The Present Moment

Let’s say that in the course of my life, I sleep with 500 women, travel through dozens of countries, change the lives of thousands of men through my writing, and generally have an all-around fantastic life with fulfilling hobbies. Let’s say that I give it my all and achieve the best life I possibly could, given my innate limitations, and I lay on my death bed with not a single regret.

How much does that truly, really matter? I’m going to enter a void of nothingness after death, and whatever mark I live on the world will be erased anyway when the human race perishes. What difference does it make if I sit alone in a dark basement for the rest of my days instead of trying to sleep with women, see the world, and pursue challenging endeavors? Why not just kill myself right now, and spare the misery of human existence, the suffering that is sure to fill the space between whatever blissful moments I experience?

As self-aware as I become about my nature, I’m still operated by the program that is encoded in my genes. I’m hungry as I write this and will soon have to seek out food. A day after that I will have no choice but to defecate the unused bits. My mind ventures into sex often, and I will have to relieve those intrusive thoughts by attempting to copulate with a female. It forces me to express its knowledge by creating pieces of writing that I share with other people. It produces neurotransmitters which dampen my mood if I stay in the same environment for too long, and that can only be improved if I go somewhere else. I can’t kill myself because my brain tells me I can’t.

No matter how meaningless and absurd I find life, this moment demands everything—my attention, my abilities, and my energy. My brain wants satisfaction right now and makes me suffer the chemical consequences if I don’t follow its urges. I must observe new cultures, sleep with different women, enjoy music and other sources of entertainment, and then share all the lessons I’ve learned to strangers who gain from my creations.

So, yes, it does matter. This moment matters, and I want it to be the best that it possible can.

46 Comments

  1. T. AKA Ricky Raw November 29, 2010 at 9:42 am

    Have you been reading Buddhist literature? Because I’ve been reading Buddhism lately and these are the kind of the angsty existential trains of thought I’ve recently been experiencing. Although I feel I have more clarity, I don’t know if it’s evidence of reduced anxiety or increased.

    T. AKA Ricky Raw’s last blog post: The Limits of Knowledge, Part 1.

  2. Eurotrash November 29, 2010 at 10:48 am

    Haha, I’m not sure if some big philosopher originally thought of this, but you just said 99% same things that I use to describe my view on life.

    No higher powers needed, yet still good reason to exist and enjoy life.

  3. Lisa November 29, 2010 at 11:02 am

    Maybe you should try just denying your desires, since you know that they will just come back again. The desire for sex and “interesting things” is without end, and the continuance of indulgence won’t help in the long run. If you know you can get sex or interesting things, and you know that they will just give you temporary pleasure, why not just deny them their importance to your existence? The biological imperative isn’t everything. Try reading some stoics, like Marcus Aurelius.

  4. Heathcliff November 29, 2010 at 11:13 am

    I’ve learned a lot from studying game over these last few months but Hedonism is ultimately a very empty life.

  5. Heathcliff November 29, 2010 at 11:15 am

    That’s why so many actors and rock stars kill themselves or OD.

  6. Anonymous November 29, 2010 at 11:31 am

    Lisa must be one of the smartest chicks you’ve ever banged and she’s so dedicated to you, like a beacon of light in this loser sausage fest. Maybe if you had kept her you’d be happier now in this vicious cycle of defecation-banging-blogging-defecation.

  7. Snoeperd November 29, 2010 at 11:32 am

    @Lisa Yeah, please deny yourself the pleasure of eating for the next month and rid us of your stupidity.

    How about becoming religious Roosh. You can feel superior to everyone around you who is in the slightest bit different and feel justified when you tell people how to live. Statistically religious people are happier than non-religionists.

  8. West LA November 29, 2010 at 11:47 am

    Lisa (#4) makes some great points.
    When you KNOW you can get what you want, without paying TOO high a price, you may feel less compelled to go get it.
    After having some experiences where hot women had sex with me just because they liked what I had to offer (ie, I did not make some big effort to get her), with other women later I realized there is a satisfaction in knowing I could have her if I wanted her enough to go through the motions (before & after sex).
    I realized that much behavior is apparently motivated by a need to prove you can do X, as much as (or more than) the behavior is motivated by the rewards of doing X.
    Losing your desire or need to prove something is liberating.
    Then you may feel that your best core self is guiding your big choices, not your humbling basic human needs, your fears, etc.

  9. The Hunger November 29, 2010 at 12:01 pm

    Move to Scandinavia already so I can devour more Roosh-V-esque anecdotes and theories that I have come to love instead of these second-hand diatribes.

    Brand America isn’t that bad, I’m living in Saudi Arabia, puts things in perspective. Maybe you’ll find what you’re looking for in Scando-land!

    The Hunger’s last blog post: 25 AND O-VER.

  10. Anonymous November 29, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    commit suicide. I think it would be a nice poetic ending.

    I call dibs on the screenplay.

  11. lena November 29, 2010 at 1:02 pm

    following your desires just like a hamster running in its wheel

  12. Giovonny November 29, 2010 at 1:34 pm

    Ya, there is really no point to life. We have to choose our own purpose. I have decided that my purpose is to bang lots of cute girls. Alot of people say that I will regret this decision in the long run. The people who say this are into fantasy football, golf, and their kids.

    I’ll take my chances.

  13. Solo November 29, 2010 at 2:43 pm

    Roosh may I suggest “The book of Ecclesiastes” in the old testament

    Read with an open mind, and take notes.

    peace

    Solo’s last blog post: Myths about foreign women (Videos).

  14. modernguy November 29, 2010 at 4:05 pm

    What the “PUA” is missing is love.

  15. SolveMyGirlProblems November 29, 2010 at 4:34 pm

    nice existential post. I agree except I would recommend that people don’t think about this stuff to much. I spent like 3 months of my life once just thinking about death, the after-life, and how point-less life was.

    SolveMyGirlProblems’s last blog post: The Best Alpha Male Movies.

  16. Anonymous November 29, 2010 at 4:45 pm

    “And there you have it, another body on the floor surrounded by things that don’t mean much to anyone except to the one who can’t take any of them along.”
    — Mark Z. Danielewski, House of Leaves

  17. AK November 29, 2010 at 4:46 pm

    Roosh, I see you’re embracing the Buddhist idea that life only exists in the present moment. The purpose of Buddhist teachings is to promote a fullness of life, not emptiness. I think you would do well to visit a few Buddhist temples to better connect with nature and yourself. Yes, all things are finite and eventually perish, but the idea of “death” is a misconception, there is only transformation, as nothing physical nor metaphysical can be destroyed. Life is a constantly expanding and shifting web, all things have meaning and purpose, and to find fulfillment is to find joy in the transitory.

    Namaste

  18. speakeasy November 29, 2010 at 6:11 pm

    Roosh is a hedonist, and I mean that in the philosophical sense, not pejorative sense of the word. Throw on top of that some existential nihilism and jaded cynicism and I don’t think this stuff is mentally/spiritually healthy.

    Might be time to branch outward into new things. There are other things to do with one’s life than the pursuit of hedonistic pleasure and satisfying primal urges(not that hedonism is bad in moderation). This is just me, but I’d consider just taking a break from hedonism for a few months at some point. No alcohol, no sex, no clubs. I’d go somewhere and volunteer, like building schools in Bolivia or something and see that recalibrates my perspective and priorities. Why not? After a years of living to pursue one’s own pleasure and finding a great deal of success, it may be rewarding to dedicate a couple months to something bigger than yourself. Just an idea.

  19. Toureg November 29, 2010 at 6:19 pm

    Shit… must be just the dopamine level in your brain. It will pass.

  20. LOL November 29, 2010 at 6:21 pm

    What you get for being non financially fit – zero self-respect.

  21. anonymous1 November 29, 2010 at 6:32 pm

    There is mounting evidence of some sort of ‘life beyond death’, if that is any consolation. It is my firm believe that once science becomes more advanced, it will be a known fact as common as water being a liquid, metal being a conductor, ect.

  22. Bortimus November 29, 2010 at 7:26 pm

    Nihilists! Fuck me. I mean, say what you like about the tenets of National Socialism, Dude, at least it’s an ethos.

  23. An interested observer November 29, 2010 at 7:44 pm

    Ever read the book Ecclesiastes in the Bible? Sounds a lot like what you are experiencing with the futility of life.

  24. Zictor November 29, 2010 at 8:57 pm

    @Solo,

    That was a great idea. Ecclesiastes is all about the meaninglessness of life. I would advise Roosh to find some good commentary on the book too, because reading the Bible with some information about context helps A LOT.

  25. kissmeimshomer November 29, 2010 at 9:03 pm

    Interesting idea. Having grown up as a religious Jew and then leaving that lifestyle a while ago, I’m constantly asked by others how I can go through life without meaning not believing in the absolute truth of religion, which I perceive to be largely bullshit. And the answer I give is, God wants us to be happy and be good to others, beyond that, what do I know? But it certainly doesn’t include anything religious. Religion is a way to excuse one’s behavior “god said so”, and we don’t need it.

    kissmeimshomer’s last blog post: Post Thanksgiving Blues.

  26. Anonymous November 29, 2010 at 9:11 pm

    Great Post. To me I find it fascinating how humans all ponder the afterlife and their existence. Things like religion are big because people are looking to find the “meaning of life” when in reality no one really knows anything. Their are just a bunch of hypotheses out there.

  27. Lugo November 30, 2010 at 12:18 am

    Why sleep with tons of women, travel, and have a fantastic life?

    Well, what else is there? It’s that or sit in the basement playing XBox and masturbating to internet porn.

  28. egad November 30, 2010 at 5:05 am

    Albert Camus pondered the same questions in the Myth of Sisyphus http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Myth_of_Sisyphus .

    “There is no noble love but that which recognizes itself to be both short-lived and exceptional.”

  29. West LA November 30, 2010 at 12:44 pm

    “Ecclesiastes is all about the meaninglessness of life.”
    Really?
    I had thought Ecclesiastes was “all about” the folly of vanity, ego, etc.
    You could aim to minimize your ego/vanity and still live a very meaningful life.

  30. eric November 30, 2010 at 3:49 pm

    Have you considered taking up pot smoking Roosh?
    It can make life more enjoyable.

  31. Marmot November 30, 2010 at 3:50 pm

    “Would it be mean to defriend someone on Facebook because they got too fat?”

    – Only if they were spamming pictures made to showcase their obesity (rather than family photos etc.) or statuses glorifying being fat.

  32. turk112 November 30, 2010 at 7:09 pm

    I thought I found my soulmate, but all I had was oneitis. When she disappeared, I was very careful not to contact her in any way.

    If she ever does contact me, I will insist on an immediate makeout session. Makes sense?

  33. Gunslingergregi November 30, 2010 at 8:29 pm

    Yea your right life is a big waste of time.

    You can beat it and achieve what you want but in the end it doesn’t matter.

    The most boring game ever invented.

  34. Ryan November 30, 2010 at 9:18 pm

    There’s no such thing as a practicing nihilist. Thoughtful folks just require a little extra rationalization before they lapse into the cliches. “I define my own meaning!” (Even the most reliable hamster would just tell you to fuck off if you ever reconsidered the efficacy of that one while beholding the self-righteous passion of a screeching feminist.)

    “The moment”? Please. The logically consistent nihilist wouldn’t bother to rationalize (… or to refrain… or to be a nihilist).

  35. An interested observer November 30, 2010 at 9:36 pm

    West LA. Folly of vanity/ego/etc is definitely a theme in Ecclesiastes. But it goes deeper – pretty much states that everything under the sun (everything a man can do and accomplish) is meaningless in the end. he described our lives as a vapor when viewed against the vastness of time.

    The author tried tons of sex, getting high/drunk, fame, etc to search for fulfillment, but in the end he felt it all empty.

    In the end he determined that three things led to happiness:

    1 – Working hard at whatever vocation you chose to pursue (even though it won’t matter in the grand scheme of things)
    2 – loving your wife
    3 – honoring God

    Most of it is pretty depressing, but a good read as most people seek meaning in their lives, but often feel it escapes them.

  36. raliv November 30, 2010 at 10:07 pm

    “What is hell? I still maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love.”

    — Fyodor Dostoevsky (The Brothers Karamazov)

    raliv’s last blog post: Finals are coming….

  37. RX-78 Alex November 30, 2010 at 11:07 pm

    Honestly, I think that the whole “Live in the moment\Live day to day\Live one day at a time\The Universe is going to end anyway” schtick is a painfully cliched cop out in response to the responsibilities associated with pushing oneself beyond Hedonism.

    “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” is a cliched platitude that I respect infinitely more. The truly great things in life such as art, technology, and civilization were created by people with long term visions, not monkeys mucking around for short term dopamine hits.

    80 to 90% of the continent of Africa is what happens when a civilization is built around “living in the moment.” When the heat death of the universe comes, I’d rather see humanity at least heroically give pushing itself to the stars a shot, than to rut around in leaf skirts, fighting with pointy sticks going “ooga booga.”

    On a related note, I also hate the platitude “Live each day as if it’s going to be your last.” It certainly sounds enlightening, but quickly crumbles under further examination. The fact is, most people following this advice literally would blow all of their life savings to go to Tijuana for hookers and blow.

  38. Ubermind December 1, 2010 at 2:45 am

    Roosh you should make some children and rise them and teach your sons game/teach your daughers not to be casual western sluts.

    Seeing your contuniation (genetical and spiritual) in your offspring will create some perspective in your mind.

    I belive former players would be best fathers possible, if only they ever settle for that.

  39. Bravo December 1, 2010 at 3:49 pm

    God exists and there is an afterlife. That changes everything.

  40. zarzuela December 3, 2010 at 6:54 am

    A true hustler doesn’t accept death. True hustlers like you and G Manifesto don’t ever have to die, not if you’re determined not to.

    The right combo of hi-tech and lifestyle will enable the hustler to ‘beat the system’ of aging and death, because the true hustler can beat any system.

    http://www.sens.org/
    http://www.imminst.org/
    http://fightaging.org/

    You’ve applied ‘game’ to women, now apply ‘game’ to beat death.

  41. zarzuela December 3, 2010 at 7:02 am

    True hustlers like you and G Manifesto and the other great players don’t ever have to die, not if you’re determined not to.

    The right combo of hi-tech and life-style can ‘beat the system’ of aging and death, because the true hustler can beat any system.

    You players have applied ‘game’ to getting women, later when you’re older, I ask you to apply ‘game’ to beating death. The techniques may be different, but the attitude is the same.

    Heat death of the universe? Nope, not if there are still hustlers and players around to beat that too.

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