People Who Don’t Shut Up

God why won’t he stop. Doesn’t he see you’re squirming over here? That’s it—cut off all eye contact. Good job now draw lines on the table with your finger. He’ll get the hint. What—he’s starting a new story, Jesus Christ. How can he not tell that you’re disinterested? Okay now turn your body language away from him. There you go. Start reading the magazine now. Don’t nod your head or make any sounds of acknowledgement to his “amazing” night out. Wow… he’s still going. What’s wrong with him? Is he brain damaged? How do you get this asshole to shut up?

“Hey man I think I got diarrhea I gotta go use the toilet, later.”

“Oh shit, hey you want some medicine?”

“No no I’m good, thanks. I have a feeling this is the type of diarrhea that will be with me for a couple days, until I check out. Goodbye.”

Some guys are hit with two whammys: they’re boring and they can’t read even the simplest body language signs. The result is a person who goes on and on about stupid shit and simply won’t stop until you have to get borderline rude. I met a Swiss guy in Brazil who had this problem. He was the type who didn’t need feedback on his lame stories—he just wanted to say them. I’ve been starved of social interaction during some lonely stretches on the road, but I’ve never felt the need to make someone uncomfortable.

There were two portly German girls staying in our Pousada and the Swiss guy went to chat them up. He’s a good looking guy and the girls received him well, but ten minutes later he knocked on my door and said, “They’re not very interesting. I think they like black men because they were friendly to the guy who works here.” If he saw me talking to the black guy the night before he’d think that I like them too. His reality is skewed.

You don’t need to be an expert in body language to the point of mind reading, but you need to be able to tell whether a girl likes what you’re saying or not. If she doesn’t like it, then wrap it up or change topics. If she does like it, keep going and milk it for all it’s worth. It’s that simple, but unfortunately not for the Swiss guy. You’d think this fact would be common sense in most humans, but I’ve met eldery people who do the same thing. I’m literally jamming pens in my ears and they keep going as if I was interested. On one side I live in a society and don’t want to be rude to people who aren’t purposefully offensive to me, but then again my lifespan is limited and there’s only so much I time I can waste.

Unfortunately not all of your stories are going to excite others. It has happened many times when a girl is falling asleep while I’m telling her about various moments in my life I firmly believe should one day be incorporated into Hollywood films. A part of my wanted to double down and finish the story with even more detail, but I do the right thing—I wrap it up and change topics. Interactions can always be saved, but not when you ignore what your audience is telling you.

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The Rookie
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one thing that can prevent a guy from noticing is if he’s leaning in talking in her ear. obviously that doesn’t apply to the Swiss guy

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Old people don’t shut up because they lack inhibition; their pre-frontal cortex is decaying and their manners with them. Sad fate.

The young ones that don’t shut up don’t operate on the safe assumption that most conversation is based on self-interest. You must offer status-by-association (with the big you), or interesting (new) info.

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Good post.

Sounds like the guy’s insecure and lacking in confidence. Hopefully he’ll learn one day that his stupid stories are boring and communicate in no uncertain way that he himself is a boring and uninteresting person.

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This is a very important skill to learn. Everyone has stories they like to tell about their life, but its not always interesting. I like to tell my travel stories, but I always put out a few feeler comments before getting into it. If the girl doesn’t ask me any questions or seem to be interested, I just move on to something else.

Girls in their late 20’s are more important to feel out because they’ve had many more life experiences. Its always good to test topics you want to talk at length about. I’ve rarely had girls go on an on about something boring, but maybe they have better feeling for what’s interesting.

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This phenomenon is only heightened when you are at a party and everyone is on Coke.

– MPM

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lets see some tips for how to self-correct when you realize your story isn’t going over

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I once dated this model turned milf in Paris a few years ago who showed no reaction or emotion to any story I told her. Because she never laughed I just assumed she wasn’t interested in me or my stories sucked.

Then one night we were walking silently in the freezing cold toward the Metro and she starts laughing hysterically for no reason. I ask her why and she said she was thinking about a story I had told her over two weeks ago!!! It didn’t take long for me to realize that her extremely delayed reaction was only the beginning of her excessive problems.

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people who don’t shut up:
1. Roosh

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LOL Michael. So you’re the boring Swiss guy who’s about as interesting to listen to as a cemetery lot salesman? Hmmm….

smile

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The anticipation for Bang Colombia is reaching a fever pitch

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@DC – Sometimes when I know I’m talking about interesting stuff and the girl is showing disinterest, I feel an urge to grab her and say, “Hey what the fuck?” However, if you are still interested in the girl then it’s better to channel this anger by remaining composed while challenging her on something – “So, where did you say you’re from? Do people there have no manners/sense of humor/interests/etc. (laugh and shake her shoulder)

But yes, Roosh, Master – what do you think?

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The worst is when your at a bar, and it’s a drunk guy trying to talk to you, he is the leper, that everyone is trying to avoid, and acts the douchest and is trying to take you down with him, in anti-socialdom

*cringes*

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SHUT UP, ROOSH, YOU DIRTY SMELLY, STINKY HIPPIE!
STOP TRYING TO PICK ME UP!
I DON’T WANNA HEAR ABOUT YOUR BORING TRAVELS TO THIRD WORLD COUNTRIES WHERE YOU TRY TO ACT SUPERIOR WHEN YOU GET BACK TO MOOCHING OFF DADDY’S BASEMENT!
PICK-UP ARTIST?
YOU COULDN’T EVEN SCORE IN LAS VEGAS!
LAS VEGAS – WHERE ALL THE CHICKS ARE EASY, SLEAZY & CONSTANTLY DRUNK!

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What a creative moniker

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Is it true that he wasn’t able to score in Vegas? What evidence do you have?

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Being able to tell shit stories which are boring is a far better problem to have than being a boring quiet guy

Kevin Hedstrom
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It can be tough to swallow your pride a little bit and stop talking about something that super interesting to you, but not to the person you’re talking to. It needs to be done though! I know this one guy who literally will not shut the hell up, no matter what. If you leave the room he will actually follow you. It’s obnoxious. And he wonders why he gets no action from the ladies.

Really good post.

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you never knew how to shut tha fuk up, homo. For years I ve been reaDING your crap, taking time off important business.

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Hi Roosh, respectfully, you being the seasoned cocksmith that you are I am surprised you did not understand one of the basic fundamentals: that females are navel gazing shit-for-brains (well, the pretty ones at least and those are the ones we all want to bang) and it took me a while to learn this fact because the media likes to paint a completely different story about the ’empowered intelligent woman’. This is bullshit. Even Esther Vilar, a woman surprisingly, who wrote “The Manipulated Man” back in ’71 even states this.

The best way to keep her attention and never bore her is to ask HER about HERSELF and let HER do all the talking and then cupcake will think you’re such a great conversationalist. This is PUA 101

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I dated a fellow like this, who also had ADHD. It is extremely frustrating to be on the receiving end of this because the kind of talking you describe destroys any potential emotional connection. His loquaciousness made me understand the importance of a pause and eye contact. Both are great for building tension and repoire.

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I have ADHD myself. The way this works is either you’re easily distracted (which makes it difficult for you to see the signs) or absolutely focused (in which case you do more listening than talking).

I had to learn how to observe people the hard way. Lots of social gaffes. My parents also gave me a lot of tough love to point it out to me. It wasn’t easy, but I am very happy I’m not completely socially inept.

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men who talk too much about nothing in particular are a turn off.

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don’t ask me to many questions either. That’s rude let me volunter information as I see fit.

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I have noticed this especially in America. American people love to go on and on about the dumbest conversation topics ever. I think it’s hilarious how they are able to keep themselves entertained with the dumbest conversations that are so irrelevant, sometimes I will over hear a conversation amongst American people and I think to myself “are they slow in the head?”. I know a lot of people that just love speaking, I’m not sure if it’s because they actually think their story is interesting, or they just love to hear themselves speak. Anyway I have noticed this in America significantly.