This Is My City

I’ve lived outside of America for a little over four years now (52 months to be exact), with no real purpose except to have sex with women and enjoy life. As my travels progressed, I became more confused instead of less on what type of city I eventually want to settle in. Only lately has the picture become clearer to me, and this happened not only by living in different types of cities and trying different languages, but by putting myself in different situations, just to see how my organism would react. Finally, at the age of 34, I have a firm grasp of the city I want. It should contain these seven qualities:

1. Medium-sized with a dense urban core and a population between 0.75 – 1.5 million people.

It should be walkable enough that I should rarely have to take a taxi or public transportation, but large enough to have a variety of cafe, nightlife, and female options.

2. A majority population that is conversational in English.

I have been the first to learn a country’s language, and while I appreciate the intellectual rewards from it, I prefer it as a side hobby than a daily requirement. I want to primarily speak in English with the women I fornicate with.

3. A comfortable apartment.

I don’t want rugged lodgings. I must have a desk, comfortable work chair, couch, coffee table, and television with an HDMI connection to my laptop for movie viewing. I spend a lot time at home so it it must be a place I look forward to relaxing in.

4. Nightlife with at least one ladies night a week.

Nightlife is becoming less important to me, but at least once a week I want to enter a club where the ratio is at least three girls for every guy. Anything less and I can’t be bothered unless ravenously horny.

5. Ability to get a one-night stand once every four times going out.

I don’t mind dating, but there has to be a good chance of the ONS. If I wake up horny as hell, I want to know I can get laid that night from a fresh prospect who had no idea she was about to get railed by a hirsute man.

6. Presence of possible wingmen.

I have a better time in cities where I hang out with other Westerners, not just to hunt women but to have philosophical discussions about life. I have found it close to impossible to make European friends due to huge ideological and cultural differences, so the city should have a handful of Western expats that I can connect with.

7. White girls with big butts.

While I don’t mind dating Latinas, my preference is for girls who have skin equal or lighter in color than mine. For whatever reason, my boner responds strongly to them.

There are two factors which are decreasing in importance for me:

1. Easiness right out of the box.

I don’t need for girls to approach me or think I’m the ideal man. It’s okay if it takes me some time to get the oven pre-heated and find a decent girl or two that I can spend time with.

2. Potential for deep connection.

For the longest time I thought that my journeys were training me to find “the one,” a girl who I would keep forever, but I stumbled upon her two (maybe three) times and let them all go. I’ve had to accept that I’m an anomaly in not wanting a serious relationship with a great girl. Instead, I want mini-relationships of two months in length with feminine women. They are to be given back to the dating pool if I become bored. Therefore, I don’t need perfect emotional compatibility or women who are trained to be excellent wives and homemakers. I want them to merely look nice, laugh at my jokes, and pleasure me in bed.

There are four countries I’ve been to which would please me most: Poland, Ukraine, Croatia, and Lithuania. I experienced great pleasures in South America and Estonia, but besides some brief future travel in random places of the world, I think I know where I will eventually settle.

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84 Comments

  1. HansDampf November 20, 2013 at 9:24 am

    “Nightlife is becoming less important to me, but at least once a week I
    want to enter a club where the ratio is at least three girls for every
    guy.”

    Are you serious? Where in hell have you seen a venue like that? Best I’ve seen (in different countries in Europe, east and west) were clubs that could hold a 50/50 ratio for the first two hours of the night (then rapid decline)…. not to mention bars

    1. Roosh_V November 20, 2013 at 10:25 am

      I’ve experienced such ratios in Poland, Estonia, Ukraine, and Lithuania. You usually have to find the “ladies night” specials. It’s not for the entire night, mind you, but for an hour or two stretch.

      1. bojangles November 20, 2013 at 10:25 am

        those are great, i enjoyed them in Poland, maybe Wroclaw?

      2. Roosh_V November 20, 2013 at 12:34 pm

        Wroclaw doesn’t have a ladies night. Unfortunately I am not satisfied with the nightlife ratio. I’ll have more to say about this in the future.

      3. Romeo_is_real November 20, 2013 at 12:50 pm

        I’m heading to Wroclaw Friday night. I really like that place. Poznan fits the bill then?

      4. Roosh_V November 20, 2013 at 1:57 pm

        Wroclaw and Poznan balances each other pretty well. You’ll have to try both then decide.

      5. Romeo_is_real November 20, 2013 at 2:28 pm

        I’ll have to dust down your city guides before I go then.
        Dzieki – for all your good work Roosh.

      6. Pluto Endo Slow Roll November 20, 2013 at 8:50 pm

        Roosh-
        Is flying out of JFK to Berlin and then going Euro rail or bus the cheapest way to insert deeply into Eastern Europe?

      7. xhamster November 20, 2013 at 11:02 pm

        Only one city fits the bill: Montreal

      8. Leruex November 20, 2013 at 8:47 pm

        Hey player-
        What about Budapest, Prague, Brno, Pecs, etc? If you look at all the hot
        Models
        From cz and Hungary those places seem well up there for being poon wonderland? Do you like CZ or Hungary for game?

      9. jjj November 20, 2013 at 10:04 pm

        hahhy you meant porn stars not models

      10. Leroy Wu Bubba Hednandez November 21, 2013 at 1:21 am

        Lol
        Either way- what group of females has more
        Natural, raw sex appeal than Czechs or Hungarians. I live Polish too- the ones I’ve met are the girl next door with a sexy accent you want to run some stiff rebar through.

      11. An Ozzie in London November 26, 2013 at 6:35 pm

        Iranians are not ‘white’ you look like a Kurdish/Lebanese Kebab shop guy. Where I’m from you would not be classed as white. Stop deluding yourself.

    2. Daniel November 20, 2013 at 12:04 pm

      In many clubs in eastern Europe, mostly on week-days (forget the weekends) you have an even better ratio (can be 5 to 1) in a window that normally goes, more or less, from 11pm to 12.30am.

  2. playmuc November 20, 2013 at 9:46 am

    Hamburg. 😉

    1. Teedub November 20, 2013 at 3:19 pm

      I love Hamburg, but it blatantly doesn’t compare with cities in countries further East.

      1. tripleg November 20, 2013 at 10:56 pm

        Roosh, it’s funny you mentioned “1. Medium-sized with a dense urban core and a population between 0.75 – 1.5 million people.” as that would automatically exclude Lithuania and Croatia since they don’t have cities that large, unless you are talking about the whole metro area of say Vilnius or Zagreb.

  3. BB753 November 20, 2013 at 10:19 am

    Yeah, 3 girls for every guy is a war-time ratio, maybe attained during WWII in NY City.

    1. Yeah, really! September 23, 2015 at 11:50 am

      So, perhaps WWIII would be a good thing?

  4. Ryan November 20, 2013 at 10:43 am

    I agree wholeheartedly with these points. I would add the condition that the city must be relatively cheap to live in though (compared to US / EU standards). Very important, because it is not merely an economical factor; cheaper places usually also come with more character, and women in these places are (again, usually) not very spoiled. I agree on Poland, Lithuania, Ukraine and Croatia; and besides that, I consider especially these cities perfect for this kind of vocation (in Eastern Europe): Kharkiv, Lviv in Ukraine (heard good stories on Dnjepropretrovsk as well); Chisinau in Moldova, Bucharest and maybe even Cluj in Romania, Skopje in Macedonia, Novi Sad (small student town) & of course Belgrade in Serbia. I would avoid Sofia (although it is easy pickup, I find Bulgarians awkwardly depressing), Budapest (beautiful, but overcrowded with internationals), Sarajevo (same) and most of the coastal places, as they are dead in winter, and too touristy in summer.

  5. thecaptainpower November 20, 2013 at 11:10 am

    I like a town that has a major college….

  6. awakened November 20, 2013 at 11:15 am

    How much would it cost is to live in a non-eu eastern european city like Belgrade, Sofia, Kiev?

    I’m just talking apartment, utilities, food, i.e. the basics? I have read $1000/month USD is sufficient.

    1. Ryan November 20, 2013 at 11:28 am

      If you would live there longer than one or two months as an expat, I’d say 800 euro’s p/m is enough ($1000 indeed). €250-350 for rent leaves you with about €15, 20$ per day. You can live very decently on that in Eastern Europe (it’s 2-3 times as much as the locals earn). However, If you are anywhere in the €1500 range, it’d get much better because you will be able to afford nearly anything you want.

      1. awakened November 20, 2013 at 12:12 pm

        Thanks. My pension is not going to pay crap by American standards but it looks like I can live very well in eastern Europe. I’m not just trying to stretch money. I despise the current culture in America and for that reason alone I am exploring my options. Being able to live well on my meager pension is a bonus.

      2. Deandre Ray Jed Lu Sanchez November 21, 2013 at 4:49 am

        Very cool way to retire. Chasing Slavic dolls and sleeping in every day- that’s living!

      3. anonymoud November 23, 2013 at 4:59 am

        Be sure to look at the RooshVForum website. People have started threads in the Travel section for individual cities, and discuss how to get the most value for your money

    2. MikeT November 22, 2013 at 12:57 pm

      I’ve been living in Sofia since March this year (Bulgaria is an EU country by the way, but the cheapest and poorest).
      I pay €350 for my furnished apartment (not in the center, but you don’t necessarily have to pay more in the center). With a little luck you may be able to find something as low as €250 with modern furniture and appliances.

      Utilities are very cheap compared to where I came from (the, on this blog, very popular Denmark ;)). On average I’ve paid around €15 for electricity per month, less for water.
      I’m paying €20 for 50 Mbit Internet (stable as a rock) and 150+ TV channels.

      Food and drink – both in supermarkets and restaurants – is very cheap here compared to Denmark, and I think much of Western Europe in general. But I don’t know how it compares to the US where a lot of things a cheaper than in Europe. I think you’ll find things like electronics for instance (pretty much the exact same prices here in Bulgaria as in Western Europe) will be rather overpriced compared to the US.

  7. dj November 20, 2013 at 11:19 am

    Roosh,

    Southern Brazil, Argentina and Eastern Europe have plenty of white girls with big butts. My preference as well.

  8. PM Siesta November 20, 2013 at 11:25 am

    Great list, Roosh. I value very similar qualities, right down to the white girls with big butts. I recommend Vienna…

  9. Tom Dane November 20, 2013 at 11:33 am

    “I want to enter a club where the ratio is at least three girls for every guy. Anything less and I can’t be bothered

    Come to Copenhagen again, the Worlds Sausage Party Capitol.

    1. TRr November 20, 2013 at 12:30 pm

      Id trade you Copenhagen for toronto any day of the week

      1. Tom Dane November 20, 2013 at 2:00 pm

        Really ? didnt hear many favorable things about TO…must be bad.

      2. Eman November 21, 2013 at 4:45 am

        One of the baddest bitches I ever saw in my life was
        Danish- red hair, c cups, dainty, pale, you g,fresh. Imagine a prettier Lindsay Loha. From her movie Mean Girls with a porn star build. That’s what I call a 10!

  10. Web November 20, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    Two humble suggestions: Munich (great standard, very expensive) and Prague (beautiful city, nice girls, variety of clubs)

    1. Romeo_is_real November 20, 2013 at 2:25 pm

      I echo Munich, Great city, ultra-safe, very friendly helpful people. Women very open to foreigners. And don’t forget Augustiner Beer. Just don’t go at Octoberfest time – serious sausagefest with loud & annoying Aussies everywhere.

      1. Kim du Toit November 22, 2013 at 9:07 pm

        “serious sausagefest with loud & annoying Aussies everywhere.”
        The “loud and annoying” part is redundant.

    2. Joe November 21, 2013 at 2:50 pm

      I agree. German girls
      are incredible. I don’t know why Roosh doesn’t try Munich or Hamburg. Many German girls are really thin and petite the 5′-10 built like a draft horse Scandinavian is not as attractive to me. I like blonde but only like 5’3-5’8 and petite or small. Am I the only one who can’t get into super tall girls?

      1. anonymous November 23, 2013 at 4:57 am

        Based on what Roosh has said before, he probably finds German women to be too westernized, masculine, and uncaring. Also, life there is probably far too expensive, and Americans are not a novelty that draws local attention.

  11. EL_VERGAMAX November 20, 2013 at 1:12 pm

    Belgrade, Serbia has every item on this post except for the English speaking thing.

  12. mocha November 20, 2013 at 1:22 pm

    “my preference is for girls who have skin equal or lighter in color than mine. For whatever reason, my boner responds strongly to them.”

    you and I both. Thats apparently an evolutionary thing for men to perfer lighter skin in the fairer sex.(and women I assume wank darker)

  13. redman November 20, 2013 at 1:24 pm

    what does Romania lack?

  14. Amigo bro November 20, 2013 at 1:48 pm

    Warsaw in the summer, Barcelona in the winter. Hard to beat that combo. Well, if you have cash$ and superstrong game NYC-Miami is probably better.

  15. Fuckchicks November 20, 2013 at 2:06 pm

    I would like to work as a bartender or any job, live in some room and fuck nice girls

  16. fadsjio November 20, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    That mostly sounds like montreal to me then.

  17. slamthevaj November 20, 2013 at 2:27 pm

    Dublin

    1. MeHole November 20, 2013 at 6:30 pm

      Worst city to choose. Urban sprawl, no decent transport links, women are terrible, full of heroin addicts and uncultured locals.

  18. Teedub November 20, 2013 at 3:13 pm

    “I have found it close to impossible to make European friends due to huge ideological and cultural differences, so the city should have a handful of Western expats that I can connect with.” – Do you mean only Americans, as Brits are Europeans too?

    1. Roosh_V November 20, 2013 at 5:41 pm

      Brits and Ozzies are cool.

  19. conaisseur November 20, 2013 at 4:35 pm

    If a city has to “enough that someone should rarely have to take a taxi or public trasportation, but large enough to have a variety of cafe, nightlife, and female options” I think you are rather talking about a city of 500 000 – 750 000 people.

  20. Ronin November 20, 2013 at 8:11 pm

    I don’t think any million+ sized city is walkable

    1. anonymous November 23, 2013 at 5:05 am

      You can certainly have select neighborhoods of a large, 1MM population city that are walkable

  21. Pregunta para Senior Vorek November 20, 2013 at 8:26 pm

    1- what’s the difference between girls in Eastern and Western Poland?

    I like white, pale
    Featured, petite, dainty girls
    With perky tits, and tight cute asses- where in EasternmEurope is best para mi?
    Tambien-
    What are some websites the Bang bloggers can pre pipeline in Eastern Europe that don’t suck ass?

  22. Joesters November 20, 2013 at 8:44 pm

    How do you plan to live in any of these countries when you’re an illegal alien now on the Interpol list of Schegen stay violators, and every police department in every country you mentioned has been notified?

    1. Koshernostra Owns It All and U November 21, 2013 at 5:02 am

      Look its Mr. Narc.

      Remember boys and girls always trust the system they do all these nice pretty things only for your good because they love and care for you. Who needs family, community, Church, civi organizations, or other traditions that have served Western man for Cenuries? I like a good screwing from socialist social engineer Zionist khazars like all the pretty people in the west. A reeducation camp or forced labor camp is the Apple pie
      Dream my
      Children.

    2. anonymous November 23, 2013 at 5:03 am

      Oooh is the poor wittle White Nationalist concerned about Roosh barebacking his darling little blonde Ukrainian princesses?

  23. BrisbaneGirl November 20, 2013 at 8:51 pm

    Brisbane, Australia!

  24. Lerondelljabari Muhameedraybo November 20, 2013 at 9:05 pm

    Do you want to expat or will you bounce back and forth to ConUS to retain Amuricastan citizenship?
    Pps- you should game San Diego or Orange County. Like G Manifesto I say in America SoCal and Miami have the flyest hos. Although I’ve met several native Californians in my
    Travels who all say NorCal Chico State is the bomb for party’s and fly girl next door types. Dainty, pasty, with style- that’s a box that fits for me.

    1. Commander_Chico November 26, 2013 at 11:55 pm

      If you’re a US citizen, you don’t have to “bounce back and forth” to retain US citizenship.

  25. SD November 21, 2013 at 12:43 am

    San Diego, full of college girls and tourists, can go white or brown, english or spanish

    1. zphyer6 November 21, 2013 at 1:23 am

      Also full of military guys. There’s a reason it’s nicknamed Man Diego.

      1. anonymous November 23, 2013 at 5:01 am

        …Which is a nickname ripped-off from “Man Jose” (San Jose), where the ratio is truly bad.

        San Diego does have some neighborhoods that are full of Jarheads and sailors, but generally the ratio is okay, even in Gaslamp and Pacific Beach

  26. euneaux November 21, 2013 at 1:09 am

    Was living in several major European metropoles… would always joke that in the town there 3 and a half million things I have no interest in which only get in the way of the perhaps a thousand things I might like. Furthermore the seductions of big city life and turbo-capitalism infect young people with a kind of sickness… a restlessness that can’t be satisfied which cause genuine family and community ties to wither.

    If I ever do discover my paradise… and maybe I have already…, I’ll be damned if I tell all you bastards. Do I really want a bunch of horny hairy Yanks like you lot coming and corrupting my future daughters? Sorry guys, as much as it might be interesting to sit down and enjoy a a chat and a beer with you (and Dr. Roosh), I don’t really think we really want each other for “wingmen.”

    Sometimes I suspect that as candid and helpful as Roosh might be, he might also also be holding back about the true gems.

  27. Really November 21, 2013 at 1:34 am

    Why are all non-whites going for white chicks?Is there an evolutionary explanation?Why isnt Roosh for eg attracted to people from his own “race”?Why Europeans?

    1. Octavia's Jamari Velasquez November 21, 2013 at 4:55 am

      From my anthropology readings Persians are considered Aryan Mr. Gobbells or is it Mr. Himmler?
      I’m Spanish like Spain and Columbus and the Missions that settled the best real estate in the World aka California but you probablly think I’m “one of them thar wetbacks that swum ovar tab Murica and eats tawcos, jumps a round whole lot and uh talks right quick like boy”.

      1. Really November 21, 2013 at 1:10 pm

        I’m from Europe so no,I dont think that.You are from Spain which is in Europe which means if you are Spanish then you are white.Iran and Turkey are not in europe which means Roosh is not European or of European descent which means hes not white.Easy.Hes different from us and thus I wonder what causes his attraction towards Europeans but not his own kind.

      2. Rod November 22, 2013 at 9:08 am

        Columbus was Italian.

  28. seductionsextravel November 21, 2013 at 4:06 am

    I totally agree with you on the point you made about deep connections. I am also not interested in relationships that go forever. I think many men get stuck in that mindset that there has to be the “perfect woman” out there. Perfection doesn’t exist in life in general and in women in particular.

    I would define the types of relationships I search for as exactly those mini relationships. You have the benefit of all the beautiful feelings in the beginning and you don’t drag the relationship to a point where you don’t come along with each other anymore (like in a typical marriage after a few years).

    For me personally Poland would be my first choice up to now. But I still have to see a lot of the world before I could make a decision on that.

  29. Shenpen November 21, 2013 at 4:22 am

    Vienna, Austria, reporting in. Basically all of the conditions are true although the butt sizes vary. Very good apartment building programs, subsidized as long as you earn below like €60-70K a year. But those are typically not in the city center, city center buildings are old because tradition, heritage etc. etc. so you have to take the subway or live in an old apartment.

    Nightlife example:

    http://floridita.at/fotogalerie/galerie_ubersicht.php

    Downsides: people are just boring. I cannot explain it better. Just… no vibe in them, no risk-taking, no explosive fun.

    1. AWEboss November 21, 2013 at 2:30 pm

      Agree with Shenpen. I’m not from Vienna, but I lived there for 7 months, some years ago. I think it mostly checks out the criteria Roosh listed.

      I also agree that most Austrians are quite boring, but there are many expats there (mostly from Europe, but also beyond).

      1. JR November 22, 2013 at 9:57 pm

        A lot of times intelligent peoe are boring. If you want to act like a passionately mad freak and club all night to to Miami and hang with the Cubans- they are some bad mofos who can drink and dance anyone under the table. Person nothing turns me on more than a thin, intelligent, dainty Bavarian woman. I live them with a u yielding passion. Bavarian girls are the best- the Gis in WW2 were in poo wonderland- all the horny blonde German girls-they were in Heaven.

  30. Tom Dane November 21, 2013 at 5:03 am

    Almost everything on this checklist applies to Copenhagen. This just shows you that it if the most important thing is missing (sweet feminine girls) the rest of the list doesnt really matter.

  31. Calwinston November 21, 2013 at 8:29 am

    Even though you haven’t ventured into Russia. I think Saint Petersburg, Russia is the perfect place for you. It checks everything off your list except that it is a large city. Also it has a more western European feel.

  32. Kevinjames November 23, 2013 at 2:00 am

    Montreal. Atlanta. San Diego. Actually forget it. Get married to good girl, have a couple of kids, divorce in 10-12 years, chicks and buds one weekend, kids and humanity other weekend. Try it. Awesome life.

    1. anonymous November 23, 2013 at 5:04 am

      How’s your frivorce-theft alimony and child support payments going?

  33. Kate November 23, 2013 at 11:48 am

    Can’t help but note your “one” is not a girl but a city. I think you’ll find “stationary” game to be a different ball of wax than life as a rolling stone. Whether its a quest for the perfect place or person, just remember these external factors are less important than what you carry within you.

  34. Kizman November 25, 2013 at 5:11 am

    Does anyone know a good place/country a half white/black man like myself could go to pick up girls?

    1. shmiggen November 29, 2013 at 2:37 pm

      dominican republic

  35. Suzanne Lewis November 26, 2013 at 2:33 pm

    While your article was articulate and matter-of-fact, I’ve come to the conclusion that you are a repulsive asshole who moved out of the US because he couldn’t get any here. My crystal ball says a ginormous STD is coming your way soon. Good luck when your penis shrivels off and dies.

  36. Perry123 December 2, 2013 at 2:00 pm

    One City Fits the bill for you

    MANCHESTER, England

    1) Population: 1.2 Million
    2) No Problem
    3)Quality appartments at a much lower rate than London, more comparable to the rest of the uk
    4) Ladies nights every night of the week
    5)I would say at least 1in 3
    6)No Problem

    7) There is def white girls with big butts, actually any type of girl you want as it is one of the most diverse cities in the world

  37. Perry123 December 2, 2013 at 2:01 pm

    Manchester also has the largest concentration of students in europe, so the partying in non pretentious fun!

  38. lucasgrijander December 3, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    “I have found it close to impossible to make European friends (…) , so the city should have a handful of Western expats that I can connect with.”

    Is this a typo, or do you really not know Europe IS the Western world?

  39. Toads December 7, 2013 at 1:59 am

    Monaco is the perfect place for you. Great weather too.

    But it is very expensive, so may be out of your reach.

  40. polishedpole December 14, 2013 at 8:06 pm

    defo not paland- easy and ugly fat bitches with small azz, who only want to get married and have kids, shitkraine soundz better, i bet in chernobyl are women with 2 vaginas

  41. Randy December 17, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    As an American expat I can say Belgrade, Serbia fits almost all these categories except 5. Not many places have western “Bros” to hang out with.

  42. Jonny_Paycheck May 31, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    Amsterdam for you Roosh…English widely spoken…walk or cycle everywhere…all Western conveniences.