The Unintended Consequences Of Domestic Violence Laws

There is a large tree in the forest where ants and bees have been living for a hundred years. A natural balance has existed between these species so that the population of one has not been strong enough to dominate the other. They’ve actually been helping each other survive. The bees share excess honey while the ants share excess material they find in their deep forest expeditions. There is a constant threat of starvation that keeps them dependent on each other. The ecosystem is not perfect, but it has been sustainable for as long as the tree has existed.

Encroaching human development put houses near the tree. One house had a little boy who would place bread by the tree every day for the insects to eat. They now had more food than they could possibly need. Suddenly, they no longer had to work to survive. With such a burden lifted from their shoulders, they spent more time in their joint species tribunal, discussing how to increase the harmony of their tree environment.

The bulk of complaints came from the ants. “We are the weakest, so we need protection. Sometimes the teenage bees get out of hand, and mock us. They take us for joy flights, dropping us on the ground from high distances.” The bee elders sympathized with them; something had to be done. In addition to existing laws against violence, a new law was passed: violence against ants carried extra, severe penalties. The ants are weak, it was argued, so the law would increase harmony.

For a while, the tree was indeed more harmonious, as violence against ants lessened. But then violence against bees by ants increased. Teenage ants would gang up on an isolated bee, bury him in their mound, then time how long it took him to get out. The bee didn’t dare fight back from these attacks because of the harsh penalty for attacking an ant. The ants, the weaker species of the two, were suddenly strong. Fearful of attacks and unfair persecution, the bees, against the wishes of the bee elders, thickened their honeycomb to prevent interaction with ants. Distrust bred between the species for the first time in 100 years, and they came to hate each other.

The little boy grew up and went to college. He no longer put food by the tree. When a famine occurred after a large storm, the bees were not prepared. Without help from the ants, they all died. The ants did not shed many tears, because now they had the tree for themselves, and felt that they could finally create the utopia they always wanted. But one day they were invaded by an army of worms. The bees would normally fight this predator off, but now the ants were defenseless. They were all killed. After the attack, the tree was never again home to ants or bees.

Creating laws to prop up the weak is like playing a game of musical chairs. Power demands residence, and will simply shift itself to a new population that is favored by newly manufactured laws or environments. Domestic violence laws are a great example of this phenomenon. Assault and battery is already outlawed, but by creating a new class of laws that create privilege for a specific group, a new immunity is formed. The ecosystem is damaged, unprepared to take on the unintended consequences of misguided intervention.

In Ukraine, I witnessed a man slap his girlfriend on a crowded pedestrian street. Over 20 men must have witnessed the event, but no one rushed to her aid. She also did nothing, not screaming or running away. With primitive (i.e. rarely prosecuted) domestic violence laws in Ukraine, you’d think that this sort of thing would happen all the time, but it was the first time I had seen it in a country that I had spent 6 months in. Men show surprising restraint when it comes to violence against their women, something that may be a shock to people living in countries with advanced domestic violence laws.

In the USA, with nearly two decades of such laws on the books, what do you see? Women hitting men and women attacking men they don’t even know. I’m sure you’ve seen many such videos on Youtube and LiveLeak, which make it seem like women are warriors, completely fearless of men. With their elevation as a special victim in need of state protection, there is usually no punishment for hitting men, even if the man hits back only to defend himself. Girl hits man, man pushes girl away, girl calls cops, man goes to jail. If she’s married, she gets an additional bonus of monthly cash payments once the divorce is settled. Encouraging a man to fight has become financially beneficial for women.

Like the ants, women know that the laws give them a pass. They are taking full advantage of it, predictably conforming to their environment. Men are demoted to second class citizens and live in fear of going to jail while women have impunity to act in any way they want. The result? Less marriage, more violent marriages, unhappy relationships, and more single parent households.

Nature, while not perfect, has spend hundreds of thousands of years optimizing sex roles through trial and error to facilitate human reproduction. Religion, for example, has evolved alongside humans because it promotes reproduction, along with other traditions that may be seen as sexist today. Recent utopian schemes to “protect” women have ushered in policies that have no proven effectiveness, whether increasing the happiness of women, protecting the family unit, or advancing society in any form. They might as well have been pulled out of a top hat, an experiment done on the masses by those in power.

Progressives, through their tinkering, are introducing disincentives that destroy even basic relationships instead of stabilizing them. Their policies have helped create men such as myself, who see absolutely no incentive to pursue a relationship in a country where I can go to jail and be robbed blind from a failed relationship or from a woman lying about how I treat her.

One interesting thing I haven’t mentioned in Ukraine is the huge number of children walking around with their parents. They seem quite happy to me, rarely bickering in public, and the sight of such children is so prevalent that I can’t help but believe raising a family is normal, with my bachelor lifestyle being some sort of accidental perversion. In a place where women are not considered protected, some may even be surprised to never see women with bruises and black eyes, or see them getting beat up every day, screaming for help. In fact, it’s a rare occurrence, more rare than men getting hit in America. There will always be an unfortunate level of violence between man and woman, but any attempt to fix it through random laws and policies, as has been done in America, will only make it worse. Nature, in spite of its flaws, is more often right than wrong.

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i am the first to post.

good read roosh, interesting topic.

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Huge fan of yours! You seem like a libertarian and economist — unintended consequences, disincentive… I’m one. I’m even more of a fan now.

Not sure I understand how religion adds to reproduction. Could you explain more? When I was younger, a Catholic teacher asked me why I wouldn’t aspire to become the Pope. I replied, politely that I like women and plan to have lots of sex with women.

Your post the other day on Buddhist Roosh vs. Ego Roosh resonated similarly.

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Very good post!

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Has anyone else noticed that between this and a couple of other posts, there is the sensation that roosh may be writing a children’s book. A sort of “manosphere” (for want of a better word) reaction to the indoctrination of our youth?

If so, keep going buddy

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My experience with domestic violence has ruined my life. I married a petite girl from Taiwan who hit me more than 350 times in 5 years of marriage. I called the police on her many times. Every time the police came they always said, “Do you really want your wife arrested?”
Every time I backed down and declined. I tried to leave once during one really big fight, but she blocked the door and I pushed her.
The neighbors heard us and called the police. When they arrived and I told them what happened, the police said I could go to jail,
my wife could go to jail, or we could both go. Since my wife just stood there, I volunteered to go.

After my nightmare of going to jail and court, I was not convicted. I am clean-cut and straight arrow guy and this was a new experience for me.
Although I feel like I was the domestic violence victim in my marriage, society now views me as an evil wife-beater.

I did learn from this that the USA is a police state, the deck is stacked against American men, and an arrest record will ruin your life:

If an immigrant is a domestic violence victim they can stay in the US.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/03/07/us-obama-women-violence-idUSBRE92618M20130307

However, if an immigrant commits a crime, they can also stay in the US.

http://www.mysanantonio.com/news/local_news/article/Minor-crimes-off-feds-radar-4145472.php

American men who have domestic violence records cannot marry foreigners.

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/17/us/17brides.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

American men who have domestic violence records cannot own guns.

http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/02/24/suspreme.court.gun.rights/

I also found that people with criminal records must register with police when they move, cannot get a job, get a license, visit libraries,
visit a park, stay in a motel, rent an apartment, stay in nursing homes, start a business, get welfare, go to college, get student aid, run for office, or vote. Basically your life is finished if you a have a criminal record. Living in the USA now is not much better than living in the USSR.

http://www.solutionshomestaffing.com/employment

http://articles.latimes.com/2008/mar/21/nation/na-briefs21.S1

http://www.ci.apple-valley.mn.us/DocumentCenter/Home/View/773

http://www.presstelegram.com/20120813/new-cerritos-ordinance-bans-sex-offenders-from-city-parks-libraries

http://record-eagle.com/local/x1533635093/Some-say-Michigans-food-stamp-restrictions-for-drug-felons-are-unfair

https://www.midcontinent.edu/onlinepathway/opbsform.htm

http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/nation/2006-04-16-drugs-students_x.htm

http://www.nola.com/crime/index.ssf/2011/01/edwin_edwards_begins_six_month.html

http://newsok.com/board-votes-against-pardon-for-aging-killer/article/3086922

After all of these hassles and I got divorced, I had a Chinese girlfriend who hit me over 450 times over 12 years. I learned my lesson to not hit back, though.

Despite being a weak and beta man, I hope guys will learn from my story. If a girl ever hits you, immediately dump her.

I know many guys have just given up because men face a loaded system and do not have fair chance due to overwhelming nanny state laws, rules, regulations, divorce laws, child support laws, alimony laws, domestic violence laws, and taxes, but PLEASE do not quit. Men make up 50% of the population, are stronger, are smarter, and have more money that women. Don’t just surrender.
Think, read, talk to your friends and family, write your elected officials, contact the media, and vote!

The system needs to change soon. If we do nothing, things will only get worse.

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I sometimes think game evolved more for the benefit of westernized males assaulted by a system that tries in every way to destroy them. Seeing places like the Ukraine, Romania, Poland, etc., you begin to see that the psychology of game as it relates to male/female dynamics is not really necessary. I’m speaking merely from the standpoint of age-old relationships between men and women. You still need to be a man in both western and eastern cultures, but you don’t need to fear for your life or despise the place family and meaningful relationships with women can have (in response to: “…I can’t help but believe raising a family is normal, with my bachelor lifestyle being some sort of accidental perversion”).

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“Progressives, through their tinkering, are introducing disincentives that destroy even basic relationships instead of stabilizing them. ”

Often times this is exactly their point !

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“….. but any attempt to fix it through random laws and policies…….”

True for any “it”, except perhaps for those specifically prohibited in the great religious texts.

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“The result? Less marriage, more violent marriages, unhappy relationships, and more single parent households.”

And guys who have had enough simply smash the bitches skulls in and don’t care if they are sent to prison. When things become so extreme, a man’s dignity and self respect become the only things worth living for.

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Don’t forget, after you get attacked by cupcake and get dragged off to jail, SHE gets FREE legal advice and representation courtesy the domestic violence industry.

You, vile penis-wielder, get to arrange and pay for your own defense from jail. Hope you have wealthy, sympathetic relatives. Otherwise, you’re getting railroaded… er… a public defender, a felony plea, and a round of expensive mandatory DV indoctrination classes where you get to learn all about wonderful things like the perfectly unbiased, evidence-based Duluth Model.

It’s Kafkaesque. And it’s unlikely to change any time soon.

Young men, don’t subject yourself to this– don’t get married or cohabit in the US.

All she has to do is dial 911 and you’re done.

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At #5 Ted —

Ted – I hear ya. And the problem is that what defines violence against a female is purely subjective (aside from obvious cases). For example if you happen to disagree with “wifey” not an argument, but simply disagree, with her and her widdle feelings are hurt she could call the cops and have some kind of charge thrown at you, and if convicted then you have a criminal record.

The problem is today even foreign women who come to live in America get contaminated by the “virus” called feminism. It is to ever man’s interest in America to stay single and not even date any hormo al driven animal in this junker of a country.

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What Ted wrote needs to be read by any man who think foreign women are “the answer.” This country’s perverse laws make it so there is no answer.

Violence against men has become so commonplace that in the teen romantic comedy “Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist,” the Norah character punches Nick *in the throat* about a third of the way though, yet he still pursues her as if it’s OK. This is the message we’re sending our boys.

Had the male-female roles in this scene been reversed, the movie probably would have been banned.

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Why men and women are different:

http://24.media.tumblr.com/8d00354824dc22d14e372d8538a4fb9a/tumblr_msotm0RwGD1sgpjz0o1_1280.png

Awesome article Roosh !

One of my newest favourites !

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Roosh V-
I’ve heard you say that after you get so many notches you start to really learn about how girls really tick versus the propagandizing and shaming they try to push on us tomcontrol our minds.

I really hope you will expound upon how women really tick inside and how they frame mentally the World around them.

For guys who are new to game, frustrated, or perpetual virgins it would be enlightening to get to know the depths of female skull duggery from players who know a boat load more than the novice crowd. It’s like Sun Tzu said know yourself and your adversary and you will win every time. Otherwise the odds of getting your ass handed to you out here increase exponentially. If you’ve been a beta and decide to wifey up without 25 or more notches you could benign a real ass kicking so really helping the ignorant see the light they don’t have access to like Platosmallegory of the cave in regards to how women actually work versus the smoke they blow out to the World is priceless. That concept in and of itself is the real men’s rights not a bunch of guys bitching about how the World sucks all day. Get knowledge have balls take action and win the damn war!

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Brilliant. +1 Roosh.

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Whatcha gonna do? You can be Bozo the punching bag, or you can split and leave her to fend for herself — something that even a professional career woman will fail at miserably. I know some that have just fallen into the depths of despair as they’ve gotten old, fat, and unattractive — both physically and intangibly.

Get out of the way and let her box shadows the rest of her miserable days. Good riddance!

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indeed, just search on youtube for ‘stupid bitch’ and you’ll be surprised how many women got hit back by men who didn’t take their shit.

We grow up with this stupid belief that you should not hit a woman until she’s pissing all over your boots. Wrong. That’s their game, they assume that you’ll think ‘ok she’s a woman’ and you set your ‘take the shit’ threshold much higher. Don’t do that.

I was a nice guy, but no more. Read the book ‘Venus the dark side’ and watch Snapped.

Things are even less obvious, actually. For example, a while ago I was, for one reason or another, crossing paths with ugly, fat, and even old, bitches with an attitude. Of course, I would not have fucked them with someone else’s dick, but I was shocked to see that even the ugliest and fattest women had an attitude, you know, the kind of ugly/fat/old stupid smartass who either disguises putdowns as jokes, or they, shockingly, do it directly, as in this interview http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3UG8WGbV2w

so you see, there’s a verbal layer of problems. In the past I didn’t know how to deal with that, I would simply be stupefied. Now I know much, much better.

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I think I am well prepared. Lol

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It’s actually funny to see how some ot hte more intellectually challenging posts by Roosh get less comments, but of better quality.

I hope to read more posts like this one, as well as book reviews (for when the next one?). Keeps our brain sharp.

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An observation-
Roosh is targeted by Jew ran commie ‘rights’ groups like the Adl and Splc because he is of Middle Eastern descent. They don’t mess with their co-tribal ethnic club like Style/Neil Strauss or Ross Jeffries.

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@Ted

Jesus man, that was fucking depressing. I can’t imagine how many betas are in that situation after getting tricked into marriage.

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And this is why I have nothing to do with American/western/white women. They are truly out of control animals who can snap on you at the slightest thing. They truly are rabid animals.

Until men wake the hell up and stop giving any attention to these spoiled little brats (American women), not much will change. Either way, the betas and manginas will continue to kiss the ass of western women, and they will deserve to suffer for their stupidity and weakness. Real men will go for real women who treat their man with respect, and both will be happy.

Water finds it’s own level.

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Very well said! it is not in a man best interest to co-habitate with a narcissistic species such as women

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Women dont need to be ruined by just living in america. Watching amerucan tv and internet can give that influence as well. Women will only behave a certain way only what their society allows. Hell i think we have more domestic violence than 3rd world nations since the women dont act like cunts.
@ted
ur story is very similar to this white dude i knew who went thriugh similar with his filipino ex wife.
I tell these white guys that think that they marrying an ethnic girl(arab latin indian asian etc) that everything would be perfect.
They are not goin to be that feminine traditional girl that her men expect her to be.
In their mind when she gets her white guy, she doesnt have to cook, clean, can have a high notch count and not be judged for it(or have a notch for that matter), dress like a fat slut(tattoos n piercings too) and still be considered sexy and to be able to give shit to her man and still be treated like a queen.
White guys ruin women of all colors sunce they putem on a pedestal an pass that mindset to other guys and calkin their traditions qwird n backward.
Women are oppurtunistic an caniving. Dont get involved by these so xalled “oppressed” girls. Theyll never be satisfied, you have to be incontrol even controlling since shell respect you more than bein a leniant beta.
If you cant emulate her traditional man dont bother gamin her.

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Let met guess…the worms are the Chinese.

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Come to think of it. It sounds very white knight for a white dude and come in save his ethnic ho from her “hated oppressive men”. Captin save a ho aint gettin no traditional feminine play for his efforts just western woman 2.0 in a darker skin tone.( shed be worse cuz she never got to act like that growin up….prepare to see her go overboard about bein western or white when shes with her beta white knight)

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Wow nice takedown.

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“If you cant emulate her traditional man dont bother gamin her.”

That’s why it is good to also make friends with a lot of local men, as well, and to observe them and try to emulate their mentality.

Just be careful, my experience in dealing with non-western men are pretty negative. Asian and Indian men tend to be very conniving and cheating, and are subconsciously very envious of you as a white man, they are envious of your position, and in many cases will try to sabotage you or steal money from you.

Asian/Indian/non-western men are kind of like the equivalent of American/western women. They are arrogant, rude, treat others like shit, uncivilized, etc. In short, barbarians, basically.

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5 Ted, you are fucking kidding yourself. The fucking SYSTEM ‘needs to change’ ? no, YOU need to change! You’ve let a crazy bitch ride on your back, that’s the only truth. You taught her how to treat you, and surprise surprise, the more she noticed she could get away with it, the more she pushed the (non-existent) boundaries.

Get a reality check, and stop being a goddamn pussy. You aren’t a pussy and don’t need to be one. If the same woman would have done that to, say, a crazy black guy from the ghettos, what would have happened?

Duh, right?

I am no drug dealer, so if a girl would hit me ONCE, I would warn her to not EVER FUCKING DO IT AGAIN. And I’d say it only once. The second time would be too late, I’d slap her so hard she would feel her ass drop on the floor like a bag of potatoes.

And I am not even a violent guy. Never been. And many times I have let crap treatments from others, slide me by. Only to regret it even years later, and these were actually ‘minor’ things, like some bitch making a stupid remark or something.

To be physically hit by a twat it’s just way too humiliating, I’d rather get hit by a guy, hard, seriously.

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I don’t see how being hit by a woman is humiliating; I would just laugh about it, personally. I find that using physical force to control someone is repudiable behavior and defective by mechanism. Furthermore, striking someone has uncontrollable effects. For instance, my older brother is one of the most imposing people anyone will ever see and always has been by appearance alone. After my father died, my life was subject to no authority but my brother. Anyway, my brother had never struck me violently; but had overpowered me on many occasions (one time he smashed open my bedroom door with his fist (literally) and grabbed me by the neck, crushed me into the corner, cocked back his fist, and I could see that he was holding back from ruining my day/week/month with his seemingly giant fist). He didn’t hit me. But it was effective, I tell you–to feel utter helplessness then mercy. Now, perhaps this has something to do with a complex between older and younger brother; but just by experiencing the disparity between our strengths I have never sought to transgress my brother’s authority; whereas, if he had ever hit me violently, which is a wanton act if you are a strong man (as he was by the time he was 13/14), I’m not sure his authority would have persisted or garnered as much respect as it still holds. If you hit someone to impose control, all you do is hurt them; show them that their safety is not your concern; and display your rage at an inability to control them by rhetoric–my point. It won’t work for children; it won’t work for women; it won’t work for the younger brother. Rather, it will instill in them an oppositionally defiant attitude based on resentment; and since being hit really isn’t that bad (unless you make it “that bad,” which is ridiculous), they will continue whatever behaviors thinking there is nothing left to fear. Instead of hitting those who you believe should be subject to your control, then, overpower them and show them what could happen; show them what you’re controlling yourself from doing; and if the person is relatively intelligent, it should affect them. After all, if it is fear that you’re after, it is best established through mystery.

All that aside, if you run the risk of being hit by a woman, you need to visit a boxing clinic or something. Maybe I’m just a bit more gifted with hand-eye-coordination than most, but you should be able to catch that bitch by the wrist or move your damn head or something.

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PS. and just for the record, I am no racist, I mentioned black guys from the ghettos because the ones I saw sure don’t look like pushovers, whether they deal drugs or not

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What an epic clown this writer is. And his brain-dead readers. Just because you don’t see women walking around with bruised faces doesn’t mean domestic abuse doesn’t happen in countries like Ukraine. You know there’s been actual studies done on this right? With representative sampling and longitudinal scope? These studies have shown that 44% percent of Ukrainians suffered from domestic violence in their lives. Here’s the link: http://www.undp.org.ua/en/media/41-democratic-governance/915-ten-unknown-facts-about-domestic-violence-in-ukraine-a-joint-euundp-project-releases-new-poll-results

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From the link you cited: “Domestic violence – whether physical, economic, sexual or psychological – is one of the most serious violations of human rights, the right to life and physical/psychological inviolability.”

‘Psychological’ and ‘economic’ domestic violence? GTFO.

Also, “44% of Ukrainians includes men” — not that it matters, since their definition of ‘violence’ is fucked.

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The domestic violence hysteria is a hoax to feed the domestic violence industrial complex.

Just follow the money.

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Crime is down significantly in Canada. People no longer believe in the war on drugs. The universities have created an industry of women who work for non-profits advocating for other women, usually it has to do with domestic violence. We have thousands of Women’s Studies graduates in Ontario in particular who have created jobs for themselves advocating for women. They work in cahoots with police and the CAS (Children’s Aid Society) to set a false status quo so the woman gets an easy ride in the divorce proceedings, gets sole custody and/or becomes the custodial parent, exclusive possession of the home, etc. The lawyers, particularly the crowns and judges all whom profit from this. Police feel they are doing good work in putting bad guys away in jail and charging them, they feel they look good in the public eye for doing this. They don’t ask the husband what happened, they charge him, let him rot in a holding cell sometimes for days awaiting bail. And bail no matter what you think is not easy to get. These men then have to fight to get it, they are almost presumed guilty and violent unless they can prove otherwise!

No politician is going to speak up about how badly men are being treated when it comes to allegations of domestic assault, the police do not play judge on whether to lay a charge, if an accusation is made the charge is laid.

The pendulum has swung so far in favour of women who are looking for an easier way out of their marriage without their home being sold, losing 50% of custody of their children, losing 50% of the money the household generates. So what do they do, they play the system. This is happening all too often.

Family courts and Criminal Courts need to make the process fair for men, right now it isn’t anywhere close to it.

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Lisa – so you really believe that 44% of Ukrainian women are or have been abused? Really?? You’ve got to be joking.

In your fantasy world I can only assume that men, as the terrible creatures they are, are the only abusers, correct? While women are these wonderful people that never would think of trying to even manipulate or mentally harm another man or person, let alone hit them.

What say you Lisa?

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Whoah…. slamming on progressives? Dude, that’s awesome!

“Progressives, through their tinkering, are introducing disincentives that destroy even basic relationships instead of stabilizing them. Their policies have helped create men such as myself, who see absolutely no incentive to pursue a relationship in a country where I can go to jail and be robbed blind from a failed relationship or from a woman lying about how I treat her.”

My advice: Never date a progressive, EVER.

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Today I learned that the EU-commies intend to install a law which penalizes simple criticism of feminism like – hold your breath – aggravated assault.

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Lisa, I am a victim of the system in Ontario. My wife had an affair, I ended up in jail. Her accusations were made up, I can’t believe the things she said. She was never much of a liar but her desperation to leave me and the fact that I would not ‘hit’ out at her despite the fact that she taunted and hit me with a hammer, etc. The police did not want to hear my side of things, said they had ‘everything they needed’. It was up to me to get bail, it was a gruelling process. It took 10 months to get a trial and the judge realized that she was using the criminal justice system to set a false status quo. In other words: get exclusive possession of the home, be the custodial parent and I would lose any decision making rights about our children, have me out, make me pay up all so she continue can her affair with her new friend. On top of this she ordered a gag order so I could not tell her lover’s wife and a restraining order on top of that even after the judge found me not guilty! Even after being found not guilty a woman can easily ask for a restraining order and get it, the bar is set very low for this so they almost always get it. Now it’s been a couple of years, I still rarely see my kids, because of the false status quo she got exclusive possession of the home, bought me out at a price that was undervalued and used all of my personal savings, investments before we got married to do this. In other words, while I languished in jail, she pulled all my investments AND froze our accounts, credit cards, lines of credits and other investments so to this day I have access to none of it!! The judges simply don’t care! I’m paying through the nose now, I live in a basement apartment, my wife lives in our home with our two children and her lover comes over regularly. I can’t even tell his wife! If I do, I get arrested since it’s called ‘harrassment’ according to the police!

I went to my daughter’s school soon after getting out of jail, my school administrators would not let me talk to them to ask about the kids! I lost my rights as a parent to even ask about my children, about their grades, who their teachers were. My wife found out through the principle that I was at the school, called the police, they threw me in the back of the cruiser and threatened to charge me! Thing is, what I was doing was completely within my right as a parent! Then to make things worse, my wife had a police car escort her to and from the school for the next month to pick up the kids! I can not believe the system. I love my children and want to be a normal parent. With my wife using restraining orders and every tool in the book that judges are granting and the police go along with, I am losing my mind.

Marriage is a bad choice for men in Canada unfortunately. I feel the Women’s Groups have lobbied and done a great job on behalf of women who want to take advantage of the criminal justice system to set false status quos.

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You fail to mention how law enforcement officers are also adding to the problem by ALWAYS arresting the man even if a woman admits fault. Even lieing in reports,exaggerating statements and with holding evidence or statements made by the woman.
Then if a woman tries to explain that the report isn’t accurate the woman is called a liar and told to seek help.
This is my current life and it’s a horrible place.