There Are No Rules

The biggest problem I see in men is that they needlessly limit themselves with arbitrary constraints, waiting for someone with courage to attempt what they want to see if the coast is clear or if it “works” or not. You have a lot of men who sit on their ass, waiting for proof of concept, scared to task a risk without a guarantee of a big reward.

“You can’t make money self-publishing. It’s for amateur writers only.”

While one man spends five years getting rejected by agents and publishers, wasting money attending writing conferences, another man breaks the rules by producing books on his own, getting them on top-selling lists on Amazon. One sought to be approved by the gatekeepers while the other took the plunge on his own dime.

“It’s too hard to live abroad. I will continue living in this expensive American city and hopefully travel when I retire early at 45.”

While one man wastes the prime of his life in a job he hates for a future that may never come, another man is making a fraction of his income in internet marketing or English teaching, but still able to travel modestly, have extra time for leisure, and sleep with women who weigh less than himself.

“Game doesn’t work. Only rich guys who are good looking get to experience sex with attractive women. No one is really having sex anymore.”

While one man masturbates on game denialist forums, another man who is short and average-looking with minimal means is approaching girls in the coffee shop, the mall, and the bar to get a varied sex life than men of a generation before him did not.

You can’t approach a girl in a women’s store. You can’t borrow a friend’s dog to use as a prop to approach women. You’re too young to make a lot of money or travel. You’re not experienced enough to start an authority blog. One man lets these doubts prevent him from action while another man uses them to challenge himself into being successful.

No one is giving you homework. No one is forcing you to create something, do approaches, or take risks. No one will punish you if you decide to do nothing, or simply do just enough to have an average existence where you vicariously live through men who are no more skilled or intelligent than you are.

At the same time, no one is telling you what you can’t do. There are some laws that can limit how to make money, but it can’t stop you from going to places where laws either don’t exist or can be lubricated with bribery. Even if you want to start a cocaine empire, there are places in the world where you can apply your intellect and balls to get away with it. The only limitation is what you imagine.

Man has never lived in a time where there are so many countries that give him more freedom of behavior than at any other time in the world. Right now you can start an internet business without need for a permit. You can approach 100 women and get laid, today, not tomorrow, not next year, but right now. Even in the police states of American and England, you’ve never had more mobility and more information to create your own lifestyle, as if you were at an all-you-can-eat buffet. A spoon of sex with Latinas combined with a hunk of internet money and a dash of waking up at noon. Don’t forget the dessert of having big muscles. Whatever you dream can be yours, and all it requires is for you to take the risk and work at it.

It pains me to see men apply self-imposed limits on their own behavior, limits that even their own governments haven’t placed. Instead of breaking the rules in an era where rule breaking is greatly rewarded, they’ve voluntarily walked into a jail of their own making to be shackled and constrained.

I spit on your decision to protect yourself from failure. I spit on your imaginary limitations. Let the market decide if your risk is worth value. Let a woman decide upon your approach if you’re worth having intimacy with her. All you should think about is how to get what you want and how to begin working. Take the risk and begin to work. Break the rules that your mind tries to set upon you and then reap the rewards.

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Gavin Madden
7 years ago

If it’s not you putting limits on what you ‘think’ is possible, it’s the people around you who don’t have the guts to think outside the box. If this is your current situation it’s time to surround yourself with people with a positive vision that aligns with your own.

Jim
Jim
7 years ago

Motto to live by:

Fuck it.

John Rambo
John Rambo
7 years ago

Yea man, THINK OUTSIDE OF THE BOX. The only limit is that which you create for yourself.

John Rambo
John Rambo
7 years ago

Yea man, THINK OUTSIDE OF THE BOX. The only limit is that which you create for yourself.

But hell, why stop just in terms of game and girls? Why not aim for the highest goal, spiritual enlightenment?

Senior Beta
Senior Beta
7 years ago

Now that is a cup of piss and vinegar to wake up to.

adiaforon
7 years ago

Usually, it takes some time to become aware of what one’s self-imposed limitations are. Deprogramming must commence before the self can be built up again.

Otherwise, yes, most of what we suffer through in life are self-imposed limitations. Those and what others impose on us.

BigOldLongHugeGreatMassiveGrandeMuchoSuperSkyhighDickBillyBob
BigOldLongHugeGreatMassiveGrandeMuchoSuperSkyhighDickBillyBob
7 years ago

amazing how highly successful individuals and entrepreneurs think alike.

Raul Felix
7 years ago

Awesome. You miss every single shot you don’t take. I’m single again after being in a LTR with an 8. She was an awesome girl, but it just didn’t work it. Now I’m on a mission to find a new one. I’m taking heed of your advice. Thanks Roosh.

NieceFucker
NieceFucker
7 years ago

Rooooosh, what is your opinion on approaching girls with their moms (no pedo)

Inside UoM
7 years ago

Nothing holds you back more than yourself!

Sam Spade
Sam Spade
7 years ago

Great stuff!

The Batman
The Batman
7 years ago

It’s one thing to know that there’s nothing holding you back and it’s another to truly live with that mindset. That statement in itself is beta and is what’s holding me back it seems, but there’s always the idea that I need more knowledge that keeps coming back, stopping experience from happening. Advice taken, added to my own, but still, too much thinking is happening with too little action.

Rambo’s right, why stop at girls, spiritual enlightenment is a wonderful goal, but to achieve it can make living with the world a difficult task. A man seeking enlightenment will find many people living in the darkness, and that shit gets annoying, especially if you’re in the darkness yourself. Lofty goals yield great results, and let your little failures along the way be nothing but lessons and motivation to never make them again.

peter
peter
7 years ago

im gay and mexican is it wrong?

LaM
LaM
7 years ago

Don’t fall for this guys.
It looks damn good on paper but real life will crush your dreams. Roosh makes it sound like creating an internet business in marketing (lol) is a piece of cake.

It is not, it requires skills, skills you need to acquire. You need to find your niche first, and guess what, you won’t be able to capitalize on many niches. That’s the harsh cold truth.

Roosh capitalized on his niche, good for him. Now he is stuck in this niche, the only other legit option would be teaching English, yet English teachers don’t make good money, wherever they are.
Don’t take advice from a guy who looks up to a younger man who can afford bottle service.
You need to develop skills you can rely on and are valuable to society.

Moses
Moses
7 years ago

@14 Peddle your doom and gloom elsewhere, mate.

Vincent Vinturi
7 years ago

Amen Roosh.

What is life but a big playground? If it wasn’t, why would we even be here?

“No, you’ve got to do X, Y and Z!” but the only thing you really HAVE to do is die. And the grand irony is that only the ALIVE man who lives following HIS heart, has no fear of death.

The barely-living man who goes on repeating his mundane, predictable routine day in and day out is terribly scared of death (and everything else). Strange …here is a man barely breathing, with nothing much to lose, yet death terrifies him..

But a real man who lives and speaks his truth and goes courageously into the unknown every day, who faces the reaper with each moment existence gives him – he has no fear of death.

The unalive man even misses his own death – a beautiful moment – because he’s trying to escape it. He’s been told that death is bad, sad, morbid. It’s a ‘rule’, a ‘limitation’ he’s accepted. But he’s really just an escapist.

A real man, who goes boldly into each unpredictable moment, welcomes even death when it comes. He’s there for it, he’s present. There are no RULES to tell him he can’t enjoy his last breaths. There are no rules. So he goes out smiling.

Made Men
7 years ago

You are free as soon as you recognize that you are.

It sounds like pablum, e.g. “what you believe, you can achieve!” but there is truth to it. The only shackles that exist, the only thing constraining your actions is a cell that you constructed, bit by bit over the course of years and seconds.

Looking down at your wrists, you see that the fetters were never locked. Now if you accept that you are, and have always been free to act, the question is:

“Where does challenge exist?”

And the answer is, in seeing through the illusions your own mind constructed.

William
7 years ago

True. You can do a lot of these things. But the key is how you prioritize and focus.

But, you’re point is valid…. F the rules. I’m beginning to think you can get farther in life by doing the exact opposite of whatever who gives you rules says. If somebody says “you can’t do that” or “even I can’t do that”… go TRY it and see if they are right or wrong. Only after trying it will you know for sure (and even if they are right and you don’t prove them wrong… you’ll probably learn a lot more in the process than they did from just sitting around saying “you can’t.”

I know its not a movie often quoted in game blogs – but it reminds me of the scene in Love & Basketball, when Q was a kid and he said, “I can’t do this shit!”
And his Dad responds, “what’d I tell you about using that word son?”
Son: “Can’t should never be in a man’s vocabulary.”

Tampa
Tampa
7 years ago

You can do whatever the fuck you want. It really is try.

Actually a better statemetn is….”As long as you stay debt free, you can TRY to do whatever the fuck you want, and nobody will stop you, and nobody will really care. Success depends on how hard you try.”

Honestly. I have a good paying job. No ball in chain to hold me down. I got money in my pocket and a roof over my head. All and all, i’m pretty happy. It would be nice to have a nice piece of ass to plow on a reg basis, but honestly….most of the women are meet are just plain awful. No matter how how they are.

I’m pretty content right now. I’m sure that will change in the future, but for now, i’m pretty happy sitting on my ass and doing nothing.

Live and let live baby.

Berria
Berria
7 years ago

Great post. There are no excuses.

anon
anon
7 years ago

“Don’t fall for this guys.
It looks damn good on paper but real life will crush your dreams. Roosh makes it sound like creating an internet business in marketing (lol) is a piece of cake.”

I can attest to this. Look, there’s a lot to be said for what Roosh has written here, but LaM is right on the money in this respect. Launching a successful, longterm internet marketing business, whether as an affiliate or as a product owner, is the toughest thing you’ll ever do.

Most of you who try this will fail miserably, wasting time and money and getting nothing out of it. Some of you will manage to earn a bit of beer money, but nowhere near enough to carve out a comfortable living, even in a poor country. Fewer of you still will be moderately successful, but will quickly learn the difference between making $100 IN A day, and making $100 PER day – with all the stress that entails. And maybe one in a thousand will actually succeed at creating a stable, longterm living from this.

And unfortunately, it is getting increasingly difficult.

Go ahead and label this negative doom-and-gloom. Go out there and try. But don’t say you weren’t warned.

Jordan
Jordan
7 years ago

Great Post! Thought Provoking and inspirational…

Ninja man
Ninja man
7 years ago

I’ve pasted this YouTube vid before and feel its more than complimentary to Rooshs post.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=rKLlqUTUJ9M&feature

I agree, nothing beats failure but a try. I’ve put my neck on the line with various investments that have paid off, I only believe in calculated risk not out and out rolling the dice stuff, that’s gambling. I think Roosh is experiencing what i am right now which is, if I can do it, any one can do it and I want people to know this so they can improve their happiness. You need to have that burning desire to achieve though, it ain’t a walk in the park, but it’s more enjoyable than slaving away for someone else, whether they’re a good boss or not.

Great, post.

iwjan
iwjan
7 years ago

A timely post, in regards to where I’m at in my own life right now.

I appreciate the reminder to not be so quick to disqualify alternative options that “would never work” according to those around me (and sometimes myself).