The Manipulated Man

ISBN: 1905177178

“Could it be that strength, intelligence, and imagination are not prerequisites for power but merely qualifications for slavery? Could it be that the world is not being ruled by experts but by beings who are not fit for anything else—by women?”

Esther Vilar argues that the freedom men think they have in selecting a wife and being head of the household is actually slavery, and that working the same job for forty years to support a woman is no different than a child repeatedly playing the same board game. The Manipulated Man is one of those books that reframes your world view (even if you were already on a red pill bent), making you question what value women offer besides their vaginas.

While men pick a career and work 40 years nonstop because they have to, today’s woman treats her career more as a temporary adventure. She’s ultra-serious about it in her 20s but then tosses it overboard for children upon landing a successful husband. I find that Vilar nails the more traditional societies which still exist today in Eastern Europe, particularly Ukraine, and how those crafty women enslave a man through marriage in exchange for popping out a kid and doing a couple hours of housework per day. Keep in mind this book written in the early 70s and referred to a time when the nuclear family was still intact, so she did not predict the degree that Western women would soon enslave themselves in the rat race.

“Theoretically it is possible for a beautiful woman to have less intelligence than a chimpanzee and still be considered an acceptable member of society.”

Vilar argues that for all the liberation that men have given women through inventions like the washing machine and dishwasher, they still choose to spend free time on entertainment over intellectual pursuits. They have no interest in challenging their brains like men voluntarily do. She defines men as animals who work, nothing more. Men work for all their lives while women only work if they have to (if they are ugly or unable to find a husband). In other words, the sign of a damaged or low quality woman is one who doesn’t have the choice to stop working.

“Women’s proven lack of imagination makes clear that they have no a priori need for new inventions. If they did, they would invent things more often themselves.”

For a while now I’ve come to the belief that men need to lead the household and provide for their family to be happy and feel like a man. I want to be proud of being able to take care of a wife and kids. Vilar argues that this pride is no different than a donkey feeling strong as it carries a heavy load.

If the American-style 21st century marriage isn’t working, and the traditional provider marriage exploits men, what should men do? Unfortunately this book doesn’t provide answers, and you start to get the feeling that marriage in all forms is a bad deal for men. Any long-term pact you make with a woman must be carefully weighed. You must ask yourself if you are getting a good return for your labor and time in exchange for vaginal access and a possible heir.

There are a couple things in the book that I disagree with. First, she argues that masculinity and femininity are environmental constructions, sort of like how your typical feminist views gender roles. She thinks there is no genetic component to maleness or femaleness, which can be easily refuted by looking at examples in the animal world. Second, the male archetype she uses in the book is a typical beta male, who is extorted by women without—in many cases—even getting sex in return. One benefit of being a player today is getting low-effort pussy where you get more than you put in. I may be a slave to the pussy but if I’m able to get a constant supply of it and the accompanying sexual pleasure while putting in decreasing amounts of work, is that not a fair deal?

“For man, who was brought up to be proud and honorable, every working day is merely an endless series of humiliations. He shows enthusiasm for products he finds useless, he laughs at jokes he finds tasteless, he expresses opinions which are not his own. Not for a moment is he allowed to forget that the merest oversight may mean demotion, that one slip of the tongue may spell the end of his career.”

I’ve never had a book that made me reconsider so many of my beliefs like this one. It ended up being the most vicious takedown of the female gender that I’ve ever read, five times harsher than anything I’ve written. My mind was buzzing while reading, hungry for a fresh take on the male-female issue. If you still have the problem of respecting women, this book will fix you right up. Not only will you avoid getting entrapped by a woman, but you’ll have a better understanding of what causes their seemingly irrational behavior. Highly recommended.

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John Galt
7 years ago

Females are a metaphor for society and it’s treatment of the male.

Since females are the vehicle through which culture is visibly manifest, they are a good indicator of the culture’s values.

My personal experience is that the harder you work, the better person you are, the more moral you are, etc. the more people think of you as a chump and overtly disrespect you. Females merely mirror this to us personally and quite often consciously.

Screw them both, literally and figuratively, go Galt.

BirdOfPassage
BirdOfPassage
7 years ago

If you like this book, you will probably also enjoy “The Anatomy of Female Power,” which has essentially the same message. It’s well argued and written by a man. Basically, we don’t live in a patriarchy but in a matriarchy, where feminine women, who are raised to be narcissistic yet are more emotionally mature, bring up boys with macho ideals, so that they are easily controlled.

The author is not very data-driven, but his arguments with anecdotes and quotes are convincing.

You can download a free PDF copy of the book somewhere online. I would be interested in reading your review.

This notion that men are dumb brutes that should be managed is also hinted at in this Nietzsche quote: “Stupid as a man, say the women. Cowardly as woman, say the men. Stupidity in a woman is unwomanly.”

Uruguayan
Uruguayan
7 years ago

I agree with everything esther vilar reported in his book, thanks to her, I would never get married, I think “killing” at work while the woman stays at home alone?

After I read her book, the reproductive organ of them has to be given to the best male in a natural way and not being sold.

John Galt
7 years ago

It is funny though. White males actually do run the world and we do live in a patriarchy. The white males running the world are a subset in the power structure and in higher or at least supervisory status positions. They control the lower white males and everyone else through the various noxious influences: race entitlements, female entitlements, culture, religion, schooling, expectations, etc. Females are merely a tool of the white elite in this regard.

Since we are soldiers in a guerrilla war, we fight on our own soil. As was learned in Vietnam, you can never defeat a resident enemy. We win as we fight (game) in our own bombed and ruined territory (society) because we know it intimately (red-pill).

By living off the land and doing as little work as possible and still getting what we need and want we will win the war of attrition.

don Fefinho
don Fefinho
5 years ago
Reply to  John Galt

You mean the Js?

asdf
asdf
7 years ago

Technology has largely replaced men, but it may one day replace women. What happens when you’ve got artificial wombs, robot child care, and sexbots. Do you really need women anymore?

I don’t think the desire for real human companionship will ever go away, but those not good enough to be decent humans will be replaced by machines.

Prepman
Prepman
7 years ago

It took me nearly two decades of marriage to figure out that I had been duped into this regime of work for the woman and provide for her offspring. She was for nearly 30 years, first, a hardly-working-wife, then a stay-at-home mom. She fills her days with entertainment — reading garbage fiction, stalking Facebook, surfing the web, and doing fewer household chores than I. Talk about lack of imagination and desire to acquire any useful skills, knowledge or experience, she refuses to use the time and resources available to her to supplement the family income, although things have been excruciatingly tight since the market crash of 2008. It was my wife that educated me to the absolute selfishness of American women and how they perceive the role of the modern Western male.

Well, in the Spirit of Ayn Rand and Atlas Shrugged, I’ve gone on strike. I’ve stopped providing the “lifestyle to which she grew accustomed.” I refuse to work the 60-70 hour work weeks I used to as a software consultant, always traveling, away from home, the kids, and all the things I slaved so hard for. I’ve let our income dwindle down to mere subsistence levels, so that when I divorce, she’ll receive zero alimony. I’ve had to take the last five years of my life “off” from active, productive pursuits to match her level of income, lifestyle and productivity so as not to be enslaved by the family court system to pay her a sizable stipend for the rest of her life for continuing to do nothing. In the meantime, I’ve had to delay filing for patents, starting up new businesses, making new investments, etc. to prevent my level of living from enslaving me into the future.

Fortunately, I’m near the end of enslavement. The last of my children is nearly 18. I’m poor, broke and bankrupt. I can now break the chains of marriage and do so without being trapped as so many men are by a lifetime of spousal and child support. Unlike my wife, who frittered away years of opportunity and will have no options other to work as a wage slave after divorce, I have more opportunity to achieve and accomplish than ever before. I’ll be a great success — albeit single. She’ll have to find contentment at minimum wage, old, and alone.

So, you young men out there reading this, hear what I have to say. “DON’T MARRY.” It will be the worst decision of your life. And, if you must be fulfilled by having children, then do so outside the bonds (chains) of the marriage contract. I say you’re better off single without kids, than to even have the love and respect of well-raised children in this modern day western society.

PM (JR)

Old Glory
Old Glory
7 years ago

Way ahead of her time.

Gustavo
Gustavo
7 years ago

Harsh is putting it lightly. This book is brutal. Required reading if you believe providing for a family will bring you the most happiness. Don’t be another slave.

MacCool
MacCool
7 years ago

I didn’t read the book, but it seems overly exaggerated. I mean, the traditional organization is the only one that worked so far for a society to mantain and advance itself.
The man works his ass outside and the woman take care of the house, children and husband. It’s the natural state of things, men going to have some privileges like taking important decisions, women others like extended leisure time. Counting “bits of fairness” between men and women seems pointless.

I know you probably don’t agree to what I’m going to say now, but as I tought before searching she is a…

“Vilar’s parents were German-Jewish emigrants.”

…jew. All books writen by jews claim for the colapse of traditional society like Karl Marx or the most famous feminists, they are extremist and intolerant in a way the white men or the black men find hard to emulate.
My 2 cents.

Paulo
Paulo
5 years ago
Reply to  MacCool

Late to discussion, but for other latecomers:

Yes, the traditional roles maintained and advanced society, but modern housewives benefit from the efficiencies developed over the last century.

Housewives aren’t busting ass anymore, managing a household is a lot easier. They stopped having 10 kids, they don’t hand wash laundry and dishes anymore. Not cooking 3 meals a day, they don’t cook from scratch, if at all. Houses are much less dirty (airtight, less kids), no mopping/dusting daily. They don’t tend a vegetable garden. Kids are away at school for the day.

Scheduling playdates (really just an excuse to visit her friends), attending kids school activities…prior generations of housewives didn’t have time for that. Not even kids did, they were put to work as they were able. There was always work to be done. Mothering used to be a 24/7 job, and women were valued for it.

Now contrast that with men, and working women, essentially still working from sunup to sundown. A minimum of 8 hours at work, 1 hour working lunch, 1 hour commute both to/from. An 11 hour workday minimum, 12-16 hours for many.

Modern housewives have more leisure time than any population in history. They now have the time to indulge themselves, and cause trouble for the world. “Idle hands are the devils workshop.” It was rich women of the leisure class that started the suffrage movement to occupy their time with the business of politics. Lower-class Lucy didn’t have time for that. She was too busy to have interest in suffrage. Busy people don’t have the time/energy to worry themselves with outside matters.

Now with middle-class Mary, always aspiring to be someone other than herself, she’s increasingly redefining the role of women to suit her temporary goals. She’s why we’re losing the traditional roles of man/women, husband/wife. In prior generations men didn’t want trophy wifes, they wanted home managers; women were strong while still being feminine. These were the women who stirred our emotions w/their womanliness, instead of debasing themselves to stir our loins as the narcissistic, attention-seeking whores of today do.

Look where this decline in gender roles has taken us. Women previously understood and accepted the quid pro quo of traditional male/female roles. Society formed structures to support those roles, that’s why women could only get certain jobs…the ones reserved for spinsters and young girls yet to marry. Workplaces knew women were temporary workers, so the type of jobs available to them accomodated low skill, high turnover.

Now that women have taken their version of a red-pill, they’ve delayed having children/marriage so they can be decadent. The problem with this is since they’re not committed to being lifelong bachelorettes, they jump in/out of the workforce and marriage at will. Society isn’t structured to accomodate their behavior so it results in turmoil. Whether family man or bachelor, men always work. Their consistency creates structure, not turmoil. This is why feminism is destroying the world. It advocates for women to lead inconsistent lives without the inherent penalties of that lifestyle.

Getting back to modern housewives. They red-pilled themselves by delaying marriage/kids, and modern efficiencies let them continue to pursue decadence by exploiting their role as supposedly busy housewives. So not only don’t they have to work, they have a significant portion of their husbands money. What reasonably smart person wouldn’t pass up this free ride. However, it becomes a societal problem once housewives decide they want all their husbands money and divorce him to get it. Now that men have wisened-up, as more take the red-pill the backbone of society (marriage) is gone.

As long as men are willing to marry, women can enrich themselves with each successive marriage and divorce. Women no longer have to repeatedly put husbands in the grave to get their money. It’s much easier and quicker to divorce them.

DdR
DdR
7 years ago

Just purchased on Kindle for $5.79. Since I’m in a LTR and we’re getting serious I thought it wise that I should read this novel to comprehend what I could be getting myself in to.

Todd
Todd
7 years ago

And that’s why as men, the absolute best thing we can do for ourselves is to figure out what we really want out of life, and go after it. Understand the dynamics behind the innate behaviors of women and society in order to navigate your life in an orderly fashion, but silently be pursuing some thing behind the scenes that is meaningful to you, so that when you’re on your deathbed years from now you can say to yourself silently, “I had a great fucking life”. Too many people life unhealthy and unhappy lives riddling themselves in insignificant matters that only stress them out. Much of this includes interpersonal relations with the opposite sex understandably, but it is foolish.

With women recently becoming independent and providing for themselves, men are no longer expected to provide for a family by society. We have been freed in a sense to pursue interests that are solely our own and take much bigger risks. We can now build a harem of women and not commit our life and resources to them if children are not produced. Most men are now confused of this freedom and are afraid, still longing for the family life. In the end, that’s what they want and take a conscious decision in that.

That book the manipulated man is outdated. Somebody should write a new book and call it The Free Man

Uri Katsav
Uri Katsav
7 years ago

Roosh,

I can’t believe you haven’t read Vilar’s book until recently. Come on, man! It’s a classic. I still remember my social science professor in Junior High School telling the whole class (boys and girls) about this book openly. If I remeber well I was 14. Anyway, let me recommend you another Vilar’s book: ‘The Polygamous Sex: A right every man has to have at least two wives’. In this book Vilar argues that a man can only love a woman for two reasons: Either she is his sons’ mother or she is his lover.
Since:
A woman has troubles being the two things at the same time, while
Two or more women have no problem sharing a man, as long as their perspectives about that man are fullfiled, while
A man can have a relationship with more than one woman at the same time.
So, every man should have at least two ‘wives’, one to play the homemaker, one to play the mistress.
The book is out of print since 1978, but you can find copies for sale.

Duchamp
Duchamp
6 years ago
Reply to  Uri Katsav

“I still remember my social science professor in Junior High School telling the whole class (boys and girls) about this book openly. If I remeber well I was 14. ”

That book was discussed in a public school in the USA? Fuck, how times have changed. I gaurentee that any student or teacher for that matter who had mere posession of the book on school grounds would be arrested today.

TikkitikkitemboNosarembo
TikkitikkitemboNosarembo
3 years ago
Reply to  Duchamp

Would be killed, more like it.

Cad and Bounder
Cad and Bounder
7 years ago

“With women recently becoming independent and providing for themselves, men are no longer expected to provide for a family by society.”

Unfortunately this is not true.

High value woman will do anything not to date a lower value man.Anything. That’s how it works folks.

If there was any validity in this feminism bullshit they would be constantly advocating what I call ‘hypergamy 2.0’. In other words, men get to date women of higher value (whether that value comes from luck is earnt doesn’t matter) but of course that is not part of the female agenda.They have it too good and they know it. After all if a horse faced trollope like Carrie Bradshaw got her ‘alpha male’ then so should they!

This is a great tragedy in my view, There are plenty of examples of great men that married wealthy women (Karl Jung, Karl Heinz Stockhauesen etc) whose position then enabled them to achieve great things for society. We are losing this resource. What did women ever achieve for society by marrying a wealthier man?

I also think hypergamy 2.0 is becoming harder because of the insistent pressure put upon women to try and value filter their way to a higher value man or end up childless. It’s also harder because the type of qualities that woman are encouraged to value are being encouraged away from finding a ‘good man’ towards finding a wealthy beta who they can-worst case scenario- use the law to screw over should it all go wrong.

ABC (Always Be Cadding)

ps and dont forget Bounding too.

Nick Digger
Nick Digger
7 years ago

Intellectual contraception. A donkey who discovers it’s a slave is still a donkey, but now one with no point to it’s life.

Dickey Donk
Dickey Donk
5 years ago
Reply to  Nick Digger

A person with your moniker talking about donkeys…classic.

Also, good point.

Paulo
Paulo
5 years ago
Reply to  Dickey Donk

I rescind my “good point”. That statement is inaccurate because there’s joy in truth and options.

Once the donkey knows the truth, it can choose to stop being a beast of burden and have no point to it’s life; or, it can choose to let the point of it’s life be a beast of burden. Being awakened to it’s circumstances allows the donkey to practice mindfulness.

So whether the donkey chooses to do nothing or something, it’s the choosing of its path that bring it joy and gives it purpose. That’s mindfulness…living consciously.

jurko
jurko
7 years ago
spandrell
7 years ago

” We can now build a harem of women and not commit our life ”

Good luck with that.

People, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. Women aren’t stupid. They put out for commitment. If we refuse to give it, they’ll put out for cash.

Do you guys want that? Either way it’ss slavery. As long as you fellas have libido, you’ll be paying for sex. That’s how it works, in any society on earth.

And those guys with “harems” are the most enslaved of them all. They have to put up with shit from several women at the same time.
Or the ‘sneaky fucker’ lifestyle you guys aspire to. Yes it can be nice, but you have to engineer your whole lifestyle, job, friends and location to get the most amount of pussy, and need to move constantly to get the best deals. How is that not slavery?

Paulo
Paulo
5 years ago
Reply to  spandrell

Except now there’s a cultural shift happening with todays youth. Female empowerment has permeated media to such a large degree that young males are growing up unshackled to the beliefs of provider/protector that we did. TV is teaching both sexes that women are supposed to be powerful, capable, wage earners, independent…and attention-seeking whores; and that men are inept, fun-seeking boys who are unable to care for themselves.

Teen boys of today also don’t have ideas of a feminine mystique ’cause teen girls are throwing themselves at them. A recent study concluded teen girls are texting nude pics to boys because all the other girls are doing it…they have to send them in order to compete for boys attention. Police investigations into child porn (kids sexting) reveal that cops would have to arrest nearly every kid in school because most have nude pics of other students on their phones.

Teens/young women have become so aggressive that they’re routinely inviting and paying for dates. Also, boys are calling girls and asking to be taken out with the assumption the girl will pay.

So teen boys are having their cake and eating it too, because feminists are stupid. Their shortsightedness has young girls putting out, not for commitment or cash, but for attention/approval.

DdR
DdR
7 years ago

So I’ve started reading the book. Let’s say that this book is like taking a red pill the size of a watermelon and trying to stuff it down your throat.

I’m going to rant now: if men in America whittle away their time doing mostly frivolous, repetitive work (I’m not excluded from this), for the purpose of sticking your penis in a vagina, then goddammit make it as pleasurable as possible. But the fact that most boys are circumcised involuntarily, I mean at birth, thereby depriving the man of so much more visceral sexual pleasure, is a fucking boot to the mouth. Anybody else pissed off about this?

tim
tim
7 years ago

another good read which utterly shreds the modern woman:

http://fatherfigurevideo.com/garbage-generation-by-daniel-amneus.pdf

Matt H.
7 years ago

And this was written by a WOMAN?!?

Steve
Steve
7 years ago

This book in itself deserves the single page review you gave it, and thank you. Manipulated Man is the holy bible for men. All critcism and observations of female behavior come back to the wisdom of one, Ms. Esther Vilar, God bless her! That men have always been played for chumps by women is the closest guarded secret of Humanity.

I strongly suspect that Vilar’s book will be banned at some point given the fact that the United States has now become socialist dictatorship, with their ability to turn other nations into socialist dictatorships as well. I highly recommend you get your copy now.

Eso libro también esta disponible bajo el titulo “El Varón domado” hace un busca por google.

Sie können auch dieser Buch auf Deutsch zu finden unter die Titel “Der Dressierte Mann” suchen Sie bitte beim google.

Manipulated Man was originally written in German, but her assertions about women apply to all females worldwide. She stated that American women are no worse than other women, simply they are further down the road of manipulative behaviors then their foreign counterparts. But have you noticed now with the internet, smartphones and social media just how fast females from non american cultures are catching up?

Garth
Garth
7 years ago

@ 19
Yes, it was written by a woman, go figure!

Malc
Malc
7 years ago

Hey roosh, you should also read ‘The Anatomy of Female Power’, another book that is along similar lines. It’s pretty insightful, written by a Nigerian in the 80s. He taught as a professor in the SF Bay Area for a while.

http://therawness.com/anatomy-of-female-power-download-and-discussion-page/

Cad and Bounder
Cad and Bounder
7 years ago

@16

‘People, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. Women aren’t stupid. They put out for commitment.’

No.

Women DON’T put out for commitment. The one trick they always try when they want a guy in ‘commitment mode’ is to NOT give him sex or make him work fucking hard for it. That’s what little Johnny Beta fails to understand.

Be the bit of fun guy. Be the cad. Be the joker. Be the player. Be the asshole. Be the alpha male they got lucky to be with. Be the guy they met on holiday. Be the anecdote of the guy they fucked in a weird situation or whatever. Be any of these things and more.

But do not be the potential ‘nice guy beta provider’ slaving over their every word just like the rest of the chumps. It doesn’t work.

spandrell
7 years ago

Be the guy who keeps wasting women for the rest of men who don’t want to organise their lives around pussy.

Thanks a lot.

Cad and Bounder
Cad and Bounder
7 years ago

Be the guy who keeps unnecessarily putting women on a pedestal (while never getting respect for it) so it makes screwing them or having a balanced relationship with them that bit harder for anyone else.

Thanks a lot.