R.I.P. FirstDateDC.com

Kathryn and I pulled the plug on our baby after 11 months. Here is what I had to say:

There are only so many ways I can tell a girl that a guy isn’t into them. When starting this blog I never thought 85% of the questions would come from women. Because my main skill is in helping men, I know that my typical “move on” advice to women was probably not all that helpful to them. When the goal of a woman is to find one man to nest with, they don’t want to hear it when you tell them to find another guy. In that respect, I failed.

From working with Kathryn, I clearly see how tough dating is for people our age. Because of this there is an industry composed of dating books, seminars and workshops, and as long as men and women need to physically mate to continue the species, there will always be a demand for dating advice. While we can’t confirm if our advice helped bring two people together, I think we helped the human race more than not.

My final advice is for everyone still working on that one crush. I know it is fun to have a project, to work on that one guy or girl you really like. But it never fails that the more you really like them, the less chance you will get with them. Liking a person a lot before intimacy occurs is a good sign that they their value is considerably higher than yours. In other words, they can do better. It is not until I stopped valuing women that things fell into place for me.

Perhaps if we only answered one question a week could we keep it going and stay fresh, but the daily nature of the blog doomed us from the start.

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Anthony T
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similar to advice from the movie–The Tao of Steve

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“Liking a person a lot before intimacy occurs is a good sign that they their value is considerably higher than yours. In other words, they can do better.”

I would disagree with that. They might think they could do better but I have to say they will end up doing much worse. While it is true that the way you behave may lower someone’s opinion of you, but the reality is it is still tough out there for everybody. It’s worst for the ones who nitpick.

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“In other words, they can do better. It is not until I stopped valuing women that things fell into place for me.”

Every guy should have this seared into their brain until it becomes second nature. This is some of the best advice you will ever hear, and you will never hear it from some chick.

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I am sad to see the website go, as I think you dispense some really poignant advice. You’re right, though – the questions were basically becoming all the same.

Jinxy
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Sorry to see it go. But I think you should be proud of your accomplishments.

‘Sides. It’s difficult to find new and intriguing ways to tell some chump to quit being a pussy and sack up week after week.

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Or maybe it’s just a cop out because you finally came to the stark realization that when it comes to matters of the heart you truly don’t know what you’re talking about?

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Never asked, but how old are you?

Jinxy
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Hee hee.

I gotta get a copy of that stat counter you have for this blog.