The Secret To Landing A Man

Feminist culture has done a good job robbing American women of their natural feminine allure. All that’s left are empty shells of human androgyny that is begging to be filled by so-called female dating experts who were unsuccessful in landing a man themselves . Cosmo, self-help books, and Jezebel are eagerly filling the hole, creating women who are unattractive and painful to talk to.

If you want to boil it down to one sentence, here’s what they are teaching young women today: “Just do what guys do to you!”

Want to attract a guy? Talk about your awesome office job!

Want to get him more interested? Be witty, funny, and interesting!

Want to make him wonder about you? Neg him!

And as much as they made fun of The Game when it came out, they are now taking a whole chapter out of its playbook by negging guys so regularly that it’s becoming the main way American women “flirt.”

Women think, “Some guy used this on me once and I fucked him, so it must work!” They honestly think that men and women are the same, so that game must be interchangeable. It’s just a matter of time until they learn how to pee standing up.

The even bigger mindfuck is that a lot of guys out there have been tricked to think that he’s happier with a woman who has a good job, is witty, and busts his balls. But that’s another topic altogether.

Here is the secret to landing and keeping a man:

1. Spend most of your free time into improving your appearance.
2. Lower your standards.

Any possible problem a girl has with a guy is because she’s not hot enough for him. It’s as simple as that. I don’t care how mentally incapacitated a woman is, but if a man feels that she is much hotter than him, that she is “out of his league,” he will pursue her with everything he’s got and want to wife her up. If a Russian 9 wanted to date you but didn’t speak any English, I bet you’d speak your first Russian sentence in a week. Any possible complaints a guy has about a girl’s personality or character magically evaporates if he sees her as hot.

When a man asks a question about how to get a girl, he already lost her. When a woman asks a questions about how to get a guy, she’s not hot enough. Any questions?

Okay I see there are some hands raised in the hamster audience…

“But I really like this guy and he doesn’t like me.”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

“I want a hot guy like my girlfriend has.”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

“I work with this guy named Trevor. I give him a lot of signals but he doesn’t ask me out. What’s the deal?”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

“Guys only want to have sex with me. What do I have to do to get into a relationship?”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

If you’re a girl and have to think about “game” at any point in trying to get a guy, that means you are not hot enough for him and are aiming way too high. Otherwise he’d be chasing you with absolutely no effort on your part. Correct girl game is improving your appearance and lowering your standards.

What this means is that you will have to get a man who is less handsome than you are pretty. This is how it works in most of the world. You do not deserve a hot man because there is a 99.8% chance you are nowhere near hot (or even pretty, no matter what your friends say). You should be lucky that there is a man out there somewhere, ugly or not, who is willing to put up with your bullshit and neuroses. Take whatever you can get, and I’m not joking. Otherwise start building your cat colony.

Women in Industrial Shithole, my current home, are very sharp with their appearance. I swear that a 5 can make herself look like an 8 in the club, yet she’s with a 4 guy. They maximize their appearance and get someone who is still under their attractiveness level. You better believe that 4 guy is happy to land what sometimes appears to be an 8, meaning he will not stray or be aloof with her. The woman doesn’t need any game to keep him, because once all that makeup and hair is did, she’s a model to him. He worships her.

In America, you got 6 rating girls who look like 5s with their flip flops and short hair trying to snag an 8 guy. No amount of Cosmo reading or “girl game” is going to solve this problem. Hell, you can win the fucking lottery and still an 8 guy is not going to want to put up with your mediocre ass. Get a 4 guy, wrap him around your finger, and be thankful you don’t have to buy any more cats.

As you can see, the problem of finding a man has nothing to do with game or there not being “good men” left in the world. The problem is that women have grown up in a fantasy culture that teaches them that they can get a man more handsome than they are pretty, something that has not regularly happened in the course of human history.

To all the future cat ladies reading me: simply improve your appearance, aim low, and you’ll never again have to worry about game or keeping a man. You know you did well when your dude is ugly enough that everyone thinks the only way he got you was because he has a big dick.

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hahah so true

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Amen. Truth. And this is coming from a woman who did just that.

My 6 married me, a 9, and he loves and adores me and works his ass off.I adore him as well, and his character, strength and intelligence turned that 6 upside down so all I see is a 9.

I cook for him, and take care of him at home. ( yes, I also work full time as well) Sorry, Feminists, you have it wrong. No job will ever fulfill you. The love of a great man wins every time.

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Absolutely fantastic, perceptive, and brilliant article! Love it, Roosh. Thanks for the great insights.

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You can preach this blog post to the fucking heavens, you can sing it on every mountaintop, you can post it on billboards, you can play it on the radio. American women will not settle. It aint happening.

Take a look around DC. There is a sea of 35 year old washed cougars who have missed the proverbial marriage train trying their mighty asses off to still land that 1 mil a year earning partner at Holland & Knight so they can get their McMansion in Bethesda and send the kids to St. Albans prep. Go over to that new bar The Hamilton on 14th and F on a Thursday night…..it’s a fucking wasteland of cougars and divorcees….

It’s fucking comical. I try to explain to my friend who is searching for Mr. 250k how many single guys there are in this city that are making 250k. Then after we nailed that number down which is probably about 5,000 TOTAL guys….I asked her why would a single white guy making 250k settle for a 34 year old chick who is a few years away from infertility?

Women are delusional bro. If i could give them any advice….it would be I don’t care who you have to settle for, get your ass married by 30. Once that 30th birthday comes, you have lost 50% of your capital. You are playing on a a short deck and you’ll be lucky to get half the man you dream of. But they won’t settle. They will wait until 35! Unreal

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Then when they hit 40 they think they can cut their husband of 20 years off, tell him to go play with himself. And he will just take it.
He’s just waiting for her to file for divorce.
Since 80-85% of divorces are filed by women, it probably won’t be long.

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Epic. The truth will hurt many, but ultimately it is good for them.

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Brilliant!

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@Anonymous: I respect your honesty, both with yourself, and others, and the wisdom that you offer via experience. However, I’m not convinced that you are a “9”…

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This is so true, yet it pains me every time I see a handsome guy holding hands with a girl that is definitely way below him in attractiveness. Come on guys, you can do better! Aim higher.

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As it turns out, people’s appearance is not the sum of who they are. He might be handsome and she plain, but he must have found something in her that brought more value to his life than being single or pursuing other options. Moreover, who knows what shortcomings he might have or virtues she might have that would make their relationship one of equals.

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This is what women’s mothers used to tell them, back before everyone’s mother was divorced and delusional. Now that we’re two generations into the marriage apocalypse, no one remains to tell their kids how to act.

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If women realized and accepted how easy it actually is to be happy their heads would explode. However, the hampster will not allow it, so the beating will continue until morale improves.

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@Tampa

Lulz on the Hamilton. I work near there. I should stop by this Thursday for a taste of cougar.

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Ever had to sit through Hairspray? I could only bear 5 minutes of it, but part of the plot is that this young landwhale (her mother is so fugly, she gets played by a dude) snags a handsome skinny guy with her um, “charms”.

I now understand where self-confident landwhales who chase after handsome dudes half their weight come from.

Toxic propaganda like that has got to go.

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In a commercialized SMP, hypergamy is to women what bikini models are to men; the easiest way to a buck.

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@ Seeker of truth,

Its ok if you think so. Or not smile I used to model, so for an old broad Im hanging in there smile The point is, that, instead of focusing on someone “hot”, I know ( however hard it is for other women to accept) that most of what Roosh says in the post is true. I focused on his character, kindness, and intelligence. He tells me all the time how he cant believe how lucky he was to marry a woman as beautiful and kind as me, and I feel the same way, that I was lucky to marry someone as intelligent, hardworking, with good leadership skills that I can look up to and respect. Done and done smile

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This is truth in roughly 95% of cases but there is a bit more to it. Generally there are two conditions that when BOTH met should make women do more than just improve appearance and lower standarts.

The conditions are:
1.The man knows the nature of women(red pill, game, natural, traditional culture, school of life or whatever), knows that they are sinful and moraly unstable.
2.That man is seeking a long term partner and not a girl for just a night or few nights.

In both these cases women should also:

1.Lower their bitchyness and develop a pleasant character.
2.Spend time improving their homekeeping skills, cooking, communication with children and cleaning.

These things are secondary, what Roosh mentioned is primary, most men are so desparate that they will see only the criteria mentioned by Roosh, but I felt that these two had to be added otherwise the formula is still incomplete.

That is it might loook complete from the viewpoint of Roosh ho is intrested in hookups only, but from a viewpoint of most women who want commitment from a man as well as understanding and a healthy share of domination and leadership at the same time these two that I added are a must.

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This is your best article ever posted. Cuts straight to the core and is 100% true. WELL DONE

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I would add that women can improve their chances, in addition to being pretty, by 1) being affectionate, 2) initiating sex more, and being “good at sex”, and 3) being easy to get along with / drama free.

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Have to agree with Tampa, great advice but it will not be heard by those who most need it. As we well know women today cannot accept that there is anything wrong with them, or anything they do.

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“I would add that women can improve their chances, in addition to being pretty, by 1) being affectionate, 2) initiating sex more, and being “good at sex”, and 3) being easy to get along with / drama free.”

I agree with this. Chasing a girl is about looks, but keeping her is about what she brings to the table. How you feel around her and whether she is an asset to your life or a drag.

Good looks + Sweet disposition + Wifely skillz = A keeper

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This is all true, and we are all be witness to this as western society continues to weaken from within.

The other half of this equation of course is the beta/herb men (boys) being raised by single mothers on a diet of video games and HD pornography who are being deprived of proper male role models.

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The author of this post is an idiot. women are looking for the best man they can get, not any guy they can find. to suggest women do otherwise is to be blind to differences between the sexes, not to mention disastrous to evolution.

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exactly, of course women have to and do game men.. part of it is improving how we look yes (that is part of female gaming) but reducing our standards/expectations?? why? the point of the game is to get the best that we can.. we will continue to game men. in any game you can win and you can lose.

women who end up alone lose. I dont know what I am in numbers but my husband is hotter than me, makes more money than me, on IQ test will score higher than me.. if I had taken this advice when looking for a mate I would have looked at my husband as out of my league and not played the game. I wouldnt have the kids or the life that I have now and I’d probably be less happy for it.

The whole mating things is a game and women arent going to stop playing because we fear losing.

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This response is funny…

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The author of this post is an idiot. women are looking for the best man they can get, not any guy they can find. to suggest women do otherwise is to be blind to differences between the sexes, not to mention disastrous to evolution.

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NO they aren’t looking for the best man “they can get.” Because if you are 35 and unmarried, you haven’t been able to “get” him. You’ve failed. It is time to settle. You are a victim of choice addiction. And you addition to choice and your unchecked desire to have mr. 250k is literally driving you toward a life where you don’t even have kids. A very sad existence is a 35 year old woman with no husband and no children.

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This opening paragraph is perfectly brilliant:

“Feminist culture has done a good job robbing American women of their natural feminine allure. All that’s left are empty shells of human androgyny that is begging to be filled by so-called female dating experts who were unsuccessful in landing a man themselves”

Between Roosh’s post and the comments following it, I see more wisdom and understanding of the human race than the entire 40 years of radical feminist bullshit.

Keep it up folks. Feminism is the most amazing bubble of lies and abuse in recent history. It will eventually pop, and when it does, the explosion is gonna be incredible.

The question is, will the Feminist horror-show take American/European culture with it down the drain, leaving the world firmly under the control of the Chinese or some other less decadent culture? Or will it just leave behind worldwide social chaos/riots? That is something to debate over beer.

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I think ghghg has a point – however disagreeably he’s stated it. Women are always going to try to get the best possible deal for themselves that they can. It’s how the sexual market works. Just like you have a lot of guys that want to bang 10s when they’d do a lot better targeting 6s, a lot of women are also trying to punch above their weight class.

Among women, I feel like the ugly and hot girls have at the very least an intuitive understanding of exactly where they stand in terms of who they can get. It’s more the average to cute/marginally hot chicks that tend to have a distorted view of things. The problem for them, I think, is that they’re attractive enough so that in-demand guys will fuck them, but not hot enough to land one for anything more than a no drama FWB situation. As a result of these gus trying to drunk dial them every so often, they get the idea that this is the level of guy they can attract, when in reality she’s option 3 or 4 and only gets asked out (or booty called) when options 1 and 2 have fallen through.

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Great post. The thing is, these women don’t even want a strapping, handsome rich man for his own sake. They want Mr. Perfect so they can SHOW OFF TO OTHER WOMEN. Having Mr. Perfect at their side is proof of their superiority to all the women who couldn’t get a Mr. Perfect. American women aren’t looking for love, they’re looking for a man who can play his little role in making her idyllic dreams come true. The man is just a bit player, an accessory to making her dreams come true. He is a means to those dreams, not an end in himself. That is why American women constantly insist on going out and doing things, because the man is not a sufficient reason in and of himself.

And even when women do try to look good, it’s in the spirit of competing with other women, and not attracting the appeal of men. Walk around almost any yuppie gym in America, and you’ll find girls doing curls, pull-downs, and shitty bench presses, or running on treadmills and ellipticals several hours a week. These women invariably have this skinny broad look, with a wide back and lats, slim muscular arms, and undeveloped legs and ass. And while it doesn’t look bad, no guy would choose it as ideal. If these women were trying to appeal to men, they’d be squatting ass to grass, or doing lunges at the very least. But she’s more concerned about not having ‘a big butt’ because then other *girls* will think less of her.

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“1. Spend most of your free time into improving your appearance.

2. Lower your standards.”

^^best advice that can ever be give to a woman who seriously wants to find a husband.

Shame the feminists and delusional women won’t listen to it.

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Roosh’s advice is probably going to be hard to listen to for most women, but good advice is good advice.

Stands up and gives Roosh a standing ovation.

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Here’s the list COSMO won’t ever publish ladies:

1. be submissive follow instructions
2. suck his cock real good
3. do what he says
4. suck his cock some more
5. ALWAYS support him in public
6. you may disagree, but then you owe him a cock suck

Let there be Manhood101

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Women in western society have power in the singles market when they have the leverage(looks). Guys are suppose to approach aren’t they ladies????? So women get to choose. I know average looking women getting 20-30messages a day on POF.com. This is in Toronto. So women cannot complain and say where are all the good men or settle when they have many suitors in their reach.

Based on their misuse of power or lack thereof, hey have picked or not picked suitable gents in their own prime. Now, when their looks are fading (black diamond) ski hill, steeeeep slope, they have the audacity to criticize men for these comments.

Of course, I don’t blame anybody for going for the best. But, ladies you are in the drivers seat here. Men approach online, in person all the time. Ask yourselves how many times did you do a cold approach????? Thank you for answering my rhetorical question.

Now, get off your asses , don’t do a ladies night sleep over where you won’t meet any men and get out there. But when you get out there, make yourself avilable by not hiding in a corner surrounded by your friends. Miingle with men you dig. Say hello first. I don’t want to hear men need to say hi first. They always did before and look at the results.

Things won’t change unless you change. Simple. Swallow your pride and say hi. Trust me guys aren’t as snobby like women, they will always be polite and say hi back. Trust me.

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That was brilliant Rooshie. We talk soon.

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“Guys only want to have sex with me. What do I have to do to get into a relationship?”

“You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards”

euhh…sure about this one, Roosh?

Great post, just this littl doubt

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Nice post. It more or less encaptulates the entire message of my blog, which I write in an attempt to get this message to women.

http://www.therulesrevisited.com

Specifically, this post, which explains the same “it worked on me so it will work on him” phenomenon:

http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/08/why-most-women-dont-know-what-men-want.html

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Great post, and I agree.

Whenever I read a dating blog written by a female (like Susan Walsh’s “Hooking Up Smart”) I think the exact same thing. Susan’s whole blog could be summarized by “1. Be hotter. 2. Tame your hypergamous hamster and settle for a beta.”

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Thanks for the lunch read, Roosh. I laughed out loud on your hamster questions.

Ugly women should be hunted for sport.

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I suppose poor men too right?

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Join the military?

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lol @ “Otherwise start building your cat colony.”

kinda makes me wonder if there’s a positive correlation between obesity and the pet care industry.

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I think society is burned out on this and moving back in a more traditional direction.

A woman who wants a husband needs to look at betas, rather than alphas. Betas aren’t lower, they just serve a different purpose.

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Good post. Of course it takes more than just being hot to keep a good man with options, but being hot is the prerequisite.

I remember reading something at roissy’s I believe a long time ago that went something like “the most happy and successful marriages are where the woman is better looking than the man, and the man has greater social or financial status than the woman.” That seems to be the perfect match, because each partner truly appreciates what the other brings to the table.

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100% true. Never really saw it this clear.

“the most happy and successful marriages are where the woman is better looking than the man, and the man has greater social or financial status than the woman.”

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Another Great Post Roosh! I think The Specimen @25 left a great comment too.

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@33
Same thing, emphasis on #2.

If you are being pumped and dumped, they don’t consider you worth keeping.

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“It’s just a matter of time until they learn how to pee standing up.”

They have funnels designed for that purpose now.

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The cold hard truth. Not that it matters since they’re not going to listen.

As long as the herd is telling all girls they can have it all and get their Prince Charming, nothing is going to change.

Not that I’m complaining- It’s a player’s market

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Roosh- Poetry sir. This should probably be elevated to the status of some type of Manifesto. It is a simple, crystal clear, and quite cutting perspective of the current situation.

@#4 Tampa

I am just laughing out loud over here. I met up with DC Phil last night and was just laughing at the absurdity of the average “DC Frau” (I am uncertain if I am the progenitor of this meme but I know my friends and I use it to great effect). What you are describing at the Hamilton is a great picture as well as the highly over-educated, highly under-dressed, highly self-important, highly missing out on the gym 20 something women from ‘somewhere else’ who land here to work for the Nanny State that allows their liberal feminist existence. As I said to DC Phil last night, if you can successfully run game in DC which I am pretty sure is the worst city to attempt it on Planet Earth, you can run game ANYWHERE. I was born and bred here so I cam up “in the trenches” and am low alpha so I pull here, but based on most everyone else I interact with, that is the exception, not the rule. The only saving grace of this cesspool of Fraudom is that the city is juuuuust international enough that you may land a great foreigner. This has been my sole focus for the past few years. The Fraus are invisible to me now.

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I can’t even believe people buy into this. It’s hilarious to me that everyone who enjoys this blog seems to think ALL women think the same way as if we’re just “bitchy-baby-machines-that-want rich-husbands.” I assure you that some of us don’t give five fucks about how much our significant other makes and only cares about the essence and personality of the person. That isn’t to say that looks don’t matter at all (everyone has their own preferences), but to some women (and men) physical appearance isn’t the most important characteristic. Just like there are women who don’t care about personality and only looks. Honestly, this entire site is offensive to BOTH genders, it assumes that women are entirely superficial and men only want sex. Surely you aren’t so harsh on your own sex and will admit that men are more than just the “horny animals” your lovely blogger portrays them.

How about you all grow the fuck up and stop hiding behind these sexist pretenses of what “women and men” want and actually get to know people as PEOPLE without making (false) assumptions on their gender. Have you ever considered that a superficial women is superficial because she is a superficial PERSON and not because she is just a women? Woah I know, too much to handle.

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Roosh describes the opposite of what men have had to do. Because so many women have taken themselves out of the dating pool because of their obesity and overweight nature men have had to:

1. Spend exorbitant levels of time investing into their looks

2. Lower their standards

Look how many dudes are packed into gyms these days. I guarantee you it was never like that in the past. Men are in there investing an entire lifestyle into building ideal bodies. How often do you see a girl in the gym building a body that’s ideal? It doesn’t happen in America.

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HOW TO GET AN ALPHA MALE:

1. Be young
2. Be beautiful
3. Be willing to fuck whenever he wants
4. When he cheats on you, forgive him and take him back, or just overlook it
5. Repeat step 4 as needed


HOW TO GET A BETA MALE:

HA! As if a girl wants that…

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“women are looking for the best man they can get”

Apparently they’re looking for a man they CANNOT get, otherwise they’d have him by now.