Time Away Thoughts

It’s been a little over eleven months since I’ve been away from the States.

Recently I thought I was tired of Latin girls, but since I don’t want American girls instead I realized that I may just be tired of girls. I put in a lifetime of game in the past year and it’d be a good idea to take it easy the next couple of months to rebuild the hunger and the ache.

In my last trip I was dying to go home to reenergize and rebuild my health, but right now I’m the most energized and healthy I’ve ever been. I’m eating well, exercising, sleeping well, and in good spirits. There’s nothing my body needs that would be solved by going home.

I’m content but there’s this low-level anxiety where I feel like I need to step in the States to get that high of seeing my family and friends again after a long time away. I know it won’t last long, but it would be a nice boost. I think I also need more social interaction judging by the conversations I’ve been having with street cats.

Last trip I went home broke but this time I was a lot smarter with money (future post: live in a favela and save!). One of my goals this trip was to make the trip sustainable, and I have to still crunch the numbers but it looks like I’m going back with a little more money than I left.

I’ve seen so much of South America that every city reminds me of another, and no longer does visiting a new city give me a high. Besides maybe Tucuman in Argentina and Porto Alegre in Brazil, there is no other place here I would look forward to visiting. I think it’s time to retire the continent for travel.

Yesterday I left Brazil and am now in Cordoba, Argentina. I want to brush up on my Spanish because speaking Portuguese for six months has jammed the circuits. I plan on staying between one to two months and then ending the trip, as I’m not too in the mood to deal with Argentine girls after a year of Colombian and Brazilian women. I’ll be back in D.C. around June, maybe even May.

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Quasi
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oh.. safe travels master!

Chris
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Maybe try the states that run along the Russian border for a change.

Particularly Ukraine,Lithuania, Latvia, and Estonia. Cold weather in the winter, but a different breed of women. You should be able to travel cheaply in those countries, especially if you stay in one spot for a bit.

However, you may want to clean up a bit for that area, as your personal aesthetic is less appreciated there.

Also, I hear very good things about Georgia as a destination, but nothing about its appropriateness for pickup. But it sounds like you just need to travel and stop focusing on pickup anyway.

Then theres Indonesia, Malaysia, Thailand(however, not a novel destination to write about – everyone that wants to know, knows the score there). All supposedly great for pickup.

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“Tired of girls” uh oh. Thoughts like that will get you into an “existential black hole” real quick.

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im curious how your workouts have progressed. competition here will be furious this summer so you better be ready.

The Rookie’s last blog post: Is She Worth It?.

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And so the adventure ends. Always a sad but interesting day.

I was away for three years before I came home for the first time, but I was much less attached to family and friends than you. I like my family and friends but never really felt the strong need to see them. Different cultures I guess.

Once the adventure is in your blood, though it’s hard to get it out, you’ll be on the road again. You’ll also realize that girls are almost always easier and better in the US, and if you move to a large US city like New York, LA, Miami, maybe even a small one like Austin, the quality of girls is no worse than what’s in Brazil or Argentina, maybe even better. New York in particular, especially in the summer, gets hordes of European girls, literally hordes, who are eager for fun.

Glad to see that even you can get tired of girls. I got tired of girls too, but then I never devoted my life to the subject for a number of years. After a certain age, around 30, if you’ve had good success with women they just no longer have the same ability to energize you and attract you. At first I struggled against this, but now I just accept it. It could be a physical libido thing, or a psychological thing (once you’ve been fairly successful at it and see what it’s all about, it no longer seems like such a big deal. At first you’re really curious about what a really pretty girl might be like, then you find out, repeatedly, and it’s good but not that special, and you no longer have anything to prove to yourself), or a combination of both, but be aware, Roosh, that you might never get the same old frenetic interest in girls back. It might be gone forever.

I’m curious to see where you’re gonna go next!

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” I want to brush up on my Spanish because speaking Portuguese for six months has jammed the circuits”

why? how big is the difference between both would you say?are they mutually intelligible? if you learn one language does it take you just 6month to a year to learn the other? which one do you personally prefer?

best!

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“Tired of girls”…

guys who are not getting laid must think this is the craziest, most stupid thing they have ever heard.

how could a man ever get sick of girls???

Its easy actually, chase them around and bang a bunch of them. Its weird what happens sometimes.

when i’m getting laid alot, I start thinking that girls are a waste of time and i need to focus more on money.

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Good point Giovonny.

You can become tired of anything, even pretty girls.

Curious to see how things turn out when you come back to DC

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Feeling similar things. 6 months into living in Brazil and after a phenomenal time of it.. the novelty is wearing a little. Early 30’s slow down perhaps indeed? Time to focus on other stuff for a bit and come back re-energized..

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I thought you said you were going to Sao Paulo?

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Also, as to the topic of this post, I think it’s a completely different mindset when you go to a country as a traveler versus someone who plans on being there permanently. I think the issue of getting tired of a place may have more to do with the rootedlessness(if there’s such a word) of wandering about, and not having something stable there. If you moved to Brazil permanently as an expat, I think it would reframe everything, you’d lay down some roots and build a life.

Although I’d like to so some more extended travel, I think 2 month jaunts is about all I need, so I don’t get to that point where living without roots or true connections starts to bother me.

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It seems like you have this “game” thing locked down, maybe you need some new challenges in life. Sometimes when you focus all of your energy on something and master it, you kind of burn out, and it loses it’s magic so to speak. Also I think it’s cool how you lived in Brazil and traveled all over South America, there is something to be said for getting to know a place intimately, but the world is a big place, it might be reenergizing to check out some new territories (Eastern Europe, Turkey, Thailand, Indonesia, etc.)…

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What did you think of SP?

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dude come meet me in Europe this summer!

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Tired of girls? The only think I would ask is if you actively partake in pr0n. If so, I would recommend cutting down/eliminating it from your life. Pr0n has a funny way of warping your own personal sense of what it is you’re attracted to and what types of chicks you go after. To me, there’s nothing that can jade you quicker than convincing yourself that you need to fuck a chick just for the sake of fucking and going through with it. Como se dice??? “Buyers Remorse…”

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“I realized that I may just be tired of girls.”

What, only guys and sheep from now on?

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When you say “It’s been a little over eleven months since I’ve been away from the States”,
you are actually saying you have been in the US for the past eleven months. You are saying it has been eleven months since the last time you left the US.
What you meant to say was “It’s been a little over eleven months since I left the US” or “since I was last in the US”. No, this isn’t trivial nitpicking, it’s about communicating clearly what you intend for others to understand.
Otherwise, I’m enjoying your blog, and wishing you well.

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Mike and OGNorCal707 make great points, well said.
When one exhausts an old passion, the common tendency is to try to revive it, but this tends to be futile and wasteful. Better to move on to new passions, keeping the old one in your life in a reduced way, as an enrichment, an enhancement, but not the main thing. You want to avoid stalling into entropy. You want to keep progressing as a person, improving your place in the world and your capacity to get whatever you want (in this big world of diverse options).

It seems the feeling we actually value most is way below the surface of the particulars of the endeavor at hand. Finding yourself becoming indifferent to an old passion (which used to run your life) can be liberating, which can be refreshing, even exhilerating, as you are free to focus on new stuff and get absorbed in it, unfettered by your old obsession.

In your case Roosh, I anticipate & hope that you will continue writing about your ongoing explorations. Your exchange with your readers may give you enough element of continuity in your life to embolden you to be fluid in periodically changing from one new fascination to another, naturally, as you progress and evolve.
Keep up the good work, and good luck.

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One further thought Roosh:
If you haven’t read it already, you might find it worthwhile to read David Deida’s book
‘The Superior Man’. He talks about evolving and moving on to new goals etc as part of a very natural process of personal evolution.
He refers to it in terms of “obsolescence”.

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How the hell did you make money down there?? I know you lived in a 3rd world shithole, but still it did cost you a lot of money. Was most of your income from website and books??

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I am about 10 years older than you. I am married but still game occasionally on the side. For whatever it is worth, here is my advice:

Have kids now. Don’t neccesarily get married – but have kids (2 back-to-back is best). For the rest of your life they will be the most important things to you. You can still game and get laid, but you will always have them as a bright spot in your life. I’m sure your parents will be thrilled as well to have grandchildren.

Life can be pretty empty and lonely. Women will certianly come and go. But your kids will always be there even when you are old.

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“Have kids now. Don’t neccesarily get married – but have kids (2 back-to-back is best).”

Just what we need – another generation of retards!! You can’t have kids from fucking sheep!

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23 Jim…well said

Jake
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Jim is a fucking idiot. A consumerist approach to having kids — now I’ve seen it all.

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Please have those kids outside of US, since you’re always bitching about how wrong this country is.

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Roosh, before coming to SP let us know!

Yeah, I will miss your adventures in my country but I understand and can’t hardly wait for others somewhere.

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I was waiting for this post. It is only a matter of time. Sounds like Roosh is becoming mature.

Anonymous
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ROOSH- GO TO ASIA ;D

…..they will love u long time

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I was talking to a friend of mine about something very similar. Lately I’m just not finding much reward apart from the short physical satisfactio from gamin girls. My drive and motivation to make any kind if effort has diminished.

My own thoughts were to just find a new passion to put my energy into (sport, money, art, language, whatever).

This is what my buddy said, which though was quite profound:

The challenge is so important for a man, animalistcally it was the hunt that we loved. The kill was the completion but it was the process made us alive.

There is also another element – -Perhaps a part of you has had enough of the game. Once we have acheived it repeatedly our need for self reasurance lessens and the natural next course would be to find something substanial – God forbid; A relationship.

The only way to get better is to play a better opponent – Perhaps our greatest opponent is commitment

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I traveled in Europe for about many months straight in my early 20’s in the mid 90’s. I got sick and tired of it towards the end.

I actually did a 4 1/2 month trip, went home for 3 1/2 months and came back for 8 months. Still got tired of it towards the end.

Come home, rest and recharge for 3-6 months, Then return to a home base city and get to know the place better.

You’re only at stage 1- getting to know South America. Now try to set up a home base and of course improve your language skills. How long is the longest period you spent in one place?

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And btw, you don’t get sick of women. 80 year old men still get frisky at the sight of hot young 20 somethings. Sex is like eating, your appetite will never disappear.

It’s true, if you get regular sex from a GF, it may seem moot. And things change after 30. But you DO NOT lose interest in women.

You’re just burned out. Go home, take a good bath, unpack and eat some good food. Watch some movies and relax.

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