Rationalizing Today’s Mistakes Will Cause Tomorrow’s Problems

The other week I watched America’s Next Top Model (I was being held hostage by the FARC and forced to watch). It was the first episode of the season and for one part of the show all thirteen or so girls had to get up at 6AM for their first photoshoot.

The morning came and the camera showed them all piled up in a van, ready to go. Then the girl who the night before volunteered to wake everyone up realized that someone was missing. She paused for half a second, said “Ah well” and jumped in the van, even though the missing girl offered her crucial wardrobe help before. The backstabber said, “Even though she helped me earlier, she needs to take responsibility. I’m not her mom.”

Let’s assume this was real and not staged, for we all know that women are capable of such an act.

Now imagine if guys operated like that. “Hey bro I know you had a job interview today and I promised to wake you up but I’m not your dad so whatever.” Our culture pushes women as the more caring and sensitive of the human genders but not counting mass killings they do the evilest shit known to man, causing far more emotional damage than men ever could. The only way I know of seriously hurting a girl is by dumping her and fucking her mom raw dog, but women are more far more imaginative when it comes to backstabbery and all-around general wickedness.

But that’s not the point of this post. The point is the rationalization offered by the backstabber. Consider this old quote: “Humans are not rational beings, they’re rationalizing beings.”

Rationalization deflects blame when you make a decision, not only preventing you from learning from your mistakes but also turning you into a delusional person. You drift away from living in reality where you can see things as they really are to make correct decisions in the future. It’s a slope where not owning up to bad decisions causes future bad decisions. You don’t learn, and you don’t grow.

I’m always evaluating the decisions I’ve made in life, and there are many that I look back and think, “Hah, I really fucked up there.” I think about having made the correct choice and can easily imagine how the outcome would have worked out better for me. I can’t change the past and I’m not going to cry about it, but the thing about life it that it presents you with similar decicions and choices that while different, can be better approached with prior lessons learned. When you stop rationalizating, and admit you are often wrong, you make better decisions in the future that will make your life easier and hopefully more fulfilling.

The model in the opening example will continue to fuck over people, always finding some retarded rationalization, all while creating a pile of enemies that I guarantee you will get her back hard in the future. It’s a sort of karma that really isn’t karma, that exists in the physical world and easily controllable when you approach your past actions without ego or emotion. In the end when you rationalize, you only cheat yourself.


  1. Talleyrand November 2, 2009 at 9:57 am

    It always amuses me how how the cultural view of women is so 180 degrees different from the reality.

    It kind of reminds me of that line “The greatest trick the Devil performed was convincing everyone he didn’t exist.”

    The devil could take lessons.

    Talleyrand’s last blog post: On Being An Asshole.

  2. Tampa November 2, 2009 at 12:00 pm

    Yeah – i’ve seeen women do some really evil shit.

  3. Carl Sagan November 2, 2009 at 12:04 pm

    Very good post.

    I know everyone will jump on women in this post and say they are the evil and vindictive and so forth.

    But the bottom line is that both men and women are prone to rationalizing away their bad decisions. It’s the best way we can protect out own egos.

    If people are curious as to why this is the case I suggest looking up the term confabulation and some of the interesting research done on this.

    The brain is a very weird organ.

  4. The G Manifesto November 2, 2009 at 12:05 pm

    “America’s Next Top Model (I was being held hostage by the FARC and forced to watch)”

    FARC sounds like some pretty cool captors.

    At least they let you watch a show with fly girls.

    – MPM

    The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Guest Manifesto: Generation G, The Lost Generation.

  5. Sabra November 2, 2009 at 12:59 pm

    Sounds like you have a problem with women. Typical man with a chip on his shoulders. I suspect you are a total failure trying to get with us.

  6. Lisa November 2, 2009 at 1:06 pm

    We (all humans; not just women) become masters at rationalizing away our character flaws because must do so in order to live with ourselves. The problem is other people don’t give us the same concessions. So who is right, us or them? It is them. And it is important to understand this reality for 2 reasons: First, because you can stop yourself from doing stupid, dishonorable things, as you pointed out. Second, because people are easier to deal with when you can get them to believe that you see them for who they think they are. And one good way to do that is to stop caring about or questioning people’s motives, because you will probably never understand them anyway. I know that you’ve said before to stop trying to figure out why women do the things they do; this ties into that.

  7. Chris November 2, 2009 at 1:24 pm

    But isn’t taking what you can from others, without concern, consideration, or reciprocation to them, the American way?

    Isn’t the ultimate rationalization ingrained into us from childhood, that this is a capitalistic and competitive culture where every man and woman is for themselves? If one allows themselves to be dicked over by another, even a so called ‘friend’, then its considered to be your fault.

    Where does this capitalistic ethos end? Your associates, your friends, your family? Nowhere? Its not clear, and this ethic is one of the primary problems with a capitalist society, as the interpersonal culture is affected in a very real and negative way. The culture would be much more real, warm, and inviting if it was less competitive.

    You don’t know who your friends are until you’ve got nothing for them to benefit from. Most people would be surprised how quickly the list dwindles once their ‘friends’ are tested in a serious way. Their rationalization for their disloyalty is all too easy.

    We can only change the culture one person, with integrity, at a time. The trick is, you cant care about how many times you are tricked. Your integrity will rarely, if ever, be rewarded in kind.

    And not rationalizing away your fuck-ups, and being a person with integrity, is the only way you will ever know what it is to be a true man.

  8. Gio November 2, 2009 at 1:49 pm

    Men do bad things, women do bad things….The Key is to focus on banging hot women……too much philosophy and deep thinking will only drive you crazy and make you seem “to serious” to alot of girls….just keep it simple……good food, good health, good humor, good game,….good women.

  9. Lucifer November 2, 2009 at 2:18 pm


    Are you really surprised that women are unpleasant backstabbing bitches with an inability to work towards any goal other than the immediate?

  10. Anonymous November 2, 2009 at 3:41 pm

    How did you learn to stop rationalizing? The human mind is built to rationalize much of our behavior so that individuals don’t dwell on circumstances and choices that they cannot undo. It is a deeply ingrained function of human behavior.

    As is thinking that you are unique and exceptional com[ared to others. Which you might be doing when you say you don’t rationalize your behavior. That said, I’m not trying to be a hater, I really would like to know how you stopped rationalizing your actions and started being more proactive many of us would benefit from that.

  11. Tim November 2, 2009 at 4:14 pm


    “I know that you’ve said before to stop trying to figure out why women do the things they do; this ties into that.”

    Yea that’s the problem I guess, men like to “figure things out”.

    That’s the very interesting dichotomy of the battle of the sexes.

    Women on one hand, know EXACTLY what men want from them, it’s in magazines, on tv…basically everywhere. Women are depressed because they are unable to attain that level of beauty.

    Men on the other hand, have NO IDEA what women expect of them, except for a small % who either naturally get it, or follow guys like Roosh, RSD,Roissy, etc etc. Men are pissed because they don’t understand women.

    It’s hard to say who has it worse. On one hand, once men figure out women, they can improve their situation tremendously. On the other hand a woman can say…lose weight, wear makeup, dress sexy, but can’t really improve their genetic looks unless she a lot of money.

  12. speakeasy November 2, 2009 at 4:31 pm

    Standing beside every sadistic man is a woman. Serial killers are inundated with love letters.

  13. ElGuapo November 2, 2009 at 5:00 pm

    Good post.

    Men also rationalize all the time as well. Usually those who can’t take a blow to the ego. It’s a weakness and shows ones’ insecurity, etc.

    Women, being more emotional creatures tend statistically to rationalize more on average, though.

  14. Abe November 2, 2009 at 5:10 pm

    Rationalizing is a trap the mind plays on you. The more you rationalize the more you identify with it, and the further you stray from being aware.

  15. Trotter November 2, 2009 at 6:14 pm

    Rationalizing can be self destructive as well. My buddy is a short guy and whenever a chick wouldn’t even consider him he would always say “well it’s cause I’m short”. He never once said to himself maybe it’s because “I got no game”.

  16. z November 2, 2009 at 8:52 pm

    Wise thoughts……

  17. Maximus November 3, 2009 at 2:37 pm

    “Men deal with reality, women don’t. That’s why men drink” – Ted Danson, Bored to Death.

  18. Lisa November 3, 2009 at 9:47 pm

    Way to hoard all the good traits under the masculine banner you guys. I just wonder if that really serves your purpose in the long run, recalling that girl for instance who Roosh said he’d daydreamed that, along with things to do with a highly squeezable ass, he would talk to her about the books he read, talk about deep philosophical things, teach her his ways, etc. Say this had actually happened the way he wanted it to…would adopting this man’s positive qualities have made her less of a woman? This is why, when you insist on a strictly gender-based binary, especially one which makes one gender better than the other, you set yourself up for unhappiness in the long run if your happiness depends on your ability to relate to the people you just deemed unworthy. Some men manage to avoid the question by deciding women should be nothing more than sexual objects, but that is only a temporary fix, and every man confronts that fact who finds himself daydreaming about something more substantial with one particular woman.

    1. Roosh November 4, 2009 at 10:00 am

      Lisa: What you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

  19. Maximus November 4, 2009 at 2:58 pm

    Nice “Billy Madison” quote. One of the greatest comedies to ever grace this earth.

  20. Cliff Arroyo November 6, 2009 at 6:48 am

    “you set yourself up for unhappiness in the long run if your happiness depends on your ability to relate to the people you just deemed unworthy”

    This is the most perceptive thing ever written at this blog and Roosh’s bs content free response just underlines it.

    Roosh’s happiness depends in large part on how he can relate to women (note his unhappiness in Argentina where his shtick didn’t work).

    Roosh thinks of women as ‘worthless whores’ (his own words).

    Therefore, his happiness depends (in large part) on whether he can gain the favor and approval of worthless whores.

    This is a self-destructive cycle that will lead nowhere good, especially since he appears to approve of violence against women and has more or less openly admitted to indulging in it himself.

    I wonder if this is one reason he’s relocated…

  21. Lisa November 6, 2009 at 12:18 pm

    No, what’s irrational is spending so much of your life fixated on and pandering to women if you don’t really like or respect them. Everything a man does is in search of pussy right? And that’s not irrational?..Come on. Maybe you’ve accepted the fact that it’s irrational, but that doesn’t make it any less so. I wasn’t trying to start shit but if that’s what you want I can do that too.

  22. hhh November 7, 2009 at 12:41 pm

    Well, you devoted the whole blog to rationalizing your lifestyle. Don’t you think it’ll cause many tomorrow’s problems? Like when you are forty (sooner than you think), constant pussy-chasing got old, funds are limited and so is the ability to rejoin workforce.

  23. Anonymous November 8, 2009 at 2:30 am

    I haven’t watched American TV in some time, but when I do the shows like the one you mentioned in your post always amaze me.

    Women are the target audience of these shows, and they tend to agree with the bad behavior of the characters/actors. They use poor rationalization to justify their bad behavior. So much for the morals of todays American women.

    Worst offender: Sex and the City.

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  26. Man March 6, 2010 at 11:17 am

    It’s funny that instead of addressing the issue, women who rationalize their bad behavior (which from my experience seems to include most women), some of the females who posted responses are attacking men. Anonymous is right that tv perpetuates women’s bad behavior and suggests that women’s bad behavior is good or cool.

  27. Anonymous October 30, 2011 at 2:10 am

    You sound like a total asshole.