Excessive Public Displays Of Affection

Lately I’ve begun to notice how a man’s essence is revealed by his public displays of affection. Low status and needy males will do the following to girls they are having sex with:

1. Ache to remain in some type of embrace for the majority of a dinner or bar date. He will not feel comfortable breaking any sort of physical contact, like how a child holds onto her favorite Spongebob Squarepants pillow while asleep.

2. Refuse to check out other women in his surroundings who are painfully more beautiful than his girl. He volunteers to give her his balls for the duration of the relationship and stops being a primal man that wants to fuck the world’s women.

3. Goes for more than one kiss, regardless of date length. There is little reason to kiss girls more than once or twice at any public location, unless you haven’t banged her yet and are trying to get her horny enough to bang. A needy male feels that if he doesn’t constantly kiss his girl, she will lose interest.

4. Leans over the imaginary middle line between himself and his girl for more than 20% of the date. It’s better not to hear the girl and simply nod than exhibit weak body language. Most things a girl says aren’t important anyway.

5. Lay on a girl with eyes closed, as Roissy eloquently pointed out.

If I can tell you’re needy without having to interact with you, then you’re making many mistakes that will negatively affect your quality of life. A man will be happier in relationships where not only he has the upper hand but the girl is coming after him for attention and affections. The less you work, the more she will. Otherwise things will always be under her control and you will be in a perpetual state of chasing.

Because let’s be real: no relationship is 50/50. Someone will always know in the back of their mind that they run the show. You have absolutely failed as a man if that’s not you.

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RedTie
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I’m happy to say I exhibit none of the behaviours you mentioned above. I don’t even hold hands in public we just walk side by side, most of the time she ends up initiating contact.Yes, I think I deserve a pat on the back.

Jason
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Does #1 count if it’s cupping her breast?

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Great post.

I admit I used to exhibit some beta PDA behavior from time to time. I did it because I was horny and wanted to get “my feels in” though, not as some kind of beta supplication.
Reading game material has made me force myself to act disinterested, and in response females actively try to get my attention, and when we get to the one-on-one phase, they are more eager to please.
To provide a real life example of this alpha-ignoring, I noticed last year during the NBA playoffs how Jay Z totally ignored Beyonce in the stands. Jay, being the extremely ugly man that he is, has to have developed some good game growing up to compensate.

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The best way to be in public, I think, is to walk out in front like the MAN, Ahnuld style, with her following slightly back and to the side, like a dog on a leash. Walk in a way so everyone has to step out of YOUR way, and your girl takes all the bumping.

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#6: Defensively/ nervously putting your arm around your girl, etc. when you notice another guy checking her out.

Willy Wonka
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Yeah, this shit is so true. Girls that I would fuck and then lose interest in would always try harder to get my interest, whereas when I liked a chick and tried to give her more of my time and show my interest more…. she usually disappeared leaving me to wonder what the hell happened.

I now treat all girls like they are just a piece of ass, and only show affection when we’re alone and my dick is hard – that way she knows when I kiss you = I’m trying to fuck.

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Zictor
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The previous post was brilliant, but this is pathetic. Some good points, but too superficial.

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Amen!! Great post… I saw lots of PDA in spain for some reason, and I couldn’t hold myself back form thinking. Dammmm look at the [email protected]@y right there.

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So true, preach on.

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My grandfather coached basketball for 40 years. We could watch a game and in the first 3 minutes he could tell who was a good player and who wasn’t. Same thing with this Game shit. Guys with a high level of Game can observe another guy for just a minute, and they will know if your Game is strong or weak.

phillipmarlow
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This blog post touches on something I’ve been thinking about for several weeks now. People give away a ridiculous amount of information, if you know how to read it. What you wear, say, do, etc reveals what is important to you. It betrays intent.

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Game Theory supported in the MSM. The NYT has a story about how kino creates closer bonds: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/23/health/23mind.html?ref=science

The G Manifesto
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All bets are off when you are getting a blower or shaker in public.

– MPM

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Welcome to The Hook: Lean back, imagine your hand is the handle of a cane, and reel her in by her neck. Filed under ‘Rape Game.’

Use after first kiss. Will definitely make waves if done in public, and very dominant. Grabbing her head like you’re about to give her a swirly is another option.

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it’s really uncanny. show me a guy who is constanly leaning into his girl, trying to kiss her and hold her and i’ll show you a girl who looks bored and disaffected. show me a man who doesn’t look too concerned with his girl and i’ll show you a girl with the look of love in her eyes.

not to mention, in the latter examples when the guy does make an occasional show of affection, it’s obvious that the girl really appreciates it.

LS
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What about same-siders? Makes me wanna slap ’em and say, “Grow up!”

Big Snot
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These posts are putting me in the right mindset.

Matt Savage
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I see #1 on public transportation all the time. It usually involves a couple squishing themselves together and the dude (who is ironically dressed like a street thug) is snuggling up to the girl, laying his head on HER shoulder, and basically refusing to give her some breathing room. It’s almost like a child trying to be comforted by it’s mother… it’s fucking pathetic when I see this type of stuff. The worst part is you can see that look of disdain in the girl’s eye, that lack of respect, where she knows that her man is nothing more than a needy douche who didn’t get enough love from his mother.

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“Most things a girl says aren’t important anyway.” One of the 1st things I learned when I stopped be a loser was that girls just aren’t that interesting.

Big Snot
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You stopped be a loser but you still cant write

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So is it better to have the power in a relationship with a 7 or have less power but be with an 8?

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#21. You’re always going to want to have power, no matter how attractive she is. Once she acknowledges she has more power over you then you do of her, attraction will quckly cease, and then that’s all she wrote, or felt if you will.

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These posts make me sad. Is that what gaming and relationships in US are all about? just power struggle?

Of course it’s not attractive when a man acts like a puppy, but this pseudo sience about drawing the line between the mystical “ALPHA” and “BETA” is just so nerdy. I also read roissy’s two posts about this issue and one question got into my mind: did roissy lack social skills when he was younger, just like roosh did? It’s just hard to imagine that anyone with a “normal” background would be so damn worried about the alpha/beta thing.

If I want to kiss my girl when in a public place (against the rules!!1111) then i’ll just do so. If i want to chill out in a park and lean into my girl, i’ll just do it. I think it’d be more “beta” (i hate the word, it’s like straight from an internet role playing game) if i was worried about this because i read about it on the internet.

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I agree with #23 above. Analyzing every detail of an interaction and forcing themselves to act in a way that’s incongruent with their emotions is not, in my opinion, the way for most men to lead the most content lifestyle.

If you want to kiss your girl in public, just kiss her. Or hold her hand, or whatever. If she doesn’t like that, go get a new girl – they’re not hard to come by, you know.

For most guys, getting what you want and being free enough in the relationship to do (mostly) whatever it is that you want will lead to the greatest satisfaction in the long run – not constantly trying to be “alpha.”

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I got into a relationship without intent on cheating but keep reading this forum. Theres something here for everyone.

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Analyzing every detail of an interaction and forcing themselves to act in a way that’s incongruent with their emotions is not, in my opinion, the way for most men to lead the most content lifestyle.

it’s not the end of the world if you lean into your chick once in a while. it’s ok to be a softy, as long as you don’t overdo it. the point with posts like roosh’s is that patterns are unmistakeable. men who have a habit of behaving like needy puppy dogs with their girlfriends are going to end up dumped in short order if the girl has any looks whatsoever. if you like to burrow your head into your GF’s lap all the time like a cat exploring an empty box, you are playing with beta fire.

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If I feel like kissing my chick in public, I’ll do it as many times as I want without checking your blogs first, like many jackoffs here. I don’t give a fuck what any of you think, since it’s not you that I’m fucking.

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the rookie has really good advice

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27 Jack Me Off Jack “If I feel like kissing my chick in public, I’ll do it as many times as I want without checking your blogs first”

Uh huh. You mean like how you checked it just now?

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“2. Refuse to check out other women in his surroundings who are painfully more beautiful than his girl. He volunteers to give her his balls for the duration of the relationship and stops being a primal man that wants to fuck the world’s women.”

OK Roosh — not sure if i agree with this. Part of my strategy to get any chick is to ignore them. It works being that females are such cat like attention seeking whores. Ignoring them pushes their buttons. Checking out a skank is supplicating. I usually use other methods to make her aware that I am around other chicks waay hotter than she is, so the risk of her losing me to a prettier chick is more real and much better leverage than to be salivating at some other trollop that is passing by.

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Agreed with 23 & 24. It does seem obsessive from time to time.

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Great observations, Roosh!

Overall, I agree that there are many forms of PDA that come across as socially-weak and overly needy/supplicating. It’s important to be aware of what signals your body language and any PDA sends.

However, the most important part of it all is one’s inner game state. As you mentioned, if you, as a man, know that you run the show, then it’s acceptable to break the rules in appropriate ways, occasionally. When your woman desires your affection, and you don’t need affection for validation, the dynamic is just right.

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He’s on point about the 50/50 thing. There’s no such thing as equality in relationships. One or the other is putting in more work than the other, or the level of affection/feelings is always greater on one side or the other.

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Wow. This blog post left me speechless. For all the wrong reasons. The main reason for feeling so incredulous? Quite simply, it’s the toxic mindset that is being demonstrated by the author of this post and those commenting in support. You will attract low quality, flakey women with this mindset. So what? Well, you may get the fuck-sessions you crave but you’ll continue to attract losers (by virtue of being one yourself with this behaviour) that just reinforce this fucked up view of women. For the record, I’m a chick with an alpha male that a lot of other girls are attracted to. To be more precise, I’m the chick that a lot of cool guys have wanted over the years. Only a loser girl would ever confuse respect from a guy with being a p*ssy. Authentic, hot chicks would call a spade a spade and recognise you’re confident enough to kiss us in public, period. Yes, we like it when you banter with us. But do you know what you demonstrate with your GENUINE public displays of affection? You show us and the world your “don’t-give-a-shit-I’m into-her-so-deal-with-it-folks” attitude. And that’s the biggest turn-on of all.

Maybe all you want is an empty, fast fuck. Some of you do. The rest of you? Willing to bet that ultimately, you actually want an authentic, hot girl.

Be real. Be your own man. Ditch the selfish negativity.

Wake up & smell the coffee folks.

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# 35 a lot of words, for a lot of nonsense. Well, am I surprised? A woman wrote it