Thoughts On Being An Excellent Man

I recently had a conversation with my college-bound brother that I’d like to duplicate here.

Little Brother: I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but I feel so lazy. I just don’t want to do anything.

Roosh: Can you give me an example of when you were recently lazy?

LB: I went to the gym the other day, and when I arrived, I just didn’t want to lift. So I worked out very slowly and talked to the guys instead.

R: This is a common problem, because lifting is hard. Your body wants to conserve its energy so it decides that the better option is just to do nothing. Let me ask you something: what makes an excellent man?

LB: Motivation.

R: Motivation to do what?

LB: To do the work.

R: Remember a while back we had a conversation about the unit of one hour, where you can break down the greatness or accomplishments of a man in one-hour increments?

LB: I remember.

R: When you look at an athlete, you see a man with a strong body who has the right skills to do his sport. But what you don’t see is the hours of work he put behind it. When you see a successful businessman, you see the big company he built up and maybe his fancy car, but you don’t see the hundreds of hours he worked to build up the business. I’m learning Russian now, and have gotten compliments on it, but the people who compliment me do not see my daily struggle with it, the hours I put in every day just to learn a few new words. Any kind of excellency or greatness you see in other men comes down to the work they put in. Therefore, excellency is work. Can you see that?

LB: Yes.

R: Now when you were at the gym, and you decided not to work, would you say that was the decision of a normal man or an excellent man?

LB: Normal man.

R: Correct, a normal man will take the path of least resistance that does not involve work. What percentage of the population would you say is normal?

LB: Most.

R: I would say 99.5% of the population is normal, maybe even higher. They are sheep who follow, who prefer to stay in the herd, who like being told what to do to spare them the expense of thinking or taking risks, who seek entertainment over work, who are not in control of their emotions, and who lack willpower. They want glory and riches from not putting in effort, from not going above and beyond what they were told to do by their teacher, parents, or boss. They do the bare minimum in life and so they have a normal life that all the other people have. They have their iPhone, their entertainment, they surf the internet all day to feel some emotional pleasure, and they go to the club on the weekends to get drunk and maybe get laid. This is the life of a sheep.

LB: Is that bad? Is it bad to be normal?

R: It’s not bad. There is nothing wrong with being a sheep, and most people don’t have the genetic constitution to be anything else, but it’s not what I wanted to be. When I was faced with forks in the road, one leading back to the herd and one leading into the unknown, often involving much risk, almost every time I’ve picked the road that took me away from the herd. I’m not saying I’m an excellent man right now, but I want to be an excellent man, so I must do the work that it takes to be one, one hour at a time, one workout at a time, one Russian word at a time. This means avoiding comfort, luxury, entertainment, and mindless distraction. This means straining my mind and body, because as you know, your muscles only get bigger when you lift to your limit. If in my studies or work my brain is not tired, I did not work hard enough.

LB: But I don’t have the motivation. Like at the gym, it’s so much easier when I have a friend to push me to work out. And now I’m busy with school. If I didn’t have school, I would have the energy to do all these things.

R: Remember when you visited me in Odessa last year? I had to drag you every day just to go to boxing training. You didn’t have school or any other responsibilities, but you still didn’t want to do it. Is it possible you are using school as an excuse?

LB: It’s possible.

R: There is often something in life that keeps you busy, such as school or work obligations, but in spite of that, you must have the desire within you to fight off the fatigue and laziness to make that decision to be an excellent man. What you’re looking for is external motivation, something in your environment that will push you to do something that you should do. But external motivation is fleeting. One day it’s present and the next day it’s not. You can go to the best motivational seminar in the world, and pay thousands of dollars to do so, like many adults do, but after two weeks you’ll be lazy again and revert to your old habits. You’ll work out when your friend is present, but how about if he moves to a new town? Then you won’t work out anymore? External motivation is only temporary, like getting energy from a cup of coffee. Only internal motivation to be excellent will push you to do the work every day, every week, every month, every year. You will not need any external motivation if you know that you want to be an excellent man, but if you don’t choose excellency, you will be like a sailboat with no sail, no direction, allowing everything in your environment to whip you this way or that. Sometimes you’ll be motivated and sometimes you won’t, sometimes you’ll do the work and sometimes you won’t.

LB: But it is helpful when my friend calls me to go to the gym. I work out harder.

R: I believe it, but let’s view things from your friend’s perspective. He is internally motivated to be strong and fit, so he goes to the gym alone, but here you come, a friend who admits he’s lazy and needs his encouragement and motivation. He’s giving you a finite resource, his energy, to help you out. In other words, you are holding him down! If I was his brother, I’d say, “Hey man, your friend is a bum, he doesn’t want to work. Find friends who have internal motivation, who lift you up.” Can you see that?

LB: I didn’t think of that way.

R: Look, you’re not a bad kid, but those who are not internally motivated drag down those who are. If someone wants, I can be their motivation coach, but I should get paid for that, because it takes away my energy and time and prevents me from doing other work. I’ve known guys who just want to socialize, who aren’t hard workers, and don’t mind disturbing my work in order to just hang out. I don’t mind hanging out every now and then, but they don’t care if I don’t finish my new book or my language studies. So I have to say no to those guys, and spend time only with those who are as internally motivated as myself to be excellent.

LB: How do I become internally motivated?

R: Do you want to be an excellent man? If you want to be a normal sheep, then keep doing what you’re doing. There is nothing wrong with it, and my love for you as a brother would not change, but you will have a standard issue life—neither extraordinary nor horrible—if you continue to choose comfort and laziness over work. When you’re faced with two options where one involves work and discomfort and the other involves comfort and relaxation, you are making the choice between being excellent and being a sheep. When you decided at the gym the other day not to work out hard, what decision did you make?

LB: To be a sheep.

R: Right. It was the easy decision for you, because being a sheep is easy and being excellent is hard, but I can not make you excellent because being excellent is a personal decision. Understand that excellency is not one big event or one lucky break, but hundreds of tiny decisions. Being excellent is your daily habits, the extra one or two hours of work you put in every day, that when accumulated over many years, makes you excellent. The books I’ve written come from only one or two hours of focus a day. I’ve built a living doing this over the past several years, and it has given me my freedom and independence to live anywhere in the world, but it was difficult to do these two hours of work a day. One hour of extra work a day is just too much for 99.5% of people, so they will not do it, because they never made the choice to be excellent. Why would they choose work over entertainment if they didn’t choose to be an excellent man? Excellency is not flashy or exciting—it’s the tedious, boring, and hard work you do every day. Three workouts a week over many years will make you a strong man. One hour of hard reading a day will strengthen your mind. One hour of your own work can be the start of a business. Do you see how that works?

LB: I do.

R: You’re still young, so I’m not saying don’t have fun with your friends or don’t play video games, but just keep in mind what it takes to be excellent. If there isn’t an excellent seed within you right now that is begging for water and soil, then it’s possible you are destined to be a sheep. But if there is that seed, it’s my job as a big brother to tell you how much water it needs and what kind of soil it needs to grow. Long ago I looked into the mirror and decided that I wanted to be an excellent man, so every day I put in the work, because like I said before, excellency is work. If you also want to be excellent, you now know what it takes. The only thing that can stop you is yourself.

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  1. J Dilla April 23, 2014 at 9:07 am

    Really like the direction and tone of your last 5 or so posts.

    Keep on fighting for excellence, Roosh.

    1. Hugo April 23, 2014 at 11:32 am

      Roosh is working on his $ game so he can pull quality in his 40s and beyond.
      Roosh man as much time as you spend in Europe why don’t you size up the markets and find some goods to import/export to or from EE. Maybe even do an Asian tour (you could market yourself as a World wide game authority then- dont let the stick in the mud DC aura hold you back- reach for new horizons). Find some cheap crap in China and sell it to the Slavic club girls.

  2. Sid April 23, 2014 at 9:20 am

    I think men who strive for excellence become dissatisfied by common pleasures. “Call of Duty is boring me. I would rather read Steven Coll’s Ghost Wars.” “I don’t enjoy eating Pringles all that much. I’d rather feel strong than eat Pringles.” “This party is so boring. I’d rather be working on my business.” In a sense, they do what is hard, tedious or difficult to understand because a life of watching MTV, playing Halo and being around a bunch of dullards gets old real fast.

    1. Aurini April 23, 2014 at 9:36 am

      Learn to love the suck.

    2. smellyfucker April 23, 2014 at 10:54 am

      I twist the pleasures into satisfying work. When I go to a party, I am honing my skills by hitting on girls while having fun with my friends. When I watch entertainment, I consider it rest for my mind so I can work harder in real tasks. When I eat crappy foods or rest, I know I have to do it so I can work out harder in the future and realize the contrast between rest and hard work.

      1. Purple Penguin April 23, 2014 at 11:33 am

        I prefer no contrast, hard work seems harder when you contrast it with too much rest and slack, without contrast you get used to hard work, you can then progressively increase the intensity of your work and get used to it everytime. Soon what’s is low-intensity work for you is what others call hard work.

    3. nek April 23, 2014 at 9:40 pm

      Boxing/MMA training will definitely do this to you. There was even one night where bunch of us that train together went out but got quickly bored at this party and decided to go spar in the gym…sober. The party was objectively good and everyone else was having a good time, but the intensity from training has made a lot of other activities rather uninteresting. The thing that sucks the most, is that more women than men fall under this “normal person” category. They love common pleasures more than even the most mundane man.

      1. DeCode April 28, 2014 at 4:49 am

        Are you that surprised? Women are vapid and selfish by design. It only makes sense that “common mind draining pleasures” are what gives them the most satisfaction in life.

      2. clint June 18, 2014 at 10:53 pm

        this sounds exactly like Fight Club. where the guy has been fighting for a while, and now when he goes back to his job everything feels silent and boring.

    4. Justin May 7, 2014 at 12:23 pm

      I think it helps to create and understand your process. Example: I wake at 6 am and do the work I hate doing first. This gets it out of the way and I can enjoy doing other work later. You can also train your mind through meditation. Meditation helps you control your thoughts. When you notice a though that creates emotion coming through which creates lack of will or discipline you can get rid of it. Like: “Why am I doing this, I’m tired right now.” You need to logically remind yourself that the work is necessary to take you where you want to be. If you don’t do them now you will just be wasting your time and make yourself feel worse. I think most people would rather not be sheep they just never found their process to make it happen. Motivation is cheap- discipline is bought with mental fortitude.

  3. Vb April 23, 2014 at 9:40 am

    Very relevant. I needed to read that today.

  4. LC April 23, 2014 at 9:50 am

    Inspirational post, thank you.

  5. Clint Barton April 23, 2014 at 10:05 am

    Awesome post. Relative to my life as I’m trying to guide my college bound cousin, who starts university this fall.

  6. Zyzz April 23, 2014 at 10:08 am

    yes more on excellence and becoming great

  7. turkishcandy April 23, 2014 at 10:31 am

    All I can say is that I wish I had an older brother like you

  8. Deebos April 23, 2014 at 10:35 am

    The hardest part of motivation and success for young men is motivation simply to make yourself better with no other expected reward. Our society has taught men to become better so that they will be better at becoming a provider of taxes or supporting women. It is the inherent knowledge, that the improvement is ultimately for someone else’s benefit that becomes the demotivator. Men and boys need to be shown that improvement simply for the “self” is acceptable

  9. poledaddy April 23, 2014 at 10:35 am

    Reading this as a conversation between two brothers as opposed to your typical philosophical motivational article – it gets internalized/processes in a much better way. I won’t soon forget it – I could picture you and your brother talking to each other. Where as if it was a typical philosophical-rant format you see in the manosphere, I would have still probably read it but it might have been glossed over and forgotten. Excellent work Roosh. Keep it coming.

  10. CrabRangoon April 23, 2014 at 10:55 am

    Ah the road less traveled. I’ve been a firm believer in not following the herd. It seems to always take me on some interesting adventures. Some people need to follow the herd-they don’t have the desire to buck the trends. It does tend to be an easier road but not always as fulfilling. If everyone just followed the herd, we would never have achieved much of the greatness in this world we see today.

  11. Nguyen Improved April 23, 2014 at 11:08 am

    I will need to bookmark this and use it as a reminder. Roosh you’ve hit a home run here. Fantastic post.

  12. J Cecil April 23, 2014 at 11:27 am

    Roosh and all readers-
    This was an awesome article.

    A missing link to building up excellence-
    How do manage cortisol when the stress builds up?

    Like the creation of game- there has got to be intelligent ways to manage stress hormones.

    Carpe Diem!

    1. Xman April 23, 2014 at 11:36 am

      Sleep well – 8 hours, have less tasks you work hard on, eliminate digital entertainment, walk in nature…don’t mix excellence with the amount of work done. Unless you put emphasis on physical development, you can hardly be excellent man. This includes diet, sleep, lifting, stress management.

  13. just sayin April 23, 2014 at 11:30 am

    Roosh, but why you advice people on working out more at the gym when you look like a hypertrychotic twink?

    1. Frank G April 23, 2014 at 11:44 am

      It’s his genetics. I’ve know. Plenty of guys that were skinny and strong.
      Are my searching for ways to improve yourself by bitching about the build of some Persian DC burbs blogger whos smart enough to leave the Sea of hr brainwashed 6s and pursue albino 8s for half the cost of living?

      Roosh and all you ectomophs check out Joey Gloors stuff- he has good aesthetics and was a skinny kid who became a fitness model and celebrity trainer- his site-

      Joey Gloor is awesome- well rounded intelligent German.

    2. Roosh_V April 23, 2014 at 4:20 pm

      I don’t like eating a lot of food. I’m fit, moderately strong, with low body fat, and in the best health in my life. Girls compliment my body only when I’m naked, since with a shirt on I look mostly average.

      If I lived in USA, I’d focus more on mass, but in Europe it’s rewarded less, so the rational decision is to focus more on calisthenics/body weight exercises.

      1. Spaniard88 April 24, 2014 at 1:15 am

        I’m with you, mostly it’s the proportions, not the size that women are attracted to, the “V” shape. Sure, size will get you compliments as well, but who’s willing to choke down a gallon of milk a day and eat like a cow every day to maintain that level of muscle mass? Hell no, for most of us, it’s just not worth it, the benefit doesn’t add up. More mass simply does not correlate on a 1 to 1 basis with the acquisition of more women, it just doesn’t. Building a “V” shaped body with a powerful back, strong shoulders, ripped abs, and sculpted jaws due to low body fat caused by a couple of short, intense workouts several times a week and a paleo or paleo-ish lifestyle is the healthy way to go. No steroids, no nonsense, a lean, powerful, chiseled look. And by the way, you look great in the vids, man, congratulations on the hard work, my bro chose the aesthetic look over the “mass” look as well, and now that he did that, he’s in the best health of his life. People come up to him regularly and ask him if he’s on steroids, haha (he wears tight shirts)! This fellow above with the “hypertrophic twink” nonsense is just not on the same page, that’s all.

      2. p April 25, 2014 at 8:05 am

        Hypertrychotic. Not ‘hypertrophic’.
        “Too much hair” in Amerispeak, basically.

      3. saunew May 7, 2014 at 11:26 pm


      4. d18kv178 May 18, 2014 at 7:36 am

        every beautiful girl i discussed this subject with told me they like a man with a bit of a belly. some outright said that a man without some belly doesn’t exist for them. on the contrary, every girl who expressed excitement with muscles, abs and other similar stuff was unattractive and shallow.

        i got impression that the beauty of male body is mostly a gay thing. I’m sure you have your own share of conversations on the subject.

        p.s. bought a few of your books and love them.

  14. rez April 23, 2014 at 11:44 am

    Roosh: excellent essay. i will save this and re-read from time to time.

    have you read Nietzsche’s “the antichrist” or “thus spoke zoroaster”? the concept of the uber-mensch…

    the preface of the antichrist is like my personal mantra. and his contempt for “mere humanity” is identical to your words about the sheep…

    “This book belongs to the most rare of men. Perhaps not one of them is yet alive. It is possible that they may be among those who understand my “Zarathustra”: how could I confound myself with those who are now sprouting ears?—First the day after tomorrow must come for me. Some men are born posthumously.

    The conditions under which any one understands me, and necessarily understands me—I know them only too well. Even to endure my seriousness, my passion, he must carry intellectual integrity to the verge of hardness.

    He must be accustomed to living on mountain tops—and to looking upon the wretched ephemeral babble of politics and nationalism as beneath him. He must have become indifferent; he must never ask of the truth whether it brings profit to him or a fatality to him…. He must have an inclination, born of strength, for questions that no one has the courage for; the courage for the forbidden; predestination for the labyrinth. The experience of seven solitudes.

    New ears for new music. New eyes for what is most distant. A new conscience for truths that have hitherto remained unheard. And the will to economize in the grand manner—to hold together his strength, his enthusiasm….

    Reverence for self; love of self; absolute freedom of self….

    Very well, then! of that sort only are my readers, my true readers, my readers foreordained:

    Of what account are the rest?—The rest are merely humanity.—One must make one’s self superior to humanity, in power, in loftiness of soul,—in contempt.

    1. R bere April 24, 2014 at 9:47 pm

      It’s ‘Thus spake Zarathutra’

  15. Jizzy B April 23, 2014 at 1:30 pm

    What’s the best spot in Eastern Europe to get an apartment for a month (thus is better than city hopping 3 days/town for game and travel right?) to run game for a novice at game?

    I’ve got Hvar island (Summer only), Bucharest, Kiev, Odessa, Sofia, Belgrade, Prague, Riga, or St. Petersburg?

    Which City would you choose?

    I’m a novice and love blondes.

    1. drudge April 24, 2014 at 5:01 am

      stay away from the ukraine and russia, they’ll rip you to shreds if you’re a rookie. i reckon prague, bucharest and sofia to be better for starting. source: EE man, born’n’bred

  16. anon April 23, 2014 at 2:08 pm

    But wait, Obama told us “you didn’t build that, someone else made that happen”. So I guess I can just sit on my rump. After all, money grows on trees.

  17. Huss April 23, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    I used to have a wrestling coach who called that drop off of energy/ motivation “the grind”. He taught me a way to mentally trick myself and embrace it. You have to keep reinforcing yourself and tell yourself you like it even when you dont and it gets harder and harder. After a little bit that mentatlity slowly makes the worst/ most physically grueling workout fun (in your own mind) and you start to push yourself harder then you thought possible.

    excellence is diligence

    “embrace the grind”

  18. johnathan blaze April 23, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    Always have a few cans of sugar-free Red Bull in your fridge. Sometimes, a bit of caffeine and b-vitamins is all you need to convert your lethargy into motivation. If I’m feeling lazy and not wanting to go to the gym, I sip a quarter/half can and I’m suddenly rip-roaring and ready to go. Especially good for when you’re tired from a full day’s work.

  19. Bob April 23, 2014 at 2:52 pm

    low test levels has got to be at the heart of low motivation, fatigue, and general betatude.

    1. A Man For All Seasons April 24, 2014 at 2:40 pm

      I commented elsewhere on this thread about the importance of cultivating an obsession in meeting your goals.
      I struggled a lot with motivation, and figured that test may be a factor. I went to the Dr and started taking test 9 months ago, and still struggled to muster the motivation I needed. I have concluded there has to be some underlying drive, or even increased levels of test won’t create motivation. However, if you can find the underlying drive, or create it by choosing to be obsessed, then I will say that higher levels of test make a difference.
      Separate from the motivation issue, I will say the taking test certainly helps with libido and sexual function

  20. Jason April 23, 2014 at 3:28 pm

    -sigh- Let me just open up my wallet now and throw money at you.

  21. anon1 April 23, 2014 at 3:41 pm

    I’m commenting so I can find this article again. Great starting point, similar in theme and power as the manosphere famous letter from a father to his son

  22. Guanyanyo April 23, 2014 at 4:30 pm

    Thanks for this inspiring article and the good example.

  23. prepz April 23, 2014 at 5:22 pm

    Right on. And having met and worked with many men over many years, your 95.5% of people are simple sheep is just about right.

    Sheep may venture into the pastures of excellence from time to time, or desire greener pastures after being inspired or impressed with someone who is excellent at what they do. However, it doesn’t just take more energy and effort to be excellent, it takes an enormous amount more than average to reach excellent.

    Sheep hit the “Dip” (Seth Godin) and immediately run back to the safety and comfort of the herd. Only that .5% has the courage (or perhaps stubborn stupidity) to seek more excellent pastures.

  24. AH April 23, 2014 at 5:48 pm

    Too simplistic and binary for me. Too macho-projecting. Why can’t your little brother grow to find his own space, a space that doesn’t feel the need to project his testosterone-busting qualities to feel vaildated. If you don’t see the need to live in a gym and pump iron, taking breaks only to hit on girls and read life-defining books, then it doesn’t necessarily make you a ‘sheep.’ Why be driven to perfect some carefully cultivated image of you? Why not just be content with what you possess and work on sharpening your knowledge on all things whilst finding your own way? Why feel the need to play the game at all? You come across as preachy when perhaps your brother is perfectly fine and would suffice with a little cajoling and a few careful words.

    1. Papiripupi June 25, 2014 at 6:08 pm

      He’s not mandating a lifestyle or creating a copycat, he’s incepting knowledge which in time will serve his brother to make a better choice after he’s done cajoling. Just like schools do, but better.

  25. Al April 23, 2014 at 6:38 pm

    I am motivated to work out every morning by pre-workout supplements. NO-explode, white flood, etc. I’ve been at it for 3 years.

  26. Sisyphus April 23, 2014 at 7:23 pm

    There is an inherent duplicity in this tract, betraying either an internal struggle against self hatred, or a failed attempt to conceal universal rage borne of psychological problems. He could pretend that “there is nothing wrong ” with being a “sheep”, but this is a clearly a value judgement; the sheep is mindless, lacking sentience, and a prey to the “wolf who lifts”. To disingenuously ignore this obvious contradiction shows how little respect Roosh has for the reader. He adores his new clothes, and the red pill dipshits continue to say nothing.

    Masculine “Excellence” is a control device, the prescriptive speech of he who longs to be shepherd in a field of imaginary sheep. He deludes himself before us. It is the language of fascism, the cliched foundation of power mythologies that drain power, not to bestow it. Lifting only requires the formation of a bully. There is no transcendence in obeying this call. It’s appeal is simplicity – our lives are otherwise complex, and the rejection of complexity in favour of repetitive physical motions is not conquering anything. It is hiding within ritual. Sisyphus is a tragic, pathetic figure. His release does not come from achieving the laughable high of the lifted boulder. The story tells us that solitude is futility. The myth of dignity in masculine isolation is written by those who have failed at basic human life, who crave isolation because it is safe. Dehumanising those around us as “bangs” and “sheep” is the mental equivalent of slumping on a sofa and cramming ice cream.

    The most fulfilling part of being a human is the empathy, vulnerability, and imagination that comes with establishing deep personal relationships. Roosh can try and convince himself otherwise, but these online echoes of his nightmare of solipsism is testament to the reality.

    1. PeeWee April 23, 2014 at 9:01 pm

      Applied gender studies? Grotesque.

      1. Fuck that! April 24, 2014 at 4:50 am

        Quote: “Applied gender studies? Grotesque”

        I was thinking the same thing. Unfortunately the feminist dyke trolls come to post their excrement.

    2. Раковски April 26, 2014 at 11:46 am

      To get the seeds in the soil you apply a brutal force. Imagine you are the soil and I am the sower. Rape and reap, they sound similar, no? 😉

      You’re getting wet just thinking about it, aren’t you? Be honest, sister.

    3. Spartantom June 12, 2014 at 9:17 am

      What the fukc are you talking about?

  27. mrsheep April 23, 2014 at 8:53 pm

    This article is fucking golden. Much respect, Roosh.

  28. PeeWee April 23, 2014 at 9:12 pm

    Working out is pleasurable for me , the work for me is resting enough.

  29. Prov Erbs April 23, 2014 at 10:55 pm

    This is really good. Whether one is single or married, a man must pursue excellence. This seems to echo the third commandment of Poon: III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority. This has the counter effect of actually working to get more women. An excellent man will get more women (or a woman), not only b/c he doesn’t care about what happens around him but that his life is has purpose and meaning. Of course sometimes people forget, and end up starting out strong and getting weaker as they get married. That’s me.

  30. Farmageddon April 24, 2014 at 1:47 am

    This is an incredible article, Roosh. Thanks.

  31. Samseau April 24, 2014 at 4:20 am

    Sounds to me like your brother could use a big brother role model. Spending some time with him now might change him for the rest of his life, Roosh. 18-22 is probably the most important years of a man’s development into an independent being.

    1. Roosh_V April 25, 2014 at 2:13 am

      I’m too far away from him. Our weekly chats are nice, but I know it’s not enough.

      1. Jefferson was right April 25, 2014 at 6:48 am

        Lets keep it real for most men-

        The level of loyalty is not the same most of the time for a sibling who is not full blooded. I come from a family of rat bastards who turn on their OWN blood for some cash and ego- hence my premise American culture sucks and is a toxic cess pool. I think its a masculine and primal tribal motivation that’s natural for you to protect your own blood and not be as sincere with someone who is not fully related. Modern step families are yet another post modern half ass malaise done by the pinkos. Nowadays even dogs can’t be fully masculine- I’ve here pet owners say don’t let them fight (two men dogs who are playing- sick!) even he animals can’t fully express their nature with the limp wrist strip mall hovering crowds of sheep today.

        Frankly I could use some advice on how not to be bitter and improve your emiomal state in an intelligent way. Overall the mind emotions body spirit soul is a an integrated holistic thing.
        If you dont have traitors in your midst be glad-it takes a lot of energynthatnciuld be used for more positive and intelligent courses of action when even your own Mother is a traitor.

      2. Samseau April 25, 2014 at 1:50 pm

        If you can swing it, offer to buy him a ticket and live with you for a few months.

  32. IP Freeman April 24, 2014 at 6:35 am


    As I search the archives

    I’m left to wonder…

    Have you ever written about female psychology (the composition structure design and ways to override their hamster system to shape their thoughts conversations etc into your frame of reality/mental and emotional control and dominance) and ways to for the game enthusiast to conquer women’s minds?

  33. Class Punk April 24, 2014 at 7:07 am

    On a long enough timeline, I see myself covered in dark smart clothing, with some expensive, oversized, glowing e-cigarette always hanging out of my mouth, while I pay my little brother my life’s savings to build a giant, pilotable spider of which I am desperately lobbying government to get road legal.

  34. Giovonny April 24, 2014 at 2:25 pm


    Big brothers are very important.

    Those are the conversations that can inspire a life of success.

    I sometimes with this resonated with more people.

    To many guys are content to be “sheep”.

  35. A Man For All Seasons April 24, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    I recently read an article by Danger and Play about getting obsessed with what you want to accomplish. I was extremely overweight when I took the red pill, and I have lifted weight and done the low carb diet to try to lose weight. I’ve approximately doubled my strength, and added noticeable muscle, but I reached a plateau in weight loss, and eventually lost my motivation. I started eating poorly and stopped going to the gym.
    I tried to get back on the diet and exercise a dozen times, but never stuck with it. A typical problem was that exercising the first time after many weeks caused severe muscle stiffness that lasted up to 3 days, and I didn’t feel I could lift with such stiffness, so figured I’d wait for it to pass then continue. Unfortunately, I failed to ever go back to the gym, until the next cycle a few weeks later.
    Now I’ve decided to become obsessed with fitness and losing weight. Nothing will stand in my way. I’m limiting carbs, counting calories, and making certain to go to the gym. It’s only been a week, but I intend to continue non-stop until I’ve lost a ton of weight.
    At some point, I’ll have pizza and beer, and donuts, but this can wait. Right now, I’m obsessed, and I’m sticking to my program 100%. Being obsessed means giving up a balanced life. You make everything in your life revolve around your obsession. You won’t fit in with the crowd. I have to give up going to lunch or going out drinking with my buddies for the most part, but my goal is more important than stuffing myself with greasy food and getting wasted.
    If you want to accomplish something, but have struggled with the motivation to work at it, then make a decision to become obsessed. Once you adopt this mindset, you will make everything in your life fall in line to do what it takes to achieve your goals.

    1. d18kv178 May 18, 2014 at 7:19 am

      going to gym doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with losing weight. if all you want to achieve is to lose weight, you may waste a lot of time – with dubious results. especially if you don’t like going to the gym.

      do your research and talk to professionals to find some easier, more fun and human ways to lose weight.

      and why do you even think about eating “pizza and donuts”? in the modern world, there’s tons of healthy food choices around everywhere.

  36. James d'Anconia April 24, 2014 at 7:59 pm

    Awesome post Roosh!

  37. gabriel April 24, 2014 at 8:22 pm

    The past is gone, and gone are the times of excellence. Modern life success is just getting in a position to take advantage of other people and exploit them until you empty them. Thats modern life and that´s the modern man. It´s a who eats who game.

    Most successful businessman are pathological narcisists that got there because they lack empathy. The usually exploit those with excellence traits. (Steve Jobs anyone?)

    And the same shit happens in arts and other fields.

    We live in a matriarcal society and as such we live on female values. And females do lack the idea of MERIT.

    Developing a methodology for getting fast laids isn´t a cure for cancer either.

    But I concede you have a great hability to take risks and handle them real well.


    1. DeCode April 28, 2014 at 4:54 am

      You are deluding yourself if you honestly believe that success came any different in the past or present. I’m not so sure that one has to be a “pathological narcissist” to get there. But whether past, present, or even in the future – it helps.

    2. d18kv178 May 18, 2014 at 7:10 am

      what a LOAD OF FUCKING NONSENSE. it’s a typical speech of a typical envious toxic loser – who drags everyone else down with him as well.

      Steve Jobs is an amazing example how success can be achieved with your talent and brain.

  38. fluffybiskuts April 25, 2014 at 1:15 am

    Truth. I wish I could email this post to my kid. I am not on Facebook.
    Affluence and prosperity are a double edged sword. That’s why the depression era/ WW2 generation did so much. They weren’t special just that they were born in a time of strife and deprivation. Made them tough. Got their minds right.

  39. Christopher Bear April 25, 2014 at 1:48 pm

    Your brothers got some lazy uninsightful responses. But ahhh he’s young. He’ll come around.

    Anyways, posts are gold. Keep em comin’.

  40. Lucasgrijanderrr May 7, 2014 at 11:38 am

    Roosh you’re wrong on something here.

    In the search for excellence, your environment can help you or damage you a lot. Willpower alone only takes you so far. A group of friends who are motivated daily to become excellent will help you A LOT. A group of friends who are content with being mediocre, will drag you down A LOT.

    What your brother (and all of us) need is TO FIND THE RIGHT CROWD. When you have it, your motivation increases and working towards excellence is not an issue. Knowing that other people expect you to excel, knowing that you cannot disappoint them, is what gets you out of bed faster than anything else. In turn, your expectations about others will also help them.

    Finding the right crowd (a group of people who refuse to be mediocre, who work hard to become the best possible version of themselves) gives you the inspiration you need when you cannot find the motivation in yourself.

    In fact, this conversation with your brother is proof of what I am saying. If he didn’t need external motivation, why would he benefit from talking to you? You are part of the right crowd he needs to find, perhaps his first step in the right direction. But if after talking to you he sees himself surrounded by mediocre people, he will soon revert to laziness and mediocrity himself.

    1. Donnyboy May 8, 2014 at 5:09 pm

      Successful people usually surround themselves with others who are like them, not the losers, or the mediocre for that matter, for they will drag you down, absolutely..

  41. King Pin May 7, 2014 at 7:48 pm

    Vanitas vanitatis, et omnia Vanitas (…there is only ONE Vanity, King Jamie…)…EVERYTHING that dies can not excell at ANYTHING… except at dying. And “Übermenschen” die either by their own hand (Hitler), or (more fun) by syphilis (Nietzsche). One should maybe strive to become “a Mensch” first, eh? Doing things for that purpose (then to just “out-piss” the others) may be just a wee bit healthier and les “paleo”…;)

  42. King Pin May 7, 2014 at 7:53 pm

    errata corrige:… LESS “paleo”…,of course…;)))

  43. Donnyboy May 8, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    Well done. Excellent column and sound advice to share with your younger brother.

  44. m3lk0r May 8, 2014 at 10:29 pm

    You need to check your website security. The plugin is detecting like a ton of malware from you website. If there is some update that you need to do you gotta do it.

    1. Harry Mann May 13, 2014 at 12:04 pm

      Probably just the NSA, nothing to worry about…

  45. Harry Mann May 12, 2014 at 11:25 pm

    This is funny in an unpleasant way to me, because I used to hire people to work for my company, and it involved manual labor, and they behaved as if they only had so much energy to spare, as if it were a finite resource which they had to preciously conserve, and so they would try to get as little done as possible. They were often also of the opinion that the less they accomplished on a daily basis, the more money they were going to earn on any particular job. So that they imagined there was more profit to be made by dragging things out and being a drain on my resources then it working at maximum efficiency. Basically, they would come on board and then reveal that they had a dog eat dog mentality rather than a cooperative and complimentary attitude. Karl Marx doesn’t go into that when he talks about the “alienation of labor” from profit. I was surprised to find out that there are so very many people like that out there and they do not last long on the job. They seem to be full of resentment that they have to give up a share of what they have earned in order to remain employed. They don’t want a paycheck, they want it all. If only they could get rid of their boss… Once you kick these backstabbers to the curb, they will often times go into a lament about how they need the money, note, they don’t mention they need the job, just the money, because that is their focus. At that point, any sympathy shown to them will bite you in the rear end. Basically, they figure that you are a step ahead of them, because you are their boss. So they figure they are going to get a step ahead of you by trying to defeat you in so many little ways. Now, how in the hell are demons like that going to retain any job for any amount of time? Besides those, you have to consider all of the clichés, basically gangs, that form in other trade professions, like auto mechanics shops, dental offices, law offices, and other enterprises, where the general idea is how to get over on the client or customer rather than in how to deliver excellent and efficient service at a fair and reasonable price.

    1. Colin P. Müller May 13, 2014 at 7:31 am

      God you suck at articulating your views. Everything you said in this post could’ve been summed up perfectly in 75% less text.

      1. Harry Mann May 13, 2014 at 12:00 pm

        “YOU SUCK!” How is that?

      2. Colin P. Müller May 14, 2014 at 7:17 am

        Congratulations. You typed something that wasn’t the length of a novel. You’re making progress.

  46. a (someday) excellent girl May 14, 2014 at 7:37 pm

    despite the fact that rooshv is very misogynistic, I think that this is a very very valid post. hard work will result in excellence over time! but remember to work smart, not just work hard.

  47. d18kv178 May 17, 2014 at 9:05 pm

    “Excellency is not flashy or exciting—it’s the tedious, boring, and hard work you do every day.”

    not really.

    you can achieve excellency only doing something you like.

    so Roosh isn’t being honest here – he only achieved “excellency” in certain areas because he did something that he liked to do – and which was actually exciting and fun. even though it’s hard work.

    so if his brother doesn’t have fun going to the gym then maybe it’s not his thing and he should find something different to achieve excellency. gym isn’t the only way to stay healthy – and the beauty of “big muscles” is mostly a gay thing.

  48. Radd May 30, 2014 at 5:19 am

    I think writing articles about “game” and making a website for scrublords to brag about fictional stories of themselves getting laid is the very opposite of “excellent”

    Hell I’d venture to say it’s the most beta thing you could do, mate

  49. Yonilicker June 21, 2014 at 3:42 pm

    Wonderful experience. Nice to see “Roosh The Fucker” has such a fan following. Good luck to you folks. You must spend your entire life looking to fuck as many whores as possible. That is what you were borne to do. And as for Roosh The MF, he keeps trashing women from all countries. By the way, Roosh must have screwed one of your( You the FANS) sisters. Remember my last sentence, please.