The Relationship Between Blindness And Happiness

Imagine that the last meal you ate was maliciously poisoned. Someone added a chemical that will cause you to go completely blind tomorrow with no hope of a cure. Your life will change in every conceivable way, from how you dress yourself to how you earn a living. One important way it changes is in how you relate to women.

Before you become blind, what is the main way you evaluate a girl’s beauty? If you’re like most men, it’s with your eyes. While things like scent and skin suppleness are important, the primary determinant of whether you want to pursue a girl or not is through vision. You would catch sight of a girl and make a value judgement of her beauty, but now as a blind man, you can no longer do so.

When someone becomes blind, the brain starts to devote resources to the other senses: touch, smell, and hearing. You may now come to evaluate beauty on things such as the timber of a girl’s voice, the way her skin feels, her smell, and the shape of her body (you’ll still avoid fatties of course). Perhaps you didn’t consciously notice these things before, but without your eyes, they become more important characteristics that help you judge beauty. A blind man will be able to form a rudimentary idea of a woman’s visual beauty by touching her lips, mouth, hair, and hand, but even in spite of this, he will never come to objectively judge beauty as sharp or as accurate as a man with sight, no matter how good he becomes at touching a woman’s face and caressing her body for its shape.

Assuming the blind man can make the same amount of approaches as before (imagine for this thought experiment that he hired a seeing dog who was trained to alert him to women—especially menstruating women), he will now have a pool of bangable women that is larger than before because he’s not able to judge their beauty as strongly as when he could see. In other words, in his city he will find at least one additional girl to have sex with that he would have ruled out had he not been blind. If his city is large, his bangable pool would likely expand by thousands. I’m not saying that those women would have sex with him, but assuming the women are willing, and he was approaching just as much as before with the same game, his sex life would increase because more women would pass his boner test.

If you disagree with this conclusion, let’s examine the times when you become temporarily “blind.” Can you think of a situation where your senses became impaired, expanding the pool of women that you could sleep with?

You’re probably thinking of alcohol inebriation. While making you less inhibited, alcohol also dulls your senses, making it more difficult for you to spot flaws in a woman’s appearance. The drunker you get in any club, the more likely you will say “yes” to a woman who propositions you for sex. If you’re sober in a brightly lit club, you may say yes to only 10% of the women present, but in a dim club while inebriated, this may more than triple.

Yet another case of temporary blindness is extreme horniness. If you haven’t been laid in a while, and feel the sex urge building to intolerable levels, you will begin to consider women who you wouldn’t have otherwise. There’s even a term for this type of girl: slump buster. If you describe a girl as a slump buster, you admit that you have lowered your standards in order to engage in sex. Somehow you were able to temporarily suspend your standards in order to fornicate.

I hope that you can agree with me now that blindness has the effect of increasing the amount of sexual opportunities you are presented with. Most men, if not all, would rate themselves as happier if being allotted a higher quantity of sexual partners that meets their standards. They don’t necessary have to fornicate with these women, but knowing that they do have more opportunities is sure to please every man. So now we can conclude that a decreased ability to evaluate the attractiveness of a woman will make a man happier, simply because he will be able to decide on sleeping with more of them. Since sex is a big component to a man’s happiness, such blindness will undoubtedly affect his overall happiness.

If blindness increases your opportunities, vision must then decrease your opportunities. Having an established standard on a woman’s eyebrows, chin, arm hair, hip to waist ratio, hair color, ear size and so on, along with the ability to carefully evaluate those features, creatures a higher bar that a smaller percentage of women can pass than if those stringent standards were not possessed. The sharper vision you have, the less sexual opportunities you will have.

What gives a man vision? Well, by analogy, how do you know if a cup of coffee is good? If you’re drinking coffee for the very first time, you can make comments on its taste or temperature, such as whether it’s bitter or hot, but you can not yet evaluate it as “good” coffee or “bad” coffee. Only by having a lot of coffee over an extended period of time do you gain the knowledge to make objective comparisons and value judgments on coffee beverages. The more coffee you have, the more refined your taste becomes. This is the same with women: the more of them you sleep with, the more you understand what quality is and the higher your standards become. Your “vision” becomes more sharp.

Experience gives you vision, which decreases your sexual opportunities, which decreases your happiness. Therefore, experience decreases happiness. The only question is by how much.

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  1. Dman March 19, 2014 at 10:18 am

    AKA ignorance is bliss. Therefore excessive notches are counterproductive unless you place no value on happiness.

    1. Hugo March 19, 2014 at 11:02 am

      How do you define what the meaning of excessive is or are you saying once you’ve been with enough women they all start to feel the same?

      Roosh and others with a high notch count———
      What’s the bell curve on women and quality of sex ?
      (Ie- 40% are 40% are average 15% are really good and 5% are mind blowing)

      Do looks effect performance or better what looks on a 1-10 scale had you found to be the absolute best in bed?

  2. Xman March 19, 2014 at 10:39 am

    “Experience gives you vision, which decreases your sexual opportunities, which decreases your happiness.”

    It’s questionable whether decreased sexual opportunities decrease happiness. If you told someone that instead of 500 TV channels he’ll have to watch best movies ever made in HD, one at a time, without commercial breaks…he might see it as a decreased opportunity if he has limited TV experience.

  3. J_Dilla March 19, 2014 at 10:41 am

    Good post, Roosh. Your last sabbatical has done you well.

    Experience alters the amplitude of troughs and peaks, making them more sinusoidal as opposed to baseline.

    I find the more experience I get with women and life, the happiness is harder to reach (input energy for high amplitude peak) but when attained is almost worthwhile bc of understanding the intrinsic and acquired capabilities were necessitated to attain said goal.

    Having said that, the valleys can be that much lower coming down from such a high amplitude wave.

    1. Leroy X March 20, 2014 at 7:36 pm

      I just reread this one.

      Roosh your’e right too much time online is bad for game and quality of life in general.

      When are we gonna see more in field videos and reports from you?

      The Iasi field report was incisive and prompted me to do a facebook search of the City. Some of the best women in Europe right there.

  4. Bob March 19, 2014 at 11:29 am

    I read somewhere that the more women or men a person has dated and slept with, the harder it is for them to ever feel satisfied with someone because their tastes become more discriminate and they start getting more and more nitpicky. I think this has been dubbed the Seinfeld effect citing how the Jerry character would date a new girl every week and dismiss her for seemingly small annoyances (low talker, man hands, not good in some lighting etc)

    1. 'Reality' Doug March 19, 2014 at 1:17 pm

      Sex consumerism and futile marginal utility: just the anti-family, anti-cultural transmission way the elite masters like us.

      1. Leroy X March 20, 2014 at 9:42 pm

        Whatever they say about society-its total bunk saying women are less promiscuous. That’s just py ops to take a players mind off the ball. Women thrive on smoke and mirrors look at the fashion and cosmetics indistry-they don’t get dressed up to just go meet friends-haha.

    2. serious March 20, 2014 at 3:02 am

      I think this may have more to do with the fact that the more women a man dates, the more he becomes aware of their true nature, and he becomes jaded since he realizes women are not worthy of respect.

  5. Deebos March 19, 2014 at 11:58 am

    Blindness in this case is equated to decreased selective pressure on visual attractiveness, and rightfully so. However, increased opportunities with a likely lower caliber of woman is just a decrease in a man’s ability to apply his own selective pressure on seeking quality. Vision then merely decreases a man’s previously flawed impression of what it mean’s to be happy based on his lack of experience and lack of ability to exert selective pressures, both of which place him into an uncomfortable reality.

  6. johnathan blaze March 19, 2014 at 12:38 pm

    Even if I was blind, I’d still want a tight skinny woman. I would just run my hands across her firm smooth body. I would not want to feel loose lumpy fat rolls.

    The face wouldnt matter at all. Only the body.

  7. Armchair General March 19, 2014 at 12:42 pm

    I don’t think sexual pursuit is about happiness, but about satisfaction. It’s an urge, just like hunger or thirst, and it is satisfied upon conquering girls.

    Happiness related to quality – I don’t really think it is a never ending climb. Men will regularly chose lower quality girls (by their appearance) because of reasons they cannot really explain, but they would still receive as good sexual experience out of it, satisfying their need.

    1. Lobo Feroz March 20, 2014 at 2:42 pm

      Was just going to write this.

      Fulfilling desires brings you satisfaction.

      Transcending desires brings you happiness.

      The more happy I am in my life the less need I have to satisfy my urges (say, pursue girls). Thus I can be happy whether I succeed with new girls or not. Succeeding with girls gives me satisfaction, but I don’t feel specially more happy, if I already have a good baseline level happiness in my life.

      (If your happiness or self-esteem depends on succeeding with girls, then yes, but this is a painful way to live, since mistakes and failures will bring you unhappiness or self-criticism).

  8. 'Reality' Doug March 19, 2014 at 1:00 pm

    Come on, Roosh. There is a bigger universe in which pussy is an asset for those who can control it. The riches you want are held by Goliath, the elephant in your room. You can’t grow in denial of the only direction available for your growth. Masculinity is about dominance, plain and simple, which is why the pickup community became the Manosphere.

  9. Owen Gregory Mudbone March 19, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    There’s something romantic about the idea of the learned master submitting himself to a regression into the basic state of man. Roosh, kudos for this article, truly an original.

  10. Stoopid March 19, 2014 at 2:28 pm

    This is a good post, but the last sentence itched me the wrong way. If anything, experience improves the quality of your sexual opportunities, which leads to greater happiness. No?

    1. Nick March 19, 2014 at 5:35 pm

      I was thinking along these lines. I’m much happier now that I have a clue about how to pursue women, based on several years of experience. It’s been difficult to have my naive worldview about women shattered, but I certainly wasn’t blissful in my ignorance, I was frustrated. Realizing that women will never fulfill you or bring true happiness is a tough pill to swallow, but I’m glad to have a better grasp on reality.

      1. Roosh_V March 19, 2014 at 8:22 pm

        The happiness you have at being able to pursue women will fade in time as you start seeing your skill as “normal,” forgetting how it was like not to have game. Then all that’s left is the raw satisfaction from women themselves, which, if your standards increase, will be much harder to sate than now.

      2. Leroy X March 19, 2014 at 10:17 pm

        Roosh and Readers-
        Your article
        applies to me.

        Ive done over 250 cold approaches and am still in lack.

        Reason 2-the nervous tick (got anxiety disorder and ocd) is the worst one for me-I hate people dont have the guts to say something to help me correct it-bunch of sheep.

        The frustration is bad and 250 cold approaches is a shit ton.

        Is it P4P time?

        I relate to your rants about the internet, media, and all this theoretical academic bull shit-all mind control.

      3. Nick March 20, 2014 at 3:18 am

        It sounds like doing more cold approaches isn’t going to correct the problem. Have you been to a doctor? Perhaps this is a good opportunity to go indirect, so you aren’t putting yourself on the line as much and increasing your anxiety?

      4. Aka Leroy X March 20, 2014 at 8:07 am

        Been to the medical grid- it’s all bs because throwing pills doesn’t get to the root of it which is heart ache and a lack of love. Our whole generation lacks deep meaningful love the World is cold and we are brainwashed to act like animals yet the system tries to shun you if you truly engaged that raw untamed animalistic magnitude we all have. I don’t think the sheep could handle all the Lions running loose because if we’re honest modern life tries to mold us all into sheep.

        I feel my best taking risks- I know in my heart I’m a gun slinger man. The town I live in is weesh-East coast boring lame- Do any if you agree location affects game. I think Romania is the ticket for me- cheap and Euro with animistic passion of Latins. Being an animal is fun playing it safe sucks.

        Ps- I can remember being 18 and being full of psychotic lust and having girls come up to me in the club and grab me. My message to teens- go all out. Destroy the norms and conventions and walk in deep rabid passion because this life and system tries to steal the fire you carry inside to confirm you into servitude and mediocrity. Unleash your passion.

      5. Nick March 20, 2014 at 12:02 pm

        Part of the reason I moved to Poland was the difference between the women here and California. It’s not “Poosy Paradise” by any means, you still have to work at it, but its better for me. I think wherever you move has to have a culture that you like and can get engrained into. I’m going to Bucharest in the spring or summer, so I will see how I like it. Even if you aren’t moving internationally, if your city sucks and you know it, you have to leave.

      6. Leroy X March 20, 2014 at 7:33 pm

        Many Californians prefer Europe better than the States.


        Where are some of your favorite game Cities in EE???

        IMO-Iv’e been to Southern California and I think it’s one of the best place in the States besides Vegas or NYC.

        WHat are your thoughts on Northern California and the NW (Portland, Seattle, Vancouver, etc.)???

      7. Nick March 21, 2014 at 3:26 am

        My heritage is Polish, I know the language so I’m comfortable here. Feminism is not popular here like it is on the west coast of the U.S. I haven’t gamed outside of Warsaw so I can’t suggest anything else, though I’ve heard good things about Prague.

        California has changed dramatically in the past 20-30 years. Hispanics are the dominant ethnic group and growing (roughly 10% of California’s population is there illegally). There’s also been a huge influx from China and India, especially clustered around Silicon Valley. Nor Cal and the NW are increasingly ethnically diverse and far left politically, outside of rural areas. I think San Francisco (though scenic) is one of the worst big cities out there, especially for game, because of far left politics. Though less economically advanced, EE is far more attractive a place to live for me than California.

      8. Nick March 20, 2014 at 3:30 am

        I get the sense that avoiding too high a notch count and focusing on a handful of quality women (while pursuing other life projects) is a good way to go. It’s hard to imagine chasing the dragon forever.

  11. anon1 March 19, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    nice socratic deductions, but i think taleb was right when he said that there was a difference between understanding a thing and knowing how to explain a thing. men know bangable women based upon judgement by their senses [big 5 :looks, smell, hearing, touch etc] & past experience true, but these are not the only senses a man has. arguing that having access to more information [clarity from experience] automatically leads to decreased sexual opportunities and hence happiness is a causal link and not necessarily a correlative one.

    more information, and a discernment of what’s signal and what’s noise, are a better way of judging sexual opportunities and happiness [of the short addictive temporary kind that we all chase, that is distinct from self mastery and contentment] than saying knowing more immediately means being less satisfied.

  12. Petey March 19, 2014 at 4:30 pm

    I’d still want nothing to do with fat or obese women. It’s not about their looks, or how they would feel to touch. If they let themselves go then they are still broken on the inside. Likewise I would continue exercising and staying in shape even though I wouldn’t be able to see the results. It’s about me as a person and strong mental attitude that goes along with hard exercise. That’s what I want in a woman as well.

  13. Brock March 19, 2014 at 5:33 pm

    Well they say masturbation makes you go blind so I guess I’ll be able to relate to this article soon.

  14. Roxy March 19, 2014 at 11:28 pm

    Lol the dudes on this site can barely get laid at all what a cruel joke telling them to raise their standards…doubt they have any at all

  15. serious March 20, 2014 at 2:55 am

    The movie The Matrix addresses this issue as well. Pure and objective reality is an ugly thing.

    Women do not care for men, period. Their ‘love’ will always be conditional. Esther Vilar stated this in Manipulated Man. Women only love we do for them. This is the biggest closely guarded secret of humanity.In exchange for what we do for women, they spread their legs and we fuck them. Then comes along Shakespeare and Disney promoting the myths and bullshit fantasies.

    Today’s media driven society (facebook, smartphones, etc) is making it more painfully obvious women don’t give a shit about us, yet men absolutely refuse to admit this to themselves and continue their search for ‘the one’ to settle down with, never realizing that in fact ‘the one’ is going to be ‘the one’ that is going go fleece him in divorce court when she decides to move on.

    Sometimes men prefer to be blind.

  16. Smashbury-Haight March 20, 2014 at 8:41 am

    All this technology combined with asinine American 1984 culture is uber beta and anti human.

    What happened to the primal fire we all had inside us at 18? We make all of it complicated but if one isn’t closing and smashing then they are not living true to their in dr most desires and do any of you think it’s a coincidence all this beta cultural apparatus of candy assness like Facebook burns out our inner fire?

    Think about gen y- they act like old men drinking coffee all the time, sitting in front of their various LCD screens.
    Think of all the revoluinary youth of the past- not sitting around waiting for Corporate America and gubbament to tell them when to pee but screaming, burning draft cards, marching, Rioting, you know actually living with some passion.

    1. Lundberg March 22, 2014 at 11:37 pm

      “Think of all the revoluinary youth of the past” and think of how they turned around and gave us drug prohibition, campus-corporate feminism and Orwellian thought policing. I think everyone would be better off if the next generation of “revolutionary youth” stayed behind their keyboards.

  17. Mr. Anomy March 20, 2014 at 10:27 am

    The sad truth is 90% of all men have such low standards when it comes to woman that this post will be misconstrued by the majority.

  18. Cockavelli March 20, 2014 at 11:07 am

    Dayroosh Vajajaday-
    Speaking of happiness as your title above says-
    You should hit us up Krauser Pua style with some field reports on smashing young prime E Euro tail with details from the street player.

    Like my friend Marlon says
    Job= Just Over Broke

    And as a man I have respect for you that you could be in some crap Maryland suburb commuting with all the Navy blazer wearing DCouchebags but instead you have the will and intelligence to live in EE and smash chicks all the Marie Claire cupcake factory hemen iPhone appendage morons say you’re “too old” too.

    Slaves- burn the plantation down!
    Burn mother burn!

  19. Jamie March 20, 2014 at 4:23 pm

    You haven’t taken into account that with increasing ‘vision’ your appreciation of the good and bad, or the merely satisfactory to the exceptional also changes. A fine wine is lost on a person who hasn’t developed their palette; the subtleties and complexities of its flavour that would bring great pleasure to a professional taster are subsumed under general approval in someone who has not cultivated their senses. Likewise, someone with little experience can enjoy sex with an especially attractive woman, but it can’t be said he would appreciate this to the same extent as someone who has slept with enough women to really know what qualities he likes. It is debatable, but to me there is a higher and qualitatively different pleasure when you meet and sleep with a girl who meets the standards you have developed through experience.

  20. Nomad77 March 20, 2014 at 4:53 pm

    This is called the American fallacy: that more will make you happier. The more of anything you get the less you will come to appreciate it and the more picky you will become regarding it.

  21. Blue Tropic March 20, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    You’re writing a lot of topics like these recently, it looks like you have an existencial trouble.

    These posts don’t help people that read them, you’re almost discouraging people to pursuing their objectives because it will make them less happy on the long run. What’s the point of this?

    I personally think that if you get less happier in the long run after fulfilling your objectives, then in the other hand if after all the time you don’t hit them at all you will be really miserable.

    I mean, you’re just getting a bit spoiled, but definitely you’re happier every time you succeed and have a better life and it’s as simple as this, if not why working and bothering for success at all?

    Don’t overcomplicate it bro.

    1. Lundberg March 22, 2014 at 11:13 pm

      Manhamsterlation: “This article upsets my complacency. Stop it!”

  22. Kay March 23, 2014 at 6:06 pm

    Surely the blind man is happier with the women he has and the more picky is happier with the quality he gets? I turn down 10 women for every 1 I sleep with, if I that didn’t make me happier I wouldn’t do it.

  23. James May 2, 2018 at 2:47 pm

    I cannot even believe the phrase “you still avoid fatties of course” was part of your discussion. I have to respect your choice of words and feelings on the subject, however that is a degrading statement to women that struggle with weight. For me no matter what “size” a woman is if she is kind and loving them I am all for it. I would gladly be with someone who is overweight and kind than someone that is a “hottie” and unkind. Again just my own thoughts and feelings take care……