The Grim Reaper

I remember ten years ago when the thought of death put me into an immediate panic. I couldn’t bear to think that all I am will cease to exist. I didn’t want to believe that one day everything I did to become the best man I could would disappear for all eternity. I’d push the thoughts out of my mind like I’m trained to do by Western culture.

Now it’s rare that a day goes by where I don’t think of the grim reaper. I hold death real close to my chest, using it as the main way to act instead of waiting for tomorrow. The reaper pushes me to go against what my upbringing has indoctrinated me to do, to fit my peg body into the college-career-mortgage-marriage hole.

The more I think of death and the more I use it as a tool, of knowing that there is a clock on my life that ticks every second of every day with a random deadline that I can’t predict, the more it has pushed me to take the tough steps of making big changes in my life.

It’s now clear to me what I have to do so that I will not be upset when the end is near: I have to complete as many of my dreams and goals as quickly as possible. It’s a bucket list I must work on while still very much alive, not when I turn 50 or get diagnosed with a life-ending illness. I’m in the prime of my life, but I’m living as if it will soon end.

I believe the more times you can say “been there, done that” on your death bed to all the things you set out to do, the more peacefully you can go. These can range from the insignificant to the lofty:

  • Banging a big Brazilian booty
  • Writing a book
  • Learning a foreign language
  • Starting a successful business
  • Living in another country for one year
  • Procreating
  • Playing a few songs on a musical instrument
  • Fucking cheap hookers who loved you all night long
  • Paying off debt
  • Owning a restaurant or bar
  • Starting a nonprofit organization
  • Beating someone up with your bare hands

While it will be impossible to complete everything you want to do before you die, there is a point where you feel like you’ve done enough, where you’ve gone far above your human duty and any extra day you live on earth is gravy on top of what already was an exciting life where you acted instead of waited. When it’s your time to go, you can say to yourself, “I had a good run,” and close your eyes with no regrets. This is what I want.

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Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

Wow

alex
alex
8 years ago

Amen! You havent by any chance read Heidegger have you? He’s basically saying what your saying, and is one of the few western philosofers also appreciated by the oriental culture

Dirk Diggler
Dirk Diggler
3 years ago
Reply to  alex

Heidegger, Heidegger was a boozy begger who could drink you under the table…
https://youtu.be/hPFClJGqjBQ

Hendrix&Marley=
Hendrix&Marley=
8 years ago

Awesome

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago
Zorro
Zorro
8 years ago

I notice the first on your list was fucking a big Brazilian booty!

I’m learning Braz Portuguese because of you, man, and I’m moving to Rio!

JackBlack
JackBlack
8 years ago

I’m with you all the way until the last one — this sounds like what someone who’s never actually been in a real fight would say.

Go Getter
Go Getter
8 years ago

I have a couple tears running down my cheeks right now man,past 5 years have been the most fucked up i’ve ever had.

Very inspirational post(to me at least) thank you roosh

zarzuelazen
8 years ago

#6, regarding the last post on Roosh’s list, I propose a no-holds-barred boxing match between us and this ‘Grim Reaper’. In one corner, its each of us fighting, in the opposite corner, a big savage ape trying to punch our brains out. You think that’s gonna stop you? Watch this YouTube video, right now:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSYtQy9EqTA

‘I’m gonna show you, how great I am’

dickbutt
dickbutt
8 years ago

it’s interesting that you have this fear that never even crosses my mind

Odds
Odds
8 years ago

Kevin Smith and Joe Rogan talk about death. Pretty powerful stuff:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DEruc61DnE

pantolones
pantolones
8 years ago

At my age,it gets more crucial. But it its easier said than done. Most people don’t have this hunger,ambition,or instinct that others have. Something drives them. I don’t believe in god so it’s something else altogether. I wish I had it. The desire and will to at least make a decent attempt at having a more fulfilling life. Being financially well off helps,but that’s just an excuse for most of us who just don’t have that killer instinct.
Congratulations on having that,Roosh.

Giovonny
Giovonny
8 years ago

Death is my favorite motivator. I figure I have about 15,000-25,000 days left to live. Half of those will be as an old man. And, another 35% of that time I will be asleep. Shit, I gotta go!!

Tony
Tony
8 years ago

I agree with your philosophy and have done everything on your list by 40, except “own” the bar. I did pay for my undergrad and grad school in DC by bartending, which was great because the women try to pick you up – so you catch or release as you prefer.

Rivelino
8 years ago

yeah my new slogan is,

DEATH ALWAYS WINS

DAW

Tony
Tony
8 years ago

Missed the non-profit too, but I’m working on an iPhone app that allows your social network to fund your “cause” (eg $1 to your select chariry per mile of the marathon you run, etc)

(r)Evoluzione
(r)Evoluzione
8 years ago

Roosh,

Spiritual warriors from many cultures advocate keeping the knowledge and awareness of one’s death close at hand at all times. You enumerated the reasons for this very well.

Carlos Castaneda wrote that your death is an advisor, and one that will never lie to you.

Great, great post. One of my all time favorites.

Nomad77
Nomad77
8 years ago

There is a simple way of saying this, I believe it is: to die without regrets 🙂

My goal was simply this. If I knew I would die today how much would I regret it. And I am happy to say at this point in my life, not much 🙂

Giovonny
Giovonny
8 years ago

“Carlos Castaneda wrote that your death is an advisor, and one that will never lie to you”

He also had a harem of 5 women that he choose based on looks, intelligence, and innocence.

They all committed suicide after he died.

The Rationalist
8 years ago

This does seem like checking off a list though. What about transcendence? Or doing something to help the world?

But hey, overall I agree (maybe with the exception of the beating part). Enjoy life. Do no harm.

O-face
O-face
8 years ago

Thanks Roosh for suggesting the 50 cent Robert Greene book, its keeping me inspired over a difficult confusing time

Maciano
Maciano
8 years ago

This is why I always go out when I can. Never a dull moment, no time for dull people, no dull jobs no way, no regrets.

I would admit that after having seeing several loved ones die, in the proverbial sense, in my arms, I definitely feel I need to have saved someone before I die.

Mr.GM
Mr.GM
8 years ago

Wow.

At the and of the day, that’s all we guys from the Rooshv community want – A Life with no regrets, free from the shackels of society.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

I just learned a few hours ago, that a former friend/acquaintance drank herself to death at age 39. One bottle of wine a night, plus extra on the weekends. Sudden liver/kidney failure (with ignored warning signs and doctor advice ignored).

This post hits home.

Cat
Cat
5 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Kidney failure been there done that in my late teens & early twenties, saw a lot of my mates on dialysis and transplanted go….it’s no big deal, there isn’t anything you can do about it. Yeah it used to send me nuts thinking about how good guys got wiped out especially after a few drinks but what can you do…..the rage goes eventually!
Just enjoy yourself and do something worthwhile with your life, DO what YOU want with your life, but don’t fuck people over to do it!
Don’t fear death, fear a bad way to go if anything, use that if it helps motivate you. I just pity those corporate wankers I used to work with….and they think they’ve got it all worked out! 🙂

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

I just don’t want to end up like this “game over” guy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsx2vdn7gpY&feature=related

Turd Ferguson
Turd Ferguson
8 years ago

Knocking it out of the park again…I think an acceptance of death enables you to not give a fuck, and not giving a fuck is the ultimate triumph. Easier said than done though.

Cat
Cat
5 years ago
Reply to  Turd Ferguson

Go and ask to visit a paediatric Renal Unit or kids cancer ward and see how you feel after that. I think that should focus your mind on not giving a fuck!!