The 3 Blowout Rule

A blowout is when a girl doesn’t allow you to finish your opener, doesn’t respond, or makes fun of you. In any night venue, if you get blown out three times in a row at any point, leave. Even if you’re a newbie and your game skill is low, you should not be in a place where you can’t even find one girl to indulge your approach for a few seconds.

I wholly believe in persisting until the end of the night, but three in a row is my canary in a coal mine that the odds are stacked against me in that particular location. In the past year it has always held true that when three consecutive blowouts happened, I did not be getting laid no matter how many more approaches I made or how hard I tried. For whatever reason, some venues are so bad that your normally tight game cannot begin to counter its black hole pulling you into a reluctant masturbatory session.

Sometimes you’ll discover that a venue can be great one night, but awful the next. An example is a Latin club I used to go to here in Poznan, which was fun on weekdays with girls who were reasonably friendly. The music was cheesy, but I enjoyed hanging out by the bar and doing an approach once every twenty minutes or so. Things changed on the weekends when there was a large influx of “bridge and tunnel” guys, both Polish and Spaniard, whose presence caused the girls to ice up.

Whereas on Thursday at the Latin club I could meet a girl and get laid, on Friday night I couldn’t even get a girl to respond to me, even though I’m the same guy in the same venue spitting the same game on a girl who is on the same level as the night before. The three blowout rule was being broken so regularly that I stopped going there on weekend nights entirely, instead frequenting a quieter club across the street where it has never happened that I got three blowouts in a row. The irony is that you may do great at the Latin club on the weekend but get the three consecutive blowouts in the club I do well at. This is why venue experimentation is so important. Follow your data, not the crowd.

Think for a second about how much of a bitch a girl has to be to blow out a guy, even if that guy’s line is weak. What has to be going through her mind to completely disrespect a man who, while may not have the best game, is being respectful about trying to start a conversation? It’s the mind if a girl who has absolutely no interest in being real, friendly, or even human. It’s okay to get rejected and have stalled conversations, but finding three cunts in a row is the same as god giving you a personal message to get the fuck out and go somewhere else. It’d be wise to act on that message.

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Solo
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Sometimes though Roosh it ain’t even your game, these Slores ain’t got no manners at all, Fuck’em with a fist up they ass!

samseau
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If a girl blows you out, you know she’s a vain bitch.

Lumiere
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This is important to remember is a world where clubs entire image and business is based on the illusion that they sell which is that the club is a great place to meet girls.

Thats why clubs put a gorilla on the door in a suit who will be told to make sure there is a visible queue outside even when it it not that busy inside.

Its all about selling the image.

The Private Man
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For a newbie, three blowouts in a row can ruin his frame, big time! Perhaps the rule for newbies might be two blowouts in row… just a thought.

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Is your confidence so durable that you don’t believe your first three blowouts would affect your subsequent approaches? It’s a *much* simpler explanation to explain your data, and for the typical man it would be true. Of course even for the typical man, a venue change may still be the right move as it can offer a sort of psychological “reset”.

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Blowouts happen when the girl senses your intention. In any club on a B&t/sausage night, your intentions are more obvious.

I think it might just be a matter of re-calibrating for the venue/night.

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Humbly admitting to getting massively, serially blown out like that, *and* buffing it into a pearl of game wisdom. Trademark Roosh.

5 Tim9000, it’s not that the blowouts extinguish your confidence. It’s that your game isn’t working in that venue.

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For a guy with skills, it only takes no more than a few sets before a girl gets hooked into convo.

3 immediate blowouts in row means you’re in the wrong venue. The most likely reason is that there’s too much sausage there that’s poisoning the venue. The majority of girls don’t like to be surrounded by cock.

The minority of girls that do like to be surrounded by cock, like to be surrounded by many cocks. You are just 1 cock to them, and they ain’t gonna entertain just 1 cock, so they blowout as many guys as possible to get their emotional fill of many cocks rolling up to them. And then they go home alone, satisfied.

The G Manifesto
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This “The 3 Blowout Rule” is a pretty good rule of thumb (especially if the place kind of sucks), however there can be exceptions.

One thing that people on here aren’t mentioning that many times when you are “blown out” (so to speak) it is because the girl has a boyfriend, that is either at the venue already or is coming to meet her there.

In this case, you just need to switch up your target selection and read the waves better.

That all being said, 3 blow outs, and it probably is time to switch up the mood, unless the place is going off the scale with fly girls.

In which case, then its time to dig in your heels.

– MPM

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Leaving the old club and entering a new club is sometimes like hitting the reset button. You get to start with a fresh slate and your enthusiasm is higher than what you’d expect after consecutive rejections.

Blow-outs still rattle me so I’m very thankful for the honest advice here. Even after 10 years in the game you can discuss the experience of getting blown out. Getting better in the game doesn’t imply no blown outs – risk-taking is part of the equation. Getting better means you control your state and objectively decide what to do next to improve your chances – approach more, or to switch venues. It’s better management to spend your mojo in market that has greater chances of rewarding you.

It speaks volumes about your hard-earned tenacity as a gamesman Roosh. Respect.

LIghtning Weasel
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I guess girls go out to different venues with different motives in the first place.

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It’s funny, but sometimes I can tell immediately if I will have a good night in that venue. Look around, are people smiling? Are they having fun? Are people kissing and making out? Is there a sexual vibe or is everyone closed off in little groups wearing frowns.

Is the music deafening to the point that it angers and irritates people?

If you get blown out three times and you aren’t a total newbie, and by blown out I mean, “Get the fuck away dude,” then definitely don’t give up. Sometimes like you say, all you need to do is change the environment to one where peoples states
aren’t all down.

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Roosh you bastard you blocked me from twitter. Wtf?

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I used to have a gig handing out flyers when I was a kid. I noticed that if somebody didn’t take my flyer, odds were that the next person wouldn’t either. I soon figured out to turn around, go across the street, just take a moment to switch my state (maybe just of mind).

Getting blown out even once is a failure to recognize subtle signs. Yea, sure happens to me. But the silent grand master on the mountain in your mind is shaking his head. And now you’re just a little off.

Next level shit is to work on the powers of the non-approach. I’m not saying this to Roosh specifically, and it’s not like I’m really in a place to preach the gospel.

Or something.

The Kaiser Soze of depraved sex:

http://two.cedonulli.com/2011/09/it-was-all-your-idea/

James
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Aboslutely. Sometimes it just has nothing to do with game and everything to do with the logistics of the bar

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Worst blow off ever was at a really relaxed bar, approached the chick after making eye contact and getting a smile from her. I can’t even remember what I said but it was something like, “Hey, blah blah blah…” 4 words in she literally screams “GET AWAY FROM ME!”

I’ve been shot down before but that was the worst ever. Becoming the center of attention at a very small venue on top of not having an on the spot come back for the spit producing scream harpy fucked my plans up. The best I could manage was, “Holy fucking shit, calm down, ok…” as I backed away like a chump. I’ve had women be all sorts of rude and catty, but the scream was a whole different level.

Scream girl completely shut me down for that night, I replayed what had happened over and over again and evaluated my looks and approach and couldn’t see anything wrong. Was she a lesbian? A forgotten fling?

It tore me up, I thought maybe it was some sort of female game she found to be successful. Scream at one guy get tons of attention, sympathy, whatever. Then I realized I was thinking just like a girl obsessing on it, so I put it behind me and moved on. Haven’t experienced it since. Now it’s my worst case scenario for an approach, and if it ever does happen again I’ve got some come backs now.

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So I’ve been forcing myself to talk to girls despite high levels of anxiety over the last few months, and I’ve had an 80% blowout rate (and oftentimes much higher than that). I knew I wasn’t doing well, but now I see that much more work is required and that I must be making fundamental mistakes.

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^^^^^^ 80% blowout rate :-))

MK
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What about embracing the blowouts and having fun with them being told to fuck off in every language known to man can go with other flag collections.

Got my russian in the other night, dasvidaniya.

@the screamer blowout above I’m pondering the best way to quickly change the frame and make it well known shes the crazy. Perhaps a quick reply about being off her meds. Ie if her meds have become too expensive there is always generics.

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The screamer blowout attempts to embarass and unnerve you to point you stop appoaching, yep women are that spiteful. My solution: look around but not at her while shrugging your shoulders, for added effect say to the nearest person: “I just asked her if the sit was taken.”

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re: smile approach trap

This is just one aspect of a more general principle which is that the female brain is full of conflicting impulses which the girl herself does not understand.

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Now that you mention it, I myself have never gotten laid in a place where I got blown out in the first half a minute. All my lays were at places where the girl will atleast give you a chance…….Hmm!! thanks for putting two and two together for me

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