The Biggest Cockblocker In The World Is From Denmark

The Danish system of equality is amplified by Jante Law, a set of cultural rules that is deeply engrained in every Dane. Its main tenet can be summed up as: “No one is superior to anyone else.”

It’s taboo to show off, brag, or even indirectly show your value. You can’t talk about how much you enjoy your job, how you bought an awesome brand new anything, or how generally happy you are with life—anything that might show how you may be better than your audience. When you disagree with someone, you have to be very gentle about criticizing them because otherwise you would imply that you’re smarter. You can never say “you’re wrong” to anyone. Most Danes avoid possible arguments by simply not bringing up their contrary opinions.

Here are the ten rules of Jante Law:

1. Don’t think you’re anything special.
2. Don’t think you’re as good as us.
3. Don’t think you’re smarter than us.
4. Don’t convince yourself that you’re better than us.
5. Don’t think you know more than us.
6. Don’t think you are more important than us.
7. Don’t think you are good at anything.
8. Don’t laugh at us.
9. Don’t think anyone cares about you.
10. Don’t think you can teach us anything.

Take a minute to think about the resulting personalities of people who believe in these rules. Combine it with Danes not being risk takers. Can you imagine the type of conversations that result?

Painfully boring conversations.

Everyone is scared of generalizing or giving strong opinions. Risky topics are avoided. Showing knowledge or experience must be done in a light-handed way. All your accomplishments, no matter how small, must be minimized to make them a result of luck instead of hard work or innate talent. You can’t judge those who are less fortunate than you by calling them lazy or stupid. You’re immediately punished for showing any real spark or emotion. You must hide your individuality and conform to what society expects of you.

The Danish egalitarian system and Jante Law feed on each other to form what is one of the most liberal, feminist-friendly societies in the world. Therefore, when it comes to getting laid, your American attitude and belief system will cockblock the fuck out of you before you even open your mouth. Since basically the entire point of game is showing you’re better than the next guy, something that Jante Law specifically forbids, it’s no surprise to find that game efforts will not be well received in Denmark, especially if you consider yourself an alpha male. It was amusing how often and how quickly I’d offend every Danish girl without even trying.

In the States you may have heard someone say, “If the police want to get you, they will. There are so many laws on the books that you’re always breaking one at any point.” I feel the same way with Jante Law. As an American, you’re breaking every facet of Jante Law just by being American. Your confident body language alone is breaking tenets one and four. Understand that Danish culture will cockblock you on your every approach.

Even minor game techniques go over poorly in Denmark. For example, let’s take a look at this statement: “When I was in Colombia for six months, I studied Spanish. I got good at it, but now I suck again.” A pretty innocent way to show value to a girl, right? Not in Denmark. I’m implying that I’m more well-traveled than her and also more knowledgeable in the realm of language. I’m breaking Jante Law. The girl will punish me by withdrawing from the conversation.

You’re probably thinking that this is absurd. That’s because you’re from a country like America, England, Australia, or Canada, where that type of statement will be rewarded with female interest. The conversation you’re supposed to have in Denmark should be void of these types of “value drops” while at the same time not teasing her at all, since teasing implies that you’re better than her. Consider that even wearing a tight t-shirt that shows off your muscles comes close to breaking Jante Law because you’re bragging that you’re stronger than someone else. In Denmark, individuality must be destroyed for the greater good. You’re not an individual, just a worthless slug that is just like all the other slugs.

While the Danish government has made human rights more egalitarian, Jante Law has made sex more egalitarian. Instead of a few guys fucking all the women like in the States (while the sexual losers stay home and play World of Warcraft), you have more Danish guys getting laid, though with fewer partners. In other words, the alpha male is neutralized in Denmark. He’s not rewarded with more sex for his alphaness because alphaness breaks Jante Law.

If you were in a country where game didn’t really matter and everyone downplayed their attractiveness by looking like they had just come out of a thrift store, which man would fuck the most women? Answer: the one with the best social circle.

My biggest complaint about Jante Law is that there is a double standard in how it’s applied. I’ve already remarked how Denmark is a highly feminist country. It’s a place where women think they’re equal or superior to men, eager to castrate them for displays of alpha masculinity. So can you take a guess as to which gender will be hypocrites when it comes to the law’s application?

Danish women are the most hypocritical breed of female I have ever encountered. Let me give you an example. In conversations, I would make a comment about how Danish women aren’t feminine or that the state shouldn’t be so eager to take care of drug addicts who have no interest in quitting. I was then scolded for having “expectations” of how people should or shouldn’t act and that I was attributing a person’s faults to his nature instead of his environment. Fair enough—that was their argument and I can respect another person’s opinion.

Then five minutes later, I’d say I was going to Poland. The Danish girl would frown and say, “Why Poland? The people there are ugly. Polish girls are dirty prostitutes.” Really? You just got on me for generalizing, but now you’re doing it five times worse. This happened to me at least a couple of times each week.

You’re not allowed to criticize Denmark or their way of life, since you’re just a stupid, possibly fat American, but she can criticize anything she wants while shitting on your opinion at the same time. This angered me to no end, and the fact that Danish women ended up being so wrong about Polish women suggests they hold some jealousy towards them.

I’ve come to the conclusion that Jante Law has two real purposes. The first is to hold men down. It serves to cherish women and their opinions and hypocrisy while preventing you from “fighting” back. A girl can break Jante Law but you can’t, and if you do, you’ll be banished from the tribe. This is a classic case of women demanding equality but then perpetuating inequality to further their cause at the expense of men’s.

The second feature of Jante Law is to keep your neighbor down. If there is no benefit for your neighbor to show off his unique character, experience, or wealth, that means he’ll be more ashamed about doing better in life than you. Jante Law is like an anti-bragging behavioral modification drug meant to make people who aren’t as skilled or successful as you feel better about themselves.

What Jante Law ultimately does is protect the egos of women and the unambitious who constantly feel the need to compare their lot with everyone else’s. While I approve of the benefits the government gives to all its citizens, Jante Law is something I can’t live with. Unfortunately, we have to accept that they go hand-in-hand, that we can’t fulfill basic human rights for all without viewing everyone as equal. That’s fine for most people, but I’ve spent way too much time happily surviving in the jungle to pack my bags and move into the zoo.

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Thorfinnsson
Thorfinnsson
8 years ago

Jante Law originates in the behavior of small farming, foresting, mining, and fishing communities. These were always relatively egalitarian, as Scandinavia never developed feudalism unlike the rest of the West. In other words, it predates the benefits you approve of. The welfare state is nearly as highly developed in most other countries of Northwestern Europe (Switzerland is the major exception), but the attitudes there are different.

I’ve always found offending Scandinavian women to be somewhat successful, but perhaps this works better for me than you since I look like them?

Either way, the stifling social attitudes you describe along with the highly restrictive welfare state are why my father emigrated in 1974. He used to import muscle cars from America soldiers in Germany and resell them to gearheads in Sweden. He loved showing off his wealth and fucking with the authorities. There was no room for someone like him in Scandinavia.

baz
baz
8 years ago

interesting
i’ve come across (perhaps a slightly less virulent) form of this in germany too
quite a few german women i’ve known would jump on anything i had said that could be perceived as judgemental
but were free to make sweeping generalisations themselves about anyone and everything

dufu
dufu
8 years ago

Is Jante Law stronger in Denmark than other Scandinavian countries? If so any ideas why?

Dane
Dane
5 years ago
Reply to  dufu

It doesn’t exist.

Cocoon
Cocoon
8 years ago

It doesn’t sound so bad to me… an equal society where they try to help drug addicts instead of throw them in prison (which does not help).
Her comments about Polish girls are ridiculous though, I am from England but I work with some Polish people and they are good and hard working. Maybe your comment about living in Colombia put her off for other reasons? Like you are a bit of a wanderer, not settled anywhere…that kind of thing.

Roland from Poland
Roland from Poland
5 years ago
Reply to  Cocoon

“Helping” people (especially strangers) doesn’t work if you don’t have strong expectations of them in return. Without that they’ll often just learn that it pays to be a parasitic slob, and start seeing real work as an impediment to getting “benefits”.

Tampa
Tampa
8 years ago

I really really really want to see you go to France. The women in Paris are absurd hot and nobody is fat.

Cut the bullshit and hit the greatest city on earth pronto.

esolesek
esolesek
5 years ago
Reply to  Tampa

The French are much friendlier when traveling than at home, and Paris is fuel of some of the snottiest. You gotta be real about that. Still, France is a big country, and the chicks there admire an American with brains that will talk crap about his own nation. Plus if you actually one-up their cultural snottiness, they will break down. On top of that, French people are really good at hooking you up with friends once you’re in their circle. Very inviting, and parts of the country are gorgeous. They’re modern, you gotta bring some brains or facts.

Jakub Boic
Jakub Boic
5 years ago
Reply to  esolesek

what else did you learn while you sat day after day in your moms basement

esolesek
esolesek
5 years ago
Reply to  Jakub Boic

you really love stalking men through all their comments on their profile. You must be one lonely fudgepacker.

Jakub Boic
Jakub Boic
5 years ago
Reply to  esolesek

go back to jerking off your son

knuckledragger
knuckledragger
3 years ago
Reply to  Tampa

French women are easy. Tell them you read Dumond (3 Musketeers, Count of Monte Christo and 20 Years Later) and have a few questions about what a Gascon is and what the word Zounds means in French. Always say Bon Jour/Bon Soir before you introduce yourself, otherwise they find you rude. They aren’t great in the sack, contrary to popular belief. They are quite malodorous and lazy in bed, like American women. Take a shower with her first, trust me on this.

Bogs
8 years ago

You say being alpha is working against guy, but isn’t woman hardwired to sexually respond to alpha.

Sure I can see how those laws give her more power and ability to shit test a guy to the death and be socially approved bitch, but I am also think that basic human nature and physiology is same no matter where this person from, and I think any woman will want to be with strong guy rather with some beta who accepted his defeat (talking about danish guys here from your description) and surrendered.

DoesNotMatter
DoesNotMatter
8 years ago

What’s this Roosh? First you say that a society that provides healthcare to all it’s citizens is superior to one than the one that leaves them to fend for itself. I may not agree, but I guess you are an egalitarian. So atleast you would be consistent in applying this to all areas of your life right? Nope, suddenly you turn around and say that a society where alpha males monopolize all the sex is better than one that spreads some love around. So when it comes to healthcare, you are a communist. But when it comes to sex, you are suddenly a capitalist. Brilliant! You just criticized danish women for being hypocrites. But did you not just display hypocrisy yourself? Looks like you are all for “fend for yourself” in areas where you are competent, like getting sex. So clearly you don’t want to share the sex with your brothers. But when it comes to things you are lacking, such as money, suddenly you want the rich guys to share! Staggering hypocrisy. I’m an admirer of your ability in getting a woman to unzip her pants, but this is too much. I’ll still keep reading your blog though. Hypocrite or not, you are bloody good writer.

[Roosh: “So when it comes to healthcare, you are a communist.” Calm down Fox News. I said general welfare is a strong plus to the danish system, making the human rights part of their society fair, but if you account for the overall effects that that egalitariansm has on everything, the cons outweigh the pros and therefore the American system is preferred assuming you’re an alpha, which I’ll take a guess that you’re not. Therefore Denmark is better for YOU, but not ME. If you read the entire book this will be more clear to your brain.]

Kavod And Kaved
Kavod And Kaved
5 years ago
Reply to  DoesNotMatter

All Leftist men are capitalists in the bedroom. It’s in their nature to only want egalitarianism in the areas they can’t compete in, or where competition serves no worthwhile advantage. Most of them end up being actual capitalists, if they get a bit of cash.

Same shit in Holland
Same shit in Holland
8 years ago

Although they do not have a Jante Law in Holland, those who know the country well (besides Amsterdam) know that EXACTLY THE SAME RULES are embedded in Dutch people. They have a saying that summarizes the same set of cultural rules. A huge misunderstanding is that The Netherlands is a liberal country where anything is possible. It is Jante without Jante, as simple as that.

beta_plus
beta_plus
8 years ago

Roosh’s stories at the end of the book and how they relate to Jante Law are hilariously funny and deeply disturbing at the same time.

Dutch guy
Dutch guy
8 years ago

Jante law is also somewhat present in the Netherlands. Only by standing out just a little bit, you’ll get haters not because you’re obnoxious but because you’re a white rose in a field of red roses. I hear Jante Law is especially present in Finland.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

@Bogs
Danish here. One of my orbiters, an 18 year old 8, Danish standards, she pays for my drinks, although she almost never pays for own (beta orbiters, you know). I insult her and boss her around. She loves to touch me, even smell me, and to hold my hand when I allow it. She is fascinated by my life and creativity, everything I tell her is amazing, unless I mention other girls, according to her they are always ugly, degusting, and way too young for me (16-17). She’s a girl in love, but if we start kissing or anything else, she goes right home to her submissive beta boyfriend.

She knows that if I fuck her, I’ll get complete control of her life, and Danish girls do not like that. It turns them on, nonetheless.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

i met a dane in colombia who had been in south america 8 years and then returned to jutland for a visit. he was greeted by friends and family with a simple hello as though they had seen him just yesterday. nobody ever asked about where he had been and what he had done. the implication was he thought he was better than they were by having left denmark. fucking jante law.

Mr.GM
Mr.GM
8 years ago

“That’s fine for most people, but I’ve spent way too much time happily surviving in the jungle to pack my bags and move into the zoo.”

Me too.Sounds like “The Truman Show”.I wonder if Sweden is similar to this.

I feel sorry for Danish men.They’re neutered .

I don’t have against the Danish people, but their government is also too extremist on defending the Danish “purity”.
They have some immigration policies that are very close to Hitler’s germany.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

Sounds like it sucks to be in Denmark. What’s the most game-able country with socialized democarcy?

doclove
doclove
8 years ago

Roosh, thankyou for filling us in a little more about the haterfest against Denmark. It looks justified. A few comments below are in order.

It seems you liked Iceland more than Denmark, and Poland most of all while you were/are in Europe. Denmark seems to be your least favorite country. I’m not exactly sure where the South American countries you visited would be ranked amongst the European countries you visited. It might be interesting to find out. I’m sure that you can have overall rankings and also more specific detailed rankings. Some countries are better one way and others another way I suppose.

American culture has been moving towrds having Jante’s Law for a long time. It’s called being politically incorrect here in the USA. American women are hypocrites too and will apply the double standard. American women may not be as bad as Danish women in that regard, but they are trying to be. We may not quite be where Denmark is, but we’re moving in that direction.

I like what Bogs in post # 6 said. Maybe Danish GAME is very different from other countries especially the USA. Maybe Danish Game is more difficult than in most if not all other countries too. I know that GAME is not the same everywhere nor should you expect it to be.

It sounds like Icelandic GAME was most similar but not the same as Danish GAME. At least Iceland seemed to me to have more in the way of what Mystery(Erik Von Markovik) in his book, “The Mystery Method: How to Bed Beautiful Women”, called Fool’s Mate. Fool’s mate is a chess term otherwise known as the two move Checkmate. Mystery used it to describe a fast and usually an unbelieveably very fast seduction and BANG. He never reccommended using it, but stated it can work if the woman is extremely horny or vengeful against a boyfriend or a slut and you are the first guy to offer sex who seems decent enough or if she is very drunk. Maybe too many fool’s mates described in your articles about Iceland and maybe in your book, “Bang Iceland”(I haven’t read “Bang Iceland” and “Don’t Bang Denmark” books)is what upset Icelandic idiotic feminists off among other things. It also seems Icelandic women were a little better looking on average and had more agreeable personalities on average than Denmark. I know Poland was way better than both countries especially Denmark.

Naughty Nomad
8 years ago

I hope the Danish press kick up a fuss.

A-Bax
A-Bax
8 years ago

“It’s taboo to show off, brag, or even indirectly show your value. You can’t talk about how much you enjoy your job, how you bought an awesome brand new anything, or how generally happy you are with life—anything that might show how you may be better than your audience”

-So, no Gansta Rap coming out of Denmark anytime soon. MC Neils Bohr can’t brag about his mad quantum skilz?

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

ALPHA = GINA TINGLES

Wolfie
Wolfie
8 years ago

Wouldn’t that be great? You could put the Icelandic “We’re not sluts!” complaints on 1 side of a page and the Danish “We are too sluts!” complaints on the other side.

doclove
doclove
8 years ago

@ Roosh
I’m not as big of a fan of Socialism as you are. It works best for Scandinavian Europeans because they’re genetically and culturally Scandinavian. It works next best for other Northwestern Europeans for the same reasons. After that it works for other Europeans to a lesser extent for the same reasons. It may work for those of Asian especially of Japanese, Korean and Chinese and high caste South Asian genetic heritage but culturally Western Heritage. For most of everyone else, it does not work.

Here’s what you need for it to work. You need to have a bright or high IQ population. You also need to have a high level of trust and compassion for everyone even people you don’t know. You need to trust your government and be honest. You need to have a good work ethic, but also need to have an ethic about not letting work run your life. In other words you work to live not live to work.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is to assume any group of people can be Scandinavians both genetically and culturally. They can not. Northwestern Europeans come closest with other Europeans trailing behind.

I used to love to disabuse Canadians about Socialism and why they feel having Socialism in Canada makes Canada superior to the USA as an American teaching English in South Korea. I told them the truth. The USA was 12% Black, 13% Latino, 1% Native American Indian or Pacific Islander, 4% Asian and 70% White in the year 2000. Canada was 1% other, 2% Native American, 15% Asian and mostly of Chinese, Korean and Japanese descent at that, and 82% White. It’s much easier to run Socialism under such conditions. I told them to try getting real and more diversity like the USA had and they didn’t. I also told them to try it with the same percentage of Blacks and to a lesser extent Latinos and Native American Indians plus Pacific Islanders the USA had and to try having as low of a percentage of both Whites and Asians especially Chinese, Koreans and Japanese that the USA had. They wouldn’t know what to do and would cry. I told them the USA does the best it can under such circumstances. They accused me of being a racist. I accused them of being delusional. I told them the truth that I don’t hate Blacks, Latinos and Native American Indians and Pacific Islanders, and that I truly love them almost as much as my race, Whites, but I also know they are not Whites nor Asians especially if they are of Chinese, Korean and Japanese descent either genetically or more importantly culturally. Nor could I make them such.

I love other races virtually as much(not quite as much) as my own, but I’m realistic. Most other people of other races and ethnicities don’t nearly love nor respect other races nearly as much as they do their own. Whites are much better in this regard. So am I. I’m telling you the truth. Hate the message, not the messenger. You should also accept the truth and not what ypou emotionally want to be the truth. Don’t be a stupid useless bitch.

Most Canadians would be furious with me unless they were very realistic about the world when I made the comments above and below. It would tend to help if they actually lived in the USA or served in the Canadian military. The Candian military people and its veterans seem to be the best Canadians I’ve ever met on average. It slides downhill from there. I could care less if they liked my comments or not.

Japan, South Korea, Taiwan, Hong Kong and Singapore have corporatism which to a much lesser degree does what socialism does for Sacandinavians for it’s people. China is trying to do the same. Family life and helping and trusting family and close friends is more prevalent in East Asia too. It’s what we had in the USA for most of the 20th century. They don’t trust nor help strangers as much in East Asia. I think the USA is better than East Asia at least among the Whites and Asians in that regard and was better for people of all races of Americans in the past. All individuals of all races including Whites and Asians are becoming less trustful and helpful of other people whatever their race especially if they are strangers.

samseau
samseau
8 years ago

Denmark is democracy to the extreme. The idea of equal citizenship moved to it’s logical conclusion.

I thought America was pretty bad in how it handled democracy, but it’s nothing compared to Denmark!

I would never be able to survive in Denmark.

Birth
Birth
8 years ago

@10:

When I was in Finland staying with a girl that I was banging, her roommate overheard me talking to my bank rep. And then to another one. And a few hours later… to another one. She then asked me why I was on the phone with the bank all the time.. I subtly suggested that I worked with more than just 1 bank on my company accounts.

2 days later she had successfully brainfucked my girl in kicking me out for me not allowing them to be ridiculously late.

They are orbitted by beta guys all the time, which I’m sure get lucky with them once in a while… because the girls have nothing different around to bang.

I do, therefore think that Jantes law also strongly applies in Finland. Sweden is a completely different story. Ask a Swede why Finland isn’t great and they will tell you that they have no culture. Ask a Finn why Swedes suck and they will just tell you: Because they’re gay.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

Roosh.

One of your main problems are, you “ain’t like us.”

My intel may be dated, by from my experiences in Scandinavia, Danish girls are not particularly withdrawn on reserved. At least not in Copenhagen. But I am of solid Scandinavian stock. Scandinavians in general are, with the possible exception of the Japanese, the most xenophobic people on the planet. It wasn’t exactly as if te Nazis had to work too hard at convincing them all the world’s evils were due to dark haired “others” who, again, “ain’t like us.”

Nowadays, due to pervasively liberal governments, the “kill those different” instinct is subdued; but is replaced with what is a genuine belief in some an even more restrictive formulation of “white man’s burden”, a “Scandinavian man and woman’s burden.” After all, Scandinavians have the “best” welfare system, give the most to the UN and to Palestinian refugees, take care of those in need etc., while people like you are out there trying to scam nice Scandinavian tourists out of cab fares.

Also, the book in which Janteloven was first written down, “A fugitive crosses his tracks” is one great read. Since you’re into reading, get a copy. It really has nothing to do with feminism, but certainly with stifling what you may call alphaish behavior. Which is, honestly, diametrically opposed to feminism. Feminists may well have appropriated the resulting mindset for their own devices, however.

Poochie
Poochie
8 years ago

Do you think that in 150 years people will reread “Never Listen To A Woman” or “Naomi Wolf Is A Delusional Old Hag” and muse about how wise and all-seeing Roosh was?

backseat
backseat
8 years ago

I believe it’s about adjusting your game according to the target audience. Living in Finland I can say Jante’s Law applies more or less – but it has pros and cons.

Few examples: time to time I approach a girl who suggest that I’d buy a drink for her. I’ll reply that “in such equal society, why don’t you buy me a drink”. Local girls regularly buy a drink for me. Locals do – I have (had) many female friends who are from abroad, they expect me to buy and never do it by themselves.

Also you don’t need to be that macho than elsewhere to show your status. While trying to express your alpha status you’d just leave the cowboy hat home (while I have did that few times, however).

Americans are shown as arrogant idiots by many people – mostly those who really do not know any Americans. Therefore I’d suggest to go first “nice guy” approach to give feeling that you do not actually belong that group. Naturally after that cocky & funny approach would work as it works everywhere…

One important thing to understand is that there is no cultural or religious reasons for women not to have one night stand: you are not considered as a slut if you go with a man. Women has right to have fun as men do.

Also there is lot less playing from the women side than in many other countries. As women can support theirselves, they do not need man because of money, so your welfare means less.

Roosh: you gave an example about spanish. For US people it maybe something to speak two languages, but for most scandinaves speak more or less one to three or even more languages addition to their mother languge. English + little spanish is disadvantage here.

Disadvantages are ofcourse that if you have used to “men are men, women are women” culture you will have trouble of understanding that women do not actually do much for you. Don’t expect them to cook for you.

I admit, this time to time goes “men and women are equal, except where women have more priviliges” way. Said that, it’s more understanding the culture and adjusting your game to it.

I don’t personally know about Denmark, but if you visit Finland (Helsinki would be your best choise related to game), get decent drunk and look for bar or disco in downtown where is decently drunk girls. Some, not all, of them thinks foreigners are excotic and atleast you get a good response.