The 7 Stages Of Being A Player

The game pill is tough to swallow. It upends everything you were told about women while also requiring you to behave and act in a way that may seem too mean. For many men, learning about game puts them through these seven stages:

Denial

“Game doesn’t work. It’s the deliberate manipulation of women. I don’t want to peacock or neg a woman.”

When a man finds out about game before hitting hit rock bottom, he viscerally rejects game concepts with talking points picked up from feminists he knows or game denialists on the internet. He’s resistant to game ideas because he has hope that his beta male technique of putting women on the pedestal and treating them as flawless goddesses has a chance of giving him the type of relationship he has seen in Hollywood movies. Some men stubbornly cling to such hope much longer than others.

Anger

“Why does she like that stupid jerk more than me? Am I that bad? I do everything to please her but she still doesn’t like me.”

When pedestalization fails to give him the relationships and sex he desires, he begins to get frustrated and angry. His anger first falls on the jerks that are having unprotected sex with the girl he loves, and then it turns inwards to himself for being a failure who can only get sexual attraction from the most undesirable women of society.

Bargaining

“If I can buy one more thoughtful gift or do her one more special favor, she will fall in love with me and I can just be myself. I only want one wonderful girl.”

In spite of his realization that something is wrong with being a nice guy in the modern world, he gives one more steroid injection of pedestalization on that special girl in his class or social circle. His posture and attitude is slightly more haughty, since he is now aware that women like confident men, but he’s put into the friend zone anyway. She tells him that she doesn’t see him in “that way.”

Depression

“No girl will ever love me. I may never have sex again. Why is it so hard to meet a pretty girl?”

His soul has been emptied. Within it is now a vacuum begging to be filled with something that gives him the answers as to why he is a failure with women. If he gets his hands on a practical and effective game resource, he will devour it and be able to link his failures with behavior that is beta and unattractive. The more depressed he is, the quicker he will be able to absorb game materials.

Success

“I don’t believe this works! I want to fuck 200 girls.”

The power of game becomes apparent to him when using it on girls he already knows sees an immediate effect. If the man has at least average testosterone levels, he will go on to have a respectable player career of banging a variety of women while experimenting with soft harems and relationships. Men who enter a relationship before completing their game training will likely get dumped and have to resume from the depression stage.

Fatigue

“I’m bored of women. They’re too much work. All women are like that.”

The grind of the game sets in. He realizes that the moment he stops playing the game, his sex supply dries up. Even though he will have internalized a lot of optimal game behavior, a handful of interactions went sour when he tried to be his authentic self. He comes to realize that society is now constructed in a way that hinders the traditional relationships that he may now want without having to act like a clown.

Acceptance

“Women can’t give me happiness. There are a temporarily and fleeting side dish to a well-balanced masculine life.”

The player now understands that there are limits to how much sex or relationships can enhance his life, even if his game is in top form. While a life without women is less enjoyable than with, he is better able to channel his energies onto personal goals instead of constantly chasing women for sexual gratification or emotional validation. He will use his game knowledge to reproduce with a woman or to enter relationships for companionship, sexual pleasure, or pair bonding.

Conclusion

While every man has his own unique journey, it’s likely you’ll experience shades of all seven of the above. I’m in the last stage, where I understand the limits of what a woman or any other human being can provide me, and that a strategy of putting myself first is best in individualist societies where women are putting their emotions and iPhones before any decent man they may meet, especially during their most fertile years.

The most reasonable conclusion is to make women a part of your life but not the majority of it. A major lack of women will not destroy you just like how sexual success with women will not fill up your personal voids. The middle ground of pursuing women for specific needs that you require is the healthiest approach of what will have to be a lifelong game journey.

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iPhones and those fucking little yappy dogs you just want to drop kick….

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So you like abusing animals and you don’t own a cell phone?

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No, I think that pets should be trained and that spending too much time staring at a screen is bad for social development.

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What do you think about this?

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Damn. Nail on the fucking head.

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Although I agree with many of the points in this video I still believe that game does indeed work.

I mean how else can you explain all of the piece of shit genetically inferior stock of males hooking up with hot women? Which is all I see when I’m back in the US.

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$$

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North American women are WHORES! Their only goal in life is to sell themselves to the highest male bidder on a dating market! American women only care about MONEY and status in the society! The biggest mothafucking piece of genetic shit will be extremely popular with North American females as long as he keeps showering them with $$$$$$$$.

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Doesn’t $$$ fall into the ‘game’ catagory?

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Of course NOT!! A person who’s totally unable to be an interesting and attractive PERSONALITY can still BUY love and attention from North American females a.k.a. WHORES!! North American females never care about qualities like honesty, dignity, respect, integrity, intellect, mutual understanding and support! They do NOT need a personality in a male!!!! A male is a “wallet” for them who’ll take them higher on a status ladder!

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But alot of guys who play the ‘game’ use the illusion of having money to get women. Like dressing up, flaunting ‘bling bling’ ect.

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There is an illusion and then there is a FACT!!! Trust me-a female can easily see if you really HAVE money or PRETEND to have money;)

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Not sure about that because many of the dudes I’m talking about have shit jobs if any at all and still get hot chicks.

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I find it hard to believe in all honesty…

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So you don’t believe that game works?

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I tend to believe in myself, in honesty, respect, integrity, dignity, self esteem, mutual understanding and support!
I’ve never had any problems with dating/marriage (I’ve been married for over 6 years now) outside of North America.
And I never really had to apply almost any game at all to get ladies. Just be yourself, it helps;)
I intentionally completely ignore North American females since they all are in DEFCOCK 1 category and should be avoided by all means possible.

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Well I’ve been living in Peru for the last 5 years so I also have no relations with NA women.

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wink North America is in a DEFCOCK 1 category and North American women should be avoided by all means possible by al self respecting male individuals!

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sorry, by ALL individuals;)

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OH please, how many men here have a lot of money? Most of you are making anywhere from 10k-50k. There might be a very select few making more than that but most of you aren’t pulling the kind of money that would actually attract someone that wanted you for your money.

And anyway, what’s wrong with wanting a man for his money? You want only young, hot, beautiful women. Why can’t a woman want a guy for his money? And you say women are entitled. *rolls eyes*

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I disagree with the Lion explanation… the ones with white manes rolling around in charcoal to make them black is what PUA is. All PUA and game is, is a guide to focus on that which is alpha in the first place. And what did every Lion with a natural black mane and high T have to do to get there? Prove himself over and over. They imitated other lions and surely observed fights, and even play fighted as cubs to learn dominance.

Surely less than 5% of males are automatically born alpha in most any species. All the rest have to earn it. If game was simply trickery, there would be no self improvement component as the backbone. Sure if you take away the self-improvement side, then it’s mind fucking your way to a better life, a scam artist more or less. The greatest thing game probably does is expose the simplistic predictability of women, things that even “natural alphas” don’t quite understand until someone who studies game explains it to them.

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Just shows that if you can sound authoritative some people will believe you know something. OMG! One thing for sure is that he’d bore the fuck out of any woman that would ever meet him!

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Game is mimicking female behavior to pander to their inherent narcissism. It is a necessary practice to get any good lays in a society that encourages a complete lack of introspection in women.
I think game is great. Whores deserve to get pumped and dumped until they are single mothers or one of the other unhappiest demographics in the US. The world gives them justice when society won’t, proving humans can work against toxic social programming to punish the obtuse.

Do the world a favor; treat a worthless whore like the piece of meat she is today!

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Brilliant. I remember stage “anger” from back in high school – that’s the stage that made me start to say “fuck it” and go on the attack. First with girls, them with everything else in life. If you have balls, use them and use them to your fullest advantage.

And in case there are newbies or folks that don’t connect the dots reading, the stages of game are applicable to life in general. Re-read them and see how they apply to pretty much everything and anything in life.

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This applies to men that grew up as betas. Many of the destructive mindsets stay for the rest of his life.

A man who grew up with sexual abundance isn’t unhappy that women “just like jerks” or that they don’t respect “decent men”. He always enjoyed taking the piss out of girls, having fun with them, he never had any impulse to be “decent”, hence this is something that never crossed his mind.

This is the problem with many game communities, that while they are adequate on outer game, their inner game is horrible because they still carry a lot of hidden beta residue from their younger days. You see it a lot on the RVF, where many posts show a clear misunderstanding of women and are clearly written by men with horrible developments. It’s for two reasons: Natural alphas don’t intellectualize things and wouldn’t post on these forums anyway. Also, many game forums are restrictive in terms of rules, and conflictive alphas will naturally get immediately banned. Hence they are left with a bunch of basement-dweller keyboard jockeys and nothing but misinformation based on the insecurities of nerds.

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Nice adaptation of DABDA.

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It is disheartening how well game works. Sometimes I go out with the intent of being as mean spirited and misanthropic as possible just to see what I can actually get away with. So far – I have yet to see an upper limit emerge. Women are far more willing to accept being insulted than being complimented.

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True. This is reason enough not to hold women as equal to men. How can you respect a gender that gets off by being treated like shit?

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I have never used game, but I have found it amazing what women are willing to put up with, including insults.

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Many sympathize with murder convicts…so you may have to shove, rather than push to get to any limit.

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Very few men reach the stage of acceptance. Some refuse the red pill, some are beta males who will never get it, some are game denialists or male feminists. Others who go on the player’s journey will fail and quit because the rejections, the adversity and ups / downs of the game are too much for them and their fragile ego to handle.

Successful players who have reached Roosh’s stage all say the same thing; that women are a complimentary side dish to a man’s life and not the main course. Game and having sex with many women will not in the long run make a man happy. Having other meaningful pursuits and a mission are also important.

Too many guys get caught up in the PUA dogma and believe that cold approach and Game is a lifestyle unto itself – it’s not. This is exhausting and it’s a means to an end. Game should enhance a man’s life but should not become his life.

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As much as Western culture nauseates at it, love IS the thing that comes closest to happiness in the whole of the human experience.

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Yeah as much as men on the manosphere will vehemently deny this, at the end of the day, at their core everybody wants to be loved. I don’t care how alpha and independent a man is or if he’s MGTOW, the dreams of having a LOVING woman and a LOVING family will always creep in his conscience/subconscience.

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Pairbonding, which is a very tangible experience created by chemicals in the body. A player may experience this once or twice in his whole game career with girls of spectacular quality and femininity. Hence most men, especially Western men, who could not possibly even picture such a girl in their imagination, will never experience it.

I am not necessarily relating it to family or marriage. I am referring to the psychological experience, which is what I mean by “love”. Sex is pleasure, love is happiness. The few older very experienced players I have known saw sex as a physical pleasure like drinking water when thirsty. Not something transcendental to be worked. The desire for pairbonding is greater in every human being, but the full transition isn’t made until one has validated himself enough or fully deprogrammed his social conditioning.

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Man, I totally agree with this – and lots of women want this too.

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Oxytocin inhibitors for all wink

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Great article, I can see you adapted the grieving process. I’m currently at the acceptance stage. Recently lost a harem of 4 girls, 3 fuck buddies and one ‘LTR’. Being a player is a double edged sword. Although I have the skills to pull girls and maintain them, I have come to the realization that westernized women are not a stable platform whereas a man can have a partner in which he can expect unconditional love/loyalty and devotion. Even the greatest ‘casanovas’ get fucked over.

One has to have exceptional emotional fortitude in the jungle that is the dating world. Otherwise fears such as the fear of loneliness/abandonment will creep in and you will make bad decisions(get married to an incompatible mate/ get a girl that you don’t love, pregnant).

The best thing a man can do is to always work on improving HIMSELF and having the perseverance to push on in his version of what it means to be successful.

Using women as means of validation and confidence is futile. Confidence comes from within.

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I’ve come to think of it as a tool – sex is a hunger. It’s not neccessary to relieve this hunger in any way more than masturbating, but then again, all that’s neccessary to sustain physical survival is eating grubs… but I’d still rather eat a hamburger.

You should have good food to eat, just like you should have good female companionship – it’s part of a good way of living, so long as you remember that what comes in tasting so fine still comes out the other end all the same. And, much like eating good food and drinking fine wine, women should be indulged in with moderation, rather than gluttony. Women use us as tools, so it’s a fair trade to get some from them once in a while too… it makes things more “equal.”

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Roosh
Why not just dream a new dream man?

Like Tony Robbins and Bob Proctor teach- growing and expanding is what keeps us alive, happy, and productive.

I think you could be a millionaire marketer (if you aren’t ready) with eco merge, affiliate marketing, etc and why not try Thailand or Indonesia out just for the fun of it???

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Game doesn’t work if you’re not good looking. Been there done that, no luck.

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Great article.. you worded it well and I definitely learned from it.

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Another spot-on & well defined post here. Accurate & hitting close to my own reality & journey.
“Bargaining” (Begging) I did this for so long…putting very below average girls on the pedestal.

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My journey has been:
1) FAILURE. Trying to be a “nice guy” and doing what is expected of you, and being completely ignored by women.
2) FUCK YOU. New look, new clothes, new hair cut, new attitude.
3) GIRLS ARE FACILE BITCHES. You are the same person but now they want to get with you because you sing in a rock band.
4) ONEITIS. I found my unicorn.
5) COLD FEET. I don’t know if I can handle this for the next 60 years.
6) FUCK CRAZY. They are the best in bed: the cutters, the BPD types and the child molestation victims.
7) A BACHELOR’S LIFE. Relatively normal women but you make it clear upfront that it is just sport sex.
8) HOLY FUCK, CHINESE WOMEN ARE AWESOME! Tight bodies and tighter snatches. Good attitudes.
9) CULMINATION.

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How about “7 stages of becoming a real man”? Not a politically correct North American pussified creature of an unknown gender but a REAL MAN who has balls, self esteem and courage/inner power to say what he really thinks, to stand up and be counted and to lead by example without taking into consideration all the artificial limits/barriers imposed by a modern politically correct society and mainstream media.
Males only have themselves to blame for all their failures on North American dating scene. Males allowed North American women to take control and impose their rules onto the society, economy, human behavioral patterns and dating trends! North American males turned into pussies, robots, androids and puppets willing to obey every order given by their female Masters in a vain hope to get access to that ever elusive pussy!
It ain’t about being a player, it’s about being a REAL MAN!! And a real man would never have a problem of becoming a “player” and he’d like to! But again it’s all about being a MAN and not a pussified North American creature of an unknown gender!

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Yes “side-dish” is a key mentality and we must strive to keep this in mind. I have had the most succeess when I absolutely dont care and often look unkempt, with crust on my teeth. The point is, your mind set is crucial. I just got off a flight and the girl next to me was cradling her ipad with such comfort that she fell asleep. We are competing with the things. You must go to the absolute edges of this planet to avoid this, or at least, some crappy village in Lithuania. I am 40 and seek a girl that loves to cook and understands that they will be cleaning up after me, forever. The rest can, and will, be taught.

Regarding the video, I will add that Jordan missed more shots than any player in NBA history. Think about it. Numbers game, period. Dont overthink anything

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And what’s wrong with helping a female of your choice with cleaning, washing dishes, doing laundry and other household stuff? It ain’t gonna make you less of a MAN if you help YOUR girl:)

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Because, I need to spend my time wisely, on far more important things. I’m not opposed to helping, but theres nothing like a woman who actually likes to clean up and does it without even being asked. They tend to be far better at it too.

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That’s what I certainly can agree with! A woman should always be a WOMAN and not something of an unknown gender with a haircut of a GI Joe, all pierced and tattooed!

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Just hire a maid. That’s what you really want.

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If your objective in life involves promiscuous sex with gold-diggers, and or tricking gold-diggers into thinking you’re important, you deserve each other.

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The cycle doesn’t really end once you reach acceptance. But it does decrease in intensity.

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I believe I constantly bounce between the success and fatigue stage. I grow tired of playing the game and focus on other more productive things in life from time to time like working on a degree or learning a foreigner language. After a while I find I miss being with women and get back in the game. I have to be careful to keep my emotions in check less I fall in love with someone unworthy of my love. I am a man and I do have feelings. Breaking up hurts but its necessary sometimes to protect yourself. So far I have not met a woman worthy of a serious long term relationship. They seem to all have major issues and loyalty problems. Most seem to be out for themselves and looking for the biggest best deal. If I even suspect a woman is cheating on me, I don’t even care if its just a dream I had. I dump her immediately. It always results the same. She ends up begging me to take her back. I’m like a machine at that point. I turn off my emotions and ignore her. I will never let a woman break my heart again. It will never happen. I learned the hard way. I used to be a “Nice Guy” but women have turned me. So you ladies this is what you reward so this is what I’ll be for you. A player.

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I only had four stages:
Earnestly being the “good guy”
Deep depression.
Pumping and dumping everything I could as brutally as I could as revenge for 20 years of lies and a failed attempt to turn me into a virtual slave for some whore when I was 30.
Now, focusing only on myself.

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Decent men don’t blame women for their own personal failings, use women when it suits them, then get angry at women because they killed his dream of a mythical hollywood romance, then get angry at women again when they aren’t hot enough to please him. Irrational to the core!

You should have started with your last step Roosh. Realizing that looking for validation from women is not healthy. Just like women shouldn’t look for validation from men. We should come into a relationship healthy, giving, compassionate and sincere. We should come into a relationship with the mindset about what we can give, not what we should be taking.

The core issue isn’t women. It’s you. You don’t know how to treat women like human beings. You don’t know how to relate to them. You don’t know how to respect them. And because of all these personal failings, you’ve manipulated the conversation into blaming women because you simply aren’t strong enough to own who you are.

Don’t blame women for the fact that you wanted them to be your savior. And don’t blame them because they turned out to be just as human as you.

By the way, how can a man that gives tips about how to cheat on your girlfriend and that a woman’s orgasm isn’t hat important expect that a woman would take a man like this seriously? You get what you give. You don’t want to be “real” with women. You want to use them, brag about how you use women here, and encourage other men to use women too.

All because of your own personal failures, not because anything women did to you.

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It’s simple to make acount balance with rooshv < I didn't believe …that…my brother woz like truly making money part time at their computer. . there aunt had bean doing this 4 only seventeen months and resantly paid the dept on there apartment and bourt themselves a Lotus Elise .

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I live in a huge high rise building ( 17 floors )
Half of the tenants are pretty girls keeping HUGE dogs for “protection”
( and no men )
All the single men must watch Porn.
Life in 2016 – they are saying we could live till 120.
Why?

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Looks like you’re at the stage where you realize that Red pill is all about becoming a better man and women are the icing of the cake, not the cake itself. Congratulations!

I’m surprised (but then I shouldn’t be) that after going through an overdose of sexual liberalization people are realizing that maybe their grandparents had a point after all.