The Internet Is Doing You More Harm Than Good

Imagine it’s the year 1800 and you wanted to share a political idea with the public. How would you do so? You would gather enough funds to publish a pamphlet that you would distribute in social clubs or other gathering centers. You would only be able to do this if you were of means or had financial backing.

Things are different today. With a basic internet connection that can be obtained for free or at trivial cost, you can use one of many online platforms such as WordPress, Twitter, Tumblr, and Facebook to publish ideas and thoughts. While the cost of publishing a second pamphlet is near the same as the first, the cost of publishing a second blog post or Twitter update is zero. The internet has solved the cost barrier to idea distribution where a larger percentage of the population can share ideas that has the potential to reach people throughout the world. This ability, upon closer inspection, is actually causing us harm. We would all better off limiting our internet usage than expanding it further.

An Unlimited Potential Supply Of Information

Because the cost of sharing is zero, we now have a drastically increased supply of information that is being shared. Someone today who would have never published a pamphlet in the past now has published 1,000 Facebook status updates, 10,000 Twitter updates, and 50 Tumblr  entries. He even wrote one Tumblr post about how stupid horses are that went “viral” among horse riders and got him receiving 250 comments in one day. Such a diatribe against horses would not have been published in the past by someone who didn’t know horses, but now there is a mechanism for creating, finding, and sharing such inconsequential content that can emotionally affect those who read them.

The content you read now has moved from being primarily intellectual from the time of the Gutenberg press to primarily emotional. In the past, it was just too expensive to publish something with the intent to piss someone off or to gather lulz. Like with the first viral article in history (Martin Luther’s 95 Theses), you went through the hurdle and cost of publishing to educate or effect change. Only with the the beginnings of yellow journalism in the late 19th century did you start to see a shift towards more emotional offerings that would enrich publishers and advertisers at the expense of public discourse.

Fast forward to today. We’re bombarded with poorly written and braindead pieces of content that are engineered to go viral for the sake of virality, not to educate and improve the individual or society. Thousands of media outlets, professional bloggers, and vacuous attention whores and dumping an unfathomable amount of content onto the internet every day, playing the numbers game in the hopes that they will get clicks. There used to be a dearth of reading material for humans but now there is too much, and we are wasting time on content that we shouldn’t just to be entertained, just to feel a little emotional rush that we may not be getting through our normal lives. Consider that people now purposefully read content they hate just to stir their emotions. They do this as part of their daily routine.

Enter The Validation Machine

The scenario I painted gets even worse when you add to it the validation machine that the internet offers. If you published 5,000 copies of a pamphlet, how would you know that your message reached the masses? You would receive letters and individuals would make a call to your dwelling or office to discuss what you wrote. But today, the response can be instant and massive. A witty tweet you publish right now can have replies coming in within seconds. A basic photo you upload on Facebook or Instagram can have likes pouring it from your admirers. A blog post you wrote can have comments and shares within an hour or two. You can even check traffic to your blog live with Google Analytics, as it happens.

Since it’s never certain how your content will be received, every time you hit Submit you pull the handle on the slot machine. Will this tweet hit the jackpot and get more than 100 retweets, maybe even from someone famous? Will this blog post receive more than 50,000 page views? For human beings, this sort of randomized personal validation rivals the strength of any narcotic drug. You begin sharing not to share information, but to receive attention. In other words, if we were no longer allowed to know how our content was received (in effect throwing it from airplanes onto the masses below), the amount of internet content shared would plummet. User-generated content would fade. Even people who share silly comments on blogs do so in the hopes of getting replies and upvotes.

There is also the addiction to sharing itself, which rivals the addiction to receiving attention. It used to be the case that you would read an article, think about it, and then move on with your day. But now, before your brain has even processed the contents, you’re blasting it on your social networks. Raise your hand if you’ve shared something you haven’t completely read. My hand is up. We monitor how often our share was re-shared in the hopes that our social worth goes up, all from a mediocre article that was likely a list post with images or animated gifs. We peruse the internet not to find information we need, but to share information we think others will like so that we feel good about ourselves.

The internet has become a machine to fill gaps in your ego and self-esteem so that you receive the emotional benefits of validation. This occurs through compulsive checking of responses to your content and shares in the hope of receiving a neurotransmitter release in your brain so that you can transcend the feeling of living life like a standard issue modern sheep, something the majority of human beings will never escape. Any emotional response you receive gives you both purpose and distraction to your stale and monotonous life.

How I Responded To My Growing Internet Addiction

At the start of this year, when I had a temporary lull in work, I found myself engaged in a loop of checking email, Twitter, Facebook, blogs, and so on. Even though it had been less than an hour since I last checked my email, I checked it again, and again, hoping for something new. I dropped a tweet and checked five minutes later to see if there was a response. I engaged this behavior without thought. More severely, I had trouble stopping. Hours of my day would go by without accomplishing anything but this validation loop. I like to think of myself as a productive individual who has put out a decent amount of work, so I wondered if I couldn’t stop myself from this addiction, how could my little brother? How can young guys coming up in life resist it?

I don’t think they can, because Twitter, Facebook, and sites like it are engineered like drugs. When you log into Twitter, the first thing you see is a metric of your worth (number of followers), which you hope to see increase. You are also prompted with a box that urges you to share not an intellectual or useful piece of information, but crap. You share crap and then read other people’s crap, retweeting the crap you think your followers will like. Once your crap is retweeted and replied, you receive a fleeting shot of dopamine. But that dies down quickly so you need to check for more content. You stumble on an article that enrages you, even though it’s similar to the crap you shared last week, and then share that too. It’s a neverending cycle of sharing crap and reading crap that other people are sharing directly to you, hoping that you will spread their crap far and wide.

In Instagram the race is to share crappy photos. On Facebook the race is to share both crappy photos and thoughts (double crap!). More than 99% of blog postings on the internet are crap. Even in my Twitter feed, where I followed less than 100 men, I was being exposed to mostly mediocre content that was re-hashed crap. Everyone is sharing crap to get personal validation, so when I noticed the other month that I had shared 11,000 tweets of crap, I felt ashamed. By far, most of the tweets I shared were news stories meant to emotionally arouse men, offering them little in the way of personal development, because such development is hard and takes years, but getting a soma boost from reading about the latest feminist antics is sweet like candy and requires nothing but a few minutes of your time.

I can only imagine how tired our brains get because of the roller coaster we put it through when browsing through the internet. When you look at the tremendous popularity of Vine and Buzzfeed, which use facile images, videos, and ideas to entertain its audiences, you can see how the internet is nothing more than interactive television. For those of you who used it in its early days, when it was just mostly text, I’m sure you will agree with me that the internet has turned into something grotesque. Only through strenuous amounts of self-control and constant vigilance can you escape its negative effects to use it as it was intended—a tool for knowledge, education, and communication—not a means of feeling important or better about yourself. I have challenged myself to exhibit self-control by making some changes.

— I only check my email once a day, just like I would check postal mail once a day. If I have to read an old email or send a new one, I do not look at the fresh emails waiting for me.

— I will share value through my blog that I believe helps human beings. I will avoid publishing emotional clickbait that feeds my ego or wanting to be popular. I will not anger men unnecessarily.

— I will use Twitter and Facebook as functional tools to promote my work, not as a way to get instant attention that releases brain neurotransmitters.

— I will not go hunting for content. Instead, I will use RSS feeds to only read a small list of trusted blogs. I will resist articles that are being widely shared, because its value will most likely lie in the emotional than the intellectual. A truly intellectual piece should by its nature not appeal to a larger audience.

— I will not use the internet on my smartphone unless it’s looking up directions or language translations. I uninstalled apps like Twitter, Facebook, and Gmail.

Through these changes, I can now admit that the internet had become like a surrogate friend to me, smoothing out the natural lows of life with instant validation at essentially free cost. I often found myself in between tasks for the day, wanting an emotional burst before continuing. Instead of reaching out to be validated by the internet, I now sit silently and let my brain go where it wants, until it’s internally motivated to tackle the next task. Since doing this, my thoughts have more clear and ideas for articles such as this one has been more forthcoming. I look around at people staring like zombies into their phones and realize how they are in a race to absorb as much information as possible in the hope of receiving emotional stimulation from digesting someone else’s work instead of accomplishing their own goals instead. I have no doubt that validation-seeking has caused me a lot of harm in terms of ideas or articles I could have come up with if I just sat still and held whatever discomfort I may have been feeling.

Twitter Was The Worst Of My Addictions

Twitter was especially damaging to me. There are several reasons:

— When I was thinking alone, and stumbled upon a good idea, I preferred to disrupt my thinking, share the 140-character condensed version on Twitter, and then keep checking for responses. In effect, it was a thinking stopper.

— Writing a blog post is hard, but constructing a tweet is easy, and you can get as many soma hits to your brain from new “notifications” as you would from a carefully thought-out blog post. I estimate that I have not written at least 75 posts because of sharing crap on Twitter.

— The content treadmill never ends. It takes me about 20 minutes a day to read all the blogs I subscribe to. The number of new content from my favorite sources are finite, like reading a newspaper, but on Twitter, you can sink hours following connections, conversations, entertaining beefs, and so on. You can drop a tweet and check back two minutes later and then drop a reply that requires further checking. It was both addicting and neverending.

Now when I read an article I like, I think about it for a minute or two. If I have an interesting thought, I keep it going and ask myself if I can expand it into a proper article. I’ve nearly completely stopped sharing things on social networks. The withdrawal from doing this was modest, only lasting a few days. It was easier to kick than I thought it would be.

One important thing I must state is that the quality of my life has not gone down because of these changes. I don’t feel like I’m missing out, because the information I got from Twitter did not offer solutions to specific problems I had. Instead, it was entertainment, extra information that kept me distracted. The truths I’ve realized in life were not from reading a thousand articles on the same topic, but experiencing life on my own, taking risks, and then thinking about the resulting experiences.

Are You Addicted To The Internet?

The best way to know if you have an internet addiction is to imagine how difficult it would be for you to limit social networking, email, and smartphone usage. The harder it is, the more likely you have a problem of using the internet not as an informational tool but as a distractor and mood regulator of life.

I used to think that the internet was better than television in that it offered more mental rewards, but with the direction it has taken in the past 10 years, especially with the development of smartphone apps, I can no longer say that sharing or viewing items on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, and then checking obsessively for replies is better than watching a television comedy show. Both require the lowest of brain function, but at least in the comedy you can encounter a joke to use on your friends to make them laugh. If you look at the faces of people who are on their smartphones, mindlessly scrolling through Facebook, you’ll see that it’s as empty and hollow as those watching television.

If your approach to the internet is balanced, your usage should decrease as you start to solve the problems in your life. If you are reading blogs for game advice, and your game starts getting sharper, you should be reading less game blogs. If you understand the damage that a certain ideology is doing on society, like feminism, you should be reading less articles about feminism as time goes on. Only when you establish a new goal, such as studying a language, should your internet usage temporarily rise to aid you. But to constantly use it every day, regardless of what knowledge you already have on certain topics, what information you immediately need, or what your future goals are, means you are treating the internet not as a tool, but as a lifestyle, trading it in for real life instead.

Most of the population is not going to exhibit control in their internet usage by only reading select resources while not attention whoring on social networking, so it appears that we may have arrived at the point where, for the average person, the internet will cause them greater harm than being a couch potato. It’s time we all be more thoughtful about how we incorporate the internet into our daily routines, and make sure it doesn’t take over our lives completely.

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I’d love to know which blogs you read consistently. Your list of top ten books are now on the top of my bucket list.
I’m taking a lot of inspiration from you on several things man.

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Very true.I as an old man have developed an internet addiction that was not conceivable 20 years ago. I used to read great books. Since I work at home now instead of getting out of my seat after hours of work I click on a website to get that instant gratification rush. People upvote my stupid-ass comments which only reinforces the problem. Last year I moved to another state and was without intenet for one week. I read a good history book cover to cover and thoroughly enjoyed it (“In The Garden of Beasts”).

PS, is that you in a recent Miracle Whip commercial?

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You should take the Neo Challenge. I wrote about the Neo last year on The Spearhead to an overwhelmingly tepid response.

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2013/03/30/price-drop-on-alphasmart-neo/

Recently my brother arrived to work on family matters. I showed the Neo to my brother Harry, who has actually published novels for the teen coming-of-age genre, thinking that he of all people would relish the chance to work on his writing without the PC-internet umbilical. He seemed non-plussed as I watched him hunched over his laptop with 173 “shortcuts” on the “desktop”. My other brother Marston though was intrigued, then got on ebay and bought one for $60. He can take it fly-fishing and still be able to pour out his innermost thoughts and desires without concern for battery life or the pull of the internet fragmenting his psyche into complete uselessness.

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I find myself often scrolling through my selectively curated text-based knowledge subreddits seeking a new idea to read about rather than the other way around. I look forward to this new method of using the internet to seek supplementary information on ideas I conjure up myself.

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Good satire.

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I just defeated the purpose of your article by tweeting it!

Just kidding smile

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do you feel comfortable looking at yourself in the mirror?

this retarder behavior is very apparent in the post Roosh made on Rok “you-will-be-banned-if-you-reply-to-a-female-commenter”

this is not 4chan, go be witty somewhere else

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get that 10 foot pole out of your ass

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How do you know when Scesci has run out of ammo? He’s fighting with the stick up his ass.

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I had this conversation with my brother before I left for Asia. I noted how, all things considered, the internet was my greatest productivity drain, greater even than alcohol, which can be a weekend productivity drain. I’ve kicked alcohol whenever I’ve wanted to, but the internet, I’ve never been able to go cold turkey on. One of my goals in moving to Asia was to decrease my internet use and increase my creative output. So far so good! Great post, man, it’s interesting how so few of us get this stuff…most people will just waste away their lives on the worldwideweb, the destination always being just one more click away…

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A superlative, well thought out article, one of your best. Should be required reading. Bravo!

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Roosh-
What about your own game lately???
You talk about mellowing out, getting older, but where are you now in smashing fine young girls and can you sustain this???

PS- the system wants the Internet to be overly moronic instead of free and creative to better manipulate the masses.

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Roosh is off the internet how do you expect him to respond to you?

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You’re off the purpose of how he makes a living and why this whole thing exists- to smash prime 18-24 yo pussy.

Everything else including the Internet is secondary.

Roosh-
I wanna know if your aging has hurt your game and when was the last time you pulled 18-24yo tail?

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“Only when you establish a new goal, such as studying a language, should your internet usage temporarily rise to aid you.” <<—- best bit

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One thing that helps is turrning pictures off. I am in a country where my bandwith is very limited and I’ve noticed that sites like Reddit, Tumblr and Facebook become a lot less addictive when you can only read text. It will also make it easier for you to see how inane they really are.

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This is why I took a two-week vacation from the Internet; to remind myself that I’m on the Internet to produce *good* content, not *popular* content.

Good content doesn’t necessarily have the pzazz, but it adds to your long-term quality and strength. Popular content gets you a few hundred hits at once, but it’s all flash in the pan.

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An excellent article that has, I must admit, highlighted my own Internet addiction.

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Great article.

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There’s a balance. Internet browsing can be sedative, not unlike shutting off my mind and vegging out on TV. Unlike TV, I do find valuable nuggets by unfocused wandering on the internet.

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Great article RV, I completely agree with this.
For me my terrible internet habits began snowballing once I purchased an iPad. I justified buying it in order to video chat with family, however 99% of the time I spend on it is devoted to reading stupid blog posts that don’t help me in the present whatsoever. Your post has inspired me to stop this nonsense.
I worked remotely for a few years after reading the 4HWW and decided to implement the time-saving protocol that Ferriss described in his book. Basically the prescription is to immediately start your day (after eating breakfast) of getting done one essential work task. By no means do you check your email beforehand.
Once your task is compete, you can check your email ONCE, at 11 a.m. Then eat lunch, perform a second essential task in the afternoon, then check your email one last time at 4 p.m. to answer replies from the first round of emails at 11 a.m.
While your offline working, an out-of-office reply should be engaged to instruct people to wait until you’ve checked your email at the prescribed times or call you if it’s an emergency.
This protocol improved my productivity immensely. So immensely that I had all this free time, which I didn’t know what to do with. My mind was so accustomed to time wasting from years of sitting in a cubicle, that when you actually give it plenty of free time to dedicate to tasks it finds worthwhile, it almost rebels. You then have to play the role of negotiator to convince your mind that you can do these other pursuits. It’s easier to go back to your old habits then to have your mind figure out exactly what it wants to pursue for leisure.
One other remedy that Ferriss describes is to take a one-week holiday from all news reading. No internet (unless for a specific task for your job), no newspapers, Facebook, Twitter, email, etc.
I’ve done it once, and your mind feels so much more relaxed at the end of the week. Humans, especially men, have evolved to focus on single tasks rather than multi-tasing. Go hunting, till a field, pursue a chick. Surfing the web in between emails obliterates this and makes your mind become a drunken monkey.
In lieu of the No Fap Challenge, I declare No Internet Challenge for a week. It will hurt your blog-visit count, but it will undeniably improve your readership’s lives.

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Roosh,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I agree whole-heartedly.

However, it seems that lately, (and I’m not trolling here) you’ve been defending yourself indirectly against the “practice what you preach” article. Last week it was about banging girls instead of getting into relationships, today it’s about not sharing shitty articles just for the dopamine release.

What about Return Of Kings? When you started the site over a year ago, the content was much like your blog: Well thought out, almost philosophical articles. Fast-forward to today, and it’s re-hashed shit. While I like Tut’s articles, they are written to be viral. Worse yet, you are publishing things that don’t have ANY value just to troll people with certain beliefs (case in point: http://www.returnofkings.com/30716/25-painful-red-pill-questions-christians-need-to-ask-themselves )

I don’t expect a personal response, but I do hope you consider the points I’ve brought up. I understand and respect your desire and ambition to monetize your creation via ads and viral bullshit, but I would encourage you to be honest with yourself and your readers if that’s starting to become your main purpose, which in the case of Return of Kings, it seems to be. You’re publishing articles for the purpose of publishing, to get page hits, so that there are more ad views, to make more money. The articles no longer offer value, because you’ve lowered your standards so you can publish more articles. It’s disappointing.

Regardless of your decision, I respect it. You’ve worked hard an built an audience, and have every right to do whatever you wish with your content.

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Maybe this can help. Part of my personal thinking is that the Alpha or player/PUA lifestyle is dependent upon a few things. One major component is that we are a minority. Face it, those who practice what we do to whatever extent and are developing the mindset here are a select few. You could say that we are a religion or society in some way. Under the label of the former we do proselytize. When I publish something in the game venue or even in the journals of my business there is a conflict in my mind. I would like others to embrace something better for them, and I worry about sharing my tricks.

So we are essentially looking for converts and supporting each other and occasionally guiding and correcting each other when necessary. When you allow too many into your club or country you risk their influence being stronger than the resident culture. Some groups deal with this by having a tiered system whereby the lower levels are used since we must tolerate them, our South American illegals if you will.

In essence it is a mentality to sell that which you openly state is not good for you. Many religions do this such as a Mormon selling or trading alcohol to a non-Mormon.

We who really get this and do this are an elite and this is the audience for an article like this. It is making the good, better and ultimately great. I am a little older that Roosh and pondered similar things as he wrote here. This is not to say anything other than a man who has challenged himself, his beliefs, his society and his limits as well as bringing many along for the journey does continue to question himself and constantly strive to be better. This is the sign of a true master. The more that men achieve; the harder we are on ourselves. This is a major distinction between us and women. We can’t just accept what we learn, develop and achieve. We even question if we are worth it.

At the same time, we feel free to monetize the masses and play whatever game is necessary to use them. The door has always been open to them to join; it is their choice. It sounds horrible, but as someone in business who has taken my fair share of knocks, I will do whatever I have to to use the masses whose existence makes our club necessary. When you earn your way to the elite; you will understand. Right now, view it as a cold business decision to promote and maximize return on his work. Look for what is meant for those of us who are honored to receive it.

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I don’t considerate it un-masculine to operate without regard to conscience, and morality.

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If you could shroud your post in a little more pompous mystery, it’d help us all understand what you’re trying to say a little better.

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Word.

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Everything on ROK that I publish gives value to me, and so your judgement of what is clickbait or not is subjective, but of course I will package every article so that it is most appealing to ROK readers. For instance, I know that titles with a number (lists) get more responses, so if the article itself has a list, I will announce that in the title.

Last year I did experiment with virality, studying it to see what caused it, and it’s that experimentation which had led a number of views in this article. At the same time, I give individual authors leeway in how to construct their own articles. I’m not telling them to make certain changes to their work just because I think it will go viral, but some of them do want their work to reach a lot of people, which I understand (writers are writers because they want responses to their ideas). I don’t see a problem with Tuthmosis, for example, saying girls with short hair are unattractive. I believe this viewpoint, state it to people in person, and don’t date girls with short hair. There is no moral conflict in me publishing that, because men could then have a conversation about it.

For ROK the balance is providing solid content that is just mainstream enough so more men find out about the red pill and game. At the same time, I must only publish articles that have a reason or purpose, that isn’t just “filler” to get views. Today’s article will act as a guideline of sorts for me in the future.

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Banging young college women is the purpose and intent of game, verdad?

Hows your game lately with 18-24 yo prime tail?

Are you in going into the depths of Russia and Ukraine where the best women are?

If were all honest aging affects game for every guy out here so a pro like you can teach us all more knowledge how to get the prime tail.

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Strong article. I have seen these same qualities in myself and had to learn self control which I get better at with continued practice. The internet is no different than watching too much TV, playing too many video games, eating too much junk foods, ect. To me these are all methods of escape or procrastination from doing the work it takes to go far in this life.

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this is so true and ill admit im addicted to the internet.90% of the time on manospgere blogs. been following em for 2yrs and done nothing with the advice. im just great at theory. everytime a blog pops an article i have to read n discuss. espically on rok since it has 3 posts a day. while others are weekly ir monthly.
think its time for more quality tgen quantity. that way its more memrable otherwise it confuses noobs an we procrastinate. there really is only so many ways of repackaging dating advice among other things.
great post roosh

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its quality articles like this is what got me hooked 2yrs ago. but there have been many sub par articles in the middle until good ones come in. the quality ones is what brings us back and thats what we want to read but we make due with the subpar. we are willing to wait to get gold from the manosphere then many silver pieces.
after this post im looking forward to qhat ur willing to bring no matter how long. in that time ill try an put your advice to practice.
the best articles links i saved on my email and ill be refering to them when i fet my life togther.with all these posta ill admit i get distracted and as a result i dont practice my approaches.

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Yea internet is for girls really.I only used it for my work as a developer..facebook and all that crap is a waste of time.
And oh yea, since I found the Red Pill, I have to be in contact with that community.

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I wonder which will be harder for people to confront: The idea of giving up something addictive, or the fear of having nothing worthwhile to replace it with?

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I vote for fear.

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I gave up the Internet for a bit, and my mind rebelled against the fact that I couldn’t replace the Internet with anything. It was not fun.

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Ugh. I find myself wasting soo much time on the internet and I tell myself I will stop. But then I can’t. It’s hard to do. When I want to delete my facebook I can only think of he positive things that come from it. That’s the hard part, there are benefits, but by attempting to eliminate the negatives, I also get rid of the benefits.

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i think this one is a lost battle, roosh. the next stage in human evolution is unavoidably connected to the internet.

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I got rid of my twitter years ago. I knew it was bullshit from the beginning.

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Great post, and this is something I thought about this weekend. My vice is Facebook, and I’m usually logged on as soon as I turn on my computer. I work from home and might spend the day without physical interaction with my roommates or any other humans, so Facebook is pretty much the only way I can have a “social life” while working.

I went away for the weekend and stayed with some friends and I realized I didn’t check Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter once. We were not only busy, we also stayed close together all weekend and I had all the social interaction I needed right there. On Saturday I managed to leave my phone on all day and only used up about 15% of battery, an amount I might blow in 30 minutes on the subway if I’m playing a game or listening to music.

I do check out a lot of manosphere blogs and learn that way, but for the most part my internet usage is a lot like yours was, with posting things and then checking furiously to see if anyone responded back. I might try and cut myself off from internet usage this week while I’m working and see how productive I am.

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Hrmmmm, do I read the misspelled ghey textspeak on Splooge’s blog or the well conceived, thought provoking articles on Roosh’s. Decisions, decisions. Does game require IQ? Tune in next week.

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one thing i have found useful is to log out when you are done rather than staying logged in. It just puts an extra step between you and your habits, where you can stop and ask do i really need to be doing this?

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I see the winter hiatus was good in recharging your brain.

I find it hard to give up Facebook but I have been using the unfollow button for my friends who post useless statuses and share cat pictures.

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I unfollowed everyone on my FB so I wouldn’t be tempted to use it. This is what I see when I load it: http://i.imgur.com/jP1kUmZ.png.

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I did the same thing for Facebook about 6 months ago. Works a treat. It’s the News Feed that is the poisonous part, designed specifically to distract you. Now I just use FB as a messaging app, like WhatsApp or email.

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You left out porn….

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only after disconnecting my internet and struggling to break my porn addiction have I finally realized how powerful the lure of porn is.
Are you bored? -watch porn
Had a rough day? -watch porn
Tired? -watch porn
and on and on…before you know it, you’ve sunk dozens of hours a week into watching people have sex.

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I did this with Facebook, when I was still on it. I would share atheist articles, and posts in hopes of getting my Christians friends angry and drawing them into an argument. I quit FB in part because of all the attention whoring on that site, not to mention the ‘keeping up with the Jones” mentality that site breeds.

During the holidays, I had a chance to surf my kid sister’s Instagram account. She’s 13. Her page was FULL of girls her age taking all kinds of “selfie” type photos. Just completely random stuff. I knew I was in trouble when I started to perv-out on some of the bathroom pics. LOL

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I deleted FB and then reintroduced it. I have to admit that just the fact I do have FB makes me a bit anxious, like it’s another “inbox” I have to deal with. I don’t post anything, I use it mostly for chat now. But ‘ll probably delete it again, I felt much more “in state” without it. More observant, less tired, more interested in people. I also ruined my attraction through prolonged FB chats several times. It is a buffer – don’t ask her out, just add her on FB. Don’t cold approach, rather DHV through FB…

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seriously, man, all this internet crap…..has anyone noticed that for us older guys, since we got internet, days seem much shorter? and in the meantime, life is getting shorter minute by minute. I thought I was doing pretty well by not having a twitter account at all (or twatter, as I call it), I mean, who needs this crap? and checking my email ‘only’ 3 times a day, but I can still make improvements. I will check the email once a day too. I think I could even check it once every two days. I try not to look on the internet for anything, unless it’s necessary information, and I try to work from a list, so check it all at once. Books addiction is ok, if it’s not fiction and novels.

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I got rid of my Facebook account months ago… but it seems like I have kind of replaced with Manosphere blogs and RVF as I DO spend a lot of time on these sites. Need to slap your own hand sometimes and realize there is a lot of life to live outside of a LCD screen. Self improvement, fulfillment, personal growth, and happiness can’t be found reading blogs, status updates, and watching viral videos. The time fillers end up consuming you. Focus that energy on something engaging and deeply enjoyable.

Also, as Roosh touched upon here, next time you are out and about try to take notice of all the zombies just staring at their phones like mindless drones. Go to any public space, an eating establishment – see a table full of people who all came there together all staring at their cellphones not saying a word to eachother.

Don’t be that fucking guy anymore. What a goddamn waste.

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Was doing yoga today and a chick mid posture reached into her purse, fished out her iPhone and checked something…
The smartphone is an electronic leash.

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This is so good. Bravo Roosh. People are becoming mindless zombies without even being aware of it. I too occasionally become an internet zombie but at least remain aware of when I am doing so.

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I traded in my smartphone for a nokia 100. Best decision I made so far this year. PC internet addiction still applies though…

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Roosh you have some really good points here. I love how you always get one step ahead of haters by criticizing yourself first. Have you seen any of those TED talks about the effects of Internet porn on men’s minds and physical health? I’d be really curious to hear your opinion on that issue

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I’ve never used Myspace, Facebook, or Twitter for anything serious. I consider them to be no different than allowing Disney to communicate your life within your own immediate and extended family and friends. Can you imagine the uproar if some established communications company had asked people to submit all their internal goings-on in families so they could share them with other family members?

All corporate internet social networking is little more than putting your life story in the classified section of the newspaper, and then feeling happy when your section moves up a couple notches in popularity each day. It’s literally like watching hamsters compete over how hot they can make the axles on their wheels.

You are not your twitter posts. You are not your blog posts. You are not the shock value that you share. You are not the number of followers that you have. You are, like us, all part of the same decaying compost heap.

Why do you think facebook and other social network sites disabled downvotes on content? Because they cannot addict people to social validation if they see their stupid shit being downvoted every day. They literally LOSE CUSTOMERS because their customers can’t take other people telling them their content is shit. Hell, even Disqus did this recently, much to my dismay.

In the past, if you posted bullshit on the internet, you were shamed on it, and a meme was made of your foolishness.
Now, if you post bullshit on the internet, it becomes enshrined in the MSM if people “like” it enough.

Now, do what you and everyone else should fucking do, and DOWNVOTE this comment, because it’s shit.

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This is a great article. It seems that almost every successful Silicon Valley consumer play has the same angle. Hook people with an addictive, mindless, dopamine releasing service and enable them to waste their lives away. The idea of deferred gratification doesn’t sell well if you’re a company. Immediate gratification is what sells. Perhaps that is why most people focus on short term, immediate gratification and don’t do things that require an upfront investment, some level of suffering, with a longer term payoff…i.e. learning a language, making an investment in a company, reading books, etc.

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Ever read “Amusing Ourselves to Death” by Postman? I think It’ll validate your decision to cut back

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I’m pretty certain RooshV has read and reviewed the book, as I’ve bought the book based on Roosh’s recommendation. I haven’t sat down to read it yet, though, on account of wasting my time on the web.

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Very true.

“where I followed less than 100 men”

Correction: “where I followed fewer than 100 men.”

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Great article.

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Twatter, Facebook, etc…..it’s just useless junk for women. They like trivial crap, due to the fact that their intelligence is sub-par and they have the focus of a hamster

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I personally prefer to theoretically solve the problem by reading one top book about the topic, then applying the knowledge.
Game – Daygame Mastery by Krauser
Fitness – Drew Baye’s stuff
Education – specific textbooks

Other two areas I focus on are style and having interesting hobbies, but you don’t need to read about those.

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excellent article. Ive written about this for years, and i fully agree.

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Another thought-provoking piece Roosh. Regarding game specifically, I’ve unsubscribed from updates and stopped reading most game advice. I’d say that the glut of information that I read (though initially critical) has slowed my progress in meeting women by discouraging me from approaching and learning through experience. Social media in general is a never-ending rat race of infotainment. There is no way to win or finish, better to limit internet use to what’s useful for improving your life, as you suggest.

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“We’re [sometimes] bombarded with poorly written and braindead pieces of content”

This reminds me of a website called Return of Kings…

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I’ve never had a facebook, twitter, instagram etc….. when a girl asks you why not, that’s weird etc… say thats for girls, she’ll then say I have x amount of guy friends, like she out smarted you; reply: and for guys trying to impress girls. If she’s really a slut, she might say: are you gay, have no friends, are you not interested in girls= shit test. Respond: Wow, you’re really stuck on this subject; what meds do you take for OCD, ya know I heard that girls with OCD like it in the ass is that true? In todays shithole society, I’d guess 8/10 take some kind of meds even more likely if she continues badgering you. In fact talking shit about people who take meds is the perfect backdoor neg to use when meeting new girls, odds are they take meds but are too embarassed to say anything and you go about your business. You immediately become higher value and their false self esteem shell is crushed in the process. The key is to monitor their facial expression to see if it looks like they just saw a ghost.

I’m not advocating porn watching but, just browse some really kinky bdsm, torture, gagged handcuffed shit for about 30 minutes; especially the russian stuff. Some of the girls are stone cold 9’s and there are tons of these girls and others. Some may say they’re all slaves etc… but with the 50 shades, true blood, vampire spectacle I’d say it paints a much clearer picture of the female psyche. It’s much darker than most men realize, that’s why they’re much less open about discussing what they really like being sexual, types of guys etc…. because they realize how fucked in the head they are.

Whether you believe adam and eve is fiction or non fiction it still teaches men an important lesson. Women love to flirt with evil, danger= serpent and they are more than willing to partake in evil, danger= eating the fruit and they enjoy corrupting men= giving adam the fruit and convincing him to eat. Women have taken down many powerful men from the time of Sparta to Raymond Felton today. It’s fun to enjoy womens fruit but never take them seriously and never trust them with anything important.

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Great post

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“I used to think that the internet was better than television in that it offered more mental rewards, but with the direction it has taken in the past 10 years, especially with the development of smartphone apps, I can no longer say that sharing or viewing items on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, and then checking obsessively for replies is better than watching a television comedy show. Both require the lowest of brain function, but at least in the comedy you can encounter a joke to use on your friends to make them laugh. ”

Plus, watching a TV show at least requires you to focus on a plot for 30 minutes. I hate to sound like an old man, but some of the kids these days can’t even do that. I sat down on a rainy day to watch an episode of Dinosaurs with my nephew, and, while he liked it at first, he was soon clamoring to watch something else or play video games. People who have grown up with the Internet in its current form are so accustomed to switching between tabs every few minutes that they cannot focus their attention on anything, even something entertaining, for more time than that.

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Thanks for the article and THANK YOU for banning me from your forum. Its the best thing that could have happened. I’m taking a break from the internet, and when I return it will be sans smartphone and only at internet cafes for work purposes. Best of luck.

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Dayum. This is a good post. So so so good and so so so true. I think Tucker Max wrote something similar – no one changed the world by checking their email more often.