went on. It starts with touching first, her hands, her arm, barely brushing her legs with mine, then a couple of stories (true stories of course) that indirectly display qualities that she probably wants in a man. Hours pass.

The more time she spends with me, the more my tentacles have a hold on her and the weaker she will get. Yeah, initially she was sitting there in a bar, mostly sober, thinking logically about how she’s not a slut and won’t fuck some guy she just met, but things change.

When I walked her home, I remember she told me earlier in the night that her rooftop has a good view of the Washington Monument and Capitol. Whether she said that purposefully or by accident, I’d be stupid not to use it. “How about you show me that view you were talking about? I can’t stay for very long though.” The time-constraint line came out without conscious thought on my part, just like how you can throw a ball in the air and calculate its mathematical trajectory without thinking of numbers or equations.

Girls can be so full of shit. She’s telling me before how she is going to be busy before she leaves, but then after rooftop moves all of a sudden she’s pretty free the next three days. You can’t go wrong if you ignore everything a woman says and just follow her body language and actions and do what you had in mind.

The way I interact with women has more or less turned into a program. If this, then do that. With any situation that comes up I access a prior experience that helps me determine the best next move, like the Deep Blue chess program would do. It sounds technical and robotic but when you are doing this in the flesh it’s more like art: the girl is digging you and you got this goal you are trying to fulfill and you have no idea how it’s going to turn out. No two girls talk, kiss, or touch the same, and the pathway to bang ends up differently. The guys who are successful with the game are the least robotic because they can quickly adapt to different environments and girls. They have many different ways of getting to the same thing. I understand how the phrase “art of seduction” came about.

So I’m not going to mess with my before sex game. I’m not going to try to get to know girls better and see them as amazing creatures if there is strong physical attraction. As I found out over sangria, my brain won’t allow myself to make an evolutionary backwards step by artificially lengthening the time it takes to get girls into bed. If she’s trying to get banged, she will get banged. We’ll go with the flow (more like rapids) and have at least one memorable night.

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kayla
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Whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhat?! You don’t see us as amazing creatures?!

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Did she give you any insight into Venezuela?

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Who goes back to Venezuela, esp. considering what’s going on there now, if they don’t have to? I am more curious about why she’s going back.

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Roosh, you could be a part of a nice psychological study, as a good example of how beta could successfully follow alpha game with a good score. There was only one study I know about, and they definitely need to extend it farther.

Regarding the part about knowing girls better before sex – it’ll change itself as you grow up. Psychologist call it “more brain, less balls”. As you grow up over 30, you’ll go over it; it is time when men start understanding that a good conversation is as good as good sex, and in some case is even better. It doesn’t exclude the game completely, just makes it less important.

You might not believe it, but once you will get a thought: “the game is BORING”. That’s the time.

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Eastern European is right. You’ll reach a point in your life when “the game” becomes less important to you. There are many reasons for this:

1. You’re so good that you’re bored — women are no longer the challenge the once were. They’ve lost their mystery because you’re finally able to predict what most women in which you have an interest (i.e. your “type”) will do in a given situation. This is the tenor of your current post.

2. Your focus shifts from women to your career — some men throw themselves into their careers first, and then learn how to deal with women later. I’m sure you’ve seen the drawbacks of this approach, as it’s much easier to learn a new skill when you’re younger (more impressionable) and more willing to risk failure (rejection) than when you’re older and more set in your ways (fearful of failure and/or rejection). Yet when you’ve been successful with women for a consistent length of time from a young or semi-young age, your perspective may be that you can put that part of your life on autopilot and focus on your professional success. This is how many men progress, in that they were solid with women in high school and/or college, dating extensively during their 20s, and by their late-20s or early-30s, they’re ready to settle down with Ms. Right and get serious about their careers.

3. You’ve found Ms. Right — dating allows you to sample a buffet of women, and if your game is tight, you’ll be able (and perhaps more inclined) to narrow down the field to one woman who shares more than just your bed. She will be the one woman with whom you want to share your life; both the good and the bad parts of it. Other women, despite your ability to “hit it and quit it”, won’t be all that attractive to you anymore. Meeting Ms. Right, however, doesn’t mean that you’re destined to get married. Many men make this assumption, in that by narrowing the field, their so-called Ms. Right feels entitled to start pressuring for marriage (since she thinks he doesn’t have any options by her). The mistake such women make is they forget that a true alpha male always has options, and he chose to be with her.

4. You want to expand your horizons — no, I don’t mean you want to bat from the other side of the plate. Rather, you want to go back to school and focus on your studies, travel the world and learn about other cultures, or take your so-called “career” (a McJob in some cases) in an entirely new direction. Your current travel plans seem to reflect this tenor as well.

In each of these mental states, your focus is more on YOU, not the women around you. Some might call this “growing up” or “maturing”, but I’ve always hated those terms. They carry the negative connotation that you were less of a man before your change of mind. Despite what the media tells you, there is no set path to maturity or growing up. I would prefer to simply call the mental change a “shift in focus” or “shift in priorities”, since you’re not really changing who you are. You are still essentially selfish (which is a good thing), but you’re simply focusing on developing a different aspect of yourself.

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Aw, Roosh, for a second I thought you were changing for the better!
I blame the ice cream suggestion. Ice cream dates are lame. You should have suggested coffee.
You’re still young and sowing your oats, as old people say. I think you’ll change your game soon enough.

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bang away kid.

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It’s hard to fake chemistry, especially in the first minute.
It’s not considered a seduction if Venezuela had calculated her moves beforehand. She must be good because she made you think that you were seducing her.