A lot of the game advice you read on my blog or others encompass a wide range of actions and behaviors, including body language, tonality, humor, grooming, story telling, touching, attitude, teasing, and so on. There’s dozens of topics and these days you can find pick-up blogs exclusively to something specific like style or cooking. That’s because game is like sports—it can be discussed without end to infinity. The cat has definitely been let out of the bag and I’m confident that demand for game knowledge will be strong until the end of time.
That said, most things you learn about game are really teaching you just two things:
1. Being interesting
2. Being cool
That’s tight game right there. (I can easily argue that other things compose tight game like persistance and the logistical know-how to get a girl inside a bedroom, but they are not absolutely essential.)
Being interesting is simply being able to arouse a woman’s interest. This comes from telling good stories to negging, to dancing well or making her laugh. A year ago a man told me that all you needed to do to get laid was give a girl “good chat.” The problem is most guys can’t have interesting conversation. They can’t show their positive traits in an intriguing way. They have no experiences to talk about. Their lifestyle is nothing to be emulated or desired.
Being cool is more about not doing awkward things. This begins with the elimination of weird mannerisms and body language problems and ends with having a presence that other people are simply drawn into it. This is a lot more difficult to teach. I can easily tell a guy to not lean in or have a feminine posture, but that’s only half of it. The other half will magically come (I’m being serious) as his confidence goes up and he starts banging a lot of women. It simply falls into place.
If you are interesting and cool then you’re a man who has a quality woman or fucks a lot of girls. If you’re only interesting than you’re the stereotypical shlub who lands a homely Peace Corp girl with that go-getter attitude (“Must get a graduate degree before we have Connor!”). If you’re only cool then you’ll get trashy skanks or club rats (not necessarily a bad thing).
If pretty girls are not regularly attracted to you then you’re not interesting and/or cool. Maybe to your guy friends you are, but to the female race you are not and therefore you will not be rewarded by pussy. Learning game is nothing but an indirect but necessary means to being interesting and cool. When you read a new line or routine, you’re just mimicing the act of being interesting or cool.